The ignorance of Jada’s “walk 3 Steps BEHIND your king” theory.


The ignorance people have of Jada Pinkett Smith’s ‘always walk three steps behind your king’ theory, is people ignore when she says, “If I stand beside my king, I can ONLY focus on what’s ahead.” Jada’s words are wisdom.

Some women only focus on ‘what’s ahead’, ‘standing beside’ his potential. They ignore the red flags they see, inconsistency he shows, his lies & her intuition. #EbrahimAseem

His EX is still texting him. He walks in the other room, blushing when on the phone with his child’s mother. He’s more romantic & flirtatious with half-naked Instamodels than he ever is with you. You don’t hear from him days at a time, but your focus is on “what’s ahead”. When will girls learn, complacency has NO potential. How inconsistent a man treats you now is how he will treat you down the line. #EbrahimAseem

Girls will see red flags & stay years waiting on a man to reach potential. Stop being more loyal to his empty promises than you are to your intuition. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Jada ‘walking three steps behind him’, is not submissiveness nor servitude. It is a metaphor for observing a man’s actions, consistency, ability to lead himself & potential red flags, BEFORE shifting your eyes to his great potential. Stop walking “side by side” with inconsistency. #EbrahimAseem

Jada trusts her king so much, ONLY because she trusts her discernment in her choices. A virtuous woman is submissive to her intuition. She’s more obedient to her standards than she is to a narcissistic man. #EbrahimAseem

Some independent women may cringe when wife caliber women use “king” to refer to a man. Independent women don’t need a man. They have their own. Pay their own way. Good for them, and their 57 cats.

There is no self-love in being an independent woman or man. Being SELF DEPENDENT promotes growth. Whereas (i)ndependent “i” represents the physical body. “Self” is the spirit you are inside the body. #EbrahimAseem

We need people. Our grandma’s hug. Our bosses check. The millions of farmers who grow the food we eat. Just because you’ve always HAD to depend on you, because no one else was there, doesn’t mean you have to do everything independently forever.

I pray I’m blessed to marry a self-dependent woman who’s not too “independent” to let me love her & provide for us. When did it become bad to need someone? Just because you make your own money does not mean you don’t need company. Companionship. Reassurance. Affection. Someone to make you laugh. Take the edge off your stressful life. #EbrahimAseem

You deserve someone who will just listen. Not judge you. Not try to “fix” you, because you aren’t broken. Having a man does not define you as a woman. You don’t have to submit yourself to an inconsistent man. You don’t have to bow down & worship a man to be his wife. #EbrahimAseem

A wife isn’t a woman who just cooks, cleans & obeys her husband. A “wife” is a woman married to her ambitions. In mental matrimony with her mind. Submissive to her integrity & loyal to her grind. If we can’t support her self love, we don’t deserve her. #EbrahimAseem

The reason she doesn’t submit to you is, because she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can’t even lead yourself. It’s not a woman’s job to trust & be loyal to a man, just because he can throw it down in bed. It’s our job as men to show a woman with consistent actions & leadership ability why we deserve her loyalty. #EbrahimAseem

She’s loyal, not stupid. What complacent males don’t realize is, once a loyal woman realizes we don’t support her, value her & give our all to her like she does to us, she’s gone.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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7 Responses to The ignorance of Jada’s “walk 3 Steps BEHIND your king” theory.

  1. Catriona Mumuli says:

    This is very inspiring, I almost cried while reading it. Women oftentimes go through alot and keep on making the same mistakes, rushing in to another relationship without trying to understand what went wrong with the other one. I liked the part you said you should better yourself as you wait for the right one, my sentiments exactly.

  2. Lorraine Kadima says:

    Thank you so much for your words. You have inspired many through your gifts. I thank you especially during this tough time for me that your words has kept me up. I pray that the Lord continues to use you to inspire many. God bless you.

  3. koriwinters says:

    THANK YOU!!!!!

  4. Jasmine says:

    Interesting read. I wrote an article about what being an “independent” woman really means and I definitely agree with some of your points. Kudos.

  5. riversandroses says:

    Reblogged this on RIVERS et ROSES and commented:
    Hey ladies, this is a very insightful article that I think you will enjoy. Please take peak.

    Thanks for sharing

  6. kirsha says:

    On point thank you for reminding us woman both single and involved that we are worth a whole lot more than we received most of the times. But we should strive for the best both within our selves and the man we get involve with.
    Thank you.

  7. Malena says:

    Hi, I have been trying to reach you for a while now, I was wondering when is your next upcoming event?

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