She’s more upset at herSELF for TRUSTING you than she is at you for breaking her trust.


What hurts her most is, she’s more upset at herself for trusting you than she is at you for breaking her trust. Her mind warned her about you.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

She’s not afraid to trust another man. No. She’s afraid to trust herself. Try to understand, she’s always been so smart. So ambitious. Chased by all the guys. So, when she chose to overlook the red flags & trust you, it took her by surprise. Look deep in her eyes, realize she sees the good in everyone else. Hoping if she loved you hard enough, you’d want better, reach your potential & change, not for her, but for your SELF. #EbrahimAseem

Sometimes a girl stays loyal despite red flags right in front of her eye, not because she doesn’t know her worth, but because she wants to prove to herself she wasn’t stupid enough to be loyal to the wrong guy. #EbrahimAseem

You can’t fool a loyal woman by playing a role. She knows if you have side chicks. She knows if you’re relationship ready. She can meet a man & know what he wants after the first conversation. Her problem is, she put all she wanted on hold for your potential. She allowed herself to drive down the one-way road of believing your empty promises, knowing damn well she saw warning signs. #EbrahimAseem

No man has the power to give her trust issues. She gave her self trust issues by ignoring her intuition, which warned her you were just like all the rest. It’s not her EXs that broke her. It’s staying too long, enduring too much, even after she felt neglected & unappreciated. #EbrahimAseem

To a woman who second guesses herself, everything with someone new will seem like a red flag until she fully heals herself from being blinded by hurt & betrayal so much, for long. #EbrahimAseem Guardedness blinds intuition. Thankfully, paranoia can’t exist where self love is crystal clear.

If you meet a genuine woman & can’t match her loyalty level, don’t interrupt her greatness by making her fall in love with your empty promises just because you want to feed her lies, sex her without commitment, than toss her to the side. #EbrahimAseem But, if your intentions are as pure as her caring heart is, reassure her:

Your flaws are not a bad thing baby. Your trust issues are not a deal breaker to me. I can not save you, fix you or repair you. How do you even repair a work of art? But only that beautiful spirit in your mirror can heal you. She is powerful. She is unstoppable. She is not some little girl in need of a man to save her. She is her own salvation.

A woman’s love is strong enough to eclipse fears, like a full moon. To rumble away any self-doubt, like an earthquake. To wipe away the stressful stains of past pain, like a thundering tornado. A woman’s love is the cure to your trust issues, so use a woman’s love on the woman in your mirror. Love you more than life, because I love you more than life.

I love you more than football sundays & fresh-cut fridays. I love you more than you love Netflix binge marathons & bottomless mimosas. You know you give me baby fever? Not merely wanting to raise a child with you, but wanting to intrinsically give birth to a thought with you. A thought that no matter what stress, fears, pain & frustration we endure, we will always have each other to depend on & lean on, forever more. #EbrahimAseem

You are the ONLY woman I want to laugh with, struggle with, succeed with, vacation with. Horseback riding & clear-water diving. You are the ONLY woman I want to introduce to my family. Cook-outs & electric slides at our wedding reception with you as my bride. #EbrahimAseem

You are the ONLY woman I want to dive deep inside. Come home from work & vent to me about your day, then I’ll flip you over, throw you in that bed & pound all your stress away. Wrap my arms around your hips, & pound that stress right out of you, then clean up any mess I made with my lips. Because you are the ONLY woman I want to taste. There are painful memories that haunt your over-thinking mind I’d love to erase. #EbrahimAseem

I know you have regrets & anxieties that keep you up at night. Lay all those burdens on my shoulders & watch me carry them out of your sight. I will destroy your wall with all of my might. Your demons I will fight. Love letters on all the pages of your mind my lips will write. You are the greatest blessing I’ve ever had in my life. The vision of you being my only love will never leave my sight. #EbrahimAseem

As much as I love you, I want you to love you more, because the love of my life deserves to be loved by these four:
the most powerful artist in the universe who made you – my work of art,
the beautiful child we make together,
me – your rock – your husband – your number one supporter,
and you my love – who I will love forever. Love yourself baby, love you as much as you want me to love you, and I will match that love, until we spend eternity forever in heaven above. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Instagram: @Fuel4TheBODY
Twitter: @EbrahimAseem

I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of men at universities & corporations worldwide.

About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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4 Responses to She’s more upset at herSELF for TRUSTING you than she is at you for breaking her trust.

  1. Melanie says:

    I………am absolutely….jaw dropping, heart soothing…..speechless!!! Wow how did you put in writing my sentiments?? While…comforting me so…with written words??? Amazing!! You are a gift to us…!

  2. Monique says:

    Wow… Your words are amazing and truly inspirational. It means a lot coming from you because it’s hard to believe men like you still exist. It gives women hope that there are good men out there.

  3. Erika says:

    Whew!! I can’t wait to meet the man who loves me more than me!! Godarn this article, the author of this article…fantastic!!

  4. lovelyt26 says:

    Beautiful post my brother

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