Stop asking her why she isn’t MARRIED yet. She’s Healing.

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Stop short texting her when she pours her heart out

She writes her long texts in her notes before she sends it to you. Don’t just brush them off with one words responses like “ok”. 🙄 Digest her words. It’s the recipe to her heart & ingredients to your growth. #EbrahimAseem

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Light Skins can’t fight for the struggle. They aren’t Black.

By: Ebrahim Aseem

“Light privilege is real,” a dark skinned man exclaimed, as he stood in a long line in front of me at CREAM, an ice cream sandwich parlor that stands for “Cookies Rule Everything Around Me.” Let’s call him “Tical”.

Tical stared at his phone, scrolling as he continued, “Why do niggas think a mulatto endorsed by Nike is a win? The revolution will not be publicized.”

“It’s not a win or an L, It’s a Muhammad Ali, rope-a-dope tactic,” I interjected.

“Ever notice women will know us men are lying & hiding something, yet she won’t mention it. She’ll wait until our ego gets so comfortable lying, our sloppy actions get us caught. Our strong pride was used against us.

Using your opponent’s strength against them is the most powerful strategy in war, because it exploits the momentum your opponent’s ego.

Nike seeks to exploit Colin Kaepernick’s divisive notoriety to sell their product. Their wealth & influence is their strength. Fake woke sleepwalkers feel Kaepernick should resist Nike to spite the corporation hoping to exploit him. But to resist your opponent due to their strength is to forfeit the fight before the war is won.

In the same way Muhammad Ali defeated the more powerful George Foreman during the Rumble in the Jungle boxing championship, by using Foremen’s strength against him to make him fatigued & ripe for the knock out;

Colin Kaepernick is defeating his opposers, whose only strength is their white privilege. They set their Nike apparel & shoes on fire in videos, burning their own foot to spite their swoosh. They’re unintentionally advertising Kaepernick’s message like a commercial, that these eugenicists rather burn Nike apparel they paid for, than donate the clothes to homeless troops they claim their standing for the anthem supports. Their inner snake is revealed. Reptilian.

Speaking of animals, Donald Duck & birds like him, call Colin a threat to making America great again as a land of the free & home of the brave. He’s unintentionally advertising for Kaepernick’s message that this country is the land of the hypocrites & home of the enslaved. The revolution will be strategized.”

After multiple failed attempts to interject, Tical finally got a word in edgewise.

“I don’t need your history lesson, Red,” Tical replied, dismissively throwing shade to my naturally red beard, “the only reason white folk loved Ali is, because he was light skin.”


Ebrahim: “Love Ali? No, toilet seat colored people hated Ali, until Parkinson’s silenced his truth speaking mouth. He was labeled a draft dodger and called anti-American, the same way Kaepernick is.”

Tical: “But the difference is Kaepernick is a half breed, mixed mulatto. “Stay woke. Light skins can not fight for the struggle. They ain’t real Black. Don’t let memes convince you Kaepernick is some civil rights martyr like Marcus Garvey or Fredrick Douglass. Them niggas were the real freedom fighters.”

Ebrahim: “Fredrick Douglass’ was bi-racial, his father was white. Yet his melanin & self love was blacker than midnight,” I retorted. “Fredrick Douglass was the 1st Black nominee for Vice President of the U.S. He not only fought for the black struggle, he also fought for the women’s suffrage movement, because there was always two forms of slavery in America, Black people owned by white men and all women owned by their white fathers, then sold to their husbands.

Fredrick Douglass was proof a bi-racial black person with one white parent can fight for the Black struggle.”

Tical: “At least Douglas looked brown skin though. I mean it’s hard to know for sure, all we have is pixelated photographs of the brotha, but still. He look real black. So he couldn’t pass. Kaepernick is light as a white person, with that appropriating Afro he wears. He can pass. That’s why light skins can’t lead the struggle.”


Ebrahim: “Angela Davis is light skinned, yet she lead the Black Panther movement in the 1970s. Malcom X was light skin as well. Just because a person’s skin is light, doesn’t mean their dna isn’t Black. It’s their regal spirit that makes them black on both sides. Mos Def voice.

Michael Jordan is darker than the back of Forest Whitaker’s neck, but his spirit is whiter than the plaque colored people he tap-dances for. Jordan takes Black money for his shoes, but he never speaks out or stands up for Black issues. Jordan is proof having dark black skin isn’t what makes you black, it’s loving your self, melanin and your ancestors with unapologetic blackness.”

Him: “Angela Davis was a pretty face used to ponder to the white man’s idea of beauty being light skin. Light skinned women are not real black. And no woman can lead the revolution. That’s the man’s job. He’s the leader. Her job is in the kitchen, keeping the family structure together.”

Me: “What you’re not going to do is come for Angela Davis. She’s Blacker and realer than you’ll ever be.

Light skinned women are black, because her DNA carries the melanin to give birth to a child darker than Idris Elba, or lighter than Steph Curry. An apple is one because its apple seed can produce apples. Light skin black women are black because her seed can produce infinite generations of Black excellence.”

Him: “Light skin blacks like her or Malcolm could only lead the struggle, because they embraced their Blackness and didn’t act white.”

Me: “What’s acting white?”

Him: “Using big words for no reason is acting white.
Turning the other cheek instead of clapping back with force is acting white.
Going to the white man’s college for a degree is acting white.”

Me: You have to use your opponent’s strength against them.

It was illegal for Black slaves to learn to read. They stole our language from us & hung us if we learned theirs. Little black toddlers would be burned along with the books they were reading in front of their families. Why? So they could change the Bible, manipulate the laws, hide our rites and rewrite history.

Using big words isn’t “acting white”. Words sounds have power. When you speak with understanding, the spirit can flow out your mouth, with the power to move mountains.

Going to college or earning a degree isn’t “acting white”. Half the white philosophers learned at the feet of The Moors. The other half stole their knowledge from the safes, libraries and archives of Nubian rulers. College teaches you half truths, but when you have knowledge of self and activate your pineal gland, you’re able to take those seeds of half truths & plant them with the seeds of knowledge of self to awaken innate wisdom & cultivate mental ascension into fruition.

The last thing I said to Tical was, “There is no one style or format that makes you black. Blackness is innate and intrinsic.” But I stopped there. Not just because it was my turn to order ice cream but, also because the hardest person to wake up is the one who’s pretending to be sleep.

Black is your culture, not your identity. You are a spirit, wearing this human form like clothes. Spirits have no race. No gender. No age, because time doesn’t exist in the universe. But on this realm, our culture is our GPS map. It leads us to knowledge of self, so we can know how to operate all our gifts hidden deep inside our DNA.

Props to women fighting anxiety, depression, cancer or migraine yet find strength to pour energy in work, school, bills, grinding for a future or freedom fighting for the struggle. I see you. I know you don’t get credit for doing it alone but you’re appreciated. Stay unbreakable.

Every form of pain you face, rather it be anxiety, stress, disease, sadness, self doubt, abandonment issues, there is an intangible weapon hidden deep inside of your DNA to help you overcome that pain. The greatest artist in this universe hand painted you to be a work of art. No matter the color of your skin, love yourself for the spirit you are within. You are strong, beautiful, unbreakable and unfuckwithable.

Love your culture. Learn your history, and embrace your women, they are the key to life, light and mental ascension into the universe. She’s the portal chosen to give life, and all human life came out of the womb of the strongest being on this planet, the Black Woman.

Us brothas don’t say this enough, but Black Women; you are so beautiful, giving, spiritual & selfless. You’re not too picky, too difficult or opinionated. You’re strong minded & enough. #EbrahimAseem All life springs from your womb. You are loved, because you are love.

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Why Loyal women are really SELFISH

Giving your all to a non-reciprocal man who meets none of your needs is NOT loyal, it’s Selfish. You only care about your own self pleasure is not being alone, while staying loyal to a man who doesn’t deserve it. #EbrahimAseem

If you care for HIS growth, you wouldn’t stunt it by rewarding half-ass effort with your amazing presence in his life. #EbrahimAseem

He needs to learn, “you don’t get to have the benefit of a loyal partner with out matching their effort & reciprocating all they give.” – Ebrahim Aseem
But you don’t want him to learn. You just want his half-ass attention. How selfish of you. You deserve reciprocal love you don’t have to force.

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10 reasons why Ladies Love *LAW and ORDER SVU*

Ice Cream + Law and Order SVU marathon = the recipe for a Deep Thinking Woman But why?

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75% of my network consists of my deployed male friends, overseas in the Air Force and Marines who are away from their wives for 6 months at a time. Among the many relationship questions men email me weekly, one question they always ask is, “why does my girl love watching SVU marathons so much?”

Ladies love Law and Order ==> SVU <== specifically, for these reasons:

1. Strong Women with a Smart-Mouth are celebrated.

In a man’s world, strong-minded women are often discouraged to down play their strength and portray submissive characteristics by weak-minded men who are intimidated by the strength of a woman.

Olivia Benson represents the feminine, strong-minded woman inside of every female. She’s gentle, yet tough as bricks.
She’s feminine, yet not super-girly.

She can seduce a man with her beautiful smile, or kick his ass with her quick hands and sharp tongue.
The later is one of the more subtle, yet empowering aspects of her character, displayed on the show.

SVU promotes the “Intelligent, Quick-Witted, Smart Mouthed Women”.

Often labeled an offensive adjective that starts with the letter “B” by weak men,
who couldn’t assume them alpha role if their manhood depended on it,

SVU displays the true nature of a smart mouthed woman as one who knows her strength and embraces it.
Who doesn’t down play her intelligence to appease the male ego.

Who doesn’t bite her tongue.
It shows a woman doesn’t have to follow every statement she makes to a man with a girly giggle or an “lol”, as a way to lighten up her intelligent assertions.

Who doesn’t have to passive-aggressively respond to a man under her breath
as a way to avoid his father-like discipline of her not “knowing her role and staying in it”.

Benson’s character, played by Marishka Hargitay, is the girl next door;
if the girl next door had the face of a model, with the fight of a black-belt.

Women love her, because she doesn’t take any misogynistic BS.
Not only does she stand up for women on the show, Benson /Marishka founded the Joyful Heart Foundation in 2004

To heal and empower survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse, while raising awareness for these often over-looked epidemics.
Gotta love a strong-minded woman with a conscious.

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2. Stabler.

One word says it all for true SVU fans
who’ve been watching from the start.

Strong minded women LOVE a strong man, with mountains for arms who knows how to take charge and DEMAND her attention with his romantic aggression.
Elliot Stabler is just that.

Although Christopher Meloni has since left the show, he won’t soon leave true fans’ hearts.
The impact his punch first, ask questions last persona leaves on the screen, as well on the face of a suspect, is unshakable.

3. Girls love Gore.

Even a woman who refuses to watch a horror film
will sit and Google “serial killers” on her phone all day,

or read about “The black dahlia” on Wikipedia, until her eyes turn red,
or YouTube the most heinous real life crimes, like the news clip about the mother who put her 2-month old baby in the microwave, while on her lunch break.

This counterphobic attitude is a response to anxiety that,
instead of fleeing the source of fear in the manner of a phobia,

one actively seeks it out, in the hope of overcoming the original anxiousness.
It’s a subconscious response to seek out what is feared.

A woman’s love for detection and problem solving rivals her love for chocolate.
And that’s saying a mouth full. When she first meets a man, she has no hesitation to background check his Facebook, google his name and phone number, and cross reference his social networks to ascertain his TRUE relationship status, if he has any children, as well as his characteristics and attributes. By the time a woman agrees to go on a first date with you, she knows substantially more about you than you know about her.

The thriller of solving a suspense or mystery gives life to an intelligent woman. A CSI team has nothing on a woman’s intuition. A woman knows the answer to a question she asks a man before she even asks us. She just wants to see of we will be honest with her. This is why a man should never lie to a woman, she knows. Trust me.

Women are DEEP thinkers by nature. They will stay up all night, playing out scenarios in their head about what “would” happen if she did this, or what “might” happen if she did that. There’s something therapeutic to a woman about watching an SVU marathon with her phone in one hand and a container of ice cream in the other.

Despite the anxiety crime and violence induces, experiencing it through a fictional lens helps a woman minimize her anxiety of her fears, through familiarity and understanding coupled with the usually satisfying conclusion of the abuser being brought to justice at conclusion of each episode.

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4. … because they never say “she asked for it.”

When a woman gets sexually harassed by a co-worker, family member or her bestie’s husband, SHE is told,
“how can you dress so sexy like that and not expect a man to want to force himself on you?”

Women know this. They know they live in a world, dangerous and unjust for women. They know the live in a rape culture, where if a man wears a bathing suit, he’s “handsome and attractive” yet, when a woman wears a bathing suit, she’s, “a whore” or “setting thirst traps”

But on SVU, the cops don’t blame the victims, they listen to them.

They treat them with respect.
They don’t ask women, “well, what were you wearing or doing to MAKE him touch you?”

Ignorance like this is not allowed on this show.

The police are extremely attentive and they show the victims they really care.
They treat women with the respect, assuring them their abuser will be caught.

5. It’s cathartic.

1 of every 3 women are physically or sexually abused at some point in their lives.
In real life, the victims are blamed for this.

But on SVU, the abusers are held to a high standard,
while the victims are comforted and their accusation of abuse or rape is often justified, as no one blames THEM for being raped or beat up.

Survivors of sexual & physical assault, find it healing seeing stories similar to theirs, where people actually care about the victim and bringing the perpetrator to justice in some way.
Survivors want to think some survivors get help and support the way they never did.

Their fantasies of Detective Stabler punching their abuser, rapist or molester until he was bloody and unrecognizable,
Olivia understanding and supporting them through the trial,

Alex brilliantly and successfully arguing for their abuser’s conviction,
causing them to emerge from therapy whole and unafraid is fueled through every SVU marathon they watch.

In real life, however, rape crimes are not taken seriously by police.
Sexual harassment at the office is common place.
A man hitting his girlfriend is laughed at, with ill-advised Chris Brown and Rihanna jokes subsequently following chuckles.

And the much too common “date rape” is often seen by many mentally immature males as,
something a woman “owes” him if he pays for dinner on a date.

Conversely, on SVU, the cops consider rape or domestic abuse just as serious as any other crime. This is why it appeals to a demographic that often has no voice and no one willing to speak for them. They watch it to feel less alone.
So she can know she’s not the only victim out there.

She watches it to see the rapists get their asses kicked and brought to justice, because hers never got punished.
It takes years before hearing ‘it’s not your fault’ becomes an emotional reality, so

Sexual & domestic abuse survivors can find comfort in living vicariously through a character they know will receive some solace within the conclusion of the sixty minute episode.

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6. the Elliot and Olivia hook up that never was, but always seemed right around the corner.

How many women have watched SVU every week to see if this week is the week that Olivia and Elliot would one day make love, because their sexual tension is insane?

7. Ice T’s sarcasm.

The irony of a once hardcore rapper playing a police officer on TV is humorous in and of itself,
and yet Ice T’s sarcastic loquaciousness makes the irony of his existence on a cop show play the comedic straight man.

This clips acts as a perfect ode to Ice T’s unbeknownst hilarity:

8. SVU Marathons are so suspenseful.

You can get emotionally invested in the characters
without having to start from the beginning and watch every single episode sequentially;

Unlike many shows that are impossible to understand unless you binge watch the first three seasons on Netflix without leaving the house for 2 days straight, and if you miss one episode, you have no idea what’s going on and who the hell people are.

Whereas with SVU,
you can turn on the TV and see a complete story in an hour with beginning, middle, and end each time; and you don’t have to watch them in order. This is the major appeal of an SVU marathon. It’s like turning on your favorite playlist and randomizing the tracks.

At the same time, there’s continuity from episode to episode, and Benson and Stabler age, evolve, and change throughout the series,
unlike shows where the main characters are static and interchangeable.
Character development is a huge appeal with SVU fans.

It’s like a mystery or suspense novel in this regard.

9. They don’t act like most victims “cry rape”.

A very low number of rape cases are convicted let alone reported.
The number of people who truly believe most rapes are fabricated and that most women “cry rape” for attention is terrifying.

This lie contributes to the reason most women who get raped don’t report it to the police.
They genuinely feel like no one believes they were really raped.

There is a huge misconception in the world about what “rape” REALLY is.

Sadly, many males, not men, but males don’t consider it “rape” if a woman flirts with him,
or if she enjoys it,
or if she has an orgasm,
or if she has had at least one baby by him,
or if she’s on top,
or if they’re in a relationship,
or if she has ever consented to sex with him at any time.

No matter if a woman consents to sex with a man or not,
if at any time, before or during sex a woman says “stop” “no” “don’t” or “pineapples” it means get up and stop.

Males who say, “well she didn’t use the safe word” or “sometimes no means yes, and stop means harder” miss the point.
Sex is about comfort level.

If at any time a woman doesn’t feel comfortable during sex, it’s best to stop, otherwise that is indeed rape.

The only thing about rape on SVU that is misrepresented is the persistent myth that most rapes are stranger rapes.
Studies show between 70% and 90% of all rapes are committed by someone the victim already knows.

This is rarely portrayed on the show, however,
SVU does a great job of displaying the severity of sexual assault through the amazing storyline and character chemistry.

10. that *sound*. Dun dun

Signifying a beautiful escape into a fantasy world where life is just a little more fair for women.
Why do you love Law & Order SVU so much?

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For Public Speaking inquiries & booking, contact me AEAseem@gmail.com

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Lunar eclipse July 27, 2018

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The Juneteenth Lie

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How to cook Fresh Pasta | Chef Ebrahim Aseem

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Why men cheat on PREGNANT women.

Why men cheat on their pregnant woman.

After cheating on his last pregnant ex-GF with Khloe, Tristan cheated on a pregnant Khloe with a girl that looks exactly like his 1st baby mama.

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Is it the baby weight she gains, even before she starts to show? Why do men cheat on their pregnant woman, despite her sexy pregnant “glow”? It’s not about looks, remember, Jay-Z did cheat on Bey. The stress caused Beyoncé to miscarry, while her Mister was sexually getting carried away. So how could TristanThompson cheat on #KhloeKardashian with IG Model #LaniBlair ?

Why men cheat on a pregnant woman? Seeing her display more strength then him makes him feel she doesn’t NEED him. A narcissist’s male identity is to be needed by women. Insecurity creates jealousy. He cheats to feel superior to her & spite the unborn baby he’s grown jealous of.

As men, we selfishly think about our own needs during our woman’s pregnancy. It should be all about HER needs. She’s strong because she has to be. She works all day & stays up late at night for the baby, because she has to. Your pregnant woman is not “weak” for being tired or fatigued. She carried a whole life. With your watermelon-head having genes. Your pregnant woman is not a flake or selfish for not spending time with you when it’s convenient for you. She’s an artist, shaping & molding the priceless child you put inside her. And an artist is sensitive about their shit. But your pregnant woman is not overly-emotional. She’s unbreakable & skilled at using her strength to curb the frightened emotions of an uncomfortable baby who’s growing by the second. Your pregnant woman is not fat & unsexy. Her body’s buoyant ability to expand for deliver delivery also applies to her body’s ability to tighten her walls & grip hold if your throbbing manhood.

A mother doesn’t chose the baby over her man. She spends every moment of her life keeping the baby alive, so stop acting like a grown ass baby bro. Giving birth is the closest anyone comes to death. So if she has your child, give her all your energy, patience & understanding until you don’t have any left.

Let’s stop mistaking her super mommy strength for “not needing us as men”. Of course she can do it all alone, but we’d be selfish fools to make her. A pregnant woman doesn’t “need” a man, but she deserves a consistent one. Because us men would be nothing without the pregnant woman who gave us life. Respect the respectful life givers bro.

I never met an amazing mother with a decent sleep pattern. Pretending to be sleep so her baby falls asleep, she overthinks on her purpose & replays scenarios in her mind. Planing years away, pondering life’s meaning. Give her time & consistency, not stress. If shes a deep thinker, shes a keeper💍

Did you know a mother doesn’t sleep? She chases the baby around the house ALL. DAY. LONG. No breaks. Cleaning up messes. Broken glass. Stains. Spills. The only time she does sleep is on accident. #EbrahimAseem I know you’re thinking, “well why can’t she just put the baby to sleep & then she can have time for herself?”

Because dummy, she can’t just “put” the baby to sleep in the crib, then run off & paint the town red. The baby will just cry non-stop. She has to hold, rock & comfort the baby to sleep. She turns the lights off & lays still, pretending to be sleep, because that’s the only way the baby will fall asleep. #EbrahimAseem

Problem is, it takes so long, she accidentally falls asleep herself. But she can never get “rest” because the baby wakes up constantly in the middle of the night.

