Interracial Families are not ‘complete’ & dating a Single Mom won’t last.


Old Navy had the nerve & unmitigated gall to feature an ad with a Black Woman & her Black son, piggy back ridding the sista’s new white Man.

Let’s deal with the dating a single mother foolishness before tackling the incompleteness of interracial families.

Dating a single mother will NEVER last long. Because once you see how much she can love, give & cater to her child, you will want to wife her ASAP. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Courting a single mom is hard. She’ll cancel dates. Short text & not reply. No time to put you first. A woman who puts her child first over me makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem Be patient with her. Take her out. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than a date you take her on. It’s not about money to her. Spoil her with your time. Show you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency, she will be your everything.

But only do it for a woman who reciprocates all you give. She deserves to be a wife. Her family is already complete, because she’s married to her self-love.

Interracial Families are not complete if they allow people to use race to define their love. You define you. You are not a race. You are a race-less spirit wrapped in a box. Who cares what color the box? The treasure inside counts most. Value spirit over body. You don’t have to divide yourself up to fit a category or mold. You are not IN a universe, you ARE a universe. #EbrahimAseem
Interracial families are not two races mixed together. They are two spirits, which have no race or gender.

Now people who love each other only “because” of their race have an incomplete union. As, they refuse to fall in love with their partner’s spirit, mind & soul, only their body.

I don’t like when beautiful women approach me, saying they only date Black men, love my culture & how strong of a black man I am. Then talk bad about Black women, calling them nappy-head, smart mouthed twerkers, or act ‘color blind’ when I ask their thoughts on police murdering Black men.

So wait, you value Black men enough to date, sleep with & have a pretty mixed baby by one. Yet, don’t value a Black man enough to stand up/speak out for one? #EbrahimAseem Don’t say you love Black men. No. You love black dick. Be honest with yourself.

If you date Black men for his spirit & not his penis size, you wouldn’t feel defensive of these words, you’d simply stand by your man & support his Black life. Spirits have no race. #EbrahimAseem

The Old Navy ad represents 3 race-less, gender-less spirits, as a happy family. If all you see is color, you’re spiritually blind. The color of a diamond’s wrapping or packaging does not define its worth. We are a diamond spirit. #EbrahimAseem

Never slight any piece that makes up the beautiful work of art you are. #EbrahimAseem If you’re an interracial family, own it. If you’re a one race family, own it. Just know you define you, as a race-less spirit, not anyone else. Don’t be afraid to proclaim your own self-identity. You don’t have to choose a side. Choose your spirit over your physical form.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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A Genuine woman w/ trust issues isn't crazy, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She's just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem You don't know if growing up mom treated her like crap & put men over her. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditional love, always putting her down, calling her names. Court her, propose & tell her this You're my dream come true. Where would I be w/o you? I love you more than lungs love breathing air. Not just b/c all you do, give & share. #EbrahimAseem You promote my growth. The love I have for myselfmatters to you most. You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take on a date. Go for a walk w/ by the lake. #EbrahimAseem The only one who can arouse my mind, & throb my head. The only one I want to devour in bed. You’re the only one I can be goofy w/, sing along to 90s R&B w/ as we ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because w/o you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far. You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heart kiss the soft sand of your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled w/ hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, Im willing to endure all pain, destroy all your demons, break down every wall that houses your trust issues, b/c only you mean that much. I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you inside & out, & as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen like you. #EbrahimAseem Thank you for sticking by me thru arguments & mistakes. I'll never turn away. No one can take your place. #EbrahimAseem I want trips overseas w/ you. To get on one knee for you. To spiritually grow w/ only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I'll place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, with tears in eyes, look you deep in your eyes & say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. & I want you to daily uplift you, so you'll always love you too. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to 250 college men today! #12YearMaleMentor #EbrahimAseemSelfie

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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2 Responses to Interracial Families are not ‘complete’ & dating a Single Mom won’t last.

  1. Shizuka Kobayashi says:

    Thank you for your…interesting viewpoint.

    Next on Maury: a man who is scared to death of pickles. Stay with us.

    *Audience applause


    *Cut to commercial

  2. Rukshana says:

    Asalaamwalakuim this is such a good article. True nobody should be judged by colour, gender or status however it happens. Innocents are born everyday loving unconditionally, until their minds are imprinted with the buggage that people carry around with them. The sad part is, that generation after generation the same mistakes are repeated. The question is will we ever come to a stage where we do, give live in peace without judging each other.

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