“He acted interested, filled me with passion, was sweet & the beginning & did everything to make me happy, then left, snatching the world from under my feet. Ebrahim why do men do this?” she asked with tears in her eyes. I looked into the coed crowd & gave an honest answer.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
“When we know a woman likes us, as men, we can’t take advantage of the feeling she feels for us by failing to make her the only ONE we commit to pouring intimate attention into.
Don’t call her BABE, if she’s not the only woman you’re calling that.
Bro, you know how we are. Some of us men will call every girl in our phone “babe” simply, because we LOVE how it makes a woman just open up her whole heart to us, showering us with her time, attention, love & affection.
BABE & I love you baby are a manipulative male’s key to enter the closed quarters of a woman’s emotions, invading the locks of her heart, stealing forms of affection from her he has no intention of reciprocating.
The hardest thing for a woman to do is forgive herself for breaking all her rules for a man who’d eventually break HER heart. That’s why she stays. Through all the cheating, disrespect, pain & side pieces. Manipulative males know this & take full advantage, until she’s sold him her soul. Reclaim your worth!
Weak minded males use loyal women as emotional stepping-stones, to help him rebound from a woman who broke his heart. This is why you are his side chick, not his wife.
An overly macho, emotionally unstable male can not handle heartbreak. To rebound, he breaks as many loyal women as he can find.
This is why he fills her up with passion, only to leave & snatch the world from under her feet. It helps him get over HIS ex.
This is why he takes time to peel back the layers of a woman & seems genuinely interested in knowing more about her. He builds her up, only to break her by denying her deserved commitment, as a sick form of revenge against the one who broke him.
‘I’m just not ready for commitment,’ he’ll say, once he’s stolen your soul to fill the hole of his emotional brokenness.
He’ll keep dangling marriage, living together, or money over your head, whatever it takes to keep you around long enough, so he can steal your soul to replace the one he sold to his EX.
The woman who opens up to every man she falls for about her tragic story is not ‘trusting’ or ‘open’, she is naive and weak-minded, subconsciously using her painful life story to get a man to give her something real, as a reward for enduring pain all her life.
Just because you’re telling a man your life story, does NOT mean you two are “connecting”. He just learned how to do what few men ever did for you, listen, until you’re comfortable enough with him to become intimate. The devil is patient too. You just want him to be your ‘babe’ so bad, don’t you?
Opening up to & holding down a man depriving you of commitment is NOT loyalty. It’s side chick behavior. Keep playing that ROLE & you’ll get type cast forever.
Ladies beware of sharing your tragic, sad, abusive life story with your crush, because he will use your pain against you once he’s ready to snatch the wold from under you.
‘That’s why you were abused in your past, because you’re so annoying.’
‘You’re just being insecure, because your EX cheated on you.’
That’s how manipulative males use your past pain against you, to break you.
Be careful who you vent to. The devil is patient, listening & attractive.
He will come off as genuinely interested, talk on the phone with you for hours, ask to meet your mother, play in your hair, hold you close, encourage you, listen to your tragic life story, which he doesn’t give a damn about, ALL to lure you into a false sense of vulnerability in order to syphon strength, peace & genuine energy from your spirit into his. He wants pieces of your soul to make him whole.
Ladies, until a man shows you HIS flaws, HIS weaknesses & HIS vulnerabilities, you don’t know him. He’s a stranger. If you up open your life story & GIVE him your ALL before this, YOU slipped up. Stop this cycle. This is a red flag.
A man with multiple females is also a major red flag. He’s collecting side piece souls to get over heartbreak. RUN. But, never run back to what broke you.
I go in depth & detail about the “red flags” in my book, so women can know straight away to turn around and go in the other direction of males like this.
Men, we must stop peeling back layers of a woman’s vulnerability to get over our past heartbreak.
She’s been hurt multiple times & is now ready for something real, let’s stop emotionally setting her back by switching up & toying with her heart.
Let’s stop telling these women we want marriage & a family ONLY, because we know those wants are the secret code words to unlock her guardedness.
Let’s stop friend zoning her AFTER we’ve been emotionally intimate with her, as a way to exact vengeance on all the women who’ve friend zoned us.