Any woman who would sacrifice all that & more for a little child, she would give anything to love you, value your manhood, promote your mental growth, calm your fears, help fight your demons, accomplish your purpose & bring you closer to the man you were put here to be. #EbrahimAseem

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The Melaninated Origin of Easter

Queen Vashti, was exiled for refusing her king husband’s command to dance naked in front of 100s of his drunk male guests, wearing only her crown. The king clapped back by making it law every husband be master of his house. This was why a wife & her children take her husband’s last name. She was property of the husband. #EbrahimAseem

Queen #Vashti ‘s throne was stripped away. She had no peace, but her smart mouthed refusal to acquiesce to male privilege inspired & gave peace to Easter, a slim-thick, Afro-Hebrew girl. The Persian King Ahasuerus caught feelings & made her queen. He created a holiday feast for her called “Esther”. #Easter #EbrahimAseem

Queen #Esther used her regal power to emancipate her melanin Hebrew people from bondage & genocide. She created an annual feast to honor equality for her people & equality for the life givers, women. This is the origin of EASTER. #EbrahimAseem

Easter eggs symbolize the Mother Soul Cell Fundamental principle every human ever born starts off as an egg inside a woman’s matrix (womb). #EbrahimAseem

Every 28 days, the moon renews herself. Her frequency influences women’s monthly spiritual cleanse cycle. Spirits pass through her pineal gland & if fertilized, life is born through her. That’s how the spirit you are was born into this realm. #EbrahimAseem

The female pineal gland is the portal all souls travel through to enter into this realm from the celestial zone. #EbrahimAseem

Let’s value virtuous women. She was divinely chosen not only to be a vessel of life as mothers, but to be a portal of metaphysical power, as our liaison with the moon & heavens. #EbrahimAseem

It is not your job to keep belittling her, putting her down, calling a respectful woman names unprovoked & making fun of everything about her you don’t understand.

Instead of telling our women, “stop being such a crazy, over-emotional bitch on your period” let’s start telling our women, “When will you awaken to the realization that your smile is meant to be permanent. You flash it like a camera, but it was meant to be a light. Moon you shine so bright, and I’m the spark that was put into your life, for me to make you my wife, into your soul, speaking life. Let go, allow our souls to ignite.” #EbrahimAseem

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Stop calling children “sexy”

Your child is not sexy. Stop calling them that. It opens the door for your child to be sexualized. And just because a child isn’t fully clothed does not give you a right to view them sexually.

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Black Panther’s all women army is based on a real African all women killing squad

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The movie #BlackPanther 's all women army "Dora Milaje", is based on a real West-African all Women killing squad. The Dahomey Amazons (N’Nonmiton) meant “our mothers” in Fon. Originating in modern-day Benin. They could breast feed your baby & slit your husband's throat. 😂😩 #EbrahimAseem These women were more than just soldiers they took prominent roles in the kingdom. They spoke on policy and trade among other things. Only the strongest women were chosen for this 2,500 solider army. They were not allowed to wed or have children while in the army. These women were not only armed with guns and knives but with valor, beauty & grace. The spirit of these #Amazon women has been inherited genetically to all women of African decent, including Blacks, Dominicans 🇩🇴, Puerto Ricans 🇵🇷, Jamaicans 🇯🇲, Afro-Latin, "Mixed" blacks, & even those who deny their melanin heritage. I'm so attracted to a Black woman. All aren't unapproachable. She just sees through lies, b.s. & game before you can run it. All don't have "attitude. She just speaks her mind & wont submit to a weak man, just so he can be alpha by default. #EbrahimAseem Skin of black diamond. Hair of gold. Her body is art. Her heartbeat is music. Her strength is unbreakable. All human life came from her womb. Respect her. I spoke this at USC to a group of future filmmakers. #13YearMentorForMen #MotivationalSpeaker #EbrahimAseem Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com

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How to PRAY for your woman. | 5 ways to be her PEACE.

Here’s 5 peaceful ways to pray for your woman:

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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#1. The next time your girl irritates you, don’t yell at her bro. Grab her, hug her tight & pray with her. Say, “Baby, I pray for your strength & patience. I pray to grow as a leader, so I can lead you to peace & not frustration.” #EbrahimAseem

#2. “I pray you quit over-thinking, replaying failed scenarios, feeding self-doubt & seeing the good in everyone but your self. You deserve so much more baby. I pray to grow more patient with you.” #EbrahimAseem

#3. “Baby, I know you hate asking people for things. That’s why you deserve to be given the world. But, I know all you want is consistency, time & effort without having to always ask me for it. I pray for discernment, to meet your needs without you having to always tell me to.” #EbrahimAseem

#4. When she’s emotional, don’t yell at her, threaten her, or walk away. Stay. Be her calm. Love her through her madness. Say, “Baby, I reassure you your flaws won’t scare me off. I pray to be more understanding of your feelings so you can relax, open up & trust me.” #EbrahimAseem

#5. Instead of always leading the conversation towards sex, lead her in prayer to calm her over thinking. Like lifting weights, prayer lifts negative energy, making your connection with your woman stronger. Say, “I pray your over thinking thoughts stop trying to convince you that you aren’t as amazing as you make me feel everyday.” #EbrahimAseem

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Why men prefer BAD Bitches over SWEET women.

Bad bitches are winning. Cardi B is #1 on the billboard charts. Rihanna’s Fenty is the #1 make-up brand. And men prefer Self-Proclaimed Bad Bitches over sweet women.

A reader asked me, “Ebrahim, why do guys prefer the former-stripper, Cardi B Bad bitch type with fake boobs & ass over us sweet girls with natural bodies?”

Mentally immature males fear being emotionally vulnerable to a woman. The world makes men think we have to hold in our emotions. He opens up to a S.P.B.B., because she won’t make him grow, take accountability or break down like he NEEDS to. His opening up will only lead to her stroking his ego, subsequently burying his emotions. #EbrahimAseem

See, a S.P.B.B. knows she can steal a sweet girl’s man, simply by playing into the playboy fantasy adolescent-minded males possess.

The 5-step Bad Bitch Guide to attracting a guy.

1. Emojis.
Half her conversation is in emojis, appealing to the visual nature of a male. She knows, the right combination of hearts, kissy faces & winks is the cheat code to unlocking the attention of a male.

2. Goofy banter.
This is where the SPBB has the sweet girl beat. Her conversation & behavior is always light, fun, silly and goofy. She knows how to appease a male by pretending to like whatever he likes, be it sports, video games, gangster movies, trap music or criticizing other women. She’s fully aware that more than looks, men are attracted to a woman with a fun, goofy vibe.

3. Ms. Independent
A SPBB is quick to tell you how much she doesn’t need a man. How much of her own she makes. Don’t worry about the fact she doesn’t pay all the rent where she lives. We’re in a down economy and she’s got her own *Neo voice*

And she doesn’t need a man for anything. If one acts up, she’s quick to cut a guy off, so don’t get comfortable. *Cardi B voice. In fact, she has more side hoes than any guy in her phone. The majority of which she met online. This is how she stays independent and so emotionally low-maintenance. She subscribes to the mantra “if a guy pays your way, he will think you OWE him something sexually.” Males in her life eat this up, happy they don’t have to treat her to a date.

Males like self-proclaimed ‘bad bitches’ (SSBB), because they feel she wants a man, but doesn’t NEED a man. A SPBB is all about her money & is simply not as emotionally high-maintenance as a sweet girl. Sweet girls have abandonment issues & trust issues that get aggravated when the man they like doesn’t give her enough deserved attention.

Cardi B only became a stripper to escape domestic violence. Initially she dropped out of school to spend more time with her boyfriend, fearing if she didn’t, he’d get a side piece. After she moved in with him & his mom, he begin financially abusing her. She was trapped. So she stripped, stacked, moved out & used the money to go back to school.

Sweet women must learn to put her goals before her emotions. Being in her feelings, chasing unambitious boys will leave you broke & lonely. It’s a mans job to pursue you. Have your own, and know you deserve to be spoiled. Not just with money. With time, attention & consistency without always having to ask for it.

4. Stroke his throbbing ego to climax.
A SPBB knows how to subtly post the right caption-selfie combination to arouse a male’s throbbing ego, for her to subsequently stroke.

She will post a revealing picture of her body, with an un-thirst–trap-like-caption, like,

“ugh, I’m getting fat, need to get in the gym more like this and tone”. Along with an inspirational quote she’s never lived, by a writer whose work she’s never read.

Meanwhile, in her picture, she’s wearing spandex boy shorts & a lingerie bra (not a sports bra) in her house (not at the gym).

Yet, somehow we’re supposed to believe she’s in a gym. She can’t spell “elliptical” trainer, let alone properly use one. But, it’s ok, and it’s not “thirsty” simply, because her picture caption is a goal, and a woman with goals is to be admired.

Here come all the thirsty males commenting on her picture, vying for her attention, hoping to get noticed. She posts her selfie, chooses the male-option who sucks the least, then stroke his ego.

“Aww thanks guys,” She says to all.
“Gotta stay fit ;)” she replies to a random girl, to make it seem like her post isn’t aimed only at gaining males’ attention.

“You’re so sweet handsome,” she tells our lucky winner.

And what does he win? Vain, pointless, goofy convo with a bad bitch with a stripper body.

Cardi B said she doesn’t recommend girls strip to get out money problems the way she did. Her advice to women on getting a fake ass is “Just don’t do it, because I don’t really know what’s in my ass right now. I could die. Who knows. I regret it. It’s a trend.”


5. Never open up. Never show the real her.

A SPBB’s secret weapon is she never completely open up to a guy about her true feelings. Her grandpa could have died last night, and she will still send a guy a #GoodMorning selfie like nothing tragic happened in her life.

She smiles so bright, yet she’s fighting demons every day, with no one to talk to about it. No one cares. And the ones who claim they want her time so badly, are never there.

Guys be thinking girls are looking for a daddy figure in random men. Nah, she’s really looking to life for the nurturing mother she’s never had.

Self proclaimed bad bitches are really sweet girls deep inside. But she got tired of being trampled over, emotionally stepped on & having her sweet nature taken for weakness. So, she decided to become emotionless. It’s not hard to be emotionless, when you legit don’t feel anything anymore. #EbrahimAseem

“Before I started stripping,” Cardi B said, “I was very satisfied with the way I looked. I thought I had a nice face & body, until I started going to the strip club.” Once she saw the bad bitches men made it rain for, she started feeling insecure. So, she got breast implants & fake ass shots.

Even though she said she’s not a role model & doesn’t want kids to look up to her, women like Cardi B because she is a sweet woman who has learned self acceptance & high confidence to match her unfuckwitable disposition.

What good is it to be sweet without being confident? The beauty of chocolate is that it combines the sweet taste of sugar with the bold confident flavor of cocoa. Just be yourself, the most confident version of self you can be.

A sweet woman who lacks self-confidence turns a guy off, because he knows she will try to make him her whole world and rely on his attention to drown out her overthinking thoughts.

This annoys the hell out off men. That is why the guy you like ignores your texts. He would rather have flirtversations with ‘bad bitches’ on Instagram, instead of conversing with a sweet, caring, passive-aggressive, over emotional, over-apologetic woman like you. #EbrahimAseem

When a sweet girl likes a man, she needs to hear from him everyday, every minute, just him and her, on some ‘The Notebook’ type shit.

If she texts him & he doesn’t respond within 2 minutes of her pressing “enter” in her mind, she’s like, “oh, ok, so you ain’t got time to text me back, but you got time to be over there, breathing air, existing and shit, living your life without me? You know what? Fuck you. I gave you my all. I gave you my WHOLE heart & you shitted on it and lit it on fire. I gave you whole my soul, and you…oh shit, he just texted me back! “Hey babe, I missed you 😦 wyd?” smh. Fail.

This is why some girls pretend to be heartless. She feels if she’s heart-less her heart can’t be broken. Bodak Yellow is #1, because sweet girls use it to mentally escape from being in her sweet girl feelings, to a bad bitch unbothered mode. #EbrahimAseem

When will the SPBB awaken to the realization she’s much more than the bad bitch she calls herself?
When will the sweet girl mentally mature into a sweet WOMAN and match confidence with her sweetness?

Males do not choose bad bitches over a sweet woman, they USE bad bitches over a sweet woman, because she does not challenge him to grow up like a sweet girl does. Stay sweet. These males are trying to tell you they are not yet on your level of life maturity, but you refuse to listen.

A bad bitch will not require him to make her a wife, before making her a mother. Sweet girls lowkey have baby fever. They will never admit they secretly hope for a “positive” on that pregnancy test. Grown ass little boys fear fatherhood, so he will choose a bad bitch over a good girl. #EbrahimAseem

A bad bitch will not require a man to answer that ‘what are we’ text. In fact, she will never send it.
Sweet girls can literally know she’s not anywhere near ready for a relationship, yet she wonders what your intentions are with her. She knows she is wife material. She has her ring picked out. She has dress patterns screenshot. Her pinterest is full of home decor and bedding sets. She’s ready for marriage. Grown ass little boys fear faithful commitment, so he will choose a bad bitch over a sweet girl.

A bad bitch always knows the latest slang, latest song, and she’s seen the video. That outfit those vixens were wearing in it, she searched their Instagram names and has already online-pre-ordered the dresses they wear from Fashion Nova. For this reason, a bad bitch is a trophy to a grown ass little boy.

Immature males care more about getting approval from OTHER MEN than they care about what a woman thinks. As suspect as this sounds, it is true. This is the number one reason males choose a bad bitch over a sweet girl, for male approval.

Mentally immature males have this competition with each other, who can have the hottest car, who rock the hottest shoes, and who can have the hottest woman. Hip hop has coined this the century of the bad bitch, so no matter what type of girl an immature guy really wants, he will always choose a bad bitch over a sweet girl. Who the hell wants a sweet girl anyway? A gentleman does. We hate this bad bitch phase with a passion. That’s why I proposed to a single mother, sweet woman named Brie, with the natural curves of a baddie.

Say goodbye to the reign of the bad bitch. Welcome to the era of the Sweet Woman who can do both.

Want a sweet woman.
By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Men, stop chasing the bad bitch fantasy girl & give a sweet woman a chance. Tell her, “I want a sweet woman.
I want a woman who cares.
I want an affectionate woman who likes to cuddle, pinch my cheeks, rub my beard, rub her feet on my leg, poke me in my arm repeatedly, only so I will grab her sweet ass and tickle her until her pretty, bright smile shines like the midnight moon.

I want a woman who loves to read. Can you tell me your story as I turn the pages of your mind? I know your story is full of horror & drama, but I want to be your plot twist peace.

I want a woman who cares so much, about animals, nature life, who will treat my dog like she’s her own child. Who I can surprise at work with 1-800 Flowers & she won’t think it’s corny. Who I can take to the beach at night and gaze at the stars with, while I rub her feet and recite poetry to her.

I want a nerdy women who like random facts, animal planet & anything regarding the universe.
I want a sweet woman, who watches more than reality tv. Let’s cuddle up & watch the travel channel. Each pick two of our favorite locales, put them in a hat & whichever you pull we will vaykay there.

I want a sweet woman who likes home decor and picking out patterns for my living room. Let’s have a mall date, go pick out furniture and you can teach me about color patterns and Feng shui.

Then, I’ll take your pretty ass to Sephora for an hour-long shopping spree and you can get whatever you like on me, and get pretty for our dinner and opera date that night.

I want a sweet girl I can take to the opera, a comedy show, to hear live jazz, or oldies, or 90s R&B or Neo-Soul. Let’s have bbq lunches in the park and dates to the zoo. I’m a big ass kid at heart.

I want a sweet woman to take on a date to PUMP IT UP, so we can push all the snotty-nosed children out the way & play, bounce & JUMP in that shit. Grab some PIZZA for lunch, some ICEEs & cotton candy. Then we can go play laser tag, after I whoop her ass in bowling real quick.

I want to wife the type of Woman who would let me bring my lil niece on a date WITH us to the aquarium, or paintballing, or to the park to have a water balloon and water gun fight. I love to laugh & have fun & I need that in a Woman.

I want an sweet woman who loves adventure, who I can take white water rafting, skydiving, or to the gun range. A woman I can hoop with, lift weights & work out with, jog with, a woman unafraid to get her hands dirty with me.

I want a sweet girl with an old soul who has so much love and affection to give. I have dated the self proclaimed bad bitch before, and I must confess, their pretty, sexy, fine, curvy asses bored the hell out of me.

Silly, goofy, sweet, corny, nerdy, healthy, home designing, wedding shower planning, baby fever having women are everything life has to offer. I just want to give her two rings, two children and two yorkies, two trips overseas per year, two cars, but most of all, I want to give her two words, I do.”

And bro, every mentally mature man I have ever met in my 13 years as a mentor for men want the same damn thing too. Real men love sweet women.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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How to stop OverThinking

By: Ebrahim Aseem

What’s meant for you will find you. You won’t have to chase it, force it, settle or fight to keep it alive. It won’t break you, hurt you or question you. It will heal you, understand you & be patient with your trust. To attract it, fully let go all thoughts that do not promote your growth. #EbrahimAseem

Your overthinking thoughts are NOT your “own” thoughts. They have been incepted inside your subconscious mind by unappreciative users you give your all to when they need you, yet they’re never there for you when you need them most.

The goal is to make you second guess your every decision, so you keep giving all your energy to them, having no energy & time to pour into your goals & self care.

That’s why you cannot stop your over thinking thoughts from playing inside your mind. You actually think they’re your own thoughts. Ever seen a red flag you didn’t obey? That red flag was your thought. The overthinking thoughts that told you to over look that warning sign was not your thought. It was the inception of overthinking. #EbrahimAseem

What’s hardest for a giver is not being used. It’s forgiving themselves for giving their all to a manipulative user, knowing damn well they saw red flags & inconsistency. #EbrahimAseem

Your mind has been hijacked by self doubt. It taught you to blame yourself for that dark, painful secret no one knows about. Every time you mentally punish yourself with regrets from your past decisions, you feed the inception of overthinking, making it stronger.

If you don’t stop this cycle, overthinking will permanently take over your mind, and you will become a complete pessimist with no free thought.

The definition of depression is pessimistically overthinking about your flaws, faults & pain without the balance of optimistically mediating on your strengths & healing. #EbrahimAseem

Think about what you want. Don’t think of all the reasons it can’t or won’t happen. Don’t think of any reason you don’t deserve it to happen Think only of how it can & will happen. This destroys the inception of overthinking. It is the law of attraction.

Curiously entertaining overthinking thoughts plants seeds of more overthinking thoughts, infesting your mind with self doubt.

Holding only healing thoughts will attract healing thoughts & completely repel overthinking thoughts of self doubt, blame & regret.

The HAARP induced Irma & Harvey are not the only hurricanes wreaking havoc. You endure hurricane overthinking. Tornado migraines. Earthquake anxiety. Tsunami depression. But your strength through temporary pain is so impressive to the one who created you. #EbrahimAseem Blessings of self love, strength & healing are the rainbows waiting for you on the other side of this storm on your life.

I pray you quit overthinking, replaying failed scenarios, feeding self doubt & seeing the good in everyone but your self. You deserve so much more. No one knows how much you endure. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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The public school system HATES Free Thinkers

Educators & teachers LOVE free thinkers. But the U.S Public School system was created as part of a Trilogy of Mind Control, to discourage free thinking, pineal gland activation & limit the intelligent mind of a person, from elementary to undergraduate. This includes: Health Care (via Kaiser), Mass Media (via T.V.) & Public Academia (via schools & university).

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

EDUCATE (v.) means = to bring something out of a crop or seed. To reap sown seeds. To harvest. To cultivate. a Mind is a seed.

Sadly, this does not take place in public schools, which is a pipeline to fund the private prison system, which has legal slave labor thanks to the 13th amendment.

The goal of public school & public undergrad university is primarily to remove critical thought from a child, then incept a child’s mind with academia & waste eight hours of their day they could spend being creatively brilliant, perfecting their craft of blueprint drafting, dance, chemistry, singing, coding analytics, sketching to design clothes, learning to cook, nutrition, do hair, play an instrument, mock trails.

Many universities goal isn’t you graduating in four years, you taking unnecessary prerequisites as long you pay tuition. This conflict of interest & student loans destroying your credit would have one question if public universities & the department of treasury are working as a syndicate.

This is why after slavery, private universities like HBCUs were formed, to stimulate the minds using wisdom & mental ascension.

Sensory stimulation directly promotes intellectual growth & pineal gland activation via frontal cortex stimulation. Systematic oppression in public universities is done intentionally to create sheep-like robots, who social security number is their barcode.

The goal of Health Care is to carry out medical warfare, and the weapon is legal pharmaceuticals. The name “Kaiser” is derived from the gens (clan) Julia, to which belonged Gaius Julius Caesar, the godfather of the first Roman imperial army.

One sword can wipe out an army. One vaccine can wipe out an entire nation of people. Are all vaccines bad? Hell NO! just the poisonous ones. There is more mercury & live viruses in an “amazing” immunization vaccine than there is in an actual virus itself.

Yet, what is more harmful: The poisonous drug injected into the body? or the poisonous drug injected into the mind?

TV is an outstandingly entertaining, very addictive drug used to control the mind & spark consumerism. Through fiber-optics, our TV transmits a frequency that affects us on a sub-atomic level.

These frequencies are known as talismans & are used very carefully by corporations & the media in the same way product placement is used in a movie to sell us a product.

TV is used to sell us an idea. To mnemonically spark certain emotions in the mind. Some people cannot fall asleep, unless the TV is left on all night. Are you watching the idiot box? or does the idiot box watch you?

Even if it’s just the new additions menu from Netflix or the screen saver from the Blu-ray player, the subconscious mind becomes addicted to the Talisman frequencies the TV/device projects. The subconscious mind becomes a slave to it.

Even when the TV is off, it is still plugged in, it can transmit frequency to the mind, Like a FM station a transmits frequency to a radio. This is one of the greatest forms of mind control.

