He couldn’t wait to get inside your body in the beginning. Constant communication. Sweet gestures. He was the perfect gentlemen, because your tummy was flatter. Your breasts were perkier. Your curves were voluptuous. But once your baby came, your body left & the baby’s father went with it.
And if he sticks around, you better know he has side chicks. Curvy girls without children he texts when you’re not around. Have you seen the girls he follows on Instagram? They look nothing like YOU.
How can saggy, deflated boobs dripping of breast milk compete with curvy Instamodels who have more booty in their pants than your baby has boo boo in it’s diaper?
Single Mothers are NOT dating material. With their stretch marks, deflated boobs, saggy booty, no time for anything but their baby asses. They’re WIFE material. Because any woman who can love someone so much, she sacrifices her body, appearance, sleep, friendships, partying, money for childcare which she can barely afford & every waking, breathing second of her day pouring love into her child, she can pour love into you. #EbrahimAseem
Don’t sleep on a busy single mother, just because she has a child. Those busy strong, virtuous, ambitious, career-minded focused women can cook, massage, drop wisdom & promote your growth. #EbrahimAseem COURT her to show her you appreciate all sacrifices she makes grinding for her future & her child. But don’t sleep on her.
Did you know a mother doesn’t sleep? She chases the baby around the house ALL. DAY. LONG. No breaks. Cleaning up messes. Broken glass. Stains. Spills. The only time she does sleep is on accident. I know you’re thinking, “well why can’t she just put the baby to sleep & then she can have time for herself?” Because dummy, she can’t just “put” the baby to sleep in the crib, then run off & paint the town red. The baby will just cry non-stop. She has to hold, rock & comfort the baby to sleep. She turns the lights off & lays still, pretending to be sleep, because that’s the only way the baby will fall asleep. #EbrahimAseem Problem is, it takes so long, she accidentally falls asleep herself. But she can never get “rest” because the baby wakes up constantly in the middle of the night.
Any woman who would sacrifice all that & more for a little child, she would give anything to love you, value your manhood, promote your mental growth, calm your fears, help fight your demons, accomplish your purpose & bring you closer to the man you were put here to be. #EbrahimAseem
If a man’s attraction is to your body, he’s temporary anyway. Those type of men cheat on & leave women with perfect curves. A dog is ONLY looking to lay his bone. While a man of valor is looking to help you ascend to your mental throne. #EbrahimAseem
Beauty, the man meant for you will find you. You won’t have to chase him, approach him or pursue him. You won’t have to force it to work, settle for less than your worth, give up your goals for him, beg him effort & time or teach him how to be a man. #EbrahimAseem
The man meant for you will not break you, he won’t abuse you, he won’t call you crazy, stupid, dumb, emotional or bitch. He will not question you, belittle your point of view or point out your flaws. #EbrahimAseem He will listen to you & use his words to reassure you.
Your stretch marks, tummy & saggy curves will not scare him off, because your self love & caring heart will be so attractive to him, he will trEAT every inch of your stretch mark having body like food. He will devour your pearls of wisdom, pound the walls of your ear drums with strong thoughts from his throbbing pineal gland. #EbrahimAseem
A blank canvas doesn’t equate beauty. Your stretch marks are unique strokes of the paint brush that surround the work of art the greatest artist in the universe drew you to be. #EbrahimAseem
Your body will be his addiction, because your beautiful soul is his affliction.
He will support you, heal you understand you & be so patient with your trust. To attract this caliber of man, you must fully let go of two things: the idea that no man will want your stretch mark having ass, because you have a child & your emotional attachment to your child’s father.
Don’t let a new man spoil you if you’re still letting a lying, manipulative EX or your child’s father have intimate & emotional parts of you. Heal first. Don’t toy with good men. #EbrahimAseem We exist. A man will love you & your child like it’s his own. He will love your body, stretch marks & all, he reassure you with his words & say,
“I just want you naked. Past that fake smile you wear to hide your self doubts. I know you talk to yourself , combatively conversing with the demons in your mind. I know you don’t always feel as beautiful as you look. I just want to be your calm. #EbrahimAseem Your peace. Your strength. Baby, lean on me. Weak as you may feel at times alone, we are unbreakable together. Let’s grow deeper on our self love together, for infinity forevers. #EbrahimAseem
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Edited by: Brie Winter
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.
