It’s unnatural for men to stay loyal to one woman. He’s as faithful as his options


“Women say ‘once a man gets a real woman he won’t want to sleep with other women.’ Myth!…Being faithful to one woman is unnatural for men. If he knew his woman wouldn’t find out, any man would do it,” Terry Deron wrote. As a man who has never cheated, I disagree.

Monogamy is not unnatural for men. If it were, men would remain single & sleep with as many women as we want to. Then it wouldn’t be “cheating”. Men who cheat do it for control. #EbrahimAseem Insecurely filling their low confidence by breaking your trust.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Holding a loyal woman’s heart hostage, while behaving single boosts an inadequate male’s ego. He’s not just intimidated by an intelligent, successful woman with her own mind, he’s jealous of her. #EbrahimAseem Jealous he lacks courage to disagree with his homies & parents, to speak his own mind the way she does. He cheats on her to break her down to his low confidence level.

This is why cheaters will constantly accuse a loyal woman of cheating. He doesn’t understand how a genuine woman like you settles for an unconfident, narssasistic male like him.

If monogamy was ‘unnatural’ for a man, he’d just leave her so he can sleep with all the women he wants. He WANTS to stay committed, make you suffer to suck power & confidence from your pain through a soul tie, like a vampire. #EbrahimAseem

This is why a man will cheat on a loyal woman for years, then leave her to marry the next woman he meets. He used cheating on a beautiful, genuine woman to give him the confidence he lacked, to approach the woman he really wanted. #EbrahimAseem

For years you stayed loyal to a cheater, bringing out his potential, only for the woman he met after you to reap all the benefits of the faithful man you taught him how to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem

Women wouldn’t be happily married if they allowed cheating. That’s what wives did 100 years ago when women were legal property of their husbands. Never settle for cheating. True love is reciprocal.

Stop molding that cheater into a better man for the next woman. You deserve a one woman man. If you think all men cheat, then you don’t want to date me. I don’t talk to multiple girls. I don’t dry text for months with no intentions. I like conversing about growth, the universe & building a future with one woman.

I don’t Netflix & chill. I take one woman out on a planned, paid for date so you know it’s real. #EbrahimAseem I don’t ask you for sexy pics. I long kiss, play in your hair, massage grab & smack your derrière. I don’t ask “wyd”. I provide hilarious, deep conversing. I don’t do side chicks, I pour all my attention, time, effort & love into ONE woman. I don’t talk. I court. I want a future.

I want forever with ONE. There’s a man right now praying he gets to marry you. Your gaurdedness is not a bad thing. Your flaws aren’t a deal breaker to him. He wants only you. Don’t keep pushing him away with your assumption all 3.5 billion men on earth posses the same mind frame as the disloyal men in your past. #EbrahimAseem Keep growing & loving the beautiful soul in your mirror, & the handsome, loyal man who’s made just for you will match his love with your self love.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I've enjoyed single life, but I'd be willing to be faithful in marriage if I found one willing to help me out grow my flaws & not make me feel I'm a problem because of past mistakes. #EbrahimAseem Bless me with a virtuous wife who can appreciate the spiritual man you're daily molding me to be & I promise to lead her closer to you. Calm her fears. Be her consistency. #EbrahimAseem Use me to inspire men to be confident to self & faithful to a good woman. Cosmopolitan magazine asked to print my article, "Why Men commit to the girl after the one who invested in his potential " in their publication. #Blessings Thank you for helping me reach 1 million views in 3 days! #EbrahimAseem Just spoke this message to 230 men who want to be husbands.

