Genuine women get screwed over by everyone; friends, family, parents, yes even blood. Their nice energy & positive vibe gets crushed by negative assholes, because miserable souls HATE seeing genuine spirit happy. #EbrahimAseem They want you just as miserable as they are. That’s why they speak doubt into all your ambitious dreams.
This constant labeling & judgement of genuine women, is done to break the spirit of her femininity; so she will buy into the lie that she is crazy , cognitively unaware, weak & “over-emotional”, inferior to men. #EbrahimAseem This is done by jealous users who lack the selflessness to reciprocate those nice, positive vibes back to her.
Not everyone DESERVES the NICE side of you. Make them EARN it by reciprocating all you give. Until then, ignore them. Negative people treat you bad simply to stay on your mind. Don’t waste a second reflecting on nor responding to what others think of your life. Stop giving them power over you. #EbrahimAseem Keep a healthy distance. Stay close enough to feed them care, yet far enough so they can’t bite your hand. Some friends and family are secretly jealous of your happiness. So let them be haunted by your absence.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Not every female who has a child is a mother. Females who aren’t naturally loving, affectionate and nurturing birth daughters more mature, loving & nurturing than their own mother. #EbrahimAseem
As a man, we must realize that woman slow to trust us, was raised by a non-nurturing “mother”. Every mistake she’s made, all her life, her mother ridicules her for it, saying:
“What are you going to do with your life?”
“Why are you so lazy?”
“Why are you getting so fat, don’t you exercise?”
“Why are you so skinny, aren’t you eating?
“Why do you dress like that?”
“Why are you so immature?”
“Why aren’t you married yet?”
“Why don’t you just become a lawyer or a doctor & give up on your silly dreams?”
“Why don’t you come to church more?”
“Why did you post that on Facebook?”
Yet secretly, many mothers are jealous of their daughter’s beauty and confidence, envy her youth and more than anything; they can tell their daughter is more mentally mature, nurturing, affectionate, kind, friendly and even more motherly than they are. This is because they don’t envy the material things their daughter possesses, they envy what they can never have, her genuine spirit. #EbrahimAseem
Mothers, do your best to support your daughters’ career choices. Don’t put down you daughter; constantly telling her she’s wrong about every decision she makes. ENCOURAGE your daughter; be vulnerable for your daughter. Admit when you are wrong to your daughter. #EbrahimAseem Admit to her if you raised her to be guarded, not knowing how to accept love & providing from a man. Be apologetic towards your daughter, so she can have closure from her past.
Some of the pain you mothers have put your daughters through growing up is currently holding her back, effecting her ability to trust, love and let someone who really cares about her into her heart, past her wall that you made her build up. #EbrahimAseem
Don’t let pride stand in the way of the love, affection & acknowledgement you need to give your daughter; she DESERVES that love. #EbrahimAseem
Don’t hold a daughter’s love of her mother hostage from her. Don’t hold the approval of decisions she makes from her like it’s ransom, only willing to release it when something tragic happens to you or her. #EbrahimAseem
You chose to have her. She did not choose to be born to you. Give your daughters love & attention, show them affection, so they don’t grow up with insecurities; seeking affection and love from every man they meet. #EbrahimAseem
Many women have such rocky relationships with their mother, because their mother treated them like garbage, like life was an episode of family guy, and she is the Meg of the family. Seeing their mother constantly put men over them growing up, makes women lose respect for their mother. #EbrahimAseem
“When I was eleven, my mother’s boyfriend raped me everyday for 11 months,” this beautiful Cape Verdean girl confessed to the room full of women and me at a wayward house where I did a motivational speak, “and my mother knew about it. She even knew I knew that she knew, and she still stayed in a relationship with the man who raped me the whole time. She slept in the same bed with him and continued to have sex with the man who slept with both her and her daughter. Then after they broke up when I was 14, she kicked me out of the house and blamed me for the breakup; when I was the one who would take care of her like she was my daughter. I was the one who would pick her up in the middle of the night, after she came into the house passed out drunk, carry my mother’s unconscious body into the bathtub and clean the vomit and alcohol off her hair and body. I was the one who fed my mother when she was too lazy to cook for me, but was willing to cook for the man who raped her own daughter; and she just threw me out like yesterday’s trash.”
