I surround myself with husbands, fathers & men who are a reflection of the man I’m growing to be. Having side chicks, sagging, hitting licks & using women isn’t for me. I want more.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Know what every beautiful, genuine woman wants in a man? Control. SELF control.
The reason she doesn’t submit to you is, she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can’t even lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem Take control without trying to control her. Take charge without making her feel unheard. Take initiative, give effort & make time for her, without her having to tell you what to do & how to do it. Lead her closer to her self love & she will lead you deeper into claiming your spiritual throne.
Letting a woman run over you & tell you what to do isn’t romantic to her, it’s pathetic to her. Man up & take control, of yourself. #EbrahimAseem Follow your dreams. Don’t wait for her to tell you what to do, where to take her on a date. Plan it & pay. Pay close attention to the little details of her & what she likes. It’s not about money. It’s about effort.
As men, we play a game, depriving a woman of time, withhold commitment acting like it’s “too soon” for her to expect exclusivity. Let’s stop telling a loyal woman “I’m not ready”. We will never feel ready for a successful genuine woman unlike any we’ve had, until we lose her. #EbrahimAseem Then, we beg for a 2nd chance, but its too late, b/c self loving women don’t repeat mistakes.
To understand a woman’s mind, just listen to her. Hear her love language. Become fluent in it. Then, speak to her with consistent actions. #EbrahimAseem
She’s not guarded because of a man. She doesn’t trust her self anymore. She broke promise to herself on how she wouldn’t allow people to treat her. She’s learning not to be lead by emotions. #EbrahimAseem
Instead of arguing with her, listen to her. Calm her. Adore her. Look in her eyes. Reassure her flaws can’t scare you away, & in time, she’ll open up & trust you. #EbrahimAseem
She will be guarded. Distant. Difficult. Say she needs more time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. Cry for no reason. Feel so broken & not know why, nor what the hell she wants. Don’t give up on her. #EbrahimAseem Don’t make her feel she isn’t enough. Love her consistently, never throw her past in her face. Destroy her demons & trust issues. Bring her closer to her self-love & the reward will be her heart.
It is not your job as a man to control a woman, nor “fix” her. Nor correct her, nor tame her smart mouth, or tell her to stop talking back, acting crazy or emotional. Nor tell her to stop dressing revealing, nor control her sexuality. #EbrahimAseem Nor tell her to wear her hair natural or with weave. Nor tell her not to wear makeup. You are not her God. Men come out of a woman, not the other way around. #EbrahimAseem
Your only job is to respect her as much as she respects herself. To honor her only as much as she honors you. Stop saying “these bitches” or “these hoes” when, by complaining how a woman doesn’t acquiesce to your womanizing wants, you’re being the bitch & the hoe. #EbrahimAseem
Stop comparing her to the user, disrespectful girls you’ve chosen in your past. She’s not them. She’s unique. She’s a light. Not meant to be controlled. Just add to her light, with appreciation, acknowledgement, knowledge & growth. #EbrahimAseem
If you’re blessed with a supportive woman, tell her,
A woman is not crazy. Over emotional. Smart mouthed or rude. She is a work of art, sculpted by the greatest artist in the universe. Art does not need to rhyme, make sense all the time, nor change its appearance to be accepted. #EbrahimAseem Art is to be observed, studied, valued & appreciated for the uniqueness it is.
I want to study your pages. Become fluent in your language the most. I taste the good & bad in you, & I want them both. You bring out the best flavor in me, flaws & all. I just want to savor you. You’re already whole, you don’t need a man to rescue you. #EbrahimAseem I just want you to love & fully accept the beautiful soul in your mirror, as much as I love her. May you, me & her love each other so deep, stay growing closer and better, together, for infinity forevers.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.
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