One would rather miss a family member’s birthday party than to miss an episode of Game Of Thrones. A woman refuses to have any drama in her life, yet religiously watches every episode of Love & Hip Hop or Basketball Wives, because she loves to watch the drama in others lives. It does not mean she loves drama & messiness. Her subconscious mind is addicted to the suspense. Mind control at it’s finest.

Great minds are pushed to settle for the norm by the creatively mediocre who FEAR intelligent, SELF thinking people.

Our thoughts have power to shape your life. The 1% fears you. You use your thoughts to doubt yourself. They use their thoughts to power the law of attraction.

Once you awaken to the inner standing that you don’t need a school to teach you knowledge, religion to bring you on a closer walk with the Holy Spirit, nor doctor to heal you, because you have the mental power to move matter, once you awaken, you will be free of all pain, overthinking & self doubt. But you’re more valuable to the 1% as a consumer, who questions nothing. But you’re most feared as a free thinker who questions everything.

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How to “Turn the Pages of her Mind” | 100 ways to approach a woman.

How to approach her in person:

#1.
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#2.
https://instagram.com/p/BXeBoqhBFvj/

#3. If she’s walking fast don’t yell, catcall or chase her. Mentally note the location. Return tomorrow w/ a box of chocolate w/ ur number on it

#4. Pay for her gas. Say, “fill it up beautiful, it’s taken care of”. Then, leave your number on her dash. If she calls, gas up her inner beauty

#5. Compliment her eyebrows when you approach her not her breasts. Hand her a MAC gift card with your number on it. Get to know her inner beauty

#6. If she has a dog, ask its name & breed. Pet it. Talk to it. Be affectionate. Say “If u 2 are ever down for a dog park date here’s my number”

#7. Give her a massage spa gift card w/ ur number inside. Say “I pray u have a stress free day” If she calls take away her stress dont add to it

#8. Compliment her outfit. Say “Can I SnapChat you on my story? Your beauty just made my day” Show her the selfie. Have her text it to her phone

#9 When she’s checking out, pay for her groceries. Leave ur card & say “I didn’t interrupt because I value ur time & smile. Call me if u have any

#10. If she’s at work, don’t interrupt her hustle by yelling or asking her number. Buy something. Then give it to her w/ ur number on the receipt

#11. If shes introverted dont use lines. She spots bs & reads minds by feeling energy. Treat her vibe like waves & ride it. Then say “can we txt”

How to approach her if you’re not strangers.

#12.
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#13. Buy her a nonfiction book about ur deepest flaw. Read it. Brainstorm ways to overcome it. Contact her & confess it. Show her growth not game

#14.
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#15. Find out her fav fruit. Read how to plant. transplant the seed. Once it buds, give it to her. Teach her how to nurture it. Nurture her mind.

#16. Ask her fav food instead of her number. Read a cook book. Cook it. Bring it to her. Write your number on the tubaware. Serve her creativity.

#17. Give her some organic coconut oil w/ a list. 1st, read up on all its healing properties. Write them on the list w/ your number at the bottom

#18.
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#19.
https://instagram.com/p/BX8f7XIBNuO/

#20. Buy 24 flowers. Give ur nana 12 & take a pic. Show ur crush & give her 12 💐. Tell her ur fav memory of nana. Ask to take her to meet ur nana

#21. Buy her organic olive oil. Write ur number on it. Say, “I bought u this for ur hair. If ur ever down for me to teach u a recipe using it, call me

#22. Buy her pH strips so she can test her alkaline level. Read books on the topic so u can drop knowledge. Then get her number & take her higher

How to approach her, even in the DM.

#23. Observe her social media for her passions. Read a book on the topic. DM her ur thoughts. Say “Id love to converse deeper. What’s ur number?”

#24. If she loves dogs, ask her fav breed. Find a breeder w/ those puppies. Snap selfies w/ them. Send her the pics & invite her to play w/ them.

#25. Ask her fav Disney song. Learn it. Sing & record it w/ ur number at the end. Give it to her. If she calls, take her to see Lion King Musical

#26. DM her a video right after a fresh cut & shave. Tell her to have a stress free day. If she replies, she’s feeling u. Ask for a FaceTime date

#27. Make fun of her fav show.🤣 Promise to watch. Say “I was wrong” & what u liked. Say “Can I call u after the next episode & converse about it?

#28. Send her funny/informative links like those she posts. Be her goofy/peaceful escape from overthinking & stress. Ask her on a ComedyClub date

How to approach a Single Mom

#29. If shes w/ her child shes busy. Respect it. Dont ask her number, give urs written down. Say “Id love to see if ur convo’s as beautiful as u”

#30.
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How to Court her:

#31.
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#32.
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#33.
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#34.
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#35. Dont ask for pics. Say “back that brain up on my throbn pineal gland. I’ll pound stress out ur overthink’n mind w/ my mental depth. Converse

#36.
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#37.
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#38.
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#39.
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#40. Wake your crush up like this.
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#41.
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#42.
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#43. https://instagram.com/p/BUKo8ofhPJr/

#44.
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#45. Stop entertaining EVERY girl on social media, while the girl you’re courting is giving u all her attention. Your future wife may be watching

#46. Court a healed woman. Who’ll respect u, support ur vision, joke, pray & read with you & not make u pay for the cold way past men treated her

#47
https://instagram.com/p/BWDkefYBhNp/

#48. Court a woman who’ll INVEST in u. Not ur wallet. Your patience goals & purpose. Quit chasing the bad bitch fantasy who doesnt promote growth

#49.
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#50.
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#51. Inconsistency is a huge turn off to her. Don’t be all over her one minute, & distant the next. She’s loyal to effort & courtship, not “talking” & empty promises.

#52.
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#53.
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#54. Boys text & make excuses. Men call & make plans. If u only txt she’ll think u txt multiple side chicks & dont see a future w/ her. Court her

#55. Dont expect her to chase u. Shes not playing hard to get. Pain changed her. Give her so much patience she feels like her trusting self again

#56.
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#57.
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#58.
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#59.
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#60. Stop pouring all your loyalty in a girl who behaves single, flirts online & treats u like an ATM. Court a giver who reciprocates your energy

#61.
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#62.
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#63. Take her on a PetCo or aquarium date, so she can play w/ animals, while u play in her hair & grip her curves. Slowly unleash ur inner animal

#64.
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How to keep her:

#65.
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#66. Dont throw all u do for her in her face when mad. She watches all she says just to keep u happy. Use your words to reassure & calm her fears

#67.
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#68.
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#69.
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#70.
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#71.
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#72.
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#73.
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#74.
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#75.
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#76.
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#77.
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#78.
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#79.
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#80.
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#81.
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#82.
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#83.
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#84.
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#85. If you have a giving woman, cherish & spoil her. Match your ruggedness w/ vulnerability. Never let fear of being calling soft lose you your blessing bro
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#86.
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#87.
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#88.
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#89.
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#90. She just needs you to listen to her & comfort her. Stop trying to fix it & tell her what she did wrong. Understand.

#91.
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#92.
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#93.
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#94.
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#95. ‪trEAT her pearls of wisdom like groceries, until she pours her thoughts from her lips to yours. Swallow every drop of her intellect.‬

#96.
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#97.
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#98.
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#99.
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#100. When you find your wife, be goofy with her. Read with her. Kiss, bite & massage every inch of her body, so the world knows you’re only hers. Never get irritated, bored & lack effort when you find a treasure, because you only get ONE.
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Why men intentionally treat loyal women like trash | Gaslight

Never tell a strong minded woman to “stay in her place”. Have several seats. Instead, tell that regal minded woman “her throne is your face”. #EbrahimAseem

Manipulative men lie, shift blame & deny their inconsistencies to intentionally make their woman question her sanity, so she will ignore his red flags that her intuition is trying to show her.

This is “gas-lighting”. Hiding something by psychologically manipulating a person so much, they begin questioning their own sanity.

Here’s 10 reasons some men intentionally treat loyal women like trash to gaslight her intuition on fire.
By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”

1. Boys sell women dreams of goals he never intends to accomplish, so she will stay loyal forever & wait for him to reach potential he doesn’t have.

2. Boys only give you time when they want something from you, so you will constantly over thinking that you’re not giving enough & give him more.

3. Boys show girls online MORE attention than their OWN girl, to attack her self-confidence, his insecure ass is jealous of, boosting his ego.

4. Boys get silent & distant when you call him out, instead of expressing emotions, to provoke you to respond in anger, so he can deflect blame onto you.

5. Boys crawl back in your life after breakups & pretend to “miss you” so you will feed his insecure-ass attention to recharge his flaccid ego.

6. He dated you for like 6 years & married the girl after you in like 6 months, because he never wanted you. He used you to make him a better man for his dream girl.

7. If you have to beg him for effort, he has already lost interest in you. He sticks around knowing if he gives you less energy, you’ll give him MORE energy.

8. Boys act so invested at first, then switch up after you fall for him, to put self doubt in your mind, so you will think you expect too much from men.

9. Boys say, “you’re too good for me” to gaslight a girl into lowering her expectations for him, so he can mess up constantly & keep being forgiven.

10. Boys will have a loyal, giving girl thinking something is wrong with her by how cold he treats her, because he envies her. Giving her pain fuels his ego.

Our “intent” as a man doesn’t matter. All men don’t intentionally gaslight women, yet every male alive benefits from male privilege, which is what powers gaslighting women. The only way not to benefit is to daily fight male privilege in other men & inside one’s self.

Selfish boys gaslight women to posses her energy. Like Ursula craved Ariel’s voice, insecure boys crave a strong woman’s confidence. Tearing her down builds him up. Gaslighting is a non-sexual soul tie, allowing the gaslighter to draw on your energy for strength, forever, until the tie is broken.

The only way to break the gaslight soul tie is to stop using the hurt, guarded tactics & views of men that attracted selfish users to gas light her in the first place. Boys who gaslight want you guarded. They want you to hate men. Hate creates a vulnerability, which manipulative boys exploit.

Overthinking is a major symptom of gaslighting. Women who want to become ungaslightable must rethink her entire mind frame, because gaslighting does not just come from men in relationships. It comes from this false idea that a woman must “stay in her place” and stop having a “smart mouth”.

The reason I find smart mouthed women attractive with their talk back attitude is, I know how to handle a strong minded woman. They’re the most caring & faithful inside her hard shell.

She’s so guarded to protect herself from fake family & snakes, who take her giving for granted & her kindness for weakness, because when she loves, she loves hard.

‪Don’t let her strength scare you away. She’s endured more pain than you can imagine. She’s loved & been given up on. We must be patient with her.‬ Sharp as her tongue cuts, once she meets a strong man who can take control without controlling her & proves with consistent actions he’s patient & trustworthy, she will let us in & grow in patience. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t confuse a smart mouthed woman with a vindictive woman. She will verbally disrespect you when she’s lost patience with your inconsistency & doesn’t respect you enough to constructively work through it; or she will verbally disrespect you when she has not learned how to control her trauma triggers from past pain. #EbrahimAseem

A vindictive woman is not worth the relationship, let alone the arguments. Get you a reciprocal woman who won’t make you pay for the cold way men in her past treated her.

But don’t be so quick to push away a smart mouthed woman who has yet to heal. She will be guarded. Distant. Difficult. Say she needs more time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. Cry for no reason, not know what she wants & feel so broken inside. Don’t give up on her. #EbrahimAseem Don’t you make her feel she isn’t enough. Love her consistently, never throw her past in her face. Destroy her trust issues. Bring her closer to her self love & she’ll bring you closer to your growth.

The most unshakable seeds of gaslighting are planted during childhood, in ten insidious ways……..

Read part two of this article about how to become ungaslightable => http://wp.me/sT7Bl-UnGaslit

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If a man is distant, he’s lost interest in you. LET GO!

Ladies, if a man is distant, he’s lost interest in you. LET GO! Forcing us to give time & effort will push us further away. Making excuses for our neglect will not help us ‘reach potential’ you see in us. It will make us resent you. You deserve a consistent, honest man, who gives you effort without you having to beg him for it.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”

Men get distant in 3 main ways:

1. He stops communicating for 2 or more days straight. – Sure, he can get busy with work & family for 24 hours, but if a man goes from talking to you every day, to you not hearing from him for more than 48 hours straight, without prior warning or reasonable explanation after, you’re either no longer a priority to him, or he’s intimately communicating with another girl.

2. He stops being sexual with you. – Even a hard working man can get too tired for love making once in a while, but if he hasn’t either had sex with you or sexted you in over a week without a feasible explanation, he’s either being sexual with another woman…. or another man. Or worse, he may have an STD from cheating he is trying to hide.

3. He stops disagreeing with you. – This is one of the *Secret Guy Code Cheat Tricks* I go in depth about in my book.
If a man has never disagreed with you, it’s because he doesn’t see you in his future. People disagree with someone they care for, because they want to rid you of a misconception you may have about them, to ensure a communicative, healthy, lasting relationship in the future. Don’t confuse “disagreeing” with excessive: “arguing, yelling & name calling” That’s immature communication by both parties.

A man who’s stopped disagreeing with you no longer cares to let you know how he feels inside, because he’s lost interest in a future with you. He becomes passive about things he used to be fiery about. I’ve learned this to be true for women as well. Once a woman stops caring, she’s lost interest in you.

I have a major confession, I’ve displayed all three of these characteristics over the last year.

When I was single, I enjoyed taking multiple women on dates. I let them all know this & encouraged them to do the same. I didn’t expect any loyalty from them. I kept it 100 with them at all times. I told them I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend, I was searching for a wife.

Once I met my queen, Brie, that all changed. It changed because I knew she was the one. I told her I was faithfully committing myself to her. I cut off communication with the girls I had taken on dates while I was single. No more dates. No more sexting. No more disagreeing. I straight up ghosted them, insidiously.

To break up with someone you’re in a relationship with by ghosting them is immature & heartless. However, when you’re single, you don’t owe someone you weren’t committed to any explanation.

Red flag: If a man keeps communicating with the EXs, non-platonic friends & baby mommas he claims to be done with, behind your back, it’s a major red flag he’s losing interest in you. As this point, you can either let him go & lose all you two were building towards, or you can let him know you want a full faithful commitment from him with complete loyalty& if he’s still interested in a future with you, he will cut off all other girls and commit himself fully to you.

There’s a way to tell if a man is still interested in forever with you. He will be as transparent as water. He will open up his soul to you & pour his love into your glass heart. Like I did with Brie when I told her this:

“If you ever irritate me or annoy me, it will never push me away.
To me your brattiness is as sexy as your cattiness, me & my love are here to stay.
I got the right amount of masculine ruggedness to always put you & that smart mouth in your place.
To draw a circle of protection around you with my manly strength. To paint smiles on your beautiful canvas face.
I want forever with you. You’re my reflection in every way.
Looking deep inside your eyes, the mirror to your soul, helps me understand you, my self & our purpose together more & more each day.
You can never push me away, no matter what you do. Because baby, I want infinity forevers with you.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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If you give him amillion chances after mistakes, you’re not his woman, you’re his mom.

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“I have a master’s degree, 6-figure job, no kids, yet my boyfriend of 18-months insists on living with his second baby momma, 2 boys & a newborn baby girl by her. This living situation makes it hard for me to commute home. After I drive to work & give him my car, he has to finish watching First Take on ESPN, complete 4 competitive games on NBA2k via XBOX Live, cook pop tarts for his snack, snap a few pictures of him & his newborn daughter for Instagram, then pick up his five children from school, leaving me to catch an Uber home. 😦 I can’t afford to buy him a car of his own, until I receive my 2017 tax return money, because I already spent last year’s tax return helping him & his baby momma #2 pay for their house I co-signed for him, after he was released on parole for larceny. (We met on ChristianMingle.com while we was in prison lol) I’ve had issues in the past with him not making time for me, not taking me out on dates & going weeks at a time no communicating with me. But I’ve decided to give him another chance. I would like to ask this man to marry me & help him file for full custody for his 5 kids against his 2 baby mommas. What cut of diamond is lost manly? And how much is a reasonable amount to spend on an engagement ring?”

– Tiffany, 26, Arlington, TX

If you give a man a million chances after his mistakes, you’re not his woman, you’re his mother. Claim him on your taxes & move on. #EbrahimAseem It’s not your job to fix him or teach a man how to be one. The man for you will already be equaled yoked when you meet him.

Stop wasting years & tears WAITING for a neglecting, cheating, lying, non-committing, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t make time for you or text you back, but can like 157 girls pictures on Instagram, lame poor excuse of a man to ‘change’ for you. Men don’t change for a woman. Men change for their self & grow for their self-love. #EbrahimAseem

Take him on a date, or to a game. Pay for his hair cut. Buy him clothes you picked out. Massage him. Read with him. If he’s a reciprocal man spoil him #EbrahimAseem but ONLY if he’s reciprocates all you give. Stop settling for less than you deserve.

A woman who loves herself fully wont settle for half-ass effort, nor half-ass time from a half-ass man. She masters the art of painting smiles on her OWN face & only pours energy into a man who is a reflection of the light she is growing to be. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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Date night. #Brunch #BotanicalGarden #DriveInMovie #Moana 🍝 🌳🌺 🎭 ❤️ as a FAMILY. Because a woman & her child are a package deal. No man should "date" a single mother. You have to "court" her & her child too. I've fallen head over heels in love with Brie 😍😍😘❤️ & I've chosen to court her exclusively, because she adores her baby & always put him first over me. It makes me want to daily make her AND her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem All her sleepless nights, she spends feeding, changing diapers, & rocking her child to rest. It makes me want to be understanding of her limited free time, by using it to wine, dine & take her on planned, paid for dates, because conversing with her & growing closer to her is the best. #EbrahimAseem Courting a single mother isn't easy. All the postponed dates & late texts may make her seem like a flake. But if a single mom gives you her time, or means she's already my considering something with you down the line, so court her, make no mistake. #EbrahimAseem It took nearly 4 months before I could take her on a date. But I finally found my virtuous queen, & she's mos def worth the wait. I had to wait 6 months just to meet her child. She required me to EARN that privilege with consistent actions. Men, if a woman blesses you with a child, don't ever walk away. Don't ever abandon her to raise your child alone. Because a strong man like me will not hesitate to lead, provide, help raise her child & turn her single parent house into a happy 2-parent home. #EbrahimAseem If you meet a woman who has a child, don't be so quick to walk away. You might be walking away from the greatest blessing you've ever had, a nurturing, giving, supportive woman. I'm so thankful I've found mine. & I will continue to dedicate my life as a mentor to belong young men find the woman of their dreams. #EbrahimAseem I'm speaking this tomorrow at a bridal shower cooking class to a bride-to-be & her 9 single mother bridesmaids. Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com

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He got you pregnant, then lost interest, because you lost your body.

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He couldn’t wait to get inside your body in the beginning. Constant communication. Sweet gestures. He was the perfect gentlemen, because your tummy was flatter. Your breasts were perkier. Your curves were voluptuous. But once your baby came, your body left & the baby’s father went with it.

And if he sticks around, you better know he has side chicks. Curvy girls without children he texts when you’re not around. Have you seen the girls he follows on Instagram? They look nothing like YOU.

How can saggy, deflated boobs dripping of breast milk compete with curvy Instamodels who have more booty in their pants than your baby has boo boo in it’s diaper?

Single Mothers are NOT dating material. With their stretch marks, deflated boobs, saggy booty, no time for anything but their baby asses. They’re WIFE material. Because any woman who can love someone so much, she sacrifices her body, appearance, sleep, friendships, partying, money for childcare which she can barely afford & every waking, breathing second of her day pouring love into her child, she can pour love into you. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t sleep on a busy single mother, just because she has a child. Those busy strong, virtuous, ambitious, career-minded focused women can cook, massage, drop wisdom & promote your growth. #EbrahimAseem COURT her to show her you appreciate all sacrifices she makes grinding for her future & her child. But don’t sleep on her.

Did you know a mother doesn’t sleep? She chases the baby around the house ALL. DAY. LONG. No breaks. Cleaning up messes. Broken glass. Stains. Spills. The only time she does sleep is on accident. I know you’re thinking, “well why can’t she just put the baby to sleep & then she can have time for herself?” Because dummy, she can’t just “put” the baby to sleep in the crib, then run off & paint the town red. The baby will just cry non-stop. She has to hold, rock & comfort the baby to sleep. She turns the lights off & lays still, pretending to be sleep, because that’s the only way the baby will fall asleep. #EbrahimAseem Problem is, it takes so long, she accidentally falls asleep herself. But she can never get “rest” because the baby wakes up constantly in the middle of the night.

Any woman who would sacrifice all that & more for a little child, she would give anything to love you, value your manhood, promote your mental growth, calm your fears, help fight your demons, accomplish your purpose & bring you closer to the man you were put here to be. #EbrahimAseem

If a man’s attraction is to your body, he’s temporary anyway. Those type of men cheat on & leave women with perfect curves. A dog is ONLY looking to lay his bone. While a man of valor is looking to help you ascend to your mental throne. #EbrahimAseem

Beauty, the man meant for you will find you. You won’t have to chase him, approach him or pursue him. You won’t have to force it to work, settle for less than your worth, give up your goals for him, beg him effort & time or teach him how to be a man. #EbrahimAseem

The man meant for you will not break you, he won’t abuse you, he won’t call you crazy, stupid, dumb, emotional or bitch. He will not question you, belittle your point of view or point out your flaws. #EbrahimAseem He will listen to you & use his words to reassure you.

