8 Things ‘Gone Girl’ teaches us about Love & Marriage #7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get CHEATED on

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“When I think of my wife, I always think of her head. I picture cracking her lovely skull. Unspooling her brains, trying to get answers. What are you thinking?” – Nick Dunne, Gone Girl

The NY Times best selling book, “Gone Girl” has not only provided us with one of the more suspense-filled forms of entertainment this year, it has also provided us with 8 teachable moments in love and marriage.

#1 Men have no idea what the hell women are thinking.
#2 Women know when men are lying, but they play dumb to get more intel.
#3 Being fluent in sarcasm & humor will set you apart when approaching.
#4 Once marriage turns into work, you will quickly start to resent your partner
#5 If you love ‘The Walking Dead’ you’ll love ‘Gone Girl’
#6 Just because she’s moaning does not mean she’s enjoying the sex.
#7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get cheated on.
#8 Once affection and attention stop, the relationship is as good as over.

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#1 Men have no idea what the hell women are thinking.

When a woman is talking to you out loud, she is also having a second conversation with you in her mind and a third conversation with her intuition. This is a woman’s mul-tri-tasking intuition.

She can be cursing you out in her mind, because she knows you’re lying, while conversing with her intuition who’s telling her questions to ask. Yet, you’d never know this, because all she says to you is, “interesting.”

Code red. Abort mission.

#2 Women know when men are lying, but they play dumb to get more intel.

There are 24 fatal words a woman uses that have deeper meaning than their definition allows. All 24 are outlined in my upcoming book, “Why All Men Cheat On Loyal Women”

When a woman says, “interesting”. Beware. This means she is currently mul-tri-tasking, conversing with her intuition, who is telling her you’re hiding something. When she asks her intuition, “so, what should I ask him?” Her intuition will tell her, “play dumb & keep him talking, then cross-reference what he says with the lies his dumb ass told you before.” So to keep you talking & hide her suspicions, she’ll say, “interesting.”

Do not question why she says, “interesting” because if you do, she will answer that with fatal woman word #13 “no reason”.

If you ask a woman why she asks you a random question & she says, “no reason” in response, worry! “No reason” means, “I know you’re lying, I just don’t have all the proof, facts & hard evidence to prove what my intuition told me was true, so I’m going to play dumb & let your stupid ass bury yourself.

A woman’s loyalty to her deep thoughts is stronger than her feelings for you. She can be thinking about you all day, yet you’d never hear it from her.

She’s waiting for you to man up & reach out to her. Never attempt a “stubborn stand-off” with a woman, you’ll always lose.

Amy, the “gone girl” who goes missing often plays dumb to deflect males from being able to read her thoughts & intentions.

There is a scene where she is spying on a man’s whereabouts unbeknownst to him, because she feels he’s lying about his intentions with her. Yet, when the man asks her, “what have you been up to?” She replies “nothing”.

This is the calm before the storm. When a woman replies, “nothing” this means something & you should be on your toes. She’s been doing research, stalking your social networks, calculating her pie charts to prove what she already knows about your lies.

#3 Being fluent in sarcasm & humor will set you apart when approaching someone new.

When Ben Affleck’s character, Nick Dunne first meets Amy he asks her name, then he asks her, “who are you?”.

She proceeds to give him 3-answer multiple choice response for him to guess her personality & occupation.

The line, “who are you” is so clutch, because it sarcastically hints at the reality that when we first meet someone, they don’t show us who they are, they show us their representative. The person they want us to think they are. The role they play to attract someone, because who they are may be too crazy, too misogynistic, too creepy for us want to get to know.

Too much sarcasm can scare someone away, but a healthy dose of sarcasm paired with a humble sense of humor let’s a person know you’re down to earth and unpretentious. Unless of course, this is a Oscar-worthy role you’re playing.

4. Once marriage turns into work, you will quickly start to resent your partner

Gone Girl is the date night movie of the year, not just because of the amazing suspense, mystery, story telling and drama. It highlights the exact red flags you should look for before committing to a relationship with someone.

