Why MALES will NEVER cut OFF EXs & online Flirting

Posted on June 12, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

Taken & Loyal Women get so lonely, they feel single.

Her phone barely rings. She constantly feels unappreciated. All her loyalty goes unacknowledged & unreciprocated. She stays sexually frustrated, especially at night. She rarely goes out to have fun, because some of her girls are jealous she has the level of commitment that eludes them. A Taken woman’s man spends less time with her now, then he ever did when they were just “talking”, proving they should have “courted” instead.

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Just as some mentally immature females are not yet relationship ready, some mentally immature males are not yet relationship ready. Once he has her full commitment, he stops doing all the things he did to get her.

Good morning texts stop. Late night conversations stop. Flirting stops. The goofy and silly banter stops. Intimacy and sexting gets boring & predictable, same ole soup, warmed over. She stops getting those butterflies in her stomach and random smiles at the mention of his name like when they first met.

She gives her man the respect of a husband, by shutting down any male who does even the slightest hint of flirting with her. Yet, even the women on her man’s social networks get more attention from him they his own woman does. Taken and loyal women really feel like widows at times, because they are in a relationship with a boring, unexciting, predictable male, not man, but male.

Never let a woman get bored with you. Be spontaneous, constantly show her something new. Bring something unique to the table, she has never experienced before in a relationship. Virtuous women are looking for something they never had in a Man before.

Penetrate her mind, and her body will follow. Arouse a woman’s intellect with the head connected to your brain, not just the head connected to your penis. Hold her down with your strong hand of wisdom, build her up with your compliments. Pour confidence inside her, so she falls in love with her self, body mind and soul. The strongest woman wants to lose control in your strong embrace. Be stimulated cognitively by your intrinsic touch. Penetrated by your intellectual prowess. Overwhelmed by your mental penetration. This mental stimulation must be constant and reciprocal, else the one you love will get bored with you.

Just because a woman has fallen in love with a man, does NOT mean she won’t cut you completely off if you fail to make her feel wanted CONSISTENTLY. Just because a mentally mature man has fallen in love with a woman, does NOT mean he won’t start losing respect for you if your physical beauty & amazing curves start becoming the ONLY thing you have to offer him. Love must grow into care, where two kindred forms of matter become ONE.

Diamonds are not just to be pursued. Once you capture a diamond, that is when the real WORK must be put it to KEEP it. A beautiful woman is like a diamond in that regard. Once she gives you all her attention, you have to KEEP her attention by doing all that you did to get her, plus more. Don’t get it twisted.

Don’t take a woman’s loyalty as a weakness. Should could legitimately have dozens of suitors if she wanted. She gets approached by tall, handsome, wealthy men all day long, but she chooses to turn them down to stay loyal to you. Stop taking that for granted. She could have a different guy take her out on a date every night, but she CHOOSES to be loyal.

When a loyal woman likes a man, she will be loyal to us even without a title and faithful to us even before official commitment, but when she’s tired & fed up, she will drop us without a second thought. Don’t ever make a loyal woman regret the decision to be loyal to you.

“I wish I could say social networks don’t matter but it’s destroying our relationship,” a breathtakingly beautiful, interior designer asked me during a relationship counseling session. “He pays more attention to this girl from Instagram than he does to me. Follows her on everything and likes all her pictures. She’s his top Snap Chat friend as well, I don’t even feel important. When I mention things like that to him, he doesn’t reassure me that I am who he wants. He thinks I should feel lucky for even having him.”

“You are important young queen, he loves you,” I reassured her. “It’s just that he simply does not want commitment with just one woman at this point in his life and he is telling you that constantly with his actions.

When a man OPENLY likes all the pictures of other women on Instagram, knowing damn well you can see it, he is trying to tell you something. When a man OPENLY shows more attention to another woman his phone and via social networks, even after you have made him aware you know about her, he is trying to show you something specific about how he feels about the relationship, and you obviously are not getting the picture.

The reason your boyfriend flirts with other women online openly and in front of you is, because he is tired of being exclusively committed to only one woman.

Repeated infidelity is a cry for help and a way for a coward to break out of a relationship. He is too scared to break-up with you, because he is a coward, so he cheats and gives other women attention openly and in your face on a social network, so YOU can be the ‘bad-guy’ and break up with him. In a weak-minded male’s mind, this tactic is logical, because he feels rather than leave you broken by him breaking up with you, he wants you to feel empowered by breaking up with him because of his infidelity. Stupid tactic indeed.