Your stretch marks, tummy & saggy curves will not scare him off, because your self love & caring heart will be so attractive to him, he will trEAT every inch of your stretch mark having body like food. He will devour your pearls of wisdom, pound the walls of your ear drums with strong thoughts from his throbbing pineal gland. #EbrahimAseem
A blank canvas doesn’t equate beauty. Your stretch marks are unique strokes of the paint brush that surround the work of art the greatest artist in the universe drew you to be. #EbrahimAseem

Your body will be his addiction, because your beautiful soul is his affliction.

He will support you, heal you understand you & be so patient with your trust. To attract this caliber of man, you must fully let go of two things: the idea that no man will want your stretch mark having ass, because you have a child & your emotional attachment to your child’s father.

Don’t let a new man spoil you if you’re still letting a lying, manipulative EX or your child’s father have intimate & emotional parts of you. Heal first. Don’t toy with good men. #EbrahimAseem We exist. A man will love you & your child like it’s his own. He will love your body, stretch marks & all, he reassure you with his words & say,

“I just want you naked. Past that fake smile you wear to hide your self doubts. I know you talk to yourself , combatively conversing with the demons in your mind. I know you don’t always feel as beautiful as you look. I just want to be your calm. #EbrahimAseem Your peace. Your strength. Baby, lean on me. Weak as you may feel at times alone, we are unbreakable together. Let’s grow deeper on our self love together, for infinity forevers. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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Why BUSY, successful women can’t KEEP a man, but a Bad Bitch can.

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Dating a strong, smart, successful, busy woman is a waste of a man’s time. Yes, I said it. She’s always busy, & canceling dates, with her flaking ass. She has less free time than a bald girl has edges. Her texts are as short as her patience. Busy women will ignore your texts, then text you a week later like, “oh I thought I replied.” No time to put a man first. A woman who puts her career, school or child first over me, until I put a ring on her finger makes me want to make her my first priority, as long as she reciprocates all I give. By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Don’t sleep on a busy woman just because she has school, a career or a child. Those busy, strong, intelligent, virtuous, focused women can cook, massage, drop wisdom & promote your growth. #EbrahimAseem Don’t just “date” her or “talk” to her. COURT her exclusively to show her you appreciate all sacrifices she makes grinding for her future with no help. #EbrahimAseem Busy women only give time to consistent men who give effort.

If a busy reciprocal woman gives us her time, she’s already considering something more with us. Don’t mess it up. Cut off side chicks & make only her a priority. Manhood is about EFFORT over ego. #EbrahimAseem

As men, we have to stop chasing the Bad Bitch Fantasy girl who only texts back faster than a busy woman can, because she ain’t got a damn job or career to pour energy into. #EbrahimAseem A smart, successful woman can be both busy AND bad. Get you a girl who can do both.

Be patient with a busy woman. Take her out. She’s not flaking. Her bills & student loans costs more than 1,000 dates you can take her on. It’s not about money. Spoil her with your time, yet don’t smother her. Give her space. #EbrahimAseem If she likes you, she’ll reach out to you. Busy women make time for those who are important to her growth. Don’t let her busy schedule discourage you. It’s not a reciprocal woman’s job to chase us men. You pursue her & never give up. Be her consistency, she’ll be your everything. #EbrahimAseem

I learned that busy woman who gives you peace after working all day deserves for you to melt all her stress away. Spoil her. Support her mental growth. Reassure her busy schedule isn’t a deal breaker. #EbrahimAseem

A busy woman who’s loyal to her purpose & values herself too much to chase me, turns me the hell on. I wanna cuddle up & read with you. Turn your pages. Be fluent in your love language. Pray with you, never ON you. Hear you speak your mind, my favorite melody. #EbrahimAseem You never ask too much, & that makes me want to give you my all, my commitment & my last name. Teach me how to understand you. Teach me how to dance to the beat of your caring heart. Let’s make music together. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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Men don’t stay loyal to girls who CHASE them. Let him pursue you.

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Stop telling him to text back or give effort. He saw your text & doesn’t want you. Men don’t take girls who chase them seriously. #EbrahimAseem Let him court you & pursue you.

A woman can be gorgeous, curvy, funny & low matinence, if she chases him, a man will still DM Instamodels & cheat on her with the most warthog looking side chick/beast he can find. We’re talking Pumba from Lion King.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Chasing a man makes him want to pursue other women, because men are hunters. Food doesn’t taste as good when a hunter doesn’t have to put in work for it. #EbrahimAseem

When we have to put in work & effort for something, we value it more. When things come too easily, we take it for granted. Men side chick zone girls who chase him, because we don’t just seek the beautiful woman, it’s the thrill of the courting we’re after.

A woman who takes effort & consistency to get makes a man throb so hard. An easy girl makes him want another, because his hunger for courting isn’t quenched. #EbrahimAseem

Earning your loyalty makes us value it more. Getting loyalty without having to commit makes us seek another woman who values herself more.

Begging a man for commitment & telling him how to give you effort makes him crave a side chick. Here’s why: it’s not your job to teach a man how to be one, how to give effort & understand you. That was his father’s job. Once you start behaving like you’re his mother, he’ll see you as that, & crave another woman under his covers.

Even husbands get bored with a wife who doesn’t require effort without begging for it. He will sneak & text girls on Snap Chat. Spice things up. Send your man a sexy snap chat. Turn on some twerk music & dance on him. Play his favorite game & tell him the winner gets to be treated like dessert. Make your man constantly court you else he will replace you. #EbrahimAseem

Girls will give their all, stressing in pain to fix a broken man, instead of just choosing the loyal, handsome, strong, equally yoked manage wanted in the first place. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t ignore a man then expect him to chase you either. He will lose interest & only act like he loves you, until you give him sex, then he’ll snatch the world from under you.

If you like a man, don’t chase him. Be consistent enough to let him know you’re intrested, yet chaste enough that he doesn’t lose interest in pursuing you. He texts back? You text back. He treats you to a date first? You treat him to a date next. He doesn’t hit you? You don’t hit him. You’re not on his mind? Stop overthinking him into yours. #EbrahimAseem

Making a man dance to the beat of your standards without begging for time & effort makes him crave you. #EbrahimAseem Begging a man for effort annoys him. Telling him what to do irritates him. Teaching a grown ass man how to be one prepares him to commit to the woman after you, because you’re too busy being his mother. #EbrahimAseem

A woman who values herself too much to chase me, turns me the hell on. I wanna cuddle up & read with you. Turn your pages. Be fluent in your love language. Pray with you, never on you. Hear you speak your mind, my fav melody. #EbrahimAseem You never ask too much, & that makes me want to give you my all, my commitment & my last name. Teach my how to understand you. Teach me how to dance to the beat of your caring heart. Let’s make music together. #EbrahimAseem

I learned that woman who gives you peace after working all day deserves for you to melt all her stress away. Spoil her. Support her mental growth. Reassure her you appreciate all her sacrifice. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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Ebrahim’s new song “You Think I’m A Thug” (Music Video)

For Alton Sterling
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Why Black Men don’t date Black Women

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Funny you woke brothas claim to love being black, yet you dont date black women. Sistas are not nappy with an attitude. Her hair is as natural as her ability to see through you. You date weak girls, so you can be ‘alpha’ by default. Little do you know, just because a woman isn’t Black doesn’t mean she’s weak. Strong women won’t submit to you, because she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can barley lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem

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In a GQ interview, Creed star Michael B.Jordan said, “It’s the world we live in. They see white and black. I don’t. A lot of black fans were feeling like, ‘Oh, my God, he should have been with a black woman’. I get it, but on the other hand it’s, like, relax – it’s 2015. It’s okay! People can like one another, not necessarily from the same history or culture or whatever the fuck it is. I understand what females want and need. I’m good at that. I don’t know if I’m the guy to give it to them right now. I’m emotionally unavailable.”

First of all bruh, don’t call women females. “Female” is only a woman’s body. It doesn’t not describe HER, which is the spirit wrapped inside that body. Secondly, to say you don’t see color is irresponsible. When you want Italian food, you get pasta. When you want Japanese food, you grab sushi. Culture is beautiful to choose, but when you exclude choosing your own culture as a reason why you choose another, it’s not ‘color blind’ it’s self hate.

For a black man to love a white woman or any woman is a beautiful thing.; but for any man to say he doesn’t date any woman of his own race, the same race as his mother, is really admitting he is a coward. #EbrahimAseem Too weak-minded to be in a relationship with a strong woman of their own race, who will tell him when he is wrong, call him on his “B.S.” and correct him.

Love has no race. Spirits have no race. We are all spirits, wrapped in the human form, like a gift wrapped inside a box. Who cares what color the box is? It’s the treasure inside that is to be valued, not its container. #EbrahimAseem Black women are beauifull. White women are beautiful. All women are beautiful.

I have never seen a heart love more or love less, based on the skin color of the person the heart resides in. #EbrahimAseem

People who only date “light-skinned people” or only date “dark-skinned people” are ignorant.

Light-skinned does not mean prettier. Dark- skinned does not mean ugly. Light-skinned does not mean one is stuck-up or SOFT. Dark-skinned does not mean one is humble or HARD. #EbrahimAseem

White does not mean she’s weak or submissive. Black does not mean she’s ghetto or uneducated. #EbrahimAseem

Latin doesn’t mean she has an attitude or is crazy. Asian doesn’t mean she’s timid and weak-minded. #EbrahimAseem

Filipino doesn’t mean she’s irrational or homicidal. Pretty doesn’t mean she’s bipolar or cocky. #EbrahimAseem

When we limit ourselves or judge people based off race or the color of their skin, we allow ourselves to miss out on the most compatible person for us. #EbrahimAseem

I learned as a man, we have to stop trying to CONTROL a strong-minded women. #EbrahimAseem In that same regard, we have to STOP placing labels on women, as “submissive” or “non-submissive”.

A weak woman and a submissive woman are not the same. Strong women are constantly misunderstood
as “crazy” or “annoying” by weak males who aren’t men enough to handle her. #EbrahimAseem She’s not “crazy” she’s passionate. She’s not “bipolar” she just treats people differently, based off how THEY treat HER. She’s not “talking back” she just speaks her mind, despite what anyone feels or thinks about it. #EbrahimAseem A strong-minded woman will NEVER be submissive to a weak man. If she sees he cannot assume the Alpha role, she will walk all over him.

A strong-minded woman will happily submit herself mentally to a strong man who mentally DEMANDS her respect with his mentality, who can respect her enough NOT to try to change her, and can assume the ALPHA role.

The reason many men don’t wife or cuff strong- minded women, or say they don’t date women of their own race is because, he subconsciously feels inferior to her intelligence. #EbrahimAseem

“SHUT UP” is a term weak men with limited vocabulary use to silence a woman who speaks her mind. #EbrahimAseem We have to Man up our mentality. If she talks too much, It’s because we as men are not doing enough.

Taking control of a woman’s MIND with our conversation will render her SPEECHLESS. #EbrahimAseem The reason strong- minded women
have a smart mouth & talk back is not because she’s “masculine.” NO. She knows she can play a man’s Alpha role better than him with her intelligence. #EbrahimAseem Can we as men STOP trying to CONTROL a strong woman?

Some men say, “but I need a woman to listen to me, not correct Me! treat me like a MAN dammit! First of all, how much a woman listens to us is NOT a reflection of how much of a man we are. If a man feels that, he obviously has very low self-esteem. #EbrahimAseem

Second, by a man choosing ONLY weak, submissive women who he KNOWS will never challenge anything he says, shows he is SCARED of a woman’s strength.

If the only way a man is attracted or aroused by the company of a woman is if she bows down to him, it is scary, and the early stages of him being on the down low. Oh, trust me.

You get off on power struggle huh? You like a woman to treat you like you’re her daddy huh? Yeah, that’s a weak man. A real STRONG man can humble himself to listen to his woman.

A KING has no intention of trying to Change or CONTROL a queen. He WANTS his woman to be just as strong and outspoken as Him, with her own mind, because he knows, his woman’s strength is a reflection of his. #EbrahimAseem Iron sharpens iron. As men, we have to allow our strong woman to be the iron that sharpens our iron, as we sharpen hers.

Im so attracted to Black women. She is not unapproachable. She just sees thru lies game & bs. She doesnt have attitude. She just speaks her mind, & wont submit to a weak man just so he can be alpha by default. Skin of black diamond. Hair of gold. #EbrahimAseem Her body is art Her heartbeat is music. All human life came from her womb. Respect her✊🏿

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Nice Guys don’t exist. | Ladies, If your standards are high, change them.

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There is no such thing as a ‘nice guy’. There are (1) men who share their flaws upfront & (2) males who hide flaws by acting ‘too nice’. A ‘bad boy’ & a ‘nice guy’ are the exact same manipulative man, playing a cliche role to get girls in bed. Behaving one way in public & another way in private.

Genuine men have balance. He’s nice, yet blunt. Strong, yet calm. Take charge, yet non-controlling. Hood, yet law abiding. Protective, yet not possessive. Romantically aggressive. #EbrahimAseem A man with no ‘edge’ is hiding a cliffhanger. Here’s how you avoid the plot twist.

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If he’s boring, with no confidence & no assertiveness, he isn’t a ‘nice guy’ just because he texts you everyday. He’s a clingy, narssasistic male. This is why it’s never ok to call a woman ‘female’ or a man ‘male’. ‘Male’ & ‘female’ refers to the phyical body only. ‘Man’ & ‘woman’ refers to the spirit we are, which controls the body it’s wrapped in. #EbrahimAseem Any person who only views their self worth by their physical body parts, is a self-proclaimed female or male.

Pay attention to the red flags. If a man never disagrees, never has an opposing opinion, or never calls out your flaws; he’s not nice, he’s playing a beta role. Don’t wait blindly for the plot twist. Yell cut, end scene. Fin.

Men don’t switch up out of no where. Women must learn to be more loyal to warning signs she sees from the beginning, than she is to an inconsistent man’s potential he never lives up to. #EbrahimAseem

A woman who respectfully questions things is sexy af to a man with nothing to hide. Call him out on his red flags & inconsistencies, to see if his love is stronger than his pride. How a man behaves under pressure is who he really is.

If that nice guy gets angry when you point out his inconsistency, it proves he’s a rageful narssasist playing a role. If that bad boy says he’s ok, yet passive aggressively throws tantrums after you catch him in a lie, it shows he’s a scorned coward, using a non-chalaunt ‘bad boy’ image to camouflage his bitterness.

If you’re a single woman & your standards are high, change them…by raising them even higher. That way, only a tall man with a high consistency level can reach your standards.

A loyal woman is not crazy. Over emotional. Smart mouthed or rude. She is a work of art, sculpted by the greatest artist in the universe. Art does not need to rhyme, make sense all the time, nor change its appearance to be accepted. #EbrahimAseem Art is to be observed, studied, valued & appreciated for the uniqueness it is.

Dear future wife, I want to study your pages. Become fluent in your language the most. I taste the good & bad in you, & I want them both. You bring out the best flavor in me, flaws & all. I just want to savor you. You’re already whole, you don’t need a man to rescue you. #EbrahimAseem I just want you to love & fully accept the beautiful soul in your mirror, as much as I love her. May you, me & her love each other so deep, stay growing closer and better, together, for infinity forevers.

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I know my wife is out there somewhere, as creative as me, as inappropriatly goofy as me, as health conscious, athletic, intelligent & spiritual as me, loves children like me & abstinent while single until marriage just like me. 💍👰🏿💒 #EbrahimAseem I know she wants me to be preparing for her right now, not behaving like a male whore while single, sleeping with every girl on Instagram & Snap Chat. #EbrahimAseem My sisters taught me to be LOYAL to my wife even before we meet. So I won't waste her time stringing her along. I will court her, marry her & daily reassure her I want only her for infinity forevers. I want the same for all the 1000s of young men I #SpeakLife into every week. There are millions of good men like us bro & we deserve to be husbands & fathers, not baby daddies. #‎EbrahimAseem‬ #AtWorkCooking #SeafoodPasta #12HourShift #BowTieChef 🍤🍝🍴

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It’s unnatural for men to stay loyal to one woman. He’s as faithful as his options

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“Women say ‘once a man gets a real woman he won’t want to sleep with other women.’ Myth!…Being faithful to one woman is unnatural for men. If he knew his woman wouldn’t find out, any man would do it,” Terry Deron wrote. As a man who has never cheated, I disagree.

Monogamy is not unnatural for men. If it were, men would remain single & sleep with as many women as we want to. Then it wouldn’t be “cheating”. Men who cheat do it for control. #EbrahimAseem Insecurely filling their low confidence by breaking your trust.

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Holding a loyal woman’s heart hostage, while behaving single boosts an inadequate male’s ego. He’s not just intimidated by an intelligent, successful woman with her own mind, he’s jealous of her. #EbrahimAseem Jealous he lacks courage to disagree with his homies & parents, to speak his own mind the way she does. He cheats on her to break her down to his low confidence level.

This is why cheaters will constantly accuse a loyal woman of cheating. He doesn’t understand how a genuine woman like you settles for an unconfident, narssasistic male like him.

If monogamy was ‘unnatural’ for a man, he’d just leave her so he can sleep with all the women he wants. He WANTS to stay committed, make you suffer to suck power & confidence from your pain through a soul tie, like a vampire. #EbrahimAseem

This is why a man will cheat on a loyal woman for years, then leave her to marry the next woman he meets. He used cheating on a beautiful, genuine woman to give him the confidence he lacked, to approach the woman he really wanted. #EbrahimAseem

For years you stayed loyal to a cheater, bringing out his potential, only for the woman he met after you to reap all the benefits of the faithful man you taught him how to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem

Women wouldn’t be happily married if they allowed cheating. That’s what wives did 100 years ago when women were legal property of their husbands. Never settle for cheating. True love is reciprocal.

Stop molding that cheater into a better man for the next woman. You deserve a one woman man. If you think all men cheat, then you don’t want to date me. I don’t talk to multiple girls. I don’t dry text for months with no intentions. I like conversing about growth, the universe & building a future with one woman.

I don’t Netflix & chill. I take one woman out on a planned, paid for date so you know it’s real. #EbrahimAseem I don’t ask you for sexy pics. I long kiss, play in your hair, massage grab & smack your derrière. I don’t ask “wyd”. I provide hilarious, deep conversing. I don’t do side chicks, I pour all my attention, time, effort & love into ONE woman. I don’t talk. I court. I want a future.

I want forever with ONE. There’s a man right now praying he gets to marry you. Your gaurdedness is not a bad thing. Your flaws aren’t a deal breaker to him. He wants only you. Don’t keep pushing him away with your assumption all 3.5 billion men on earth posses the same mind frame as the disloyal men in your past. #EbrahimAseem Keep growing & loving the beautiful soul in your mirror, & the handsome, loyal man who’s made just for you will match his love with your self love.

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The powerful reason I refuse to celebrate Mother’s DAY.

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When I was a child, my mother always ate in her room, door closed, while me & my sister ate at the dinner table.

One night, when I was 7, I heard noise in my moms room & when I went in, I saw her laying on the bed, stress tearing out of her eyes, rubbing her stomach. That was the moment I realized, my mother was willing to skip dinners just so my sister & I had food to eat every night.

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My mother sacrificed buying herself clothes & jewelry just to provide food, clothes, a warm bed & electricity for her family. Through any struggles, she kept a smile on her face at all times, so we wouldn’t know how poor we really were.

From that day on I taught myself how to cook & I made sure my moms ate every day. I cooked breakfast in bed in the weekends, made her cards & wrote her love poems often, because every day is Mother’s Day, when you’re blessed with a selfless one.

I decided to do something with my life, so my mother would never have to starve to pay bills. That’s what motivates me to travel worldwide & speak life into groups at universities, as a 12-year mentor for men.

That is why I work 3 jobs, chef, senior care, motivational speaker. That’s why I don’t complain about life.

I just keep a smile on my face. I may have money now, but I came from not having anything & it’s because of overcoming all my struggles & what my mother did for me I am the man I am today.

Our world treats women with less respect than animals. The same government that coined “Martin Luther King Jr. Day” murdered him & hated him why he was alive. The same government who created, “Mother’s Day” doesn’t give women equal pay, nor maternity pay. #EbrahimAseem Many women get fired after giving birth. Mothers deserve paid time off after having a child, because without mother’s, no man would be alive. Without the Mother Soul Cell Fundamental Principle, which AM the divine creator, YHWH’s true nature, nothing in this universe could exist.

We honor mother’s for ONE day, then fat shame, skinny shame, slut shame, use, neglect, take for granted & judge her the other 364 days of the year. #EbrahimAseem That’s why I don’t celebrate this man-made holiday. Mother’s Day is EVERYDAY.

In my West-African Hebrew Culture, we learn how our ancestors never celebrated on “fixed dates”. They only commemorated ceremonies aligned with the new crescent of our moon, Yerah’s 28-day cycle.

She feels neglected & taken for granted for 364 days out the year. I’m tired of seeing men say mother’s are damaged goods. I’d marry a single mother.

