If he really cared about you, he’d CALL you, come see you or take you out on a date. Men are simple, really.
When a man really likes a woman, he will move mountains to make time for her. He enjoys calling; hearing her voice. Massaging the tip of her eardrums with the vibration of his conversing. He cares enough to contact her consistently. Not 24/7 all damn day. Clinginess is a red flag.
Consistent enough so she never feels she’s going through things alone. Being her calm, her peace. Making her laugh & smile so hard, with words so sweet. With a vibe so deep, the conversing never ceases.
Texts do NOT count. Contact is sensory stimulation. His pineal glad should touch your frontal cortex through sound & vibration.
He texts everyone. He calls the woman he sees a future with. If he isn’t making effort, he simply does not like you. Accept it & move on, but never be a man’s fool.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
“Wait, so guys don’t play hard to get to test you?” A brown-haired beauty asked, during a life speak I did for eight dozen twenty-somethings.
“Test you for what? I retorted. “Any male who’d test a woman isn’t a strong MAN you’d want anyway. Tests & tricks are for kids. A mentally mature man is straight forward. Why in heaven would he test you? Love is not SAT, it’s R-E-A-L.
When a man doesn’t make time for you, he’s NOT playing hard to get or testing you. He’s too busy spending time with the woman he REALLY likes.
I’m not gonna lie, when a woman acts spoiled when she can’t spend time with you, it’s the most attractive thing. Makes me want to cancel plans for you & let my spoil adorn you.
The “my spoiled ass is disappointed babe” face👉😒 works on me. Poke that lip out. If I love you, I have a strong desire to improve how you feel with my spoilage.
Unless it’s regarding work or family,
‘I’m too busy’ really means,
‘I’m too busy tryna spoil the woman I really like, so I’ll text you when I’m bored & horny.”
“Why do guys act like they’re interested, then just stop texting you out of nowhere?” A blonde asked.
“If he used to text you all day and night, then all of a sudden he just stops; he’s not ‘being a stranger’. He just doesn’t like you. Get over yourself.
Don’t spend all night staying up, over-thinking about someone who hasn’t thought of you once all day, or called you good night. Never let a man upset you to the point you go to sleep mad or sad. Simply let go,” I asserted.
“I’m so uninterested in investing my time, romantic efforts & strong feelings into someone, unless I have long-term intentions. When I love, I love completely, with all of me, but my heart only pumps loyal blood for someone who wants for-ever, not just for-one-night.
I don’t want to date anyone that I can’t one day build a future with. I want children. I want marriage. I want loyalty. I want for life. If you feel the same way, only make room in your life for the ones who want only you in there’s.
Once you see a man is not feeling you, move the hell on. Please don’t try even harder, complain to us or stay thinking about us, it will only make you look weak, repel strong men & destroy your self-confidence.
“I just hate the fact that if I don’t start the conversation with a guy, there won’t be one,” one women complained.
“If you always have to hit him first, he’s trying to tell you how uninterested he is in you. Listen. Sometimes getting no message from a person is the real message they are sending queen,” I answered.
“So what does it mean when a guy makes an effort to get my attention. Then when I let down my wall, give him a chance & text him, he doesn’t text back. He’s not playing hard to get?” She continued.
“You know what it means when your text goes unread, while he’s liking pics in bunches on Instagram? He doesn’t care about you the way you care about him. Stop making excuses for him,” I responded.
A guy will ignore a woman, & she’ll make excuses, like:
His phone died.
He has bad phone service where he lives.
His phone screen cracked.
He got shampoo in his eyes in the shower & is temporarily blind.
He got hit by a car, rushed to the hospital & is currently in a coma.
No. He just doesn’t like you. Why are you acting so desperate for dick? You’re so quick to cut anyone else off over the littlest thing. Meanwhile, you’re give multiple chances & excuses to a male who keeps ignoring your whole existence?
Is the dick that good? Are you that weak? Is he that much of your god? Please stop making us men your god.
Don’t lose your soul at the hopes of securing a tall, handsomely bearded guy, to make you finally happy with life. His love won’t make you love yourself, it will only briefly take your mind off the fact you don’t.
“I just don’t get how one minute you guys can be inside of us, giving us the greatest feeling, as if we mean something to you, & the next day we can’t even get a text back.” The brown-haired girl complained, before she started to break down and cry. Why does our loyalty go unappreciated? I just want something real. For once, you know?”
“I know you’re tired of wanting something real & always getting the worst, but don’t forget to fall in love with that beauty in the mirror first,” I answered. She smiled. I felt guilty as a man, because we have no idea how sick we make these genuine women with our selfishness.
“Women confuse amazing sex with affection. You actually think it means something to us, so you accept empty text messages & justify being ignored.
Our generation mistakes ‘being foolish’ for ‘being loyal’. He’s got your ‘loyal’ ass out here looking stupid by starving you of reassurance & attention. You staying with him & making excuses for his lack of romance is not loyalty, its weakness.
A weak woman will emotionally make excuses for why a male isn’t giving her commitment & attention. A woman loyal to her own integrity has enough strength to cut his sorry ass off.
In the 10 years I’ve been speaking life into young men as a youth mentor, I constantly tell them:
She’s romantic, not hopeless. She can love you & really not care to ever see you again at all. Stop taking her for granted. Adore her madly.
Lack of interest turns her off. Don’t waste her time. If you’re out here ignoring her & making her look stupid, don’t be surprised to find, your residence in her mind declined.
The prettiest spirited women really be lonely af at night, staring at their phone waiting for it to ring. Call her tonight. Say, “Your vibe is gorgeous. Your conversation is as pretty as your voice. I’m taking you out on a date this friday for dinner live music and deep conversing. What time works for you?”
Don’t just brush off her texts & her showing she cares. You don’t know how hard it is to show her feelings, when it has always been taken for granted.
If she stops caring, you lost her. The ONLY reason she doesn’t do you the cold way you do her is, because it is way out of her character.
Sometimes a strong woman feels stressed, frustrated, sad or alone & a simple call or text from you can take her stress away & make her day.
When a woman says, ‘I really miss you’ she’s really saying,
‘There will never be a day I wake up & want you out my life. Don’t make me regret showing my true feelings. Don’t make me feel crazy for giving you the chance I’ve given so many men who couldn’t come through.’
That deep thinking woman needs to be PUT to sleep. Her mind keeps replaying scenarios & What-IFs. She feels her life is at a breaking point. It’s hell, really. Call her right now king. Show her how much you do care. Mentally, lift her up w/ reassurance, carry her thoughts with your understanding heart & put her along with all her worrying concerns to bed.”
I go more in depth about this & other topics in my upcoming book, “Why All Men Cheat On Loyal Women”.
By: Ebrahim Aseem