75% of my readers are men. One said, “Ebrahim, I’ve found too many single mothers want me to make her and her kids my FIRST priority while I am to be her LAST priority. I’m expected to pay for everything for her kids by another man. This is why real men should stay away from single mothers. They expect us men to put up with extra crap & still be last in line. Where is the return on our investment in the relationship?”
My response: “A woman who puts her child first over me, makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. If you’re not her husband, you don’t come before her child. #EbrahimAseem That’s why
I’d marry a woman with children. She’s not a burden. She’s a blessing. #EbrahimAseem Bro, if you don’t want to commit to a single mother, cool. Keep “talking” to the girls you prefer. I sincerely pray that works for you. But don’t knock a man like me, willing to pour love into a woman & her child. #EbrahimAseem
Her son needs love & leadership from a man, so he won’t grow up to neglect his responsibilities & choose to be a baby daddy. If his father isn’t man enough to raise & teach him how to be a man, I will. #EbrahimAseem Her daughter needs to see a man court, commit to, provide for & respect her mother, so she won’t think she has to settle to keep a man. If her father isn’t man enough to be a provider for her mother, I will. #EbrahimAseem
Dating a single mother will NEVER last long. Once you see how much she can love, give & cater to her child, you will want to wife her ASAP. #EbrahimAseem
Asking these “my child is my world” single mothers on one date is a mistake. She will flake. Be patient. Keep asking her out, so she knows her child isn’t a deal breaker & she isn’t a flaker. All the love she gives her child, she will shower you with, if you’ll just wait a while. #EbrahimAseem
“Dating” a single mother is a waste of time. Her baby daddy will remain in the picture & on her mind. She doesn’t want him back. She only stays in touch, so her child will know their father loves them very much. #EbrahimAseem A woman who puts her precious child’s needs over her own deserves a diamond engagement ring cut from the most precious stone.
These single mothers don’t know how to put a man first, cook for, cater to & treat him like a king. Because she doesn’t give men husband privileges until he gives her a ring. #EbrahimAseem
Courting a single mother is terribly hard. She’ll flake & cancel dates. Short text & not reply. Have no time for putting you first. Be patient with her. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than the date you want to take her on. Pay her babysitter. Take her on a date. It’s not about money. Spoil her with your time to let her know you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem”
By: Ebrahim AseemFollow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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Omg. I loved it. Thank you for your eloquence of a taboo topic ❤️
This made me smile. Thank you for the beautiful article #Hopeful
My mom was a single mother and I really appreciated this article. My step dad came into the picture and always understood that the kids were mommas first priority. Now all the kids are gone and my parents got their dream house in a secluded area hanging out by themselves together.
As a once single mom with a single child, this article describes what I went through before I “found” my husband. We now have extra children and a loving relationship. I couldn’t have asked for a better man to be my son’s step-dad and father to our own son and 2 daughters. Thank you for putting this out there for other men who are afraid of dating a woman with a child/ren, its a powerful message.