Courting a single mother is hard. She will cancel dates. Short text & not reply. No time to put you first. A woman who puts her child first over me makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem Be patient with her. Take her out. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than a date you take her on. It’s not about money to her. Spoil her with your time. Show you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency, she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem

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You invest in his potential. He commits to the girl after you. The reason will shock you…

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For years you gave him your all, stayed loyal, speaking respectfully, bringing out his potential, only for him to break up with you & snatch the world from under your feet. So why does he want to keep you around, texting you & acting jealous when HE is the one who ended it? Because he’s using you to learn from you & better himself for the side chick or next woman he meets after you, who will reap all the benefits of the man you molded him to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem This is why he will never marry you.

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Once a man breaks it off with you, he can love you, but he can never be IN LOVE with you again, nor look at you the same way. In his mind you’re damaged goods, but he knows he still have feelings for you. So he wants to use your “feelings” to stroke his ego & make up for the inadequate way he feels about his life, his career, his education, his living situation or his wasted potential.

He does this so your attention can build him back up & he can have the courage to pursue a new woman who knows nothing about all the mistakes he’s made & flaws he overcame, like you know.

Nurturing an unaccountable man’s potential makes him resist your help out of resentment. He knows his apologies write checks his inconsistent actions can’t cash. Men want respectful critique. No man wants to be condescendingly babied. #EbrahimAseem The same man who withheld patience, affection, providing & commitment from you will use all that advice you taught him on the next woman.

Too often I’m verbally accountable for my mistakes to my woman, yet my argumentative actions prove hypocritical. This discourages Brie. Then I’ll selfishly have nerve to confuse her discouraged disposition with disrespect. No. If I was man enough to make my actions match my words, I wouldn’t hallucinate about being spoken to like a child. A woman treats you according to your consistency of actions, not your pretty words. I must do better. I must live up to the potential I showed her in the beginning, so I won’t lose my meal, who stays looking like a snack, chasing the crumbs of narcissism. #EbrahimAseem

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Nurturing an unequally yoked man is unattractive to him. It makes him feel he’s not good enough for you. You can cook, clean, sex him good & be patient with his mistakes, and he will still break up with you or cheat on you, to convince his inadequate mind he’s in higher demand than you. #EbrahimAseem

This is why inadequate men chase the bad bitch fantasy girl who looks nothing like you. To purposely bring your confidence down to his low-level, so you’ll feel as inadequate as you make him feel by loyally nurturing potential he never shows. #EbrahimAseem He will view you as his mother, pouring time & affection into side chicks. All the while, using you to reach his potential for the next woman after you.

Men don’t neglect who they see a future with. If he’s not making time & effort without you having to ask, he’s using your ‘investment in his potential’ as practice for the next woman he really wants after you. #EbrahimAseem

Men want a woman who sees him as a leader, not a boy she needs to always tell what to do. If he’s not a consistent leader & provider, why are you settling for him?

You never realize how much affection, patience & respect you deserve, #EbrahimAseem until you finally walk away from the selfish, loyal user you were settling for.

Queen, it’s not your job as a woman teach your man how to be one, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. #EbrahimAseem Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop raising grown ass men.

If you always have to tell him what to do for him to do it, he’s not for you. Walk away before he uses you to learn how to attract the woman he really likes. #EbrahimAseem

Girls will see red flags, yet stay years waiting for a guy to reach potential. Fear of seeing him reach his potential with a woman he chose after she invested all of those years keeps her loyal to his complacency. #EbrahimAseem

Stop molding him into a man for the next woman.

Girls will ‘give their all’ stressing over pain to fix a broken man with potential, instead of just choosing the loyal, equally yoked, handsome man she wanted in the first place. #EbrahimAseem There is nothing wrong with you. You are not to giving, too nice or too nurturing. I prayed for my future wife before I met her. Every night I’d think to myself,

I want a nurturing woman who’s required my apologetic words to match my consistent actions. That’s Brie. She’s sweet, affectionate & likes to cuddle pinch my cheeks, rub my beard, rub her feet on my leg, poke me in my arm repeatedly, only so I’ll grab her & tickle her until her pretty, bright smile shines like the midnight moon. #EbrahimAseem

I want a woman who cares so much, about animals, nature life, who will treat my dog like she’s her own child. Who I can surprise at work with 1-800 Flowers & chocolate & she won’t think it’s corny. #EbrahimAseem A woman I can take to the beach at night & gaze at the stars with, while I rub her feet & recite poetry to her.

I want an intelligent, nerdy women who likes random facts, animal planet & the universe. I want a deep thinking woman who likes to converse. #EbrahimAseem I want a sweet woman who likes home decor & picking out patterns for my living room.

Let’s have a mall date, I’ll take your pretty ass to Sephora for an hour-long shopping spree. You can get whatever you like on me get pretty for our dinner & opera date that night. #EbrahimAseem

I want a sweet girl I can take to a Jill Scott concert, a comedy show, to hear live jazz. #EbrahimAseem Let’s have bbq lunches in the park & dates to the zoo. I’m kid at heart. I want to wife a Woman who’d let me bring my little niece on a date WITH us to the aquarium, paintballing, or the park for a water balloon & water gun fight. #EbrahimAseem I love to laugh & have fun & I need that in a Woman.

I want a sweet girl with an old soul who has so much love & affection to give. I have dated the self proclaimed “bad bitch” before, & I must confess, their pretty, sexy, fine, curvy asses bored the hell out of me. #EbrahimAseem Silly, goofy, sweet, corny, nerdy, healthy, home designing, wedding shower planning, baby fever having women are everything life has to offer.

I want to reach some of my potential before I make my fiancée my wife. I don’t want her to feel she has to teach me how to be a man, that was my father’s job. #EbrahimAseem

I don’t have a perfect relationship. Too often, I argue with my woman Brie, which frustrates her, because I’ll seek to be understood by her, when in that moment, I need to understand her. She shouldn’t have to keep telling me this same thing repeatedly. #EbrahimAssem

When our woman repeats things in a respectful tone of voice, she’s not “nagging”. She’s offering you growth. Don’t make her have to repeat things. Do the thing yourself so she won’t have to repeat it, it’s simple. #EbrahimAseem

I learned I need to meditate on what she repeats, then understand her instead of seeking to be understood by her. Then I must have faith the Holy Spirit will put it on her heart to give me a chance to do things, instead of her assuming I won’t & repeating it. If she can look deep inside me & see growth enough to stay with me past my flaws & mistakes, I have to be her peace, & let her be my growth. I can’t let pride lose me the best thing that ever happened to me, Brie. I’m mos def learning. Love is a door & communication is key. A nag is a horse, not a respectful woman.

I just want to give her two rings, our two children and two dogs, two trips overseas per year, two cars, but most of all, I want to give her two words, I do. I apologize. Please forgive. I’ll listen. Stay baby. Don’t go. I’m growing. You’re everything. Ebrahim & Brie. Infinity forevers. #EbrahimAseem & every real man wants a nurturing woman too.

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Giving men “another chance” after mistakes will make him Side Chick zone you.

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The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent guy know she will stay, waiting for him to reach potential he doesn’t have.

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That man who begs you for yet another chance after he broke your ability to trust him, he is not showing “potential” when he finally gives the effort. He’s playing a role off the script you gave him. #EbrahimAseem

When a man messes up really bad, don’t tell him what he did wrong, how he hurt you & what he can to do to win your heart back. Stop giving a man who broke you the road map to your heart so he can break you twice.

It’s not your job as a woman teach him how to be a man, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop adopting grown ass men. #EbrahimAseem

If you give him a million chances after he makes mistakes, you’re not his woman, you’re his mother. Claim him on your taxes & call it a day. #EbrahimAseem

He’s using your need to give & nurture against you. Your whole identity is based on being needed. Know why it’s so hard for you to accept love from that handsome, consistent, genuine man who stimulates your mind & calms your fears? You know he doesn’t NEED you to fix him & that scares you.

From birth, girls are taught nurturing a man’s potential defines her womanhood. In reality, being unapologetically vulnerable to her needs & what she wants, despite what any man thinks, defines her womanhood.

Making a man give effort will never feel like enough. You deserve a man to commit, make time & reassure you without you having to tell him.

Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, non-commiting, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self love. #EbrahimAseem

What hurts a woman most is, she’s more upset at herself for giving him another chance than she is at him for breaking her trust. Be more loyal to your self worth than you are to potential he never reaches.

If you have to ask a man what are we or why he’s taking so long to commit he has no plans for a future with you. Court a consistent man who will let the world know you are his only. He will tell you,

“I just want to love you until you glow so much, people notice your growth. Until the shine of your smile eclipses your fears. I want to be your peace.” #EbrahimAseem

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A Genuine woman w/ trust issues isn't crazy, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She's just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem You don't know if growing up mom treated her like crap & put men over her. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditional love, always putting her down, calling her names. Court her, propose & tell her this You're my dream come true. Where would I be w/o you? I love you more than lungs love breathing air. Not just b/c all you do, give & share. #EbrahimAseem You promote my growth. The love I have for myselfmatters to you most. You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take on a date. Go for a walk w/ by the lake. #EbrahimAseem The only one who can arouse my mind, & throb my head. The only one I want to devour in bed. You’re the only one I can be goofy w/, sing along to 90s R&B w/ as we ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because w/o you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far. You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heart kiss the soft sand of your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled w/ hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, Im willing to endure all pain, destroy all your demons, break down every wall that houses your trust issues, b/c only you mean that much. I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you inside & out, & as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen like you. #EbrahimAseem Thank you for sticking by me thru arguments & mistakes. I'll never turn away. No one can take your place. #EbrahimAseem I want trips overseas w/ you. To get on one knee for you. To spiritually grow w/ only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I'll place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, with tears in eyes, look you deep in your eyes & say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. & I want you to daily uplift you, so you'll always love you too. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to 250 college men today! #12YearMaleMentor #EbrahimAseemSelfie

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Women stay SINGLE due to their Smart ass MOUTH

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If you’re a woman who talks back, you will be single forever, unless you learn to SUBMIT to a man.

If he has side chicks, it means your smart mouth scared him away. Stop correcting your man, calling out his mistakes & acting over-emotional. Have his dinner cooked, his house clean, his bath drawn & your smart mouth shut. Know your role. The man is the head & his woman must submit to him. These are the poisonous lies we teach our daughters by telling them to “shut up & submit to a man”. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re a woman who always has something smart mouthed to say, constantly speaking your mind when no one even asked your damn opinion in the first place, so quick to call a man out or nag about what he isn’t doing right, well you are just everything life has to offer. You’re amazing young queen. You’re so attractive to a man invested in his growth. He wants a witty, queen with mental depth, who can match his strength & speak life into him with her so-called smart mouth. #EbrahimAseem

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Women don’t nag, or bitch or “talk back”. It’s called communication. If you were the LEADER you should be, your woman wouldn’t have to tell you what to do. #EbrahimAseem Women want a man to be considerate, caring, loyal, romantic & mature without her having to ask or tell him.

When your woman respectfully calls out your inconsistency, don’t get defensive or complain. She’s articulating advice to help you grow. Listen to what she is saying, say, “thank you for having my back babe,” then, take her advice. #EbrahimAseem

If you constantly argue & yell at your loyal woman who’s helping you grow, but obey everything your homies say, giggling & flirting when they call you names, you might not be attracted to women bruh. #EbrahimAseem

Constant arguing with a woman is NOT part of a relationship. When you earn your Woman’s respect, she may disagree, but she won’t argue with you. If you want a weak, ride or die chick, it’s only because you’re mentally weak, un-aroused by the femininity of a strong woman. #EbrahimAseem

There is nothing more attractive than a woman, who loves a man so much, she will tell him he is wrong to his face, because she loves his soul & wants to help mature it. #EbrahimAseem

The reason she doesn’t submit to you is she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can barely lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t tell her to shut up. She’s not over emotional. She’s just expressing her deepest feelings. It’s already hard for her to open up to you & let down her wall. She thinks all day about her connection with you, how you will react to her expressing herself. #EbrahimAseem It even keeps her up nights over thinking about us. She lies in bed & replays scenarios in her mind, like “why does he always treat me like that?” “If I do things like this and say it in this way, will he treat me better?”
So when she finally opens up to you, don’t belittle her. Don’t tell her she’s “trippin” or that she’s over reacting, acting like she’s on her period, being bipolar. If you love your woman, listen to your woman. So the two of you can connect deeper, grow closer & vibe together.

She’s not a “stuck up bitch”, she’s just protecting herself from pain. She makes it hard for guys to get to know her, because she has been hurt too many times, heart stepped on & ripped apart. So she ripped out her own heart, put it in the palm of her hand, and made a fist with it, to fight & protect herself against males who try to break it. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t give up chasing her. Keep proving yourself loyal. Don’t tell her you’re “different” than other guys. Women get so tired of hearing that same lie. SHOW her you’re different with consistent actions. Don’t complain about her trust issues; destroy them with your loyalty. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t call her “insecure”. Cut off all your side chicks & faithfully commit yourself to her. Rip out your own heart, & give it to her on a silver platter. #EbrahimAseem Then she will open up her fist & give you her heart. Put your heart in her chest, put a crown on your head & be your QUEEN, once you prove with your loyalty to be a KING.

Sanity is unattractive on a woman. This world doesn’t make sense to her, because her spirit is not from it, and the beautiful thoughts in her mind are beyond it. #EbrahimAseem

Society loves to label Intelligent Women who think for their selves “crazy”, to perpetuate the misconception that women are the weaker sex. #EbrahimAseem

A genuine woman with trust issues is not crazy or over emotional. She has just been through so much. You don’t know how hard it is for her to met a guy, fall in love, finally trust him, only to get her heart shattered to pieces by his disloyalty, because he was only playing the role of a good man. So then, she has to pick up all those pieces only to met a guy again & go through the same thing over & over like a never ending nightmare. #EbrahimAseem

You don’t know growing up her mother treated her like crap & put Men over her own daughter. Her mother never acknowledged any of the things she did, never showed her unconditional love & care, always putting her down & calling her names. You don’t know family & friends who she trusted, stabbed her in the back, let money come between them & proved to be disloyal. #EbrahimAseem

If you always get angry, mad, frustrated or yell when your woman corrects you, you’re not a mature man. You’re a sassy little boy; quit being so sassy with your woman. #EbrahimAseem Else she will hit you with “girl calm down” then say, “oops, my bad babe.” What happened was you were behaving so unmanly, for a split second; your behavior reminded her of one of her immature girlfriends. #EbrahimAseem

Iron sharpens iron. Let your strong woman be the iron to mentality sharpens your iron. Being open to growing for a woman is not something a man should do for all females. If she doesn’t value your manhood, she doesn’t deserve you. #EbrahimAseem

You don’t have to hold back or down play your strength to get a man. Or hide being right about something in the presence of a man just to get one to “accept you”. #EbrahimAseem

Your insecurities are NOT a bad thing. Your flaws are NOT a deal breaker. Your trust issues are temporary. If you are my queen, it is my job as your rock to DESTROY all that by showering you with my loyalty and consistency. #EbrahimAseem

Be possessive. Be passionate. Be smart mouthed. Be a little crazy. Be yourself. It shows you CARE. Love isn’t perfect, so you don’t have to be perfect, but I promise you young queen, your love is WORTH it; trust. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re blessed with a supportive woman, tell her:

“I’ll never walk away from you. You can push me away with your guardedness. Come up with all these reasons why you don’t deserve me, because of your flaws. #EbrahimAseem Girl, you must be blind if you can’t see no flaw can overshadow all you mean to me. I’m not going anywhere. I will sit here right until you let me love you. #EbrahimAseem “

As rugged & masculine as I am, I want a wife, whose affectionate nurturing makes me submit my heart, loyalty & romantic aggression to only her. My consistency & providing will make her submit her trust & patience to me. Submission isn’t about “control”. It’s about reciprocating all we both give. #EbrahimAseem

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Men don’t neglect who they see a future with.

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Men don’t neglect who they see a future with. #EbrahimAseem Women don’t settle for inconsistency, when she knows her worth.

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If he wanted a future with you, he’d commit so no other man could have your time. He leaves you available to other men, because he doesn’t see himself with you long-term. You’re temporary.

If he cared, he’d call, take you out on dates & pour more time & attention into you than he does girls online. Making him give effort will never feel like enough. You deserve a loyal person who treats you loving without you having to tell them.

If you give your all, stay loyal, cook, sex him & treat him like a king & he acts like he doesn’t care about you, it’s only because he doesn’t care about you. Why can’t girls see this?

Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, non-committal, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self-love. #EbrahimAseem

Stop pouring all your loyalty & energy into a man who behaves single, flirts online & makes you beg for effort.

When I get my wife, I will kiss, bite & massage every inch of her body. Play in her hair & massage her scalp as I rub all over her curves, just so the whole world knows I’m only hers. #EbrahimAseem I don’t get how husbands can get bored & complacent with their wife. But when I’m blessed with a love who’s true, I will say I do & consistently pour affection, providing & protection into her for life.

If you’re blessed with a consistent man who gives effort, stays by your side through all your insecurities, you can’t treat him with the same lack of trust by comparing him to every man who’s ever hurt you in your past. He won’t yell, argue or throw all he’s done for you in your face, he will just leave you for a trusting woman who’ll value his manhood & all he gives. #EbrahimAseem

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If he CHEATED, here’s what YOU did wrong. Sorry ladies.

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The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent guy
know she will stay waiting for him
to reach potential he doesn’t have. Stop being “loyal” to complacency. #EbrahimAseem

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If he cheated on you, you should have loved him harder. He wouldn’t feel the need to cheat if you were doing your job, fighting for him. These are the poisonous lies we teach our daughters by telling them to “love him harder” whenever he displays disloyalty.

Loving an inconsistent man harder won’t help him reach potential. It will make you procrastinate reaching your own. Giving up your goals for him is not loyalty. It’s disloyal to your worth. #EbrahimAseem

Girls: “why can’t guys be loyal in relationships?” You’re not even loyal to your intuition, which warned you not to entertain him. #EbrahimAseem

Guys cheat, because how the hell do you expect him to be “loyal to you”, when YOU are not even “loyal to you” & the promises YOU made to yourself about what you’d no longer accept from a man. #EbrahimAseem Queen, giving up your standards to settle for an effort lacking man is NOT loyalty. It’s self disloyalty.

Men don’t cheat because they’re sexually driven. If that were true, cheaters would just remain single to sleep with as many women as they wanted & it wouldn’t be “cheating”. #EbrahimAseem Cheating is about control. Filling their insecurity by breaking your trust. Holding your heart hostage while they behave single. They could just leave you to sleep around, but they WANT to stay, make you suffer to siphon power from your brokenness via a soul tie.

Men, we can’t be fooled to think these “ride or die” girls who stay “loyal” after we disloyally put her through hell really love us. A girl who stays loyal to your inconsistencies & never calls out your mistakes has no investment in your growth. #EbrahimAseem

I want to wife a woman who loves a man so much, she will respectfully tell him he’s wrong to his face, because she loves his soul & wants to help him mature it. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re blessed with a woman who’s as loyal to her self worth as she is to you, tell her:

“I’ll never walk away from you. You can push me away with your guardedness. Come up with all these reasons why you don’t deserve me, because of your flaws. #EbrahimAseem Girl, you must be blind if you can’t see no flaw can overshadow all you mean to me. I’m not going anywhere. I will sit here right until you let me love you. #EbrahimAseem “

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I’ve been a youth mentor for young men for 11 years, teaching them how to uplift & respect women & be men of confidence & valor. I make songs uplifting women. I speak isiZulu & English. I do motivational speaks at universities & private corporations worldwide. I am omw to do a motivational speak to a group of teen mother rape survivors at a wayward house.

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Why I chose a Bad Bitch over a boring, “too-nice” Woman.

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If he’s flirting with Bad Bitches on Instagram, get your hair & nails done. Do booty squats. Dress sexy. He wouldn’t need side chicks if you’d just stop letting your body go. Stop being so over emotional. Girls be having more tears than edges.

If he cheated on you with a bad bitch, it’s because you’re too boring & too nice. These are the silly lies boys tell themselves to get over losing the best thing that can ever happen to them, a genuine woman.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Men, let’s stop pushing away that supportive woman who has been through everything with us, to chase the selfish girl with only curves, who adds no growth to our life.

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The worst mistake I ever made was choosing a Bad Bitch over a sweet woman, because I thought they were boring, too-nice & uninterested, because they’d flake on dates I invited them on, short text me or never hit me up first. I realized sweet women aren’t uninterested, they’re focused on their goals, ambitions, school & career and their time needs to primarily go to it.

As men we get so busy chasing the flirty, bad bitch fantasy girl, we don’t realize that sweet woman right focused on her ambitions was designed just for us. #EbrahimAseem It’s not up to her to chase you. She’s the treasure. You pursue her. Give her patience, attention, stability, love & consistency.

Let’s let go of the side chicks & stop sexting girls online when we have a loyal, supportive, affectionate woman at home. None of those curvy distractions can calm your fears, support your goals, & love you deep like a sweet woman can. If you’re blessed with a supportive woman, tell her:

“I’ll never walk away from you. You can push me away with your guardedness. Come up with all these reasons why you don’t deserve me, because of your flaws. #EbrahimAseem Girl, you must be blind if you can’t see no flaw can overshadow all you mean to me. I’m not going anywhere. I will sit here right until you let me love you. #EbrahimAseem “

All my dreams started to come true once I stopped womanizing, quit chasing the “bad bitch fantasy girl” & only pursued women who promote my growth & call me out on my b.s.