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Men, let's want a sweet woman, not a self-proclaimed 'bad bitch'. Want a woman who cares, despite her flaws, smart mouth & guardedness. Want an affectionate woman who likes to cuddle 💏 pinch your cheeks, rub your beard, rub her feet on your leg, poke you in your arm repeatedly, only so you'll grab her & tickle her until her pretty, bright smile shines like the midnight moon 🌙 #EbrahimAseem Men, let's want a woman who cares so much, about animals, nature life, who will treat our dog like she's her own child. Who we can surprise at work with 1-800 Flowers & chocolate 💐💝 & she won't think it's 'corny' or being a 'simp'. A woman you can take to the beach at night & gaze at the stars with, while you rub her feet & recite poetry to her 🏊 #EbrahimAseem Want an intelligent, nerdy women who likes random facts, animal planet reading & the universe. 🌌🌠 Want a deep thinking woman who likes to converse. Want a sweet woman who likes home decor & picking out patterns for your living room. #EbrahimAseem Men, let's stop expecting a woman to chase us. Man up & pursue her. Treat her to a mall date. Take her pretty ass to Sephora for an hour-long shopping spree. Tell her, "you can get whatever you like on me 💄💅👜💳 get pretty for our dinner & opera date tonight night." 🍝🍤🍷🎭 #EbrahimAseem Want a sweet girl you can take to a Jill Scott concert, a comedy show, to hear live jazz. 🎤🎶🎷 #EbrahimAseem Let’s treat her to bbq lunches in the park & dates to the zoo. 🐼🐯🐻🐒 As manly & rugged as we are, you know we're children at heart bro. Let's marry a goofy woman who'd go to the aquarium, paintballing, or the park for a water balloon & water gun fight. #EbrahimAseem Mmmm want a sweet girl with an old soul who has so much love & affection to give. I have dated the self proclaimed "bad bitch" before & I must confess, their pretty, sexy, fine, curvy asses bored the hell out of me. #EbrahimAseem Silly, goofy, sweet, corny, nerdy, healthy, home designing, wedding shower planning, baby fever having women are everything life has to offer. Give her two rings, two children and two Great Pyrenees, two trips overseas per year, 2 cars, but most of all, give her 2 words, 'I do.'
I'd marry a woman with children. She's not a burden. She's a blessing. #EbrahimAseem Bro, if you don't want to commit to a single mother, cool. Keep "talking" to the girls you prefer. I sincerely pray that works for you. But don't knock a man like me, willing to pour love into a woman & her child. 👰🏿👶🏾💍❤️ #EbrahimAseem Her son needs loves & leadership from a man, so he won't grow up to neglect his responsibilities & choose to be a baby daddy. If his father isn't man enough to raise & teach him how to be a man, I will. #EbrahimAseem Her daughter needs to see a man court, commit to, provide for & respect her mother, so she won't think she has to settle for less, lies, cheating & disrespect to keep a man. If her father isn't man enough to be a provider for her mother, I will. #EbrahimAseem Courting a single mother is terribly hard. She'll flake & cancel dates. Short text & not reply. Have no time for putting you first. A woman who puts her child first over me, makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem Be patient with her. She's not flaking. Childcare costs more than the date you want to take her on. Pay her babysitter. Take her on a date. It's not about money. Spoil her with your time to let her know you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to a group of 335 grad school men. Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com The model @Jessicapettway is happily married for 10 years, & is not a single mother. Not that there's in any way anything wrong with single mothers. Every future wife was born to be a wife.
Ladies, is this true? My smart mouthed EX used to argue with her mother constantly. One time, on the phone, she called her mom a "spiteful b" hung up & threw her phone. I grabbed her close from behind, flipped her over to face me & presses my lips up against hers & said "don't talk to your mother that way. #EbrahimAseem I've raised my voice to my moms growing up & it's wrong. Now I know she talks down to you, uses you, abusers you & knowingly allowed her boyfriends to molest you growing up, but you don't take that out on her. Take it out on me. Then I flipped her around, so her back was to me. "You mad? You want to push? Communicate. Push your juicy? well rounded conversation up against my throbbing intellect. Let me pound the stress right out of you." I gripped her curves, grabbed her neck & begin to kiss & suck the stress right out of her. #EbrahimAseem Romantic aggression & consistent actions are the recipe to handle a Smart a Mouthed woman. Mmm I love a Smart Mouthed Woman 😍 #EbrahimAseem Speaking this message to 15 beauties at a bridal shower cooking class. Want life spoken into your friends as you learn a dish from a chef? Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com