He got you pregnant, then lost interest, because you lost your body.


He couldn’t wait to get inside your body in the beginning. Constant communication. Sweet gestures. He was the perfect gentlemen, because your tummy was flatter. Your breasts were perkier. Your curves were voluptuous. But once your baby came, your body left & the baby’s father went with it.

And if he sticks around, you better know he has side chicks. Curvy girls without children he texts when you’re not around. Have you seen the girls he follows on Instagram? They look nothing like YOU.

How can saggy, deflated boobs dripping of breast milk compete with curvy Instamodels who have more booty in their pants than your baby has boo boo in it’s diaper?

Single Mothers are NOT dating material. With their stretch marks, deflated boobs, saggy booty, no time for anything but their baby asses. They’re WIFE material. Because any woman who can love someone so much, she sacrifices her body, appearance, sleep, friendships, partying, money for childcare which she can barely afford & every waking, breathing second of her day pouring love into her child, she can pour love into you. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t sleep on a busy single mother, just because she has a child. Those busy strong, virtuous, ambitious, career-minded focused women can cook, massage, drop wisdom & promote your growth. #EbrahimAseem COURT her to show her you appreciate all sacrifices she makes grinding for her future & her child. But don’t sleep on her.

Did you know a mother doesn’t sleep? She chases the baby around the house ALL. DAY. LONG. No breaks. Cleaning up messes. Broken glass. Stains. Spills. The only time she does sleep is on accident. I know you’re thinking, “well why can’t she just put the baby to sleep & then she can have time for herself?” Because dummy, she can’t just “put” the baby to sleep in the crib, then run off & paint the town red. The baby will just cry non-stop. She has to hold, rock & comfort the baby to sleep. She turns the lights off & lays still, pretending to be sleep, because that’s the only way the baby will fall asleep. #EbrahimAseem Problem is, it takes so long, she accidentally falls asleep herself. But she can never get “rest” because the baby wakes up constantly in the middle of the night.

Any woman who would sacrifice all that & more for a little child, she would give anything to love you, value your manhood, promote your mental growth, calm your fears, help fight your demons, accomplish your purpose & bring you closer to the man you were put here to be. #EbrahimAseem

If a man’s attraction is to your body, he’s temporary anyway. Those type of men cheat on & leave women with perfect curves. A dog is ONLY looking to lay his bone. While a man of valor is looking to help you ascend to your mental throne. #EbrahimAseem

Beauty, the man meant for you will find you. You won’t have to chase him, approach him or pursue him. You won’t have to force it to work, settle for less than your worth, give up your goals for him, beg him effort & time or teach him how to be a man. #EbrahimAseem

The man meant for you will not break you, he won’t abuse you, he won’t call you crazy, stupid, dumb, emotional or bitch. He will not question you, belittle your point of view or point out your flaws. #EbrahimAseem He will listen to you & use his words to reassure you.

Your stretch marks, tummy & saggy curves will not scare him off, because your self love & caring heart will be so attractive to him, he will trEAT every inch of your stretch mark having body like food. He will devour your pearls of wisdom, pound the walls of your ear drums with strong thoughts from his throbbing pineal gland. #EbrahimAseem
A blank canvas doesn’t equate beauty. Your stretch marks are unique strokes of the paint brush that surround the work of art the greatest artist in the universe drew you to be. #EbrahimAseem

Your body will be his addiction, because your beautiful soul is his affliction.

He will support you, heal you understand you & be so patient with your trust. To attract this caliber of man, you must fully let go of two things: the idea that no man will want your stretch mark having ass, because you have a child & your emotional attachment to your child’s father.

Don’t let a new man spoil you if you’re still letting a lying, manipulative EX or your child’s father have intimate & emotional parts of you. Heal first. Don’t toy with good men. #EbrahimAseem We exist. A man will love you & your child like it’s his own. He will love your body, stretch marks & all, he reassure you with his words & say,

“I just want you naked. Past that fake smile you wear to hide your self doubts. I know you talk to yourself , combatively conversing with the demons in your mind. I know you don’t always feel as beautiful as you look. I just want to be your calm. #EbrahimAseem Your peace. Your strength. Baby, lean on me. Weak as you may feel at times alone, we are unbreakable together. Let’s grow deeper on our self love together, for infinity forevers. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Edited by: Brie Winter
Instagram: @Fuel4TheBODY
Website: http://RealNewsPaper.me
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Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com

I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.

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I'd marry a woman with children. She's not a burden. She's a blessing. #EbrahimAseem Bro, if you don't want to commit to a single mother, cool. Keep "talking" to the girls you prefer. I sincerely pray that works for you. But don't knock a man like me, willing to pour love into a woman & her child. 👰🏿👶🏾💍❤️ #EbrahimAseem Her son needs loves & leadership from a man, so he won't grow up to neglect his responsibilities & choose to be a baby daddy. If his father isn't man enough to raise & teach him how to be a man, I will. #EbrahimAseem Her daughter needs to see a man court, commit to, provide for & respect her mother, so she won't think she has to settle for less, lies, cheating & disrespect to keep a man. If her father isn't man enough to be a provider for her mother, I will. #EbrahimAseem Courting a single mother is terribly hard. She'll flake & cancel dates. Short text & not reply. Have no time for putting you first. A woman who puts her child first over me, makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem Be patient with her. She's not flaking. Childcare costs more than the date you want to take her on. Pay her babysitter. Take her on a date. It's not about money. Spoil her with your time to let her know you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to a group of 335 grad school men. Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com The model @Jessicapettway is happily married for 10 years, & is not a single mother. Not that there's in any way anything wrong with single mothers. Every future wife was born to be a wife.

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Speaking this to a group of 310 men. #EbrahimAseem

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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1 Response to He got you pregnant, then lost interest, because you lost your body.

  1. Jasmine says:

    Great article thank you! #singlemomlife 😊😬

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