“I feel like the reason some mothers secretly hate their daughters is, because she went through the same shit growing up and she’s too much of a coward to make a change & stop the cycle from continuing,” one of the peer mentors replied in response to the Cape Verdean girl’s testimony.
“I want you to know that was evil,” I told the Cape Verdean girl. “For your mother to sleep with a man who raped you every night was evil. Not all mothers hate their daughters and your mother does not hate you. Real mothers love their daughters more than they love themselves.
How your mother treats you is not a reflection of your worth, nor is it a reflection of her lack of love for you. How your mother treats you is a projection of her lack of love for self & lack off affection your grandmother gave her growing up. #EbrahimAseem
Every time she looks deep in your eyes and yells at you, she’s not speaking to you; she’s speaking to herself; the projection of herself she sees inside you. When she says “I wish you were never born!” She’s looking at you, but talking to herself. #EbrahimAseem She wishes she was never born, because she can see that she birthed a genuine, giving daughter whose love and trust she feels she doesn’t even deserve.
I also want you to know she is not your mother; you are her mother. The concept of time does not exist in the universe. 2 Peter 3:8 tells us a millennium is like a day to The Holy Spirit, proving the concept of time exists solely in this earthly dimension our souls are currently trapped in. #EbrahimAseem This is how a spirit is able to come into this world and be born before it’s mother, like your mother was born before you.
Having a child is not what makes a female a mother, just like helping bring a child into this world does not make a male a father. It is the selfless love that a parent gives us, loving us more than they love themselves and more than they love life is what makes one a mother or a father. #EbrahimAseem
You are not your human form. That is the clothes your spirit wears while you temporarily visit this vaykay spot called “earth”. You are the spirit that lives inside your human form, thus; your biological ‘human’ mother is not the mother of your spirit. Mathews 12:48 says, ‘who is my mother?’ 50 says, ‘whoever does the will of The Holy Spirit in heaven is my mother.’
You are your mother’s mother, the selfless love you showed her all your life is proof of that. Just as many young women are more of a mother to their own mother than their mother is to them; your spirit is the mother of your body and soul. #EbrahimAseem
This is why it is so important for you to never allow fake family to discourage you, make you doubt yourself, make you hate life and question your own existence. Guard your heart with your spirit and allow your mother spirit to protect your heart, mind and soul like a mother protects her daughters. #EbrahimAseem
You are not a human-being, you are a spirit being a human, for a short time. During your spirit’s vacation on earth do not allow the daughter, which is your human body, emotions & insecurity, to control your thoughts inside the mind of the spirit you are. #EbrahimAseem
Don’t just perfect your daughter-body; making sure it looks pretty, beautiful & flawless; brows on fleek & makeup beat. Also remember to perfect the mother-spirit you are. It is the energy who gives you your true beauty. #EbrahimAseem All of you genuine women are breathtakingly beautiful, and yet it is not your pretty face that makes you beautiful. It is not your curvy body or your gorgeous hair that makes you beautiful.
Your human form is a glass; I can see through your glass beauty daughter-body into the liquid beauty of your mother-spirit. Your beauty is a shine that is seen on your face as a pretty look, yet it comes from the glow of your inner beauty. #EbrahimAseem
If you don’t like your waist size, your tummy size, your hips, your butt, your breasts, your hair, your complexion, your height, I want you to remember that is NOT you. That is the gift box. #EbrahimAseem You are the diamond spirit inside of that box and yes, you want that to look as amazing as possible. Yet, there is a reason some women who you may consider ugly have more confidence than you. Her love for her spirit causes her inner beauty to shine brighter than your level of confidence.