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The powerful reason I refuse to celebrate Mother's DAY. When I was a child, my mother ate in her room, door closed, while me & my sis ate at the dinner table. One night, when I was 7, I heard noise in my mom's room & when I went in, I saw her laying on the bed, stress tearing out of her eyes, rubbing her stomach. That's when I realized, my mom was willing to skip dinners just so my sister & I had food to eat every night. #EbrahimAseem My mother sacrificed buying herself clothes & jewelry just to provide food, clothes, a warm bed & electricity for her family. She kept a smile on her face at all times, so we wouldn't know how poor we really were. From that day on I taught myself to cook & I made sure my moms ate every day. I cooked breakfast in bed on weekends, made her cards & wrote her love poems often, because every day is Mother's Day, when you're blessed w/ a selfless one. I decided to do something w/ my life, so my mom wouldn't have to starve to pay bills. That's what motivates me to travel worldwide & speak life into groups at universities, as a 12-year mentor for men. That is why I work hard & don't complain about life. I keep a smiling. I may have money now, but I came from not having anything & it's because of overcoming struggles & what my mom did for me I am the man I am today. Our world treats women with less respect than animals. The same government that coined "Mother's Day" doesn't give them maternity pay. Many women get fired after giving birth. Women deserve paid time off after having a child, because w/o mother's, no man would be alive.#EbrahimAseem We honor mother's for ONE day, then fat shame, skinny shame, slut shame, use, neglect, take for granted & judge her the other 364 days of the year. That's why I don't celebrate this man made holiday. Mother's Day is EVERYDAY.#EbrahimAseem She feels neglected & taken for granted for 364 days out the year. I'm tired of seeing men say mother's are damaged goods. I'd marry a single mother. My book on courting single mothers drops this summer!#EbrahimAseem Free link in my bio! If you're a mother, comment a story of your sacrifice! Because I appreciate all sacrifices you make for your child!

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A Genuine woman w/ trust issues isn't crazy, smart mouth, guarded or over emotional. She's just been thru so much pain. #EbrahimAseem You don't know if growing up mom treated her like crap & put men over her. #EbrahimAseem Parents never acknowledging all she did, never showing unconditional love, always putting her down, calling her names. Court her, propose & tell her this You're my dream come true. Where would I be w/o you? I love you more than lungs love breathing air. Not just b/c all you do, give & share. #EbrahimAseem You promote my growth. The love I have for myselfmatters to you most. You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take on a date. Go for a walk w/ by the lake. #EbrahimAseem The only one who can arouse my mind, & throb my head. The only one I want to devour in bed. You’re the only one I can be goofy w/, sing along to 90s R&B w/ as we ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because w/o you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far. You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heart kiss the soft sand of your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled w/ hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, Im willing to endure all pain, destroy all your demons, break down every wall that houses your trust issues, b/c only you mean that much. I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you inside & out, & as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen like you. #EbrahimAseem Thank you for sticking by me thru arguments & mistakes. I'll never turn away. No one can take your place. #EbrahimAseem I want trips overseas w/ you. To get on one knee for you. To spiritually grow w/ only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the ring I'll place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, with tears in eyes, look you deep in your eyes & say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. & I want you to daily uplift you, so you'll always love you too. #EbrahimAseem Speaking this to 250 college men today! #12YearMaleMentor #EbrahimAseemSelfie

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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3 Responses to It’s unnatural for men to stay loyal to one woman. He’s as faithful as his options

  1. I wish the best for you. I have appreciation for what this post is about. It is inspiring to know you have an appreciation for how a woman is supposed to be treated, but what about monogamy being, as it really is, just a choice.

    Monogamy is largely something that has to be presented as a choice long before it is practiced and mastered. Cheating is easy and just a symptom of deception. If you feel deceived when all you wanted was monogamy, then was a lesson learned? for a woman to be angry for years, not being able to trust a man, and to suffer, as a result of her loyalty, all because she was ” cheated on” may mean that maybe you wanted control more than monogamy. It means that there is much more for her to understand about life and herself. Loyalty is sometimes a disguise to persuade a person who you know will not be loyal to you, to be loyal to you..

    It is nice to want women to be treated right, and want women to learn to be more inline with the mindset of getting exactly what the want out of life with a man, but a shoulder to cry on will just lead to more terrible decisions… Does your book show them what to do in order to value themselves.?

    Everything that has happened between man and woman, is not all the man’s fault.

  2. dandilyonz4u says:

    Its always a pleasure to read your articles. It’s great encouragement for men and women to aspire to be the best we can for each other and recognize that the games that we have been playing for years have not done any good for us and have only ruined our families and communities

  3. The Serious Sad Truth says:

    Many of us good men can but it is the women that can’t.

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