If he cheated, you should’ve loved him HARDER.


If he’s flirting with Instamodels, get your hair & nails done. Do squats. Dress sexy. Stop letting yourself go.

If he never makes time for you, you’re too clingy. Let him breathe. Stop being over emotional, scaring him off.

If he cheated on you, you should have loved him harder. He wouldn’t feel the need to cheat if you were doing your job, fighting for him. These are the poisonous lies we teach our daughters by telling them to “love him harder” whenever he displays disloyalty.

Loving an inconsistent man harder will not help him reach potential. It will make you procrastinate on reaching your own. #EbrahimAseem Stop giving up your goals for him.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

You used to be so ambitious. So driven. Until you met a man with “potential” who made you neglect your own? #EbrahimAseem That is not “loyalty”. That is disloyalty to your self love.

Girls: “why can’t guys be loyal in relationships?” You’re not even loyalty to your own worth & intuition, which warned you not to entertain him. #EbrahimAseem

Prioritizing staying loyal to a man over staying loyal to her goals, first mind & self love is taught to girls from childhood, phrased as “loyalty.” Let’s

Who you give loyalty to is who you become. Evil communication corrupts good fruit. Stop being loyal to someone who’s not a living example of the light you want to become. #EbrahimAseem They extract your energy, to fuel their existence, while draining all your powers meant for your purpose.

Some of these girls asking “where are the loyal men?” have never even required a man to taken her out, or be consistent with actions before giving him her all. He didn’t “cheat” on you if he never even committed to you. You just loved him more than you love you. #EbrahimAseem Some of these girls are in a relationship with their feelings.

Deep girls stay loyal to inconsistent men who don’t promote her spiritual growth, then question loyalty & love. Be more loyal to your SELF love than you are to potential he never reaches. #EbrahimAseem

Let’s stop teaching our daughters to study hard for the degree, do squats for the booty, work hard for the money, all to attract a better man. A woman doesn’t need the love of a man to complete her. #EbrahimAseem Knowing her self loving worth does that.

Girls stay loyal to inconsistent boys they see no future with because she seeks stability. She’d rather stay until he messes up, than give up. #EbrahimAseem Sadly, this lack of self worth scares away men who can promote her growth.

If he cared, he’d reach out first, make time without being told, & take you out on a planned, paid for date. #EbrahimAseem Stop being more loyal to his potential than you are to your self worth.

As men we must realize, a genuine woman with trust issues is not always crazy, rude, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She’s just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem

You don’t know if growing up her mother treated her like crap & put men over her own daughter. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditinsl love, always putting her down, calling her names.

You don’t know if family & friends she trusted, stabbed her in the back, let money come between them & proved to be disloyal. #EbrahimAseem You don’t know how hard it is for her to met a guy, fall in love, finally trust him, only to get her heart shattered to pieces. #EbrahimAseem Then, have to pick up all those pieces & put herself back together, alone, no help. Only to met a guy again & go through the same b.s. over & over like a never ending nightmare.

Just things my sisters taught me, which is why I don’t mind putting in time, patience & consistency to earn a sweet woman’s heart. #EbrahimAseem

Court her, commit, then get down on one knee & tell her this

You are my dream come true. My happily ever after. Where would I be without you? I love more than my lungs love breathing air. Not just because of all you do. All you give & all you share. #EbrahimAseem I love you because you promote my growth. The love I have for myself is what matters to you most.

You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take out on a date. Show off around town. Go for a slow walk with by the lake. #EbrahimAseem You are the only woman who can arouse my mind, and throb my head. You’re the only woman I want to devour in bed.

You’re the only woman I can be goofy with, sing along to 90s R&B with as we laugh & ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because without you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far.

The first woman I ever seen was the sweetest woman I ever known. My mother. And when it comes to making one woman her daughter-in-law, my love, I can think of none other, than you.

You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heartbeat want to kiss the soft sand that is your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled with hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, I am willing to endure all the pain, destroy all your demons, break down every last wall that houses your trust issues, because only you mean that much.

I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you are inside & out, and as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen. #EbrahimAseem After all, he will be raised by one.

Thank you for sticking by me through all the arguments & mistakes. I will consistently use my actions to say, I will never turn away. No other woman can take your place. #EbrahimAseem

I want trips overseas with only you. I want to get on one knee for only you. I want to spiritually grow with only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I will place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, after I, with tears in my eyes, look the best thing that ever happened to me deep in your eyes and say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. And I want you to daily uplift you, so you always love you too. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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1 Response to If he cheated, you should’ve loved him HARDER.

  1. caseyanneb says:

    Great post – I connected with this one.

    Casey-Anne Bradfield


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