Men don’t stay loyal to girls who CHASE them. Let him pursue you.


Stop telling him to text back or give effort. He saw your text & doesn’t want you. Men don’t take girls who chase them seriously. #EbrahimAseem Let him court you & pursue you.

A woman can be gorgeous, curvy, funny & low matinence, if she chases him, a man will still DM Instamodels & cheat on her with the most warthog looking side chick/beast he can find. We’re talking Pumba from Lion King.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Chasing a man makes him want to pursue other women, because men are hunters. Food doesn’t taste as good when a hunter doesn’t have to put in work for it. #EbrahimAseem

When we have to put in work & effort for something, we value it more. When things come too easily, we take it for granted. Men side chick zone girls who chase him, because we don’t just seek the beautiful woman, it’s the thrill of the courting we’re after.

A woman who takes effort & consistency to get makes a man throb so hard. An easy girl makes him want another, because his hunger for courting isn’t quenched. #EbrahimAseem

Earning your loyalty makes us value it more. Getting loyalty without having to commit makes us seek another woman who values herself more.

Begging a man for commitment & telling him how to give you effort makes him crave a side chick. Here’s why: it’s not your job to teach a man how to be one, how to give effort & understand you. That was his father’s job. Once you start behaving like you’re his mother, he’ll see you as that, & crave another woman under his covers.

Even husbands get bored with a wife who doesn’t require effort without begging for it. He will sneak & text girls on Snap Chat. Spice things up. Send your man a sexy snap chat. Turn on some twerk music & dance on him. Play his favorite game & tell him the winner gets to be treated like dessert. Make your man constantly court you else he will replace you. #EbrahimAseem

Girls will give their all, stressing in pain to fix a broken man, instead of just choosing the loyal, handsome, strong, equally yoked manage wanted in the first place. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t ignore a man then expect him to chase you either. He will lose interest & only act like he loves you, until you give him sex, then he’ll snatch the world from under you.

If you like a man, don’t chase him. Be consistent enough to let him know you’re intrested, yet chaste enough that he doesn’t lose interest in pursuing you. He texts back? You text back. He treats you to a date first? You treat him to a date next. He doesn’t hit you? You don’t hit him. You’re not on his mind? Stop overthinking him into yours. #EbrahimAseem

Making a man dance to the beat of your standards without begging for time & effort makes him crave you. #EbrahimAseem Begging a man for effort annoys him. Telling him what to do irritates him. Teaching a grown ass man how to be one prepares him to commit to the woman after you, because you’re too busy being his mother. #EbrahimAseem

A woman who values herself too much to chase me, turns me the hell on. I wanna cuddle up & read with you. Turn your pages. Be fluent in your love language. Pray with you, never on you. Hear you speak your mind, my fav melody. #EbrahimAseem You never ask too much, & that makes me want to give you my all, my commitment & my last name. Teach my how to understand you. Teach me how to dance to the beat of your caring heart. Let’s make music together. #EbrahimAseem

I learned that woman who gives you peace after working all day deserves for you to melt all her stress away. Spoil her. Support her mental growth. Reassure her you appreciate all her sacrifice. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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4 Responses to Men don’t stay loyal to girls who CHASE them. Let him pursue you.

  1. Akua says:

    Thank you for all of the great articles you post. I enjoy reading your thoughts on relationships and tend to agree with you wholeheartedly. This one, however, left me with some puzzling questions. Chasing a man is never a good idea… agreed. But how do you show a man that you’re into him, want to spend time with him, etc. without it being seen as chasing. I’m never pushy or insistent but I do like to let a man that I’m feeling him. Where is the line between showing a dude some love and chasing?

    Thanks for your invaluable insight!

    • lovelyt26 says:

      I’m in the same boat

    • Cake says:

      At the outset, you can greet him, compliment him, flirt, eye contact and smile. These are well recognised indicators of interest. An interested man will take it up from there and make efforts to pursue. And so he knows his efforts are not in vain, you encourage him by accepting his calls, making yourself available, thanking him for his efforts and showing signs of affection.

      If a man is not into you, there is nothing you can do to change that. You should never have to chase to gain a man’s interest. Chasing is a male trait. You should however respond to a man’s advances but your response should be measured, positive, feminine and in line with your boundaries.

  2. I Am Rey says:

    I really enjoyed this post! Most high bless you for this!

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