If he wanted you, he’d make time w/o you begging. He sees no future with you.


If you beg a busy man for time & effort, & he keeps neglecting you, woman the hell up & apologize… …to your SELF for settling for an inconsistent boy.

If he wanted you, he’d make time for you w/o you having to ask. Stop being in a relationship with your feelings while he’s in your friends DMs. #EbrahimAseem The girl we ignore is the one we can’t see a future with. We’re not too busy.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of, “Why Men commit to the girl after the one who invested in his potential”

I cook a 12 hour shift, speak life into men worldwide, teach children in my culture isiZulu & still find time to take the woman I’m courting out on dates, give effort, time & attention, cuddle her, pray with her & hear her vent, then reassure her she’s everything life has to offer whenever I’m taken. #EbrahimAseem

Boys text. Men call, take you on dates & make time without being told. If he’s local & only texts you, he’s “talking” to multiple women. #EbrahimAseem If a man doesn’t claim you or make time, he doesn’t see a future with you.

The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent male know she will stay waiting for him to reach potential he doesn’t have. Stop being “loyal” to complacency. #EbrahimAseem That’s the quickest route to becoming his side chick.

Insecure men side chick loyal women to build his confidence from the ashes of her brokenness. #EbrahimAseem Making her lose her standards & fall for him fills the inadequacy of a weak male’s low self esteem.

Sex without love does nothing for a genuine man. He doesn’t need side chicks, sexing every girl online, nor approval from other men to be a man.

That man who takes you on dates, showers you with time & affection, yet still claims he doesn’t want anything serious, he isn’t being a “player” he’s being honest. #EbrahimAseem Stop trying to change every man you meet. If you can mold a man into being what you want, he’s not a man.

I’ll teach my daughter time, effort & consistency aren’t things to beg a man for, but standards you have before ever allowing him in your life, & her self love means more than his love. #EbrahimAseem

Queen, you’ll know a man is only yours when you won’t have to beg him for time. He will highlight your strengths & make your stress decline. Don’t forget to love yourself with the same love your heart gives mine. #EbrahimAseem

I want to be the reason you smile so bright, dark thoughts can’t hide in your beautiful mind. I want to make you glow so much, people notice growth in you. Until the shine of your smile eclipses all your trust issues. I want to be your peace. #EbrahimAseem

Men, let’s stop starving these supporter women of effort. She will be guarded. Distant. Difficult. Say she needs more time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. Cry for no reason, feel so broken & not know what the hell she wants. Don’t give up on her. #EbrahimAseem Don’t you make her feel she isn’t enough. Love her consistently, never throw her past in her face. Destroy her demons & trust issues. Bring her closer to her self love & the reward will be her heart.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.

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A Genuine woman w/ trust issues isn't crazy, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She's just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem You don't know if growing up mom treated her like crap & put men over her. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditional love, always putting her down, calling her names. Court her, propose & tell her this You're my dream come true. Where would I be w/o you? I love you more than lungs love breathing air. Not just b/c all you do, give & share. #EbrahimAseem You promote my growth. The love I have for myselfmatters to you most. You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take on a date. Go for a walk w/ by the lake. #EbrahimAseem The only one who can arouse my mind, & throb my head. The only one I want to devour in bed. You’re the only one I can be goofy w/, sing along to 90s R&B w/ as we ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because w/o you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far. You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heart kiss the soft sand of your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled w/ hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, Im willing to endure all pain, destroy all your demons, break down every wall that houses your trust issues, b/c only you mean that much. I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you inside & out, & as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen like you. #EbrahimAseem Thank you for sticking by me thru arguments & mistakes. I'll never turn away. No one can take your place. #EbrahimAseem I want trips overseas w/ you. To get on one knee for you. To spiritually grow w/ only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I'll place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, with tears in eyes, look you deep in your eyes & say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. & I want you to daily uplift you, so you'll always love you too. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to 250 college men today! #12YearMaleMentor #EbrahimAseemSelfie

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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2 Responses to If he wanted you, he’d make time w/o you begging. He sees no future with you.

  1. lovelyt26 says:

    That was amazing. I love the way you tell the truth, yet, you uplift women all at the same. GOD has used you to speak to women to really know their worth. That we don’t have to put up with inconsistency and to know it’s okay to walk away from a toxic relationship which isn’t requiring you to grow at all. Keep up the great work my brother and GOD bless.

  2. Layla says:

    I felt a painful sting while reading this. It hits so close to home for me. That kind of rejection hurts especially when all you want to do is love and be loved. Thanks for the message, it’s definitely time for me to pick up the pieces and move on.

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