75% of my readers are men. One said, “Ebrahim, I’ve found too many single mothers want me to make her and her kids my FIRST priority while I am to be her LAST priority. I’m expected to pay for everything for her kids by another man. This is why real men should stay away from single mothers. They expect us men to put up with extra crap & still be last in line. Where is the return on our investment in the relationship?”
My response: “A woman who puts her child first over me, makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. If you’re not her husband, you don’t come before her child. #EbrahimAseem That’s why
I’d marry a woman with children. She’s not a burden. She’s a blessing. #EbrahimAseem Bro, if you don’t want to commit to a single mother, cool. Keep “talking” to the girls you prefer. I sincerely pray that works for you. But don’t knock a man like me, willing to pour love into a woman & her child. #EbrahimAseem
Her son needs love & leadership from a man, so he won’t grow up to neglect his responsibilities & choose to be a baby daddy. If his father isn’t man enough to raise & teach him how to be a man, I will. #EbrahimAseem Her daughter needs to see a man court, commit to, provide for & respect her mother, so she won’t think she has to settle to keep a man. If her father isn’t man enough to be a provider for her mother, I will. #EbrahimAseem
Dating a single mother will NEVER last long. Once you see how much she can love, give & cater to her child, you will want to wife her ASAP. #EbrahimAseem
Asking these “my child is my world” single mothers on one date is a mistake. She will flake. Be patient. Keep asking her out, so she knows her child isn’t a deal breaker & she isn’t a flaker. All the love she gives her child, she will shower you with, if you’ll just wait a while. #EbrahimAseem
“Dating” a single mother is a waste of time. Her baby daddy will remain in the picture & on her mind. She doesn’t want him back. She only stays in touch, so her child will know their father loves them very much. #EbrahimAseem A woman who puts her precious child’s needs over her own deserves a diamond engagement ring cut from the most precious stone.
These single mothers don’t know how to put a man first, cook for, cater to & treat him like a king. Because she doesn’t give men husband privileges until he gives her a ring. #EbrahimAseem
Courting a single mother is terribly hard. She’ll flake & cancel dates. Short text & not reply. Have no time for putting you first. Be patient with her. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than the date you want to take her on. Pay her babysitter. Take her on a date. It’s not about money. Spoil her with your time to let her know you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem”
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide.
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This is why no man should "date" a single mother, MARRY that single mother, make your intentions with her known by courting her, or don’t even waste her time. #EbrahimAseem If you’re not ready to faithfully commit to her, by all means, keep your substance-lacking side pieces & keep playing, but be honest with her. Don’t act interested, get her pregnant, then leave her to raise a child alone. #EbrahimAseem Don't hold back her blessings, playing a role another man is meant to have in her life, by making her his wife. #EbrahimAseem Don’t string any woman along, planting feelings in her heart & empty promises in her mind, when you know damn well you don’t see her in your #Future. #EbrahimAseem Don’t demand her loyalty without offering her commitment, because her loyalty is to her child. A woman & her child are a package deal. If you date a single mother & her child gets attached to you, then you leave, it will crush that child. It will give that child abandonment issues lasting a lifetime, effecting their future relationships. #EbrahimAseem I will make a woman a wife before I make her a mother, because my mother raised a future husband & father, not a future baby daddy. #EbrahimAseem Link to this full 2 million views article in my bio. Read it ASAP! #Ciara #RussellWilson
#FatherhoodGoals I really want a son & daughter. Not right NOW. I want to be extremely financially set before I bring life in this world. But, I have thoughts on manhood I was taught by men in my culture I'd love to share w/ a son, teach him how to be strong & confident, never dependent on, live off or control a female, self sufficient. #EbrahimAseem Shower my daughter with love, so she doesn't look for love in every man she meets. Encourage my children to pursue their dreams, support their choices. Never belittling or making them feel like a failure. #EbrahimAseem I want to raise a son to be ambitious, resilient, not make excuses, teach him not to blame people for his life, play football, hoops & exercising w/ him, be goofy with him, b/c he shares my humor. #EbrahimAseem I will never judge my child & make them feel less of a man for his choices. It is not parents' job to judge their child, only support & build them up. I want to raise a son to respect women. I don't want my son to base how he treats women on how males look at him. I want to teach him showing a woman you love her is NOT being a simp, it's being a strong man. #EbrahimAseem I want to teach my son to be a loyal man, not a hoe male. I don't want him getting multiple women pregnant, leaving the mother to raise the child by herself. I want him to make a woman a wife before he makes her a mother. I want to raise a future husband, not a future baby daddy. #EbrahimAseem More than anything, I want to teach my son to be humble w/o ego, pride & arrogance. I'm just a flawed man who has made mistakes in this dream called life, but REFUSES not to learn from them. I refuse to repeat mistakes. #EbrahimAseem I refuse to be a weak male, who blames women for everything. I refuse to be a player, womanizer or baby daddy. I refuse to put my hands on a woman, use, rape or break a woman like many males. #EbrahimAseem I'm not a profit, I'm an example real men who value women exist & I'm tired of us being seen as dogs. I want to be a living example of the man I want my daughter to marry. Bless me with a woman who can see the leader in me. I don't want a bad bitch. I want a sweet woman. #HusbandGoalsEbrahimAseem
The reason she doesn’t submit to you is, she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can’t even lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem Be consistent. Speak w/ actions. Stop trying to control a woman or calling her "smart mouthed." If you're a woman who respectfully speaks your mind, know you're so intimidating to an insecure boy & so attractive to a confident man. But queen, YOU define your worth, not a man. #EbrahimAseem Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self love. #EbrahimAseem But complacency has no potential. It's not your job to teach a boy how to be a man, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. Don't get being his woman confused with "being his mother". #EbrahimAseem Some of y'all adopting grown ass men. Instagram: @Fuel4TheBody
I had teachers tell me I'd never speak & write well. Friends say, "stop respecting women just for likes". Now those same people who doubted me have relatives telling them my words & articles healed them, or made them not want to kill their self anymore. #EbrahimAseem Never let anyone speak doubt into your dreams. You were sent here for a grand purpose. #EbrahimAseem Not for fame, not to make money or a name. But, to save souls. I am nothing. But the one who created me is everything. & everything I know I learned from greater men than me in my west African Hebrew Culture. #SpeakingLife into 145 college freshmen. Random: I get my red facial her from my nana who was Black with Caribbean ancestors.