42% of Black women are unmarried. 70% of professional Black women are single, despite the fact 100% of Genuine Black women are intelligent, successful, self-sufficient, spiritual, fierce & beautiful.
When will women innerstand their high ass standards, their respectful ‘speak my mind’ attitude, the fact that you always have to question everything, all that is not a deal breaker? It is weak-male repellant. Be your sassy self queen, it will attract you ONLY a mentally mature man who can HANDLE you & that mouth with his rugged intellect.
Black women, you are not a problem. You are not “too difficult”.
You are the nucleus of this earth. You are the vessel of life & portal of energy as a liaison to this universe.
This is why eugenisists conspire to sterilize you & your seed via Planned Parenthood.
This is why your image is ridiculed, your hair is shamed, your skin is slandered,
it is because you are the very blood that keeps this world running warm.
If you are single now, it is because the world conspires you to wipe you from its existence. This is why your sons are murdered by police, shot dead in the streets, case unsolved, mystery unresolved. The enemy is after your seed. The plan is to sterilize you after you get an epidural to wipe your royal lineage from existence.
If you are single now, it is, because all the others you met where nowhere near your level, but there is a loyal, conscious king on his way who will dig you like a shovel. Your help meet is looking for you, looking forward to going half on a baby with you, raising your son to be a confident man, aware of his regal ancestry, raising your daughter to know she doesn’t need a man to stand in front of her, she is a queen by herself. He will not “save you” or rescue you, he was taught by his father to compliment a woman, not validate her.
Too many single black women are unintentionally repelling men away, by possessing this silly “where are the good men” attitude. That’s so unattractive.
Do you lack the conscious cognition & intrinsic innerstanding that one’s gender does not dictate their values? Meaning, there are commitment craving men,, monogamy, loving mentally mature men on earth. They exist, because a mentally mature woman raised them to be that way, their mother.
In reality, being single has nothing to do with your race & everything to do with your self-standards.
A woman must ask herself, “why did I settle & give my body, my heart, my loyalty, my matrimony, my children, hell my number to a man who did not appreciate a woman with integrity & substance?” Why did I ever lower my standards? Is the reason I have never had something real, because I have chosen to settle for less than I deserve?
As a man, the worse mistake I ever made was choosing a self-proclaimed bad bitch over a mentally mature woman. If a man or woman can not ADMIT they have settled & made poor choices in companions, they will forever be single.
I receive 1.3k emails a day from men of valor, asking for advice, yet this one really humbled me,
“Mr. Ebrahim I’ve read your entirety online just now because me and my fiance’s going through some changes and I must say you’ve described us down to a tee. Uhmm, you’ve enlightened my view on my selfish prospective on how we as men see our (black) sisters. I’d like to thank you and ask for some advice?”
Black women are difficult, hard to get along with, mean, bitchy, argumentative & bitter ONLY to a narrow-minded male, who lacks the mental endowment to handle her. If you were a self-sufficient, confident, leader of valor, no woman would EVER dare to be mean, difficult or have an attitude with you. Husband, father, brother or son, an intelligent man dripping with cognitive masculinity renders a woman with a “smart mouth” speechless.
Ladies, I don’t give a damn if you have a fat ass when I approach. You can’t attract me with curves, & booty pics. I’ll pour love into a skinny woman with stretch marks before I entertain a curvy beauty with only amazing body to offer. #EbrahimAseem I’m not one of these limp noodle lames impressed by a big butt & a smile.
I have a mind, can you stimulate it? Or is the only head on a man you can arouse connected to his penis? I’ll grip, manhandle, massage & worship Your booty if you have one, but if you think that will attract me, you are ass hopeless as a penny with a hole in it.
When I speak this message in front of hundreds of women, they complain, “I wish your mentality was more common, most guys don’t want this!” to which I reply,
“I pray it was more common for women to stop caring what the hell weak coward males who can’t handle a strong woman “don’t want” and start living for what they as queens want.
The mentally mature men who DO think like this get turned off when all women want to converse about is the “many men who don’t want a woman with a mind”.
Men can only be as loyal & monogamous as the women who birth them #raise them to be. I pray mentally mature men like me were chosen more by women, instead of assholes who make them assume “all men are dogs”.
I’m not married yet and abstinent while single, because I refuse to SETTLE for the gorgeous, curvy distractions I’ve met until now. If we can’t further each other’s intellect, spiritually connect, be goofy, vibe wherever & build towards a forever, fine as you may be, we can’t be together.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Motivational #SpeakLife vidoes: Youtube.com/RealNewsmagazine
Both men and women have postive roles to play in this there must be a strike the balance compromise between career and settling down, a lady may never get real happiness remaining single for life. Even if you have guys clustering around you. There comes a time it would be every man for himself your sons would come back home so would the girls.you sure need a man……..
I can relate to some of your points but at this time i would like to interject that both black men and women miss the mark because the old school dad and mon values and there black self esteem have been forgotten.let go back to our roots and pride and stop being used by the standards of other nationalities.
It is true that we’ve forgotten how to be our REAL selves. We’ve been mentally conditioned into thinking that we can’t do anything, we are not properly educated about our history and our accomplishments, therefore we don’t stimulate a mindset that encourages us to be self-reliant, and “build” (i.e owning & controlling the products that we consume etc) . Integration was probably the biggest mistake we’ve done in the diaspora. When we don’t know where we came from, we sure as “hell” won’t know where to go.