The ignorance people have of Jada Pinkett Smith’s ‘always walk three steps behind your king’ theory, is people ignore when she says, “If I stand beside my king, I can ONLY focus on what’s ahead.” Jada’s words are wisdom.
Some women only focus on ‘what’s ahead’, ‘standing beside’ his potential. They ignore the red flags they see, inconsistency he shows, his lies & her intuition. #EbrahimAseem
His EX is still texting him. He walks in the other room, blushing when on the phone with his child’s mother. He’s more romantic & flirtatious with half-naked Instamodels than he ever is with you. You don’t hear from him days at a time, but your focus is on “what’s ahead”. When will girls learn, complacency has NO potential. How inconsistent a man treats you now is how he will treat you down the line. #EbrahimAseem
Girls will see red flags & stay years waiting on a man to reach potential. Stop being more loyal to his empty promises than you are to your intuition. #EbrahimAseem
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Jada ‘walking three steps behind him’, is not submissiveness nor servitude. It is a metaphor for observing a man’s actions, consistency, ability to lead himself & potential red flags, BEFORE shifting your eyes to his great potential. Stop walking “side by side” with inconsistency. #EbrahimAseem
Jada trusts her king so much, ONLY because she trusts her discernment in her choices. A virtuous woman is submissive to her intuition. She’s more obedient to her standards than she is to a narcissistic man. #EbrahimAseem
Some independent women may cringe when wife caliber women use “king” to refer to a man. Independent women don’t need a man. They have their own. Pay their own way. Good for them, and their 57 cats.
There is no self-love in being an independent woman or man. Being SELF DEPENDENT promotes growth. Whereas (i)ndependent “i” represents the physical body. “Self” is the spirit you are inside the body. #EbrahimAseem
We need people. Our grandma’s hug. Our bosses check. The millions of farmers who grow the food we eat. Just because you’ve always HAD to depend on you, because no one else was there, doesn’t mean you have to do everything independently forever.
I pray I’m blessed to marry a self-dependent woman who’s not too “independent” to let me love her & provide for us. When did it become bad to need someone? Just because you make your own money does not mean you don’t need company. Companionship. Reassurance. Affection. Someone to make you laugh. Take the edge off your stressful life. #EbrahimAseem
You deserve someone who will just listen. Not judge you. Not try to “fix” you, because you aren’t broken. Having a man does not define you as a woman. You don’t have to submit yourself to an inconsistent man. You don’t have to bow down & worship a man to be his wife. #EbrahimAseem
A wife isn’t a woman who just cooks, cleans & obeys her husband. A “wife” is a woman married to her ambitions. In mental matrimony with her mind. Submissive to her integrity & loyal to her grind. If we can’t support her self love, we don’t deserve her. #EbrahimAseem
The reason she doesn’t submit to you is, because she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can’t even lead yourself. It’s not a woman’s job to trust & be loyal to a man, just because he can throw it down in bed. It’s our job as men to show a woman with consistent actions & leadership ability why we deserve her loyalty. #EbrahimAseem
She’s loyal, not stupid. What complacent males don’t realize is, once a loyal woman realizes we don’t support her, value her & give our all to her like she does to us, she’s gone.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of men at universities & corporations worldwide.
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This is why no man should "date" a single mother, MARRY that single mother, make your intentions with her known by courting her, or don’t even waste her time. #EbrahimAseem If you’re not ready to faithfully commit to her, by all means, keep your substance-lacking side pieces & keep playing, but be honest with her. Don’t act interested, get her pregnant, then leave her to raise a child alone. #EbrahimAseem Don't hold back her blessings, playing a role another man is meant to have in her life, by making her his wife. #EbrahimAseem Don’t string any woman along, planting feelings in her heart & empty promises in her mind, when you know damn well you don’t see her in your #Future. #EbrahimAseem Don’t demand her loyalty without offering her commitment, because her loyalty is to her child. A woman & her child are a package deal. If you date a single mother & her child gets attached to you, then you leave, it will crush that child. It will give that child abandonment issues lasting a lifetime, effecting their future relationships. #EbrahimAseem I will make a woman a wife before I make her a mother, because my mother raised a future husband & father, not a future baby daddy. #EbrahimAseem Link to this full 2 million views article in my bio. Read it ASAP! #Ciara #RussellWilson
To all the Beautiful spirited Single Women I want you to remember, you are WIFE material. Just because you’ve made the mistake of giving your heart to weak-minded males in your past over & over who have chewed it up, spit it out, broke your trust & trampled over your loyalty: it does not change the fact you are wife material, remember that. #EbrahimAseem Stay focused bettering yourself, hustling for your career path, fueling your ambitions & stacking for your future. Be patient. You will mos def be blessed with a Strong, Tall, spiritual, faithful, humorous, affectionate, Handsome Man of valor, who will place a ring on your finger & make you the wife you deserve to be. #EbrahimAseem I pray you have a great day as beautiful as your giving spirit is deep inside Ms. Future Bride. I wake up at 4am daily, work at 5am, 12hour shift as a chef, M-Th, #SpeakLife motivational speaking on the weekends grinding for my future. I want a wife & children, so I'm stacking for them now, married toy purpose so when it's time, I will be ready. #EbrahimAseem This is your #GMText
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I want a deep thinking woman who loves a man so much, she will tell him when he's wrong to his face, because she loves his soul & wants to help mature & elevate his mind. #EbrahimAseem I will tell her, "Make no mistake, I want you for your mind. Sit your deep thinking thoughts on me & watch me devour your pearls of wisdom as they drip off your lips, 💦 then I will feed you my DEEP food for thought." #EbrahimAseem I will wife her. Just like my two mentors did when they met the women of their dreams. 💍👰🏿#HusbandGoals #MyWholeSquadGotWives
I know my wife is out there somewhere, as creative as me, as inappropriatly goofy as me, as health conscious, athletic, intelligent & spiritual as me, loves children like me & abstinent while single until marriage just like me. 💍👰🏿💒 #EbrahimAseem I know she wants me to be preparing for her right now, not behaving like a male whore while single, sleeping with every girl on Instagram & Snap Chat. #EbrahimAseem My sisters taught me to be LOYAL to my wife even before we meet. So I won't waste her time stringing her along. I will court her, marry her & daily reassure her I want only her for infinity forevers. I want the same for all the 1000s of young men I #SpeakLife into every week. There are millions of good men like us bro & we deserve to be husbands & fathers, not baby daddies. #EbrahimAseem #AtWorkCooking #SeafoodPasta #12HourShift #BowTieChef 🍤🍝🍴
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