Watching it with a date, and noticing their reactions as it breaks both girl code and guy code is an amazing aid to tell you everything you need to know about how relationship-worthy your date is.

The relationship on display in this movie shows the moment marriage meets that honeymoonending point of no return, the resentment one can have for their partner can be stroner than love.

5. If you love ‘The Walking Dead’ you’ll love ‘Gone Girl’

Imagine a bipolar Michonne with a girl next door alter ego. This describes Rosamund Pike’s charter, Amy Dunne to a T. A love for gore, knives and blood shedding included.

Yet, its the character development and tension the scenes create that fans of The Walking Dead would appreciate most. It’s a must see.

6. Just because she’s moaning does not mean she’s enjoying the sex.

There’s a scene in Gone Girl when Ben Affleck’s character is trEATing his wife’s lower lips like food. In mid-moan, she stops and says, “are you done yet?” Ouch. I don’t care if a woman is moaning the tune to “Birthday Sex”, if she can still speak mono-tone during intimacy, it’s a tell-tale sign she’s not having an orgasmic crescendo. A dry bed is another.

Later in the film, Amy’s character confesses, “Nick uses me for sex when he wants, otherwise i don’t exist.” No marriage or relationship should have one way sex, if both do not receive pleasure from it, it’s work, not intimacy.

#7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get cheated on.

It’s not just finding out he cheated that breaks her heart. It’s seeing he used the EXACT same sweet words & romantic gestures on another woman, that he used to make her fall for him.

Don’t treat her like she’s every other girl fighting for your attention. If she sees you using the same lines, same emojis, same complements you give her on random women & girls on Instagram, it will make her feel like there’s nothing special about what you feel for her. Like it’s all a game. Like she’s just another girl to you.

She wants something intimate. Something just for her. Not what you give to every girl who wants your attention. That crushes her.

Don’t put her through that. You don’t know the deep, dark pit of heart-break she had to crawl out of in past relationships, just to be able to love again & trust again with you.

She’s a hopeless romantic. She really wants to love. She has confidence that love exists. That is why her getting cheated on is inevitable.

Cheating on a loyal woman gives an insecure male life, for this reason. Siphoning a woman’s ‘confidence that love exists’ by cheating on her, fuels HIM with that confidence he’s never had. He cheats on her to take power from her, to give to himself.

As long as a loyal woman contiues to entertain mentally immature males, she will inevitably get cheated on.

8. Once affection and attention stop, the relationship is as good as over.

So, let me get this straight, you can see whoever you want, behave all single, & I’m supposed to just sit here like an old flame & be loyalty to your inconsistent ass? You clearly have no idea what the hell I’m capable of. If I were you I wouldn’t play with fire.

You don’t want to commit to me & can’t take me out on a real date. Yet, when I give my time to someone else, its a problem? You’re a joke. My go ghost game is on Insidious mode, don’t test me with your inconsistent foolishness.

If you’re going to ignore me and act “too busy” for me, when you are the one who first showed interest, don’t feel some type of way when you see me giving my attention to someone who values my time, worth and affection in a way you never could.

This is how a loyal persn feels. This s the conversation they have with you in their mind, when they re-play scenarios in their head all day long.

Amy’s character pours her heart out through her conversations with her words and into her diary, detailing all the things wrong with her marriage to Nick. Yet his character is too prideful to pay attention, until the inevitable happens. She is gone. This is when the movie gets really interesting.

Gone girl is not just a reference to the fact she goes missing. Gone girl references her mind state. Half way through the film, you realize, mentally, she’s gone.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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2 Responses to 8 Things ‘Gone Girl’ teaches us about Love & Marriage #7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get CHEATED on

  1. Tamisha says:

    Powerful! Came across your blog a few weeks ago and have been hooked ever since. Started following you on Instagram as well. Finally there is a MAN out there who gets it! It’s like your inside my HEAD speaking my truth. God bless you. Keep it doing what your doing❤

  2. Latayah says:

    Lessons from Gone Girl are on point! Now I want to see the movie. Thanks for setting the tone for generations of Kings and Queens through your work!

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