Man challenge. #CourtHer #GenuineWomenOnly You don't want to date me. I don't text for months w/ no intentions. I like conversing about growth & building a future. #EbrahimAseem I don't Netflix & chill. I take you on a date so you know it's real. I don't ask for sexy pics. I long kiss, play in your hair, massage & smack your derrière. I don't talk. I court. I want a future. I want forever w/ one. If you only want a bae, I'm not for you. #EbrahimAseem I don't care if you got curves, if I can't take you out, pay the bill & court you, get your fine, "talkingship" ass away from me. Speaking life to a group of 415 college men. #12yrMaleMenor
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Don’t ask, “where you wanna go?” Plan, pay & pick events. Say, “I’d love to take you out on a date. Live music. Food. Converse. What time can I pick you up?” Don’t say “Slide through bruh” No, pick her up. & stop calling a woman “bruh, bro or nigga”. Treat her like a woman, not ya bro. Show effort. Court her.
We think the most beautiful, successful women have all these hoes, when many have never even been taken out on a planned, paid for date.
This is how to court a genuine woman:
I met this tall, curvy, Bohemian woman at spoken word nite. Brows on point. Afro on Badu. Body on Beyoncé. When I saw her dark brown, 5’11” frame trying on bracelets, I just had to approach.
“Excuse me, but I just had to let you know, your natural hair is beautiful, do you style it yourself?” I asked her with a smile & an extended hand.
I’ve learned, approaching a woman by saying ‘excuse me’ allows you to get her attention, while showing respect for her. She may be in deep thought, depressed, on her cycle or just doesn’t feel like being approached. Being respectful when approaching a woman can be the difference between getting her 7-digits in your phone, or getting her 5-fingers slapped across your face.
“Thank you, yes I do,” she replied with a thick Caribbean accent & a hint of sass, shaking my hand. “And how do you know my hair is natural?”
“Really?” I replied with a laugh. “You’re out here smelling like cocoa butter & coconuts & you’re gonna ask me how I know your hair is natural? Of course I was gonna know your hair is natural.”
She laughed so hard she had to cover her mouth. Bruh. You know a woman is feeling you, when your laughgasm-game is so on point, she has to cover her smile. That’s how you KNOW you’re in. A woman knows within the first five seconds of meeting you if she’d give you her number, date you or sex you. All you have to do is stay confident, funny & don’t blow it!
We exchanged names & numbers, before departing. I called her that day & invited her out on a date to The Weeknd concert that weekend after dinner. Based off how sweet she was to me, I figured if everything went well, a couple dates later, I’d be willing to court her.
There’s no “talking” or “Bae” option on a job application.
#1 Take multiple women out on dates to see which one you have the most chemistry with.
#2 Court ONE woman by taking her on dates exclusively, to see compatibility. Ask yourself: do we have similar values? Compatible views on: politics, spirituality, sex, raising children? Is she calm, or does she get irritated fast? Could I see myself raising a child with her?
Take her out on a date. Plan it & pay. Fill up her tank. Pay for her baby sitter. Buy her groceries. Be her stability but only if she reciprocates all you give.
#4 Propose. People get divorced because they didn’t use engagement to see a person’s consistency. People don’t switch up. They play a role until they get what they want from you.
#5 Marry her. Marry your commitment to her loyalty. To me a ring doesn’t make me married to a woman. If I can’t yoke my spirit to hers & wrap my consistent around her heart like a ring around her finger, it’s not true marriage.
When I told that Bohemian beauty about The Weeknd concert tickets I bought us, she lost her shit. Start calling me “babe” started using the diamond ring emoji, making plans for a future. But when I told her I don’t have sex outside of relationships, she stopped texting me back & started flaking on our date. Always tell all your flaws & requirements from jump. It will help you weed out the ones who aren’t for you.
Women being attracted to spiritual men who are abstinent until marriage is coming back in style soon. I can feel it. #EbrahimAseem
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide.
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