Giving men “another chance” after mistakes will make him Side Chick zone you.


The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent guy know she will stay, waiting for him to reach potential he doesn’t have.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

That man who begs you for yet another chance after he broke your ability to trust him, he is not showing “potential” when he finally gives the effort. He’s playing a role off the script you gave him. #EbrahimAseem

When a man messes up really bad, don’t tell him what he did wrong, how he hurt you & what he can to do to win your heart back. Stop giving a man who broke you the road map to your heart so he can break you twice.

It’s not your job as a woman teach him how to be a man, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop adopting grown ass men. #EbrahimAseem

If you give him a million chances after he makes mistakes, you’re not his woman, you’re his mother. Claim him on your taxes & call it a day. #EbrahimAseem

He’s using your need to give & nurture against you. Your whole identity is based on being needed. Know why it’s so hard for you to accept love from that handsome, consistent, genuine man who stimulates your mind & calms your fears? You know he doesn’t NEED you to fix him & that scares you.

From birth, girls are taught nurturing a man’s potential defines her womanhood. In reality, being unapologetically vulnerable to her needs & what she wants, despite what any man thinks, defines her womanhood.

Making a man give effort will never feel like enough. You deserve a man to commit, make time & reassure you without you having to tell him.

Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, non-commiting, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self love. #EbrahimAseem

What hurts a woman most is, she’s more upset at herself for giving him another chance than she is at him for breaking her trust. Be more loyal to your self worth than you are to potential he never reaches.

If you have to ask a man what are we or why he’s taking so long to commit he has no plans for a future with you. Court a consistent man who will let the world know you are his only. He will tell you,

“I just want to love you until you glow so much, people notice your growth. Until the shine of your smile eclipses your fears. I want to be your peace.” #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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A Genuine woman w/ trust issues isn't crazy, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She's just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem You don't know if growing up mom treated her like crap & put men over her. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditional love, always putting her down, calling her names. Court her, propose & tell her this You're my dream come true. Where would I be w/o you? I love you more than lungs love breathing air. Not just b/c all you do, give & share. #EbrahimAseem You promote my growth. The love I have for myselfmatters to you most. You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take on a date. Go for a walk w/ by the lake. #EbrahimAseem The only one who can arouse my mind, & throb my head. The only one I want to devour in bed. You’re the only one I can be goofy w/, sing along to 90s R&B w/ as we ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because w/o you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far. You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heart kiss the soft sand of your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled w/ hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, Im willing to endure all pain, destroy all your demons, break down every wall that houses your trust issues, b/c only you mean that much. I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you inside & out, & as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen like you. #EbrahimAseem Thank you for sticking by me thru arguments & mistakes. I'll never turn away. No one can take your place. #EbrahimAseem I want trips overseas w/ you. To get on one knee for you. To spiritually grow w/ only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I'll place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, with tears in eyes, look you deep in your eyes & say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. & I want you to daily uplift you, so you'll always love you too. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to 250 college men today! #12YearMaleMentor #EbrahimAseemSelfie

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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4 Responses to Giving men “another chance” after mistakes will make him Side Chick zone you.

  1. JaQuanna says:

    What if it is the other way around.? Switched roles. ?

    • k Renee says:

      What do you mean, like you broke his trust and begged for him back?? Begging is never good, and if you broke his trust, either he isn’t the one for you, or you need to do lots of self care/self love work before your next relationship. Peace

  2. Trice says:

    Thank you! Perfect timing, I needed to read this!

  3. oralgoodness says:

    Along with not knowing her worth, or that pussy rules!!!

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