Let’s stop breaking down a woman’s guard only to let her down. Don’t make her pay for all the women who hurt you & toyed with your heart.
Let’s stop putting loyal women through what we’ve been through before. The truth is we had our heart broken & never repaired it, because the world makes us feel a man can’t be vulnerable. A man can’t admit to ever being hurt, feeling weakness, getting played, being the side piece.
She actually thinks the reason you continue to spend time with her, talk to her & peel back her layers is, because you like her. She doesn’t know you’re just using her to get over your EX who broke your heart.
A Loyal Woman deserves to be our ONE and ONLY. A loyal woman does not like sharing. We as men have to stop texting multiple women & giving our attention to multiple girls on Instagram & in our phone at once, if we know damn well we have a woman thinking she’s our one & only.
You wouldn’t want a man treating your sister like this, would you? My sister just checked me on this.
She told me, “brother I do not want to see multiple women in you phone sending you hearts, calling you babe, sending you intimate pictures, and you have yet to introduce me to her. If she’s not serious enough to let me meet her, than you should not be giving her your constant attention.”
Loyalty is not dead in our generation. Real men want monogamy, because we have sisters & mothers in our life who teach us daily how to be faithful and loyal to ONE woman. We have fathers, brothers & cousins with wives, and these men are grooming us to be husbands one day just like them.
I’m tired of meting a girl, fall for her, say ‘babe’ everyday, stop talking, repeat. I want to say ‘fiancé’ ‘wife”‘ ‘mother of my children’ ‘love of my life’. I’m tired of ‘talking’. I want to build. I want marriage. I want forever. We deserve for life bro, not just for one night.
Let’s stop giving up on a loyal woman & choosing fast options over her, none of them can make us a better man the way a loyal woman can.”
“So Ebrahim, help me understand,” one woman asked, “why a guy will lie and pretend that he likes a girl and do the fuckin most just to get some pussy when its females that are more than willing to throw it back just for the hell of it. Like just take the free pussy instead of fucking with people’s feelings. If loyal women can make y’all a better man, “why do these hoes stay winning & wifed up, while classy women stay single?”
To be continued next week…
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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Great blog post. Was just having this discussion with a friend the other day. Love hearing the guys side.
I’m sure the book is amazing!
Over the last few months I have read many of your articles. Particularly, the article above literally brought me to tears tonight as I read it. Like many women, I have experienced the scenario of meeting a man only to discover I am considered the “rebound”. Also, I have experienced my guards being broken down only for my emotions and feelings to be ran over with no regard to my true wellbeing. It is so refreshing to realize past mistakes and turn them into valuable life lessons. It has allowed me to confess and accept my own faults within past unhealthy relationships and most importantly forgive others who purposely set out to hurt me. It’s nothing like releasing yourself from past mistakes or failures, and moving on toward becoming the woman God called you to be!
As you continue to bless others with your gift may God bless you tremendously!
Women have also been known to do this similar tactic on the rebound. It’s creating drama that is not needed. Sometimes we do make mistakes and get hurt. The key is to learn from them and avoid a repeat. A book that is really useful in addition to this blog post is “Dangerous Personalities” by a retired profiler. There are exploitative people out there and its important to take the steps to avoid getting ensnared by them. Life is to be lived and it has enough letdowns as it is. No need to sign up for extra that ends up a waste of time.
Wow! This article is amazing. And something Ive struggled with at times. But not anymore. I know Im a good woman and I deserve loyalty and to be someones one and only as they are mine. Its good to hear a mans perspective on a topic like this and Im looking forward to next weeks post
This article is so intriguing I’m actually anticipating the the next to that final part. As a loyal woman myself I have learned the hard way. Whether it’s from learning what other females have gone through and my own personal experience. I always say there are still loyal men and women out here. I can’t wait for next week’s post!
You have some interesting topics. Glad to read some read things once in a whole. And im not going to lie In the past I have used females to get over exxes. I had my fair share of heart aches too. Karma js not a pretty B$&ch. I appreciate the realness pf your words , they are so real that they hit HOME. MAD LOVE AND RESPECT