Why men intentionally treat loyal women like trash | Gaslight

Never tell a strong minded woman to “stay in her place”. Have several seats. Instead, tell that regal minded woman “her throne is your face”. #EbrahimAseem

Manipulative men lie, shift blame & deny their inconsistencies to intentionally make their woman question her sanity, so she will ignore his red flags that her intuition is trying to show her.

This is “gas-lighting”. Hiding something by psychologically manipulating a person so much, they begin questioning their own sanity.

Here’s 10 reasons some men intentionally treat loyal women like trash to gaslight her intuition on fire.
By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”

I never intentionally used gaslighting to manipulate a woman, yet I’m guilty of it too. Before spending intimate time with my woman on a consistent daily basis & fully committing myself to her, I was emotionally disloyal to her, going on dates with other women, texting other women, on FaceTime with other woman & dancing on other women in the club. Before moving into a tangible relationship with her, I had to repent, cut off all non-business communication with other women & fully commit to only her. I was taught all my life to “not put all my eggs in one basket” and “if you’re not married you are single” however this is wrong & the definition of male privilege.

Our “intent” as a man doesn’t matter. All men don’t intentionally gaslight women, yet every male alive benefits from male privilege, which is what powers gaslighting women. The only way not to benefit is to daily fight male privilege in other men & inside one’s self.

Selfish boys gaslight women to posses her energy. Like Ursula craved Ariel’s voice, insecure boys crave a strong woman’s confidence. Tearing her down builds him up. Gaslighting is a non-sexual soul tie, allowing the gaslighter to draw on your energy for strength, forever, until the tie is broken.

The only way to break the gaslight soul tie is to stop using the hurt, guarded tactics & views of men that attracted selfish users to gas light her in the first place. Boys who gaslight want you guarded. They want you to hate men. Hate creates a vulnerability, which manipulative boys exploit.

Overthinking is a major symptom of gaslighting. Women who want to become ungaslightable must rethink her entire mind frame, because gaslighting does not just come from men in relationships. It comes from this false idea that a woman must “stay in her place” and stop having a “smart mouth”.

The reason I find smart mouthed women attractive with their talk back attitude is, I know how to handle a strong minded woman. They’re the most caring & faithful inside her hard shell.

She’s so guarded to protect herself from fake family & snakes, who take her giving for granted & her kindness for weakness, because when she loves, she loves hard.

‪Don’t let her strength scare you away. She’s endured more pain than you can imagine. She’s loved & been given up on. We must be patient with her.‬ Sharp as her tongue cuts, once she meets a strong man who can take control without controlling her & proves with consistent actions he’s patient & trustworthy, she will let us in & grow in patience. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t confuse a smart mouthed woman with a vindictive woman. She will verbally disrespect you when she’s lost patience with your inconsistency & doesn’t respect you enough to constructively work through it; or she will verbally disrespect you when she has not learned how to control her trauma triggers from past pain. #EbrahimAseem

A vindictive woman is not worth the relationship, let alone the arguments. Get you a reciprocal woman who won’t make you pay for the cold way men in her past treated her.

But don’t be so quick to push away a smart mouthed woman who has yet to heal. She will be guarded. Distant. Difficult. Say she needs more time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. Cry for no reason, not know what she wants & feel so broken inside. Don’t give up on her. #EbrahimAseem Don’t you make her feel she isn’t enough. Love her consistently, never throw her past in her face. Destroy her trust issues. Bring her closer to her self love & she’ll bring you closer to your growth.

The most unshakable seeds of gaslighting are planted during childhood, in ten insidious ways……..

Read part two of this article about how to become ungaslightable => http://wp.me/sT7Bl-UnGaslit

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 13-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.

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Courting a Single Mother is hard. She will cancel dates. Short text you & not reply. No time to put you first. A woman who puts loving her child first over me, makes me want to make her & her child my first priority💍👰🏾👶🏽 Don't let her child scare you away bro be patient with her. Take her out on a date you plan & pay for. She's not flaking. Childcare costs more than a date you take her on. It is not about money with her. Spend your valuable time on her. Spoil her with effort. Show her you appreciate all the sacrifice she makes for her child, by herself with no help. Be her consistency, and she will be your everything. I'm so thankful Brie always makes time for me. That's why I'm so in love with her & her son. ❤️ #BeachDate #EbrahimAseem

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About Ebrahim Aseem

I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"
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3 Responses to Why men intentionally treat loyal women like trash | Gaslight

  1. Tai Davis says:

    Outstanding post! I first learned about gaslighting two years ago and have been working to change my response to it. It’s difficult not to defend yourself when someone blames you for their problems but I believe I’m getting better at it. Thank you so much for admitting what so many men won’t admit. I’m definitely going to share!

  2. Zakeya Foster says:

    This described my 20 marriage. It effected my mental state. This is VERY real. I made it out and now I talk about it to other women.

  3. Great writing. I Enjoy reading your post’s. Thank you.

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