Women who are so sweet are so attractive. Mmm I promise you don’t have to have the fattest ass or flattest tummy. You’re not “too nice”. Thank you for being nice.

A woman who loves hard, cares deep, & prays for you when you’re stressed makes a strong man want to shower her with adornment & affection.‬

She’s a lovable person who enjoys helping others with a passion. She always does for everyone else, yet who ever does for her? Who even thinks of her. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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Courting this single ass mothers

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Don’t ask her to chill: How to COURT a woman

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Don’t ask, “where you wanna go?” Plan, pay & pick events. Say, “I’d love to take you out on a date. Live music. Food. Converse. What time can I pick you up?” Don’t say “Slide through bruh” No, pick her up. & stop calling a woman “bruh, bro or nigga”. Treat her like a woman, not ya bro. Show effort. Court her.

We think the most beautiful, successful women have all these hoes, when many have never even been taken out on a planned, paid for date.

This is how to court a genuine woman:

I met this tall, curvy, Bohemian woman at spoken word nite. Brows on point. Afro on Badu. Body on Beyoncé. When I saw her dark brown, 5’11” frame trying on bracelets, I just had to approach.

“Excuse me, but I just had to let you know, your natural hair is beautiful, do you style it yourself?” I asked her with a smile & an extended hand.

I’ve learned, approaching a woman by saying ‘excuse me’ allows you to get her attention, while showing respect for her. She may be in deep thought, depressed, on her cycle or just doesn’t feel like being approached. Being respectful when approaching a woman can be the difference between getting her 7-digits in your phone, or getting her 5-fingers slapped across your face.

“Thank you, yes I do,” she replied with a thick Caribbean accent & a hint of sass, shaking my hand. “And how do you know my hair is natural?”

“Really?” I replied with a laugh. “You’re out here smelling like cocoa butter & coconuts & you’re gonna ask me how I know your hair is natural? Of course I was gonna know your hair is natural.”

She laughed so hard she had to cover her mouth. Bruh. You know a woman is feeling you, when your laughgasm-game is so on point, she has to cover her smile. That’s how you KNOW you’re in. A woman knows within the first five seconds of meeting you if she’d give you her number, date you or sex you. All you have to do is stay confident, funny & don’t blow it!

We exchanged names & numbers, before departing. I called her that day & invited her out on a date to The Weeknd concert that weekend after dinner. Based off how sweet she was to me, I figured if everything went well, a couple dates later, I’d be willing to court her.

There’s no “talking” or “Bae” option on a job application.

#1 Take multiple women out on dates to see which one you have the most chemistry with.

#2 Court ONE woman by taking her on dates exclusively, to see compatibility. Ask yourself: do we have similar values? Compatible views on: politics, spirituality, sex, raising children? Is she calm, or does she get irritated fast? Could I see myself raising a child with her?

Take her out on a date. Plan it & pay. Fill up her tank. Pay for her baby sitter. Buy her groceries. Be her stability but only if she reciprocates all you give.

#4 Propose. People get divorced because they didn’t use engagement to see a person’s consistency. People don’t switch up. They play a role until they get what they want from you.

#5 Marry her. Marry your commitment to her loyalty. To me a ring doesn’t make me married to a woman. If I can’t yoke my spirit to hers & wrap my consistent around her heart like a ring around her finger, it’s not true marriage.

When I told that Bohemian beauty about The Weeknd concert tickets I bought us, she lost her shit. Start calling me “babe” started using the diamond ring emoji, making plans for a future. But when I told her I don’t have sex outside of relationships, she stopped texting me back & started flaking on our date. Always tell all your flaws & requirements from jump. It will help you weed out the ones who aren’t for you.

Women being attracted to spiritual men who are abstinent until marriage is coming back in style soon. I can feel it. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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Stop adopting grown ass Men.

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Ladies, it’s not your job to be loyal to an inconsistent boy, nor teach him how to be a man, provide, comfort you, listen, understand you. Don’t confuse being his woman with “being his mother”. #EbrahimAseem Stop adopting grown ass men. Stop being submissive to inconsistency.

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Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, can’t text back, but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men do not change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self-love. #EbrahimAseem

Complacency has no potential. Be more loyal to the red flags you see than you are to potential he never reaches. #EbrahimAseem

A reader asked, “where does a woman draw the line not giving boyfriends “husband treatment”? Is sex & cooking for him included?” My response: If he’s hasn’t put a ring on your finger,

You don’t owe a man anything. Not giving him money when he’s broke. Not letting him live in your house rent free. Not sex. Not even loyalty. Only give to a consistent man what he reciprocates. #EbrahimAseem

If you cook, clean, pay his way & give your all to a man who has not committed to you, that’s not “loyalty”, that’s adoption. You are disloyal to your worth. #EbrahimAseem

If he asks you for money, he’s not a man. If you have to tell him to give effort & be consistent he’s not a man. If he can make it rain on strippers, treat his boys to rounds of drinks, but can’t plan & pay for you on a date, he’s not a man. Stop being loyal to boys who’ve never had a living example of what a man is. That’s why you don’t attract successful men. Based on your exs, you don’t know what that looks like. A mentally mature man will:

Take her on a date. Plan it & pay. Fill up her tank. Pay for her baby sitter. Buy her groceries. Be her stability, but only for a supportive woman who reciprocates all you give. #EbrahimAseem

Men, expecting a woman to chase you is not manly or “pimping”. It’s insecure. Stop fearing rejection. Man up! Court her to show her she deserves to be treated just as beautiful as the reflection of light & peace she is. #EbrahimAseem

As men we get so busy chasing the bad bitch fantasy girl, we don’t realize that sweet, giving woman right in our face who promotes our growth, sees the great man deep inside us & wants to bring was us closer to him. She was designed just for us. #EbrahimAseem Give her patience, attention, stability, love & consistency.

All my dreams started to come true once I stopped womanizing, quit chasing the “bad bitch fantasy girl” & only pursued women who promote my growth & call me out on my b.s. #EbrahimAseem The universe will yield all into you once you start respecting the vessels of life in this universe: genuine women. If you’re blessed to find one, tell her:

“You are my dream come true. My happily ever after. Where would I be without you? I love you more than my lungs love breathing air. Not just because of all you do. All you give & all you share. #EbrahimAseem I love you because you promote my growth. The love I have for myself is what matters to you most.

You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take out on a date. Show off around town. Go for a slow walk with by the lake. #EbrahimAseem You are the only woman that can arouse my mind, and throb my head. You’re the only woman whose body I want to devour in bed, every inch.

You’re the only woman I can be goofy with, sing along to 90s R&B with as we laugh & ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because without you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far.

The first woman I ever seen was the sweetest woman I ever known. My mother. And when it comes to making one woman her daughter-in-law, my love, I can think of none other, than you. #EbrahimAseem

You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heartbeat want to kiss the soft sand that is your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled with hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, I am willing to endure all the pain, destroy all your demons, break down every last wall that houses your trust issues, because only you mean that much.

I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you are inside & out, and as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen. #EbrahimAseem After all, he will be raised by one.

Thank you for sticking by me through all the arguments & mistakes. I will consistently use my actions to say, I will never turn away. No other woman can take your place. #EbrahimAseem

I want trips overseas with only you. I want to get on one knee for only you. I want to spiritually grow with only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the the ring I will place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, after I, with tears in my eyes, look the best thing that ever happened to me deep in your eyes and say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. And I want you to daily uplift you, so you always love you too. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide.

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Stop giving marriage loyalty to boyfriends.

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

A girlfriend is the new side chick. Until he puts a ring on it, his relationship status is “available”. His phone has girls texting him. His DM has girls sending pictures. He is keeping his options open. Stop giving marriage loyalty to boyfriends. #EbrahimAseem Stop doing permanent things for temporary people. This isn’t all men, only inconsistent men.

A ring won’t make him change. If he’s not ALREADY being the consistent fully faithfully commitment man you deserve, who wraps his consistency around your loyalty, like a ring around a finger, why the hell is he your “boyfriend”? Don’t be loyal to complacency. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re not married, you’re single. There’s no “talking” or “Bae” or “girlfriend” option on a job application. It goes (1) take her on dates. (2) Court her. (3) Propose to her. (4) Marry her. If you give him all your loyalty before he gives you all his commitment, he has no incentive to ever commit to you. #EbrahimAseem Require him to court you. A girlFRIEND is just that to a man. A friend. Ask me you trust & they’ll tell you.

Before committing to an inconsistent man, require at least one of these:
1. His phone, to view in full with him one time.
2. The full names of all his EXs, with an explanation of why it ended.
3. His Instagram password changed to your name.
If he can’t provide full transparency, don’t provide him with full loyalty. #EbrahimAseem And if you can’t do the same for him, you’re not as “loyal” as you think you are. It’s not about “trust issues” it’s about transparency & reassurance. #EbrahimAseem A loyal person welcomes opportunities to prove their loyalty & reassure your doubts. But a guilty person will never let you see all the evidence in their phone.

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You’re not wasting your time. You’re playing house & giving your boyfriend ‘husband privileges’ while he’s denying you ‘wife commitment’. #EbrahimAseem He texts other girls, some of which want a future with him just like you. You & his side chicks are basically teammates & he’s the player, dribbling your hearts, playing all of you. Think I’m lying? Ask to see his phone right now. Don’t worry, I’ll wait. See, if none of you have his hand in marriage, you’re all on the same level to him, until he marries one of you. #EbrahimAseem

Guys feel they’re either married or single. If you’re loyal to an unmarried man, he’s not “cheating” on you by dating other women. He’s behaving single, while you’re playing house. #EbrahimAseem

Loyalty is a reciprocal action. If you’re loyal to an inconsistent man who has not let all other women know he has faithfully committed to you only, you are DISloyal to your own self worth. #EbrahimAseem

He can be on the phone telling you he loves you, while laying in another woman’s bed. Cuddling her & their secret child you don’t even know about, because you didn’t investigate his previous relationships. If you give him marriage level loyalty before he makes his intentions for a future with you know by consistent actions, he has no incentive to marry you. Make consistency a prerequisite to your loyalty.

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Some girls will say, “well married men do the same thing.” No. If a man can’t marry his monogamy to your loyalty, & stop flirting with Instamodels in his phone, that “boy” is NOT your “husband”. Y’all are just roommates. Don’t downgrade ALL MARRIAGE just because you’ve yet to experience a man of valor wrap his consistency around your loyalty like a ring around a finger. #EbrahimAseem

Inconsistency is a turn off to me. Don’t be all over me one minute & distant the next. I’m loyal to effort & actions, not empty ass promises.

A genuine woman appreciates & ONLY gives loyalty to a consistent man who encourages her growth. Now, just because she won’t “chase” you, does not mean she doesn’t like you. #EbrahimAseem Pursue her. Be patient. Show her with consistency her flaws can’t scare you away & she will let go her guarded wall for you.

I’ve had women push me away saying “Ebrahim, you deserve better than I can give. I’ve been hurt so much. I’ve this guarded wall up. I can’t give you all you deserve.” My response.

“You give me peace. Let me give you what you never got yet always deserved, someone to be patient w/ your flaws & understanding of your past without judgement. #EbrahimAseem

I’m in love w/ your eyes. Addicted to viewing your soul thru them. I wanna know your story. All you’ve survived. Pain you bottle up inside. #EbrahimAseem I want to be your stability & peace.”

Never push away love you deserve, because you feel too flawed. Never give loyalty to quickly, feeling you are asking too much, because you’re not enough. To the right one, you’re enough. You’re everything.

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Why she doesn’t SUBMIT to you.

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The reason she doesn’t submit to you is, she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can’t even lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem A genuine woman will never submit to inconsistency. Stop trying to control a woman or calling her “smart mouthed.”

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Men, we can’t be fooled to think these “ride or die” girls who stay “loyal” after we put her through hell really love us. A girl who submits to your inconsistencies & never calls out your mistakes has no investment in your growth. #EbrahimAseem She intentionally holds back your growth so you won’t out-grow & leave her.

Staying loyal to him even when you think you’re being played isn’t loyalty. If you can’t respectfully call him out on inconsistency, you’re disloyal to your worth & you don’t love him. Be more loyal to the red flags you see than you are to potential he never reaches. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re a woman who respectfully speaks your mind, know you’re so intimidating to an insecure boy & so attractive to a confident man. But queen, YOU define your worth, not a man. #EbrahimAseem

Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self love. #EbrahimAseem Stop submitting to complacency, which has no potential. Be more loyal to the red flags you see than you are to potential he never reaches.

It’s not your job as a woman to submit to an inconsistent boy & teach him how to be a man, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. Don’t get being his woman confused with “being his mother”. #EbrahimAseem Some of y’all girls are adopting grown ass men & submitting yourself to inconsistent little boys.

As rugged & masculine as I am, I want a wife, whose affectionate nurturing makes me submit my heart, loyalty & romantic aggression to only her. My consistency & providing will make her submit her trust & patience to me. Submission isn’t about “control”. It’s about reciprocating all we both give. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide.

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He didn’t CHEAT. Your smart MOUTH nagged him into the arms of a submissive woman.

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No man wants to work all day, fighting to provide for his family, just to come home & battle a smart mouthed woman. Have his dinner ready. His bath drawn. His TV on ESPN & your smart ass mouth closed. Hell, change his tire & massage his feet as a sign of your submission to him as your leader. This is the ignorance we teach our daughters when ridicule her for doing things we let our sons get away with. #EbrahimAseem

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Parents let their sons stay out later, date sooner & skip chores, while they make their daughters clean up after him, do all chores, facing the emotional abusive of hearing her mother say, “I wish I had another son instead of you.” #EbrahimAseem

This daughter-hate creates a mental muzzle in a woman’s mind, causing her to bite her tongue whenever she sees men display immaturity. #EbrahimAseem She fears he will abandon her if she speaks her mind, because mother’s bias taught her it drives men into the arms of a submissive woman. Bullshit.

If you met a rare woman who calms your rage, supports your dreams & respectfully calls you out on your B.S., adore her, commit to her & never let go. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t entertain a giggle-when-you-mess-up “ride or die chick” who never tells you when you’re wrong. That opportunist does not love you. A loyal woman respectfully keeps you on point. #EbrahimAseem

Key word “respect.” I wish a female would fix her lips to talk out the side of her neck to me. I’d respectfully tell her, “baby I love you but if you don’t sit down & shut the hell up before the best thing that ever happened to you walks out your life. Baby, I want to fight FOR you, not against you. #EbrahimAseem

What hell did people you’ve trusted in your past put you through that makes you feel the need to talk out the side of your mouth when you don’t feel understood? Tell me. Let me in. I know how it feels to hurt, that’s why I want you to know how it feels for someone to finally put you first. #EbrahimAseem

You calm my anger. You give me peace. You make me want to embrace the thought of monogamy & say goodbye to these streets. You make me feel complete, because you bring me closer to my self-love. So when I tell my boys I’m thinking about forever, know you’re the only woman I’m thinking of. #EbrahimAseem You make me want to be an example & leader to my boys, show them what matrimony is all about. Show them

letting your woman walk over you & talk to you out the side of her mouth is not being a “nice guy” its passive aggressive. Respect a woman enough to tell her when she’s wrong. Be vulnerable for her without being a little bitch boy. Don’t possibly say “I’m fine” then throw fits, & act all moody to your woman. Man up & take control of your emotions. Stop acting like you’re on your period bro.

A genuine woman doesn’t nag. She just sees your great potential & wants to help you reach it. She’s submissive to her integrity & allergic to your b.s. #EbrahimAseem It is not her job to submit to you just because we are the man, pay bills or throw down in bed.

As rugged & masculine as I am, I want a wife, whose affectionate nurturing makes me submit my heart, loyalty & romantic aggression to only her. My consistency & providing will make her submit her trust & patience to me. Submission isn’t about “control”. It’s about reciprocating all we both give. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide.

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If he cheated, you should’ve loved him HARDER.

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If he’s flirting with Instamodels, get your hair & nails done. Do squats. Dress sexy. Stop letting yourself go.

If he never makes time for you, you’re too clingy. Let him breathe. Stop being over emotional, scaring him off.

If he cheated on you, you should have loved him harder. He wouldn’t feel the need to cheat if you were doing your job, fighting for him. These are the poisonous lies we teach our daughters by telling them to “love him harder” whenever he displays disloyalty.

Loving an inconsistent man harder will not help him reach potential. It will make you procrastinate on reaching your own. #EbrahimAseem Stop giving up your goals for him.

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You used to be so ambitious. So driven. Until you met a man with “potential” who made you neglect your own? #EbrahimAseem That is not “loyalty”. That is disloyalty to your self love.

Girls: “why can’t guys be loyal in relationships?” You’re not even loyalty to your own worth & intuition, which warned you not to entertain him. #EbrahimAseem

Prioritizing staying loyal to a man over staying loyal to her goals, first mind & self love is taught to girls from childhood, phrased as “loyalty.” Let’s

Who you give loyalty to is who you become. Evil communication corrupts good fruit. Stop being loyal to someone who’s not a living example of the light you want to become. #EbrahimAseem They extract your energy, to fuel their existence, while draining all your powers meant for your purpose.

Some of these girls asking “where are the loyal men?” have never even required a man to taken her out, or be consistent with actions before giving him her all. He didn’t “cheat” on you if he never even committed to you. You just loved him more than you love you. #EbrahimAseem Some of these girls are in a relationship with their feelings.

Deep girls stay loyal to inconsistent men who don’t promote her spiritual growth, then question loyalty & love. Be more loyal to your SELF love than you are to potential he never reaches. #EbrahimAseem

Let’s stop teaching our daughters to study hard for the degree, do squats for the booty, work hard for the money, all to attract a better man. A woman doesn’t need the love of a man to complete her. #EbrahimAseem Knowing her self loving worth does that.

Girls stay loyal to inconsistent boys they see no future with because she seeks stability. She’d rather stay until he messes up, than give up. #EbrahimAseem Sadly, this lack of self worth scares away men who can promote her growth.

If he cared, he’d reach out first, make time without being told, & take you out on a planned, paid for date. #EbrahimAseem Stop being more loyal to his potential than you are to your self worth.

As men we must realize, a genuine woman with trust issues is not always crazy, rude, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She’s just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem

You don’t know if growing up her mother treated her like crap & put men over her own daughter. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditinsl love, always putting her down, calling her names.

You don’t know if family & friends she trusted, stabbed her in the back, let money come between them & proved to be disloyal. #EbrahimAseem You don’t know how hard it is for her to met a guy, fall in love, finally trust him, only to get her heart shattered to pieces. #EbrahimAseem Then, have to pick up all those pieces & put herself back together, alone, no help. Only to met a guy again & go through the same b.s. over & over like a never ending nightmare.

Just things my sisters taught me, which is why I don’t mind putting in time, patience & consistency to earn a sweet woman’s heart. #EbrahimAseem

Court her, commit, then get down on one knee & tell her this

You are my dream come true. My happily ever after. Where would I be without you? I love more than my lungs love breathing air. Not just because of all you do. All you give & all you share. #EbrahimAseem I love you because you promote my growth. The love I have for myself is what matters to you most.

You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take out on a date. Show off around town. Go for a slow walk with by the lake. #EbrahimAseem You are the only woman who can arouse my mind, and throb my head. You’re the only woman I want to devour in bed.

You’re the only woman I can be goofy with, sing along to 90s R&B with as we laugh & ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because without you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far.

The first woman I ever seen was the sweetest woman I ever known. My mother. And when it comes to making one woman her daughter-in-law, my love, I can think of none other, than you.

You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heartbeat want to kiss the soft sand that is your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled with hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, I am willing to endure all the pain, destroy all your demons, break down every last wall that houses your trust issues, because only you mean that much.

I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you are inside & out, and as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen. #EbrahimAseem After all, he will be raised by one.

Thank you for sticking by me through all the arguments & mistakes. I will consistently use my actions to say, I will never turn away. No other woman can take your place. #EbrahimAseem

I want trips overseas with only you. I want to get on one knee for only you. I want to spiritually grow with only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I will place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, after I, with tears in my eyes, look the best thing that ever happened to me deep in your eyes and say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. And I want you to daily uplift you, so you always love you too. #EbrahimAseem

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Why men chase you so hard, then lose interest & effort so quick.

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In the beginning they chase you hard. Good morning texts. Affectionate gestures that have you smiling all day. Then when you let down your wall, it all suddenly goes away. But why?
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Boys lose interest & effort in women after noticing her rate of growth exceeds his. #EbrahimAseem This intimidates him, to always feel inadequate to a deep woman aware of her worth, whom he has nothing but good dick & inconsistency to offer.

Don’t text a woman 6 months later, crawling back into her life, like you didn’t destroy her ability to trust. #EbrahimAseem If she cut your inconsistent ass off, chances are she used that knife you stabbed her in the back with.

“Men” chase you so hard, then lose interest & effort so quick, because “girls” switch up. Once they fall for you, they stop being fun, goofy & care free, and switch to being serious, clingy & emotional.

Instead of asking deep, interesting questions getting to know you & your perspective on life, the universe & why we are here, they spend the whole conversation asking emotional questions like:

“who is that same girl who keeps commenting your picture?” and
“what are we?” Which is a silly question, because if a man has never told you with actions his intentions with you, where he sees y’all going, his dreams, ambitions, career plan, what he wants out of life & why he wants you in his, you are dating a boy. You’re a single mom. #EbrahimAseem

Sometimes a man texts other women, not because he wants to cheat & sleep with them, but because he misses having communication with a flirty, goofy woman. That used to be you, until you started letting your emotions rule you & take the fun out of you.

