For years you gave him your all stayed loyal, bringing out his potential, only for him to break up with you & snatch the world from under your feet. So why does he want to keep you around, texting you & acting jealous when HE is the one who ended it? Because he’s using you to learn from you & better himself for the side chick or next woman he mets after you who will reap all the benefits of the man you molded him to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem
Once a man breaks it off with you, he can never love you again, nor look at you the sane way. In his mind you’re damaged goods, but he knows you still have feelings for you. So he wants to use your feelings to strike his ego & make up for the inadequate way he feels about his life, his career, his education or his living situation. He does this so you’re attention can build him back up & he can have the courage to pursue a new woman who knows nothing about all the mistakes he’s made & flaws he overcame like you do.
Nurturing a man’s potential makes him resist your help out of resentment. No man wants to be babied. #EbrahimAseem The same man who withheld patience, affection, providing & commitment from you will use all that advice you taught him on the next woman.
Nurturing an unequally yoked man is unattractive to him. It makes him feel he’s not good enough for you. You can cook, clean, sex him good & be patient with his mistakes, and he will still break up with you or cheat on you, to convince his inadequate mind he’s in higher demand than you. #EbrahimAseem
This is why inadequate men chase the bad bitch fantasy girl who looks nothing like you. To bring your confidence down to his low-level, so you’ll feel as inadequate as you make him feel by loyally nurturing potential he never shows. #EbrahimAseem He will view you as his mother, pouring time & affection into side chicks. All the while, using you to reach his potential for the next woman after you.
Men don’t neglect who they see a future with. If he’s not making time & effort without you having to ask, he’s using your ‘investment in his potential’ as practice for the next woman he really wants after you. #EbrahimAseem
Men want a woman who sees him as a leader, not a boy she needs to tell what to do. If he’s not a consistent leader, why are you settling for him?
You never realize how much affection, patience & respect you deserve, #EbrahimAseem until you finally walk away from the selfish, loyal user you were settling for.
Queen, it’s not your job as a woman teach your man how to be one, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. #EbrahimAseem Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop reading grown ass men.
A woman who loves herself fully won’t settle for half-ass effort, half-ass time & half-ass relationships. #EbrahimAseem
If you have to tell him what to do he’s not for you. Walk away before he uses you to learn how to attract the woman he really likes. #EbrahimAseem
Girls will see red flags, yet stay years waiting for a guy to reach potential. Fear of seeing him reach his potential with a woman he chose after she invested all of those years keeps her loyal to his complacency. #EbrahimAseem
Stop molding him into a man for the next woman.
Girls will ‘give their all’ stressing over pain to fix a broken man with potential, instead of just choosing the loyal, equally yoked, handsome man she wanted in the first place. #EbrahimAseem There is nothing wrong with you. You are not to giving, too nice or too nurturing.
I want a nurturing woman. Who’s sweet, affectionate & likes to cuddle pinch my cheeks, rub my beard, rub her feet on my leg, poke me in my arm repeatedly, only so I’ll grab her & tickle her until her pretty, bright smile shines like the midnight moon. #EbrahimAseem
I want a woman who cares so much, about animals, nature life, who will treat my dog like she’s her own child. Who I can surprise at work with 1-800 Flowers & chocolate & she won’t think it’s corny. #EbrahimAseem A woman I can take to the beach at night & gaze at the stars with, while I rub her feet & recite poetry to her.
I want an intelligent, nerdy women who likes random facts, animal planet & the universe. I want a deep thinking woman who likes to converse. #EbrahimAseem I want a sweet woman who likes home decor & picking out patterns for my living room.
Let’s have a mall date, I’ll take your pretty ass to Sephora for an hour-long shopping spree. You can get whatever you like on me get pretty for our dinner & opera date that night. #EbrahimAseem
I want a sweet girl I can take to a Jill Scott concert, a comedy show, to hear live jazz. #EbrahimAseem Let’s have bbq lunches in the park & dates to the zoo. I’m kid at heart. I want to wife a Woman who’d let me bring my little niece on a date WITH us to the aquarium, paintballing, or the park for a water balloon & water gun fight. #EbrahimAseem I love to laugh & have fun & I need that in a Woman.
I want a sweet girl with an old soul who has so much love & affection to give. I have dated the self proclaimed “bad bitch” before, & I must confess, their pretty, sexy, fine, curvy asses bored the hell out of me. #EbrahimAseem Silly, goofy, sweet, corny, nerdy, healthy, home designing, wedding shower planning, baby fever having women are everything life has to offer.
I want to reach my potential before I meet my wife. She won’t have to teach me how to be a man, that was my father’s job. #EbrahimAseem
I just want to give her two rings, two children and two dogs, two trips overseas per year, two cars, but most of all, I want to give her two words, I do. #EbrahimAseem & every real man wants a nurturing woman too.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.
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Man challenge. #CourtHer #GenuineWomenOnly You don't want to date me. I don't text for months w/ no intentions. I like conversing about growth & building a future. #EbrahimAseem I don't Netflix & chill. I take you on a date so you know it's real. I don't ask for sexy pics. I long kiss, play in your hair, massage & smack your derrière. I don't talk. I court. I want a future. I want forever w/ one. If you only want a bae, I'm not for you. #EbrahimAseem I don't care if you got curves, if I can't take you out, pay the bill & court you, get your fine, "talkingship" ass away from me. Speaking life to a group of 415 college men. #12yrMaleMenor
My mother raised a future husband not a future baby daddy. #tbt I'm tired of “talking”. Being in a relationship where the sex is so damn good, but there’s no growth or courtship is a waste to me. #EbrahimAseem I see your fine ass has looks & curves, but are you nurturing? Kind? Patient? Spiritual? Goofy? Good with children? Finances? Home decor? I don’t date for a hobby. #EbrahimAseem If we aren’t planning for forever I have no interest. What are your passions? Goals? Can WE stimulate each other's spirit? Promote each other's growth? align each others chakras? activate each others pineal gland? I don't care if you can twerk or back that ass up #EbrahimAseem Can we dine on each other's frequency as you digest knowledge my food for thought feeds your mind? What type of mother will you be? Where do you want to raise a family? Men, let's stop asking these women for pics, ask if she’s a WIFE. Men let's behave loyal to our self worth before we even say I do. #EbrahimAseem I can imagine being married. Having children, spending time with them, Playing with them & making them laugh, teaching them about life, instilling confidence & self worth before giving them piggyback rides. Having a wife, spoiling her with love and attention, Being goofy with her, making her laugh & smile every second I spend with her. Providing for my family. #EbrahimAseem I honestly pray I have all this before my moms gets too old to enjoy a daughter-in-law & grandchildren. Everytime I see my moms, she talks about wanting grandchildren & saying she raised me to be a husband. Because I was raised by a queen, I know for sure, I am not looking for a girlfriend to date, I am looking for a wife to court, marry & raise children with. #EbrahimAseemSelfie
I've enjoyed single life, but I'd be willing to be faithful in marriage if I found one willing to help me out grow my flaws & not make me feel I'm a problem because of past mistakes. #EbrahimAseem Bless me with a virtuous wife who can appreciate the spiritual man you're daily molding me to be & I promise to lead her closer to you. Calm her fears. Be her consistency. #EbrahimAseem Use me to inspire men to be confident to self & faithful to a good woman. Cosmopolitan magazine asked to print my article, "Why Men commit to the girl after the one who invested in his potential " in their publication. #Blessings Thank you for helping me reach 1 million views in 3 days! #EbrahimAseem Just spoke this message to 230 men who want to be husbands.