Why your FAMILY treats you like they HATE you, no matter how GIVING you are


If you found someone who’s consistently good to you. Dont ruin it, don’t run from it, don’t doubt it, don’t push it away. Just appreciate it & reciprocate. It’s too rare not to.

In the Disney film, “Wreck-It-Ralp” Ralph wasn’t even invited to the game’s 30th anniversary party. When he put his figure at the top with everyone else, they got so offended.

This is how a giver feels when family takes their giving for granted. Abandoned. Used. Alone. Like they’re the villain.

Ralph met a kindred spirit in Vanellope, who was bullied, mocked & teased for her glitch flaws. Her flaws turned out to be her gifts. Ralph turned out to be more family than her sisters.

Your flaws are not a bad thing.

Your blood family is not your SPIRIT’s family. Blood is nothing but relation. Being born around people does not mean their frame of mind is a kin to yours. Keep your family at a distance & your enemies close, because SOME folks you call “fam” tend to envy the most.

The reason family treats you like they hate you the more you give to them is, they don’t want you to know how amazing you are.

Your family brags about you when you’re not around & starves you of appreciation when you are. They do this, because they think if you ever realized how amazing you are, how much they value you, you’d leave them for bigger and better things.

Stop caring so much what people think. Stop letting others’ opinion of your past define who you are today & shape how you feel about yourself. You are simply amazing.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
IG: @Fuel4TheBODY

“Why do the love ones you give to the most treat you the worst?” a young woman asked me during a public speaking event.

“My mother treats her boyfriend’s kids better than she treats me. She always has, even though I was always the one to carries her up the stairs & to her room after she’d come home drunk. I clean her off & fix her up, because if her boyfriend saw her drinking, he’d yell at her.

My mother doesn’t acknowledge anything I do. I just can’t talk to her. I can’t talk to anybody. The three main people in my life who I thought were my best friends basically abandon me. Like really, I didn’t do anything & they just decided not to like me anymore. After how many years? 8? I don’t understand how I could be so foolish. The more I give to my family & friends the more they treat me like they hate me. Am I too giving? Is that possible?”

“You are not to giving, people in your life are just too selfish,” I responded.

To a user, you have no value. To another giver, you ARE appreciated. Find another you to pour your all into & they will reciprocate.

A giver never requests anything for them self. They always ask, “how can I help others feel appreciated & take their stress away?” It makes a giver so sick no one ever does the same for them. Shower them w/ care & affection.

They hurt you so badly, because your pain is their happiness. Hurting someone so badly they get suicidal thoughts gives a selfish person life. It makes them throb to know they hold your life in the palm of their hands.

I swear some blood are against you. They will speak so low about you to your face, steal from you, tell all of your business, sleep with your EXs, let money come between you, then have the blood sucking nerve to ask you,

“why are you actin brand new? Blood is thicker than water.”
No, why are you acting like a two-faced snake out for blood?
Blood doesn’t make family. Possessing the same frame of mind does. Some family are EXs. Ex-family, so make sure you X their snake ass out of your life.

Can’t spell families without LIES, because
snakes lie in the grass awaiting a way to make you their prey.

Blood doesn’t make family,
having the same vibe & frame of mind reveals who your true family is.
To hell with anyone who ever crossed you, fam or not.

Anyone who was ever close to you & took your real ness for weakness by being disloyal proves you were & are realer than they can ever hope to be.

If you have to beg someone for respect & acknowledgement & to give you what you give them, it’s an indicator they don’t deserve you. Walk away.

You are NOT your flaws mistakes or past hurt. You’re the strength & resilience you show after bouncing back from pain. Don’t let pain scorn you.

I know too many people in your life never want to notice or acknowledge all you give to them, but you DESERVE to be acknowledged & appreciated.

Stand up for yourself more. Respectfully & articulately let them know how you feel.

You have no idea how much my FAMILY means to me. I like to stay strong for them when tragedy strikes, because I know my family looks to me for strength.

I think deep about my family all the time. When I pray, it’s for loved ones alive & spirits passed on. It hurts me when they stress. Their happiness is everything to me. But I refuse to entertain the opinions blood (fake fam) have about the way I live my life.

If you only drop in my life when you need something & only follow my life through my posts & pics, you have no right to tell me how to live it.