Men don’t like girls who laugh at everything, they just love witty women with depth, who provoke deep thought, yet aren’t know-it-alls. #EbrahimAseem If you can’t say something witty, sarcastic or deep, don’t say anything at all. Lack of humor is unattractive. Get your unfunny ass away from me.

Truth is, it doesn’t matter why he lost interest. If he was meant for you, he would never lose interest. You’d be his favorite melody.

What’s meant for you will find you. You won’t have to chase it, force it, settle for less or fight to keep it alive. It will not break you, curse you or question you. It will heal you, understand you & be patient with your trust. #EbrahimAseem To attract it, you must fully let go of anything or person that does not promote growth. Once you do, you’ll attract a consistent man, who will open up to you & say,

“I want to be the reason you don’t give up on your dreams. The reason you know you’re not asking too much. You never get all that you give, until now. #EbrahimAseem

I just want to love you until you glow so much, people notice growth. #EbrahimAseem Until the shine of your smile eclipses your fears. I want to be your peace.

You don’t want to date me. I don’t text for months w/ no intentions. I like conversing about growth & building a future. I don’t Netflix & chill. I take you on a date so you know it’s real. I don’t ask for sexy pics. I long kiss, play in your hair, massage & smack your derrière. I don’t talk. I court. I want a future. I want forever with one. If you only want a bae, I’m not for you. #EbrahimAseem But if you want a goofy, deep, super flawed, super genuine soul, I will love you so consistently, you will become that love. That self love.

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Why dating a SINGLE MOTHER can NEVER last

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75% of my readers are men. One said, “Ebrahim, I’ve found too many single mothers want me to make her and her kids my FIRST priority while I am to be her LAST priority. I’m expected to pay for everything for her kids by another man. This is why real men should stay away from single mothers. They expect us men to put up with extra crap & still be last in line. Where is the return on our investment in the relationship?”

My response: “A woman who puts her child first over me, makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. If you’re not her husband, you don’t come before her child. #EbrahimAseem That’s why

I’d marry a woman with children. She’s not a burden. She’s a blessing. #EbrahimAseem Bro, if you don’t want to commit to a single mother, cool. Keep “talking” to the girls you prefer. I sincerely pray that works for you. But don’t knock a man like me, willing to pour love into a woman & her child. #EbrahimAseem

Her son needs love & leadership from a man, so he won’t grow up to neglect his responsibilities & choose to be a baby daddy. If his father isn’t man enough to raise & teach him how to be a man, I will. #EbrahimAseem Her daughter needs to see a man court, commit to, provide for & respect her mother, so she won’t think she has to settle to keep a man. If her father isn’t man enough to be a provider for her mother, I will. #EbrahimAseem

Dating a single mother will NEVER last long. Once you see how much she can love, give & cater to her child, you will want to wife her ASAP. #EbrahimAseem

Asking these “my child is my world” single mothers on one date is a mistake. She will flake. Be patient. Keep asking her out, so she knows her child isn’t a deal breaker & she isn’t a flaker. All the love she gives her child, she will shower you with, if you’ll just wait a while. #EbrahimAseem

“Dating” a single mother is a waste of time. Her baby daddy will remain in the picture & on her mind. She doesn’t want him back. She only stays in touch, so her child will know their father loves them very much. #EbrahimAseem A woman who puts her precious child’s needs over her own deserves a diamond engagement ring cut from the most precious stone.

These single mothers don’t know how to put a man first, cook for, cater to & treat him like a king. Because she doesn’t give men husband privileges until he gives her a ring. #EbrahimAseem

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Courting a single mother is terribly hard. She’ll flake & cancel dates. Short text & not reply. Have no time for putting you first. Be patient with her. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than the date you want to take her on. Pay her babysitter. Take her on a date. It’s not about money. Spoil her with your time to let her know you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem”

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He’s either courting you, committed to you or playing you.

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Dating & “talking” are ambiguous terms. He’s either courting you, committed to you or playing you. Love yourself enough to require clarity. By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Men, if you find a loyal girl who’s willing to stay after you string her along & destroy her, pick up the pieces after you cheat on her & endure hell just to keep the relationship going, don’t break her. Leave her. She doesn’t love you. She’s enabling you. #EbrahimAseem She’s using your presence in her life for the lack of self-love in her heart.

A self-loving woman loves you too much to settle for you at your worst, because she sees your greatness, spots your potential & will give her all to encourage the leader you are. #EbrahimAseem

Men, we can’t be fooled to think these “ride or die” girls who stay “loyal” after we put her through hell really loves us. A girl who stays loyal to your inconsistencies & never calls out your mistakes has no investment in your growth. #EbrahimAseem She intentionally holds back your growth so you won’t out grow her & leave her.

Let’s stop using “talking” of calling a woman we starve of commitment our “ride or die” as a trick to get wife caliber women to give us husband privileges.

Take her out on dates to see chemistry. Court her to see compatibility. Commit to her exclusivity to build for a future engagement. “Then get down on one knee & tell her,

“You are my dream come true. My happily ever after. Where would I be without you? I love more than my lungs love breathing air. Not just because of all you do. All you give & all you share. #EbrahimAseem I love you because you promote my growth. The love I have for myself is what matters to you most.

You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take out on a date. Show off around town. Go for a slow walk with by the lake. #EbrahimAseem You are the only woman who can arouse my mind, and throb my head. You’re the only woman I want to devour in bed.

You’re the only woman I can be goofy with, sing along to 90s R&B with as we laugh & ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because without you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far.

The first woman I ever seen was the sweetest woman I ever known. My mother. And when it comes to making one woman her daughter-in-law, my love, I can think of none other, than you.

You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heartbeat want to kiss the soft sand that is your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled with hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, I am willing to endure all the pain, destroy all your demons, break down every last wall that houses your trust issues, because only you mean that much.

I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you are inside & out, and as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen. #EbrahimAseem After all, he will be raised by one.

Thank you for sticking by me through all the arguments & mistakes. I will consistently use my actions to say, I will never turn away. No other woman can take your place. #EbrahimAseem

I want trips overseas with only you. I want to get on one knee for only you. I want to spiritually grow with only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I will place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, after I, with tears in my eyes, look the best thing that ever happened to me deep in your eyes and say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. And I want you to daily uplift you, so you always love you too. #EbrahimAseem

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I know my wife is out there somewhere, as creative as me, as inappropriatly goofy as me, as health conscious, athletic, intelligent & spiritual as me, loves children like me & abstinent while single until marriage just like me. 💍👰🏿💒 #EbrahimAseem I know she wants me to be preparing for her right now, not behaving like a male whore while single, sleeping with every girl on Instagram & Snap Chat. #EbrahimAseem My sisters taught me to be LOYAL to my wife even before we meet. So I won't waste her time stringing her along. I will court her, marry her & daily reassure her I want only her for infinity forevers. I want the same for all the 1000s of young men I #SpeakLife into every week. There are millions of good men like us bro & we deserve to be husbands & fathers, not baby daddies. #‎EbrahimAseem‬ #AtWorkCooking #SeafoodPasta #12HourShift #BowTieChef 🍤🍝🍴

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The reason MOTHERS secretly HATE their Daughters

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Genuine women get screwed over by everyone; friends, family, parents, yes even blood. Their nice energy & positive vibe gets crushed by negative assholes, because miserable souls HATE seeing genuine spirit happy. #EbrahimAseem They want you just as miserable as they are. That’s why they speak doubt into all your ambitious dreams.

This constant labeling & judgement of genuine women, is done to break the spirit of her femininity; so she will buy into the lie that she is crazy , cognitively unaware, weak & “over-emotional”, inferior to men. #EbrahimAseem This is done by jealous users who lack the selflessness to reciprocate those nice, positive vibes back to her.

Not everyone DESERVES the NICE side of you. Make them EARN it by reciprocating all you give. Until then, ignore them. Negative people treat you bad simply to stay on your mind. Don’t waste a second reflecting on nor responding to what others think of your life. Stop giving them power over you. #EbrahimAseem Keep a healthy distance. Stay close enough to feed them care, yet far enough so they can’t bite your hand. Some friends and family are secretly jealous of your happiness. So let them be haunted by your absence.

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Not every female who has a child is a mother. Females who aren’t naturally loving, affectionate and nurturing birth daughters more mature, loving & nurturing than their own mother. #EbrahimAseem

As a man, we must realize that woman slow to trust us, was raised by a non-nurturing “mother”. Every mistake she’s made, all her life, her mother ridicules her for it, saying:

“What are you going to do with your life?”
“Why are you so lazy?”
“Why are you getting so fat, don’t you exercise?”
“Why are you so skinny, aren’t you eating?
“Why do you dress like that?”
“Why are you so immature?”
“Why aren’t you married yet?”
“Why don’t you just become a lawyer or a doctor & give up on your silly dreams?”
“Why don’t you come to church more?”
“Why did you post that on Facebook?”

Yet secretly, many mothers are jealous of their daughter’s beauty and confidence, envy her youth and more than anything; they can tell their daughter is more mentally mature, nurturing, affectionate, kind, friendly and even more motherly than they are. This is because they don’t envy the material things their daughter possesses, they envy what they can never have, her genuine spirit. #EbrahimAseem

Mothers, do your best to support your daughters’ career choices. Don’t put down you daughter; constantly telling her she’s wrong about every decision she makes. ENCOURAGE your daughter; be vulnerable for your daughter. Admit when you are wrong to your daughter. #EbrahimAseem Admit to her if you raised her to be guarded, not knowing how to accept love & providing from a man. Be apologetic towards your daughter, so she can have closure from her past.

Some of the pain you mothers have put your daughters through growing up is currently holding her back, effecting her ability to trust, love and let someone who really cares about her into her heart, past her wall that you made her build up. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t let pride stand in the way of the love, affection & acknowledgement you need to give your daughter; she DESERVES that love. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t hold a daughter’s love of her mother hostage from her. Don’t hold the approval of decisions she makes from her like it’s ransom, only willing to release it when something tragic happens to you or her. #EbrahimAseem

You chose to have her. She did not choose to be born to you. Give your daughters love & attention, show them affection, so they don’t grow up with insecurities; seeking affection and love from every man they meet. #EbrahimAseem

Many women have such rocky relationships with their mother, because their mother treated them like garbage, like life was an episode of family guy, and she is the Meg of the family. Seeing their mother constantly put men over them growing up, makes women lose respect for their mother. #EbrahimAseem

“When I was eleven, my mother’s boyfriend raped me everyday for 11 months,” this beautiful Cape Verdean girl confessed to the room full of women and me at a wayward house where I did a motivational speak, “and my mother knew about it. She even knew I knew that she knew, and she still stayed in a relationship with the man who raped me the whole time. She slept in the same bed with him and continued to have sex with the man who slept with both her and her daughter. Then after they broke up when I was 14, she kicked me out of the house and blamed me for the breakup; when I was the one who would take care of her like she was my daughter. I was the one who would pick her up in the middle of the night, after she came into the house passed out drunk, carry my mother’s unconscious body into the bathtub and clean the vomit and alcohol off her hair and body. I was the one who fed my mother when she was too lazy to cook for me, but was willing to cook for the man who raped her own daughter; and she just threw me out like yesterday’s trash.”

“I feel like the reason some mothers secretly hate their daughters is, because she went through the same shit growing up and she’s too much of a coward to make a change & stop the cycle from continuing,” one of the peer mentors replied in response to the Cape Verdean girl’s testimony.

“I want you to know that was evil,” I told the Cape Verdean girl. “For your mother to sleep with a man who raped you every night was evil. Not all mothers hate their daughters and your mother does not hate you. Real mothers love their daughters more than they love themselves.

How your mother treats you is not a reflection of your worth, nor is it a reflection of her lack of love for you. How your mother treats you is a projection of her lack of love for self & lack off affection your grandmother gave her growing up. #EbrahimAseem

Every time she looks deep in your eyes and yells at you, she’s not speaking to you; she’s speaking to herself; the projection of herself she sees inside you. When she says “I wish you were never born!” She’s looking at you, but talking to herself. #EbrahimAseem She wishes she was never born, because she can see that she birthed a genuine, giving daughter whose love and trust she feels she doesn’t even deserve.

I also want you to know she is not your mother; you are her mother. The concept of time does not exist in the universe. 2 Peter 3:8 tells us a millennium is like a day to The Holy Spirit, proving the concept of time exists solely in this earthly dimension our souls are currently trapped in. #EbrahimAseem This is how a spirit is able to come into this world and be born before it’s mother, like your mother was born before you.

Having a child is not what makes a female a mother, just like helping bring a child into this world does not make a male a father. It is the selfless love that a parent gives us, loving us more than they love themselves and more than they love life is what makes one a mother or a father. #EbrahimAseem

You are not your human form. That is the clothes your spirit wears while you temporarily visit this vaykay spot called “earth”. You are the spirit that lives inside your human form, thus; your biological ‘human’ mother is not the mother of your spirit. Mathews 12:48 says, ‘who is my mother?’ 50 says, ‘whoever does the will of The Holy Spirit in heaven is my mother.’

You are your mother’s mother, the selfless love you showed her all your life is proof of that. Just as many young women are more of a mother to their own mother than their mother is to them; your spirit is the mother of your body and soul. #EbrahimAseem

This is why it is so important for you to never allow fake family to discourage you, make you doubt yourself, make you hate life and question your own existence. Guard your heart with your spirit and allow your mother spirit to protect your heart, mind and soul like a mother protects her daughters. #EbrahimAseem

You are not a human-being, you are a spirit being a human, for a short time. During your spirit’s vacation on earth do not allow the daughter, which is your human body, emotions & insecurity, to control your thoughts inside the mind of the spirit you are. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t just perfect your daughter-body; making sure it looks pretty, beautiful & flawless; brows on fleek & makeup beat. Also remember to perfect the mother-spirit you are. It is the energy who gives you your true beauty. #EbrahimAseem All of you genuine women are breathtakingly beautiful, and yet it is not your pretty face that makes you beautiful. It is not your curvy body or your gorgeous hair that makes you beautiful.

Your human form is a glass; I can see through your glass beauty daughter-body into the liquid beauty of your mother-spirit. Your beauty is a shine that is seen on your face as a pretty look, yet it comes from the glow of your inner beauty. #EbrahimAseem

If you don’t like your waist size, your tummy size, your hips, your butt, your breasts, your hair, your complexion, your height, I want you to remember that is NOT you. That is the gift box. #EbrahimAseem You are the diamond spirit inside of that box and yes, you want that to look as amazing as possible. Yet, there is a reason some women who you may consider ugly have more confidence than you. Her love for her spirit causes her inner beauty to shine brighter than your level of confidence.

The key to being confident in self is to look at yourself as a flawless spirit. Your spirit is on point; your spirit is fierce and once you know, that self-love will shine beautifully out into the clothes that is your human form. A Confident Woman doesn’t need to rely on compliments or thirst, nor live off attention from random guys on social networks or via Instagram likes to validate her beauty; she knows she’s beautiful before anyone else. Looking inside her self, she sees the smooth inner beauty she exudes, clearer than a mirror. #EbrahimAseem

All that I understand about a woman, I cannot take credit for. I was blessed with an amazing mother who taught me the importance of listening to a woman by first listening to her. I learned as men, all we have to do is listen to a Woman’s silence. Even when she is quiet, her thoughts are LOUD as hell. The echos of her silence speaks to the pain she’s experienced; lies she’s been told, hurt she’s endured. Mentally mature women are in DEEP thought all day, with no one to vent her painful thoughts to. Listen. #EbrahimAseem

As men, we have to earn her trust, make her feel comfortable enough to open up to us, so we can be the one she can vent to. We have to listen to the echos of her silence, observe her thoughts; absorb her pain and use our positive vibe to take her pain away. #EbrahimAseem

I know sometimes you may doubt yourself. I know you get so frustrated that you aren’t where you want to be in life yet with your career and your living situation. I know you may feel you have low self-esteem at times. More than anything, I know you are tired of not having the commitment from the mentally mature man you know you deserve in your life. I know you’re tired of all these lame males who attempt to get your attention, by using their money or nice car to get your attention, but I want you to remember something. Low self-esteem is lower than you can even imagine. #EbrahimAseem

You may think when you doubt yourself & question your ability to have the things you want that you are flirting with having low self-esteem, but you’re not. That’s just the negative energy that exists in this world, commonly referred to as ‘the devil’ attempting to make you doubt yourself; attempting to make your self, your dreams and your purpose; the very purpose you were put on earth for. #EbrahimAseem Low self-esteem is lower than doubt; it is hate. When a person can hate so much, they will try to insult your intelligence by dangling the fact they possess a nice car or poses a substantial amount of money at you, that is low self-esteem. It is, because they are trivializing them self and minimizing their life’s existence into that of a Material possession.

Hate comes into play, because it is not others who they hate, nor is it the ‘haters’ who they pretend to have to boost their ego that they hate. No, they hate themselves, they hate their life, so they view you as another possession in it; a thing. You’re not a woman to them; you’re a thing. That’s why they call you a ‘bad bitch’, because you’re a THING to them. #EbrahimAseem

Referring to you as a beautiful woman, or your by your birth name would be too human or un-thing-like for them to do. They don’t see YOU; the person. They see your boobs, curvy cakes, long hair; all things. They use the mantra, ‘it takes money to make money’ as a creed to pursue their hopes of POSSESSING you, as they view you as a possession, as a thing; just like money. #EbrahimAseem

How ironic is it then, these low self-esteem having males are morally bankrupt; too blind to see
they could never attract an intelligent strong-minded queen of substance like you with a mere possession. The high self-worth you posses and the self value you are worth can never be bought by amount of money.” #EbrahimAseem

I can respect a good mother who loves her child enough to never allow pride, a man or any for of negativity to get in the way for her love of her children. Mothers are not only the backbone of this world, they are the creators of life, and if it wasn’t for a woman, no man or woman would be alive. #EbrahimAseem

Humility is a sign of maturity; stubbornness is a sign of immaturity.

A confident person can apologize, but a prideful, insecure fool would rather stubbornly go down with the ship of lies, than grab the lifesaver of humility by admitting when they are wrong to save a relationship. #EbrahimAseem

Would it kill you to admit when you are wrong to your child? Why do you always have to be right? How can you be the head of a family, yet you can’t listen to anyone IN your family? How can you be a parent, aunt, uncle or boss; yet mentally, you behave like a little child? #EbrahimAseem

If you blame your child for the way your relationship with them is; you are extremely immature. Being a parent means you are held more responsible than your child. #EbrahimAseem It’s up to YOU to be more mature and let go of your pride and ego to salvage the relationship. #EbrahimAseem

Be humble; if you are a grown ass parent and you hurt your child in any way, don’t wait until they are grown with children to try to apologize for lack of love you shown them growing up. By then it can be too late, because they had to suffer with that pain all their life. If you are a grown man or woman, don’t wait until someone is ready to leave you to apologize for how badly you’ve treated them the whole relationship. Be honest, humble and apologetic RIGHT NOW. #EbrahimAseem It is better to be loyal to the one you love and lose your pride, then to be loyal to your pride and lose the one you love.

If you’ve been hurt by your mother, it’s not your fault. You have to let go of fighting for her approval & love yourself fully, let go of all self doubt & your will be able to let people in to love you as much as you love yourself. #EbrahimAseem

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Why the hell am I still DATING BLACK WOMEN?

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Why the hell am I still DATING BLACK WOMEN?

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

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A tall, Blonde, hazel eyed Aryan Beauty walked into my Black-owned, professionally-hood barber shop today, greeted by a cascade of compliments, as each patron’s brown eyes followed her from the very moment she got out of her car.

She had successfully made it pass the dozen Brown Skinned Beauties standing outside of the barbershop, staring daggers at her.

There are always at least a dozen Black Women standing outside my barbershop, dressed in club attire, hair freshly done, make-up on point, high heel game vicious, wearing their best body suit or mini skirt.

These Women have careers, own businesses and are in grad school, pre law, & pre med; yet they commute at least once a week to stand in front of a barbershop, like it is a night club line. Usually, for at most an hour, until a man notices them enough to approach her and ask her for her number on his way in, or out of the barber shop.

But when they saw this Stacy Keibler looking young woman stroll onto their territory, tossing her hair as she walked,they automatically assumed she was entering the nail shop right next door, which is why they allowed her to pass them.

After she walked into the barbershop, however, needless to say, they were noticeably disgruntled. Before she walked in, out of the periphery of my eye, I saw a group of Black Men, previously all having separate conversations,simultaneously migrate from their chairs, and stampede towards the huge store front window, like a heard of antelope about to hurdle over Mufasa’s dead corpse.

“It’s snowing out here!” – one man yelled with a smirk, obviously referring to the fact, the young woman was “White.”

“Ooooo the cutie got a little booty too,” another man generously exaggerated, scrunching up his eyes, mouth and face as he uttered the words “cutie, booty and ooooo” respectively.

“You know that’s Gus’ old lady don’t cha?”- a barber warned, with a mischievous smirk.

Gus is one of my acquaintances. The word “friend” or “homie” wouldn’t be appropriate for me to use, as it implies Gus and I being like- minded. Despite this mutually know nuance, Gus greeted me with the “homie hug” as he dapped up and showed love to every man in the shop, including me.

