We teach our boys to man up. Stop being soft. Don’t cry like a little girl. How sexiest. Calling a boy a “girl” simply for feeling says more about your cowardliness than it says about his emotions.
A real man isn’t afraid to shed a tear near his peers, in fear they won’t appreciate him being sincere.
Weak-ass cowardly males are scared if they cry, they’ll expose insecurities in their manhood. As a strong man, when I see my wife, my twin flame, walk down that isle, all the care I have in my heart for her will flow out the window to my soul & drip all over the flower petals lining her path to me. Real men do indeed cry. But, don’t take it from me. Take it from a football player.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
When a rookie Cleveland police officer received a dispatch call, describing a “young black male” carrying a toy gun, he responded by shooting him. That “black male” was 12-year-old Tamir Rice.
On December 14, Cleveland Browns WR Andrew Hawkins wore a t-shirt in protest while taking the field before a game that read,
“Justice for Tamir Rice and John Crawford” on the front & “The Real Battle for Ohio” on the back.
“It’s pretty pathetic when athletes think they know the law,” Cleveland Police Union President Jeff Follmer said of Hawkins’ choice to wear the shirt.
“They should stick to what they know best on the field. The Cleveland Police protect and serve the Browns stadium and the Browns organization owes us an apology.”
On Monday, Hawkins humbly & eloquently clapped back by gathering media in the locker & speaking on camera without notes, from the heart and fighting off tears.
“I was taught that justice is a right that every American should have. Also justice should be the goal of every American. I think that’s what makes this country.
To me, justice means the innocent should be found innocent. It means that those who do wrong should get their due punishment. Ultimately, it means fair treatment. So a call for justice shouldn’t offend or disrespect anybody. A call for justice shouldn’t warrant an apology.
To clarify, I utterly respect and appreciate every police officer that protects and serves all of us with honesty, integrity and the right way.
And I don’t think those kind of officers should be offended by what I did. My mom taught me my entire life to respect law enforcement. I have family, close friends that are incredible police officers and I tell them all the time how they are much braver than me for it. So my wearing a T-shirt wasn’t a stance against every police officer or every police department.
My wearing the T-shirt was a stance against wrong individuals doing the wrong thing for the wrong reasons to innocent people.
Unfortunately, my mom also taught me just as there are good police officers, there are some not-so-good police officers that would assume the worst of me without knowing anything about me for reasons I can’t control. She taught me to be careful and be on the lookout for those not-so-good police officers because they could potentially do me harm and most times without consequences. Those are the police officers that should be offended.
Being a police officer takes bravery. And I understand that they’re put in difficult positions and have to make those snap decisions.
As a football player, I know a little bit about snap decisions, obviously on an extremely lesser and non-comparative scale, because when a police officer makes a snap decision, it’s literally a matter of life and death. That’s hard a situation to be in. But if the wrong decision is made, based on pre-conceived notions or the wrong motives, I believe there should be consequence. Because without consequence, naturally the magnitude of the snap decisions is lessened, whether consciously or unconsciously.
I’m not an activist, in any way, shape or form.
Ninety-nine times out of a hundred I keep my opinions to myself on most matters. I worked extremely hard to build and keep my reputation especially here in Ohio, and by most accounts I’ve done a solid job of decently building a good name. Before I made the decision to wear the T-shirt, I understood I was putting that reputation in jeopardy to some of those people who wouldn’t necessarily agree with my perspective. I understood there was going to be backlash, and that scared me, honestly.
But deep down I felt like it was the right thing to do. If I was to run away from what I felt in my soul was the right thing to do, that would make me a coward, and I can’t live with that. God wouldn’t be able to put me where I am today, as far as I’ve come in life, if I was a coward.
As you well know, and it’s well documented, I have a 2-year-old little boy.
The same 2-year-old little boy that everyone said was cute when I jokingly threw him out of the house earlier this year. That little boy is my entire world. And the No. 1 reason for me wearing the T-shirt was the thought of what happened to Tamir Rice happening to my little Austin scares the living hell out of me.”
It was at this point the football player’s emotions begin to take control of his disposition. The thought of his 2-year-old son being murdered by a police officer made tears form in his eyes. His voice cracked. He began to sniffle.
This was one of the bravest things he had ever done as an athlete. Braver than jump up in mid-air & catch a pass at risk of being knocked unconscious by a defender. He was pouring out his heart, crying out before the world, that we stop watching as cowards & start fighting for what is true to our hearts.
“And my heart was broken,” Hawkins continued, with tears forming, “for the parents of Tamir and John Crawford knowing they had to live that nightmare of a reality.
So, like I said, I made the conscious decision to wear the T-shirt. I felt like my heart was in the right place.
I’m at peace with it and those that disagree with me, this is America, everyone has the right to their first amendment rights. Those who support me, I appreciate your support. But at the same time, support the causes and the people and the injustices that you feel strongly about. Stand up for them. Speak up for them. No matter what it is because that’s what America’s about and that’s what this country was founded on.”
It’s natural for all humans, including men, to cry. In fact, not crying on a seasonal basis can result in heart attacks, strokes, tumors, ulcers or colitis.
Research has proven: emotional tears are produced for the purpose of riding the body of waste built ho by stress. Tears are often cuffed to emotion, as it is easier for the body to rid itself of waste in the Fight or Flight state.
Imagine your body as a 20oz soda bottle & stress as carbonation. When shaken up, the built up air bubbles (stress) must be eased out seamlessly. Otherwise, it will burst out from built up tension and pressure.
This is how out body manages stress.
When we are “shook up” about something, like bubbles from a shaken-up bottle, out body produces tears to seamlessly release waste & toxins created by tension & stress.
These hazardous discharges will be released from the body one way or another. When we prevent them from flowing out through tears, they BURST out, lime soda from a bottle, through negative energy & acts of rage, such as murdering unarmed citizens.
On average, women live 5.2 years longer than men. Many of the heart attacks, stroked, tumors & ulcers men died from were due to build up toxins, tension & stress and a hesitance to cry, because it is foolishly seen as “unmanly”.
A real man is not over-emotinal, nor does he pretend to be emotionally invincible, as he knows, male or female, we all get “shook-up” sometimes.
After all, real humans shed tears, fake men don’t cry.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Motivational #SpeakLife vidoes: Youtube.com/RealNewsmagazine
View this post on Instagram
I prefer COURTING over "talking". I resent society deems it "soft" for a man to be caring, chivalrous & monogamous. I'm tough AND affectionate. I aspire to be a father & husband. What you brothas get from having 5-minute sex with multiple girls who lack consciousness is beyond me.😒 No shade. Do you, but I just want forever with that one 💍👰💒👪🏡✈🗼 #EbrahimAseem #SpeakLife