“I have a master’s degree, 6-figure job, no kids, yet my boyfriend of 18-months insists on living with his second baby momma, 2 boys & a newborn baby girl by her. This living situation makes it hard for me to commute home. After I drive to work & give him my car, he has to finish watching First Take on ESPN, complete 4 competitive games on NBA2k via XBOX Live, cook pop tarts for his snack, snap a few pictures of him & his newborn daughter for Instagram, then pick up his five children from school, leaving me to catch an Uber home. 😦 I can’t afford to buy him a car of his own, until I receive my 2017 tax return money, because I already spent last year’s tax return helping him & his baby momma #2 pay for their house I co-signed for him, after he was released on parole for larceny. (We met on ChristianMingle.com while we was in prison lol) I’ve had issues in the past with him not making time for me, not taking me out on dates & going weeks at a time no communicating with me. But I’ve decided to give him another chance. I would like to ask this man to marry me & help him file for full custody for his 5 kids against his 2 baby mommas. What cut of diamond is lost manly? And how much is a reasonable amount to spend on an engagement ring?”
– Tiffany, 26, Arlington, TX
If you give a man a million chances after his mistakes, you’re not his woman, you’re his mother. Claim him on your taxes & move on. #EbrahimAseem It’s not your job to fix him or teach a man how to be one. The man for you will already be equaled yoked when you meet him.
Stop wasting years & tears WAITING for a neglecting, cheating, lying, non-committing, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t make time for you or text you back, but can like 157 girls pictures on Instagram, lame poor excuse of a man to ‘change’ for you. Men don’t change for a woman. Men change for their self & grow for their self-love. #EbrahimAseem
Take him on a date, or to a game. Pay for his hair cut. Buy him clothes you picked out. Massage him. Read with him. If he’s a reciprocal man spoil him #EbrahimAseem but ONLY if he’s reciprocates all you give. Stop settling for less than you deserve.
A woman who loves herself fully wont settle for half-ass effort, nor half-ass time from a half-ass man. She masters the art of painting smiles on her OWN face & only pours energy into a man who is a reflection of the light she is growing to be. #EbrahimAseem
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.
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The bottom line is, she is still in the infatuation stage of the relationship. Like most folks who have no knowledge of the stages, or just ignore the stages completely, her decision making ability is based on her genetic make up, instead if her love for herself. She wants to make a king out of a grown up little boy, and receive the praise for doing so, and he knows this…..
I have missed your writings, Ebrahim!