“Ebrahim Aseem, what up young sir?” he asked, greeting me.

He did this, not just as a greeting, rather, he wanted to flaunt something to us. He was showing off his trophy that was
holding onto his left hand with her right; his newly wed wife.

I knew his wife before she even became his fiance. I went on a double-date with her, Gus and a brown -skinned Eritrean beauty last summer, when the weather was warmer, and the “snow” wasn’t exclusively occupying the forecast of Gus’ heart.

She smiled at every man in the shop, while accompanying Gus on his homie-hug rodeo. But when she saw me, she said,

“A-braham! Omg how is your little
cheesecake catering business going? My mother loved those Oreo Cheesecakes I ordered from you,” and gave me a hug, as I sat in the barber chair.

The stain of envy painted on the faces of every man in the shop, except Gus, resembled the color of the type of smoothie morbidly obese men drink, as they prepare for their “summer body”- green. Their faces were green with envy, because this Caucasian goddess was giving me attention.

In the black male community, there is a mental pedestal on which many men place white women, as they view them considerably more desirable than women of their own race. #EbrahimAseem Gus, was not an exception to this rule, which is why he was parading his newly wed wife in a Black barber shop, in front of a group of thirsty wolves. Unbeknownst to me, this would be a forum for one of the most racially confrontational debates I have ever taken part of.

“Business is going well,” I responded in a voice much deeper than her seemingly squealing-tone.

“I see you’re not wearing a wedding band Mr. Aseem,”
Gus’ wife continued, visibly taken aback, “why the hell are you still dating black women? I know a couple of my girls from the East who would love to marry a great guy like you.”

You would expect the crowd of men to fall silent at the echoing of such a racially loaded question right? Well, if this is your expectation, you’re underestimating the degree to which many black men worship the ground white women walk on. #EbrahimAseem

Those idiots smiled and chuckled, practically giving her a pass for such a statement. I, on the other hand, wasn’t as forgiving.

“Why the hell am I still dating black women?” I quoted, mocking her ignorance with my tone. “Because none of them would ever disrespect my race the way you just did.”

“She’s just keeping it real,” Gus smirked, so smugly, that I almost felt more disgusted with him than her.

“No disrespect A-braham,” she explained, piggy-backing off of her husband. “But black women do indeed disrespect your race all the time. Twerking? Please, and not to mention their constant sista-girl attitude. I swear, you would think they’re on their periods non-stop.”

Suddenly, I smiled, because I realized what was transpiring right before my brown eyes. This seemingly bold woman was not disrespecting black women with her own words. She was being loyal to her man’s words, albeit offensive, to his own race.

I had heard that “non-stop period” remark repeatedly from Gus, when he would complain about his child’s mother,how she was so immature, so angry, so bipolar, and yet, he was the one who made the choice to sleep with her immature, angry, bipolar
ass in the first place. #EbrahimAseem

Many black men talk down about women of their own race to their girlfriends of other races, in a twisted effort to build those women up. #EbrahimAseem And “talk down about” is putting it mildly. They will tell their girlfriends:

“black women never want to do fun things, like snorkeling with the dolphins and white-water rafting, because they’re too concerned with getting their nappy hair wet.”

“Black women always have something smart-ass to say, even when they’re wrong, because their insecurities make them feel they always have to defensively get the last word.”

“Black women are completely fake; hair, make-up, nails, ass, and even when she’s being nice, she is only doing that to hide her anger. Everything is an act with them.”

“Black women treat their man like she’s his mama. They baby you, constantly correct you, then have the condescending nerve to ask why you’re aren’t acting like a man.”

“Black women want to be the man, and wear the pants in the relationship.”

“Black women are extremely undomesticated. They can’t cook, clean, wash clothes, and have no intention to make a house or cater to a man.”

“Black women always want to hit you with that “sista” attitude whenever you say something she disagrees with. Yet, when she’s wrong about something, she’s as quiet as a mouse, never willing to openly admit when she’s wrong.”

“Black women are always mugging and frowning for no reason. They rarely, if ever, smile and she only smiles when she’s really mad or upset about something, which is psycho. You know she’s mad about something when she’s smiling or laughing, with her evil ass.”

Black men tell their: white girlfriend, latin girlfriend, Filipino girlfriend, Indian girlfriend, Samoan girlfriend, and any woman other than a black women these stereotypical insults of black women as a form of inception, in hopes to pump their heads up with a false sense of superiority. #EbrahimAseem

This self- racist form of incept-psychology does not work on strong -minded women, no matter her race. Yet, it will work perfectly on any woman whose insecurity level is low enough that she would allow a man to slander any woman in front of her, regardless of that woman’s race. #EbrahimAseem With this in mind, I directed my retort of his
wife’s ignorant assertion to Gus and her, simultaneously.”

“Do you ever question how Gus can talk down so much about women of his own race, when his own mother is a black woman?,” I asked her, rhetorically. “How can you as a woman acquiesce to your husband’s slandering of other women, no matter their race? How can you “talkshit” about black women and call yourself a real father bruh, when you have children by black women. Your own daughter is a black woman.” #EbrahimAseem

They interrupted me while I was speaking, but I kept talking over their rebuttals.

“I love Black culture Mr. Aseem,” she defended, “I plan on giving birth to mixed- black babies with him. My husband is a strong, black man. I love everything about his culture.” I retorted.

“Just because you choose to only date Black men, does not mean you love Black culture. No. You just love Blackdick. Be honest with yourself.” #EbrahimAseem

“I don’t have to apologize for loving Black men,” she defended, carefully transposing the word I used for “men” to hide what was her true love.“ You just love who you love, race doesn’t matter.”

“If that’s true,” I responded calmly, “and race indeed doesn’t matter, why then do you question my reasons for choosing to still date black women?”

“Because you’re limiting yourself, A-braham,” she replied, mispronouncing my name for the umpteenth time.

“There is so much more out there than what you’re subjecting yourself to. I have a White girlfriend who would be perfect for you. She’s more on your mental level, but I mean, if you choose to keep entertaining ghetto, ratchet, loud, mean, homely-looking, weave-wearing, rude,
classless women with an attitude, you will be waiting a long time
to be a husband. Statistics show black women are the lowest percentage of women who marry. I just don’t want you to
run an unwinnable race.”

“Please stop calling me “A-braham, it’s E-bruh-heem,” I corrected, in the most polite way I could.

“The type of classless women you just described come in ALL races. Being uncouth is not exclusive to black women; neither are weaves. #EbrahimAseem In fact, the usage of weaves and extensions in this country has always been dominated by Caucasian women. #EbrahimAseem It’s not a bad thing if white women, or green women for that matter, choose to wear added hair, that’s their choice; but please understand, not all black women are the same. Even with that said, the classless black woman you just described is far few in between. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t let reality TV fool you, nor dictate to you the cultural behaviors of a whole race of people, based purely off of staged television shows.” #EbrahimAseem

“I’m not basing it off TV,” she defended. “The pack of hood rats huddled up outside is proof I’m not being racist. Gus told me they come here every day, fishing for a man like you. You and I both know, there’s a reason none of those ratchets have yet to catch your eye.

It’s because you, like many Black men, are too strong, intelligent and successful to ever give any of those girls the time of day. They claim they want a good man, yet have they ever had one? Do they know how to attract and keep one? No, because judging by their immature mentality and poor actions, they don’t deserve a strong, black husband like mine.”

My mother is a black woman, you know,” I replied. “She raised me in Fillmore, San Francisco, California, just blocks away from here. Are you saying, because my mother grew up in a black neighborhood, she doesn’t deserve a strong black husband?”

“Of course not,” she answered, extremely apologetically. “I can tell your mother is an amazing black woman, she raised and sculpted a king of a black man; but it is her who deserves a good-black man, not a ghetto, uneducated, young woman, with no class, with no career,no degree, and nothing to show for herself.

Look, I’m very sorry if you felt I indirectly disrespected your mother in any way. I would never disrespect anyone’s mother, especially a good black mother, because I know how hard it is for them to raise a bunch of kids by themselves.”

“You know, those girls out there are somebody’s mother,” I enlightened her. “Every black woman you see is somebody’s sister, somebody’s daughter, and somebody’s mother, and they all deserve respect.” #EbrahimAseem

“I understand that, I’m so sorry if I offended you,”she apologized. “But I deserve respect as well. Why don’t I deserve a strong black man?”

“I never said you didn’t,” I corrected.

“Oh, I’m sorry,” she continued. “I just assumed you were saying you had a problem with my dating your friend,because he’s a black man and I am a White woman.”

“Well you assumed wrong,” I corrected. “I have Caucasian ancestors somewhere in my ancestry as the great-grandson of slaves, so for me to feel that way would be ignorant and hypocritical; but for me to stop dating black women, as you suggested, would not only be ignorant, it would be a slap in the face to my own mother, who is a black woman.” #EbrahimAseem

“I wouldn’t go as far as to say that,” she replied.“Gus’ mother loves me and she knows her son will choose a woman who is not afraid to treat her son like a man, and respect him like one. That’s what you deserve.

You don’t deserve to be with a woman who isn’t willing to change for you, and be submissive for you sometimes.You have to ask yourself, is that what you are willing to settle for just because you want to marry a woman the same race as your mother.”

“Is that why you think Gus married you?” I asked her with a slight smile.

“I understand, this man loves you but you have to ask yourself why so many of the black men you’ve dated felt the need to base their love for you solely on slandering black women as a whole? #EbrahimAseem Why is the best compliment a black man can give you is, “you treat me like a man, while these smart mouthed sistas always want to control me and act like they’re my mother?” That itself is no compliment. #EbrahimAseem

It is a compliment by default. Notice everything these black men who say they “don’t date black women” love about white women is an inverted contrast to a characteristic they as men feel women of their own race either lack, or display poorly.” #EbrahimAseem

“So you’re saying I only love my woman, because her character and personality is the opposite of many Black Women?” Gus asked with a smirk, breaking his silence.

“No, that’s what you’re saying every time you, the father of a black girl, say that you don’t date black women,”I answered. “What I am saying is this:

for a black man to love a white woman is a beautiful thing.; but for any man to say he doesn’t date any woman of his own race, the same race as his mother, is ignorant. #EbrahimAseem Love has no color. How then can you say you choose not to love a woman just because of her color? Not only is that ignorant, that is a half -truth. #EbrahimAseem

The truth is any Man who says they cannot date any woman of their own race, because of her race, is really admitting he is a coward.” #EbrahimAseem

“Oooooo,” many men in the shop responded.

“So you’re calling my man a coward?” she snapped in shock.

“Absolutely,” I responded in my normal deep tone of voice. “In your own bible,

It says Jesus said, ‘a man will be easier received and welcomed in a forgiven land than in his own. The excellency of wisdom in this scripture highlights the ease one acclimated into a foreign environment, or culture compared to their own. #EbrahimAseem

As strict as a child’s family is, whether that child be White, Black, Dominican, Indian, Greek, or otherwise, that child knows a family outside of their culture will always treat them with and receive them with more ease, in regard to confronting their shortcomings or disciplining their misbehavior.

Simply put, men who say they “don’t date women of their own race” say that, because they are too cowardly and weak-minded to be in a relationship with a strong woman of their own race, #EbrahimAseem who will tell him when he is wrong, call him on his “B.S.” and correct him.

I live in an upscale apartment building in downtown San Francisco, right by the Bay Bridge, and nearly all of the white men who live in my building are married to Asian women. Nearly all the Asian men who live in my building are dating Indian women. I’m happy they found love. Love has no race.

Yet, if these men choose to be with these women solely because of the color of their skin, and purely because they don’t date women of their own race, they are not only cowards, but are falsifying their love for the women they are with.

Love has no race. Spirits have no race. We are all spirits, wrapped in the human form, like a gift wrapped inside a box. Who cares what color the box is? It’s the treasure inside that is to be valued, not its container. #EbrahimAseem Black women are beauifull. White women are beautiful. All women are beautiful.

I have never seen a heart love more or love less, based on the skin color of the person the heart resides in. #EbrahimAseem

People who only date “light-skinned people” or only date “dark-skinned people” are ignorant.

Light-skinned does not mean prettier. Dark- skinned does not mean ugly. Light-skinned does not mean one is stuck-up or SOFT. Dark-skinned does not mean one is humble or HARD. #EbrahimAseem

White does not mean she’s sleazy or submissive. Black does not mean she’s ghetto or uneducated. #EbrahimAseem

Latin doesn’t mean she has an attitude or is crazy. Asian doesn’t mean she’s timid and weak-minded. #EbrahimAseem

Filipino doesn’t mean she’s irrational or homicidal.Pretty doesn’t mean she’s bipolar or cocky. #EbrahimAseem

When we limit ourselves or judge people based off race or the color of their skin, we allow ourselves to miss out on the most compatible person for us. #EbrahimAseem

I learned as a man, we have to stop trying to CONTROL a strong-minded women. #EbrahimAseem In that same regard, we have to STOP placing labels on women, as “submissive” or “non-submissive”.

A weak woman and a submissive woman are not the same. Strong women are constantly misunderstood
as “crazy” or “annoying” by weak males who aren’t men enough to handle her. #EbrahimAseem She’s not “crazy” she’s passionate. She’s not “bipolar” she just treats people differently, based off how THEY treat HER. She’s not “talking back” she just speaks her mind, despite what anyone feels or thinks about it. #EbrahimAseem A strong-minded woman will NEVER be submissive to a weak man. If she sees he cannot assume the Alpha role, she will walk all over him.

A strong-minded woman will happily submit herself mentally to a strong man who mentally DEMANDS her respect with his mentality, who can respect her enough NOT to try to change her, and can assume the ALPHA role.

The reason many men don’t wife or cuff strong- minded women, or say they don’t date women of their own race is because, he subconsciously feels inferior to her intelligence. #EbrahimAseem

“SHUT UP” is a term weak men with limited vocabulary use to silence a woman who speaks her mind. #EbrahimAseem We have to Man up our mentality. If she talks too much, It’s because we as men are not doing enough.

Taking control of a woman’s MIND with our conversation will render her SPEECHLESS. #EbrahimAseem The reason strong- minded women
have a smart mouth & talk back is not because she’s “masculine.” NO. She knows she can play a man’s Alpha role better than him with her intelligence. #EbrahimAseem Can we as men STOP trying to CONTROL a strong woman?

Some men say, “but I need a woman to listen to me, not correct Me! treat me like a MAN dammit! First of all, how much a woman listens to us is NOT a reflection of how much of a man we are. If a man feels that, he obviously has very low self-esteem. #EbrahimAseem

Second, by a man choosing ONLY weak, submissive women who he KNOWS will never challenge anything he says, shows he is SCARED of a woman’s strength.

If the only way a man is attracted or aroused by the company of a woman is if she bows down to him, it is scary, and the early stages of him being on the down low. Oh, trust me.

You get off on power struggle huh? You like a woman to treat you like you’re her daddy huh? Yeah, that’s a weak man. A real STRONG man can humble himself to listen to his woman.

A KING has no intention of trying to Change or CONTROL a queen. He WANTS his woman to be just as strong and outspoken as Him, with her own mind, because he knows, his woman’s strength is a reflection of his. #EbrahimAseem Iron sharpens iron.

As men, we have to allow our strong woman to be the iron that sharpens our iron, as we sharpen hers. As men, we must STOP choosing to cuff these weak women.

A weak female can never compare to a Strong -minded woman. A strong woman knows how to submit herself mentally. She’s just waiting for a strong man to prove himself worthy who can assume control as the alpha. A weak man knows he isn’t strong enough mentally to play the ALPHA male role, s o he cuffs a weak woman so he will be the alpha by default. #EbrahimAseem

All men are not dogs. All men are not incapable of being monogamous. All men are not incapable of engaging in deep thought.

The reason strong women constantly get their heart-broken by lying, cheating men is because, those women are subconsciously attracted to something about that weak man who lies and “fronts,” pretending to be sweet and caring, and strong, when those men are really weak. #EbrahimAseem

A strong woman must protect herself from heartbreak by never allowing a weak lying man to have her heart, just because he throws down in bed, ,or makes her feel beautiful, or because she is physically attracted to him. Strong women innately have a women’s intuition. #EbrahimAseem

Self loving women can tell when they first meet a man if he is full of B.S., lying or playing a role. #EbrahimAseem Some women simply choose to turn off her blinders just because she is feeling him and ‘catching feelings.’

A strong woman never has to dumb down her strength to attract a man. Her mental strength is like a magnet. #EbrahimAseem It will repel weak -metal minded men, and attract a strong ROCK of a man.

I refuse to stop dating black women, because if I do, I’d be telling my mother she’s not worthy of being chosen by the type of strong man she raised. #EbrahimAseem

I would be telling my future daughter she’s not worth enduring challenges that a man may face in building a relationship with her as a Black woman. #EbrahimAseem

I would be disrespecting the Holy Spirit, who chose women to give life and who chose life to originate on African soil.

Every human originated from the womb of an African woman, and for me to choose not to date any woman, because of her skin color, would be disrespect to the ONE who created me. #EbrahimAseem

Besides, I’m not afraid of a strong -minded woman.I prefer a woman with a smart mouth and a little attitude.”

I filled my cheeks up with air,
so my barber could finish shaving my beard.

Once he finished lining me up,
I grabbed my phone, navigated to my ‘Notes’ app, and began
typing up as much of the conversation as I could remember.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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Birth Number Six

Ebrahim Aseem

“Six” is a harmonious number. It is representing friendship, love, union, health, beauty and wisdom. This is a numerological ideal of such associations of people, which are forming a single unit, that differs with perfection.

Because the desire for harmony is the main feature of people born under Number 6, they have a certain magnetism, reflecting the fact that they are holistic people. “Charismatic personality” – a characteristic, that is best suited to them, if we notice the impact that they have on the others. People with the Birthday Number 6 may not be always beautiful or attractive, although many of them are distinguished by a special grace. But no matter how they look and what physical features they may possess, people of Number 6 have a certain energy that elevates them above the crowd. Many of these people are skillful in creating an “image”, and it strengthens their influence on people. Manners, clothes, the whole appearance – all carefully thought out, so that it is effecting people perfectly. Number 6 do not always realize how much work they have to make to look so great, but they always achieve their goals. They are not from this kind of people that you meet, and immediately forget.

They are often trusted, but not necessarily treated with a true love – it seems, that they came from beyond the world. This happens even when there is no particular reason for such conclusions. Therefore, it is expedient for them to act as mediators, facilitators, able to settle conflicts and to ensure the success of the case. These people – a reliable confidants and advisers. Friends and acquaintances who want to get their recommendations will be pleased with the results. Carriers of the Number 6 rarely criticize someone – usually they accept people as they are, and are tolerant to their weaknesses and shortcomings. They always carefully calculate different situations, and very rarely someone is able to cheat on them twice. In pursuing their own interests in different areas, Number 6 usually do not let them to outgrow the established framework. Sometimes they seem to be just a smart manipulators, but in reality it is a very holistic people, and they are rightfully respected for that.

Emotional characteristics

Happiness – is when a person feels harmony between his body and soul, as well as between himself and his environment. So, the carriers of Birthday Number 6 are mostly happy, but it does not drive them crazy. However, sometimes, looking at them, one may say that they are too happy and it is not true. The habit of Number 6 to create a prosperous image only enhances this effect.

Like everyone else, people of this Number are subjected to some fluctuations and internal disorders. However, the ability to manipulate and the vanity from the fact that they belong to the ranks of happy people, for whom the sun shines always, is combined in Number 6 with the knowledge that dealing with human beings should be conducted on a fair basis.
Most of this people worry a lot about the others, if they see that they are somehow offended. And although they are rarely involved in the patronage and they rarely are adjacent to some human rights campaigns, in such cases they can not refrain from interference, especially if it is somehow concerned with their ideas of honor and justice.

Carriers of Number 6, as a rule, are very sexy. However, despite their charisma, they are not overusing the “universal love”. Their ability to charm people often causes jealousy among the representatives of the same sex.

People with the Birthday Number 6 usually have a pragmatic view on love – material considerations are often playing a very important role when they are choosing a partner. Those who take love just as a great pastime, far from everyday worries – can become a victim of their own illusions.

Looking for a friend or a spouse, Number 6 should try to express his feelings and affection more openly. In this case they will most likely attract those partners who love them for what they really are, not not for what they seem to be.

From a financial point of view, the main problem for the average representative of the Number 6 stems from the need to align with the neighbors. Therefore, money are one of the biggest concerns of this people. They usually do not chase millions of dollars, do not dream of fantastic castles, but for them it is extremely important to have the means to acquire quality products. Falling into poverty, even for some very short time, is a true disaster for Number 6. They should better avoid extravagance, indulging their desires.

In most cases life of those born under Number 6 is quite harmonious. Due to the huge magnetic force of their personalities, they are not so rare to “catch a star from the sky”. They are a reliable, trustworthy people, they love their lives to be easy and pleasant. If they will manage to properly use all advantages of Number 6, then they will be able to avoid the dangers hidden in the conceit, smugness and insincerity, which are also typical for this vibration. In the numerological hierarchy Number 6 in general is a favorable sign. It is quite safe to swing on the quiet waves of this “harbor of safety”, though this innocent peace at times may be violated by hurricanes, suddenly blowing from the mainland or from the sea.

Number of a life path is most important number in your numerology chart.

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