Ladies, if a man is distant, he’s lost interest in you. LET GO! Forcing us to give time & effort will push us further away. Making excuses for our neglect will not help us ‘reach potential’ you see in us. It will make us resent you. You deserve a consistent, honest man, who gives you effort without you having to beg him for it.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
Men get distant in 3 main ways:
1. He stops communicating for 2 or more days straight. – Sure, he can get busy with work & family for 24 hours, but if a man goes from talking to you every day, to you not hearing from him for more than 48 hours straight, without prior warning or reasonable explanation after, you’re either no longer a priority to him, or he’s intimately communicating with another girl.
2. He stops being sexual with you. – Even a hard working man can get too tired for love making once in a while, but if he hasn’t either had sex with you or sexted you in over a week without a feasible explanation, he’s either being sexual with another woman…. or another man. Or worse, he may have an STD from cheating he is trying to hide.
3. He stops disagreeing with you. – This is one of the *Secret Guy Code Cheat Tricks* I go in depth about in my book.
If a man has never disagreed with you, it’s because he doesn’t see you in his future. People disagree with someone they care for, because they want to rid you of a misconception you may have about them, to ensure a communicative, healthy, lasting relationship in the future. Don’t confuse “disagreeing” with excessive: “arguing, yelling & name calling” That’s immature communication by both parties.
A man who’s stopped disagreeing with you no longer cares to let you know how he feels inside, because he’s lost interest in a future with you. He becomes passive about things he used to be fiery about. I’ve learned this to be true for women as well. Once a woman stops caring, she’s lost interest in you.
I have a major confession, I’ve displayed all three of these characteristics over the last year.
When I was single, I enjoyed taking multiple women on dates. I let them all know this & encouraged them to do the same. I didn’t expect any loyalty from them. I kept it 100 with them at all times. I told them I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend, I was searching for a wife.
Once I met my queen, Brie, that all changed. It changed because I knew she was the one. I told her I was faithfully committing myself to her. I cut off communication with the girls I had taken on dates while I was single. No more dates. No more sexting. No more disagreeing. I straight up ghosted them, insidiously.
To break up with someone you’re in a relationship with by ghosting them is immature & heartless. However, when you’re single, you don’t owe someone you weren’t committed to any explanation.
Red flag: If a man keeps communicating with the EXs, non-platonic friends & baby mommas he claims to be done with, behind your back, it’s a major red flag he’s losing interest in you. As this point, you can either let him go & lose all you two were building towards, or you can let him know you want a full faithful commitment from him with complete loyalty& if he’s still interested in a future with you, he will cut off all other girls and commit himself fully to you.
There’s a way to tell if a man is still interested in forever with you. He will be as transparent as water. He will open up his soul to you & pour his love into your glass heart. Like I did with Brie when I told her this:
“If you ever irritate me or annoy me, it will never push me away.
To me your brattiness is as sexy as your cattiness, me & my love are here to stay.
I got the right amount of masculine ruggedness to always put you & that smart mouth in your place.
To draw a circle of protection around you with my manly strength. To paint smiles on your beautiful canvas face.
I want forever with you. You’re my reflection in every way.
Looking deep inside your eyes, the mirror to your soul, helps me understand you, my self & our purpose together more & more each day.
You can never push me away, no matter what you do. Because baby, I want infinity forevers with you.
By: Ebrahim Aseem
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
I am a chef & motivational speaker. I write new articles every thursday & speak life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide.
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