The coldest feeling is looking around & realizing the ones you give your all to don’t got you the way you got them.

Queen, it will always get better. People lie, things fall apart. Pain heals. Scars remain forever then you realize this body is temporary & scars don’t ever wound your spirit.

“Well, I’ve never really been a happy person,” on young woman admitted.

“I’m always down or complaining about something. At a certain point I didn’t care about anything, not even myself. I contemplated suicide for two years. I’m better now. And for a few months I was actually happy. But these past couple months have been so drained. I have no self-confidence what so ever. I don’t believe people when they say they love me or care about me. I just feel so alone. And all the this time I have to myself is wasted on hating everything I am. I don’t know what to do.”

“I’m glad you never ended your life,” I told her, ” because if you did, I wouldn’t have met you. And my life would not be great, because we would miss you. See you are here not for all those selfish family who blame you for everything that foes wrong. You are here for the genuine people in this room, who extract strength & purpose from your resilience & endurance.

I know you go through a lot of b.s & pain, & people in your life don’t appreciate you & acknowledge all you give & sacrifice to trust like they should.

I know at times you feel alone, but don’t let pain mold the person you are. Don’t let sadness & hurt stop your from being happy. You are too giving & caring to everyone else to not have the genuine energy you give others reciprocated.

I know you are tired.
Tired of the pain, sadness and stress of this dark, cruel and twisted world. But you know something, happiness is the people we surround ourself with & the thoughts we hold.

I know you smile to hide your pain, so no one else can see, but I see it
I see you.
I know you got issues.
I know you got temper.
I know you got problems.
I know you are far from perfect.
But you are perfectly imperfected.
Every flaw of yours helps outline your awesomeness, because your weakness & vulnerability makes strong, genuine, kindred spirits want to help you through it.

I know how hard it is for you not to have self-confidence, & I know you feel alone. There is a reason. There is a reason you are being made to hate everything you are.

There is an energy there with you in this room right now. It’s a dark evil energy and it wants to trick you. It wants you to judge your life off of the bad things only, so that you will not stick around long enough for your BIG GREAT GRAND REWARD OF A HAPPY LIFE.
It’s close, very close.

But that evil energy wants you give up and judge your life off ONLY the pain.

Your life gives purpose.
You are inspiration.
You are strength.
And I pray that you don’t hate yourself, because then that means you hate my inspiration. I speak life for genuine spirits like you, belittled all their life by selfish family.

My life is hard too, but seeing all that you been through & all the pain you lived with, seeing you still stand helps me go on strong.

Don’t take my motivation away from me. We need you to stay strong, so we can last & make it in the crude dark world.

So what I want you to do is let tell yourself ‘I AM strength’.

“Well can I just say thank you,” she replied. “Thank you so much. I do believe that God has a plan for me. I can see it. But all this darkness has clouded it for me. Just takes a few words of wisdom from you to help me see clear into my future again.”

“You matter.
You are great.
Just because people don’t say it enough doesn’t mean it’s not true
You are so giving. So special. I’m so proud of you.

You are a princess, like Vanellepe. At the end of the movie, when she won, all the people in her life rememebred she was a royal. People in your life just have yet to remember, you are royal.”

“As your merciful queen, I here by decree that everyone who was ever mean to me shall be…. executed…haha just kidding.” – Princess Vanellope, Wreck-It-Ralph

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
IG: @Fuel4TheBODY
Blog: RealNewsPaper.wordpress.com
Motivational #SpeakLife vidoes: Youtube.com/RealNewsmagazine

I am a chef, motivational speaker, nutritionist and author, of West African Hebrew ancestry. I speak isiZulu & Swahili I’ve been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years.
Book me to speak at your unversity! Currently doing a college speaking tour on this & many topics.
For booking: AEAseem@gmail.com

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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4 Responses to Why your FAMILY treats you like they HATE you, no matter how GIVING you are

  1. CoCoJacko says:

    Feel like you read the missing pages of one of my post. Thank you for that . . . new perspective! new attitude!

  2. Lori says:

    Thank you for this message. It was right on time! You are a blessed man. Continue to walk in God’s favor! God has great plans for you, Ebrahim!

  3. heatherheeke says:

    You are amazing, inspirational and motivational…you speak from a true genuine heart…wish there were more people JUST LIKE YOU ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Christol says:

    Thank you things are clear now.

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