The key to being confident in self is to look at yourself as a flawless spirit. Your spirit is on point; your spirit is fierce and once you know, that self-love will shine beautifully out into the clothes that is your human form. A Confident Woman doesn’t need to rely on compliments or thirst, nor live off attention from random guys on social networks or via Instagram likes to validate her beauty; she knows she’s beautiful before anyone else. Looking inside her self, she sees the smooth inner beauty she exudes, clearer than a mirror. #EbrahimAseem
All that I understand about a woman, I cannot take credit for. I was blessed with an amazing mother who taught me the importance of listening to a woman by first listening to her. I learned as men, all we have to do is listen to a Woman’s silence. Even when she is quiet, her thoughts are LOUD as hell. The echos of her silence speaks to the pain she’s experienced; lies she’s been told, hurt she’s endured. Mentally mature women are in DEEP thought all day, with no one to vent her painful thoughts to. Listen. #EbrahimAseem
As men, we have to earn her trust, make her feel comfortable enough to open up to us, so we can be the one she can vent to. We have to listen to the echos of her silence, observe her thoughts; absorb her pain and use our positive vibe to take her pain away. #EbrahimAseem
I know sometimes you may doubt yourself. I know you get so frustrated that you aren’t where you want to be in life yet with your career and your living situation. I know you may feel you have low self-esteem at times. More than anything, I know you are tired of not having the commitment from the mentally mature man you know you deserve in your life. I know you’re tired of all these lame males who attempt to get your attention, by using their money or nice car to get your attention, but I want you to remember something. Low self-esteem is lower than you can even imagine. #EbrahimAseem
You may think when you doubt yourself & question your ability to have the things you want that you are flirting with having low self-esteem, but you’re not. That’s just the negative energy that exists in this world, commonly referred to as ‘the devil’ attempting to make you doubt yourself; attempting to make your self, your dreams and your purpose; the very purpose you were put on earth for. #EbrahimAseem Low self-esteem is lower than doubt; it is hate. When a person can hate so much, they will try to insult your intelligence by dangling the fact they possess a nice car or poses a substantial amount of money at you, that is low self-esteem. It is, because they are trivializing them self and minimizing their life’s existence into that of a Material possession.
Hate comes into play, because it is not others who they hate, nor is it the ‘haters’ who they pretend to have to boost their ego that they hate. No, they hate themselves, they hate their life, so they view you as another possession in it; a thing. You’re not a woman to them; you’re a thing. That’s why they call you a ‘bad bitch’, because you’re a THING to them. #EbrahimAseem
Referring to you as a beautiful woman, or your by your birth name would be too human or un-thing-like for them to do. They don’t see YOU; the person. They see your boobs, curvy cakes, long hair; all things. They use the mantra, ‘it takes money to make money’ as a creed to pursue their hopes of POSSESSING you, as they view you as a possession, as a thing; just like money. #EbrahimAseem
How ironic is it then, these low self-esteem having males are morally bankrupt; too blind to see
they could never attract an intelligent strong-minded queen of substance like you with a mere possession. The high self-worth you posses and the self value you are worth can never be bought by amount of money.” #EbrahimAseem
I can respect a good mother who loves her child enough to never allow pride, a man or any for of negativity to get in the way for her love of her children. Mothers are not only the backbone of this world, they are the creators of life, and if it wasn’t for a woman, no man or woman would be alive. #EbrahimAseem
Humility is a sign of maturity; stubbornness is a sign of immaturity.
A confident person can apologize, but a prideful, insecure fool would rather stubbornly go down with the ship of lies, than grab the lifesaver of humility by admitting when they are wrong to save a relationship. #EbrahimAseem
Would it kill you to admit when you are wrong to your child? Why do you always have to be right? How can you be the head of a family, yet you can’t listen to anyone IN your family? How can you be a parent, aunt, uncle or boss; yet mentally, you behave like a little child? #EbrahimAseem
If you blame your child for the way your relationship with them is; you are extremely immature. Being a parent means you are held more responsible than your child. #EbrahimAseem It’s up to YOU to be more mature and let go of your pride and ego to salvage the relationship. #EbrahimAseem
Be humble; if you are a grown ass parent and you hurt your child in any way, don’t wait until they are grown with children to try to apologize for lack of love you shown them growing up. By then it can be too late, because they had to suffer with that pain all their life. If you are a grown man or woman, don’t wait until someone is ready to leave you to apologize for how badly you’ve treated them the whole relationship. Be honest, humble and apologetic RIGHT NOW. #EbrahimAseem It is better to be loyal to the one you love and lose your pride, then to be loyal to your pride and lose the one you love.
If you’ve been hurt by your mother, it’s not your fault. You have to let go of fighting for her approval & love yourself fully, let go of all self doubt & your will be able to let people in to love you as much as you love yourself. #EbrahimAseem
By: Ebrahim Aseem
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