The reason a weak-minded, non-sex-addict male commits infidelity is, because he is not fully in love with you anymore, as he subconsciously feels he can never DESERVE someone as amazing and loyal as you. Prove he is right & move the hell on. Stop staying seated in an unlocked prison cell. Escape queen.

“What if you have so much to offer and he still treats you with disrespect?”

“Then honestly, it shows you lack SELF respect, to stay with a MALE who treats you with disrespect. You are not the problem queen, he is the problem, but staying LOYAL to a man who disrespects you with constant infidelity is NOT the solution. You know he is being unfaithful with this IG honey. You know he DMs her and they snap chat intimate pictures of each others’ body parts.”

“That’s disgusting,” she complained.

“It is disgusting,” I agreed. “But, any male who has Snap Chat has it for one of two reasons, business or exchanging nudes. Any male who has Instagram, has it for two reasons, business or sexting, exchanging numbers with random women, or to screen shot pictures of half-naked women for masturbation-material.

“We’ve been together for 3 years. I just didn’t want to give up, she complained. “But the fact that he knows it bothers me and doesn’t care to change it tells me I should. Sometimes it’s just hard to let go.”

“It’s HARD to give birth,” I compared, “but if you don’t push, you will destroy that beautiful little life. Now, if you don’t PUSH that snake out your life, you will destroy your SELF. Give birth to self-love. Give birth to self-confidence. Give birth to self strength. Even though it is hard, PUSH queen. Your strength through pain is impressive to the one who created you.

Now, if you insist on attempting to make this relationship work, I want you to tell him you want his loyalty and want to make your relationship with him exclusive.”

“How should I do that?” She asked.

“As open as you are communicating with me,” I responded, “communicate with your man in a monotone, calm voice, without crying, yelling or making assumptions.

Do not give a man your loyalty before he earns it from you first. Do not assume a man is faithful to you, just because you are faithful to him.

If you really like a man and want his loyalty, ask him,

“What do you want out of us? Because I want you. I like you & I would love to see if we can grow into a spiritual relationship. But I’m the type of woman who needs complete loyalty. I know my worth. I have so much to offer you, my friendship, my passion, my affection, my love, my loyalty and my spirituality. I can help you grow spirituality the way no other woman can. I have been honest with you, so I deserve your honesty. I want to know if you want to faithfully commit yourself to me and cut off ties with all your Ex-girlfriends and cease giving your attention to any woman but me?”

Mentally mature men have no intention of cheating on a woman in a relationship. His wisdom will not allow him to commit to a woman if he is legitimately unready to give all his attention to just one woman.

Cheating is for insecure cowards. Cheating is not about sex. If it were, these cheaters would just remain single to sleep with as many as they wanted, then it would not be cheating. Cheating is about control. Manipulation. Filling insecurity.

Cheating is to hold a loyal person’s heart hostage, while one behaves single. They know they could just end it with them at any time to sleep with someone else, but they WANT to stay committed, make their partner suffer, to gain power from their pain.

The one you’re so in love with does NOT always want commitment. Some only want to be with you for a short time, while building their self confidence up and tearing their insecurities down by gaining power at the expense of pain their disloyalty causes you. They can’t wait to drop you & “upgrade”.

But a coward with this frame of mind, will continue to look, yet never be able to find satisfaction for their lack of self confidence.

A mentally mature man gains confidence from remaining faithful. His loyalty impresses himself. He loves nothing more than turning down all the women who want his attention, just so he can give all his attention to that ONE woman who does the same & gives him all of hers.

Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women: Part 2 “Why your boyfriend will never stop loving his EX and still texts her when he’s not texting you.”

Recently, I received an email from a reader of my work that completely humbled me. A young queen asking for relationship advice inspired me to devote a whole chapter to my upcoming book on this very topic. Her email read,

“A confused Heart!

Hello Ebrahim Aseem,

I am 22 years old and I currently reside in Atlanta, GA. I want to start off by saying, you are one of most inspirational people I have ever come across. You have no idea how many times your posts have gotten me through my day. I am having a problem that I pray you have the time to respond to. I have been dating this guy named Justin for the past 8 months now.

Generally, he is a good guy. He does things for me no other man has. Now, I know I’m young and not much time has been implemented into this relationship, but I can honestly say that I love him. He is sweet, caring, and loving. I don’t trust him though. I know what you’re probably thinking, “why are you with him?!”. Honestly Ebrahim, I don’t know. I think it’s because I love him so much, I’m afraid to lose him.

He is still friends with his ex-girlfriend of 8 years off and on. She, along with other girls, would call him at/after midnight and text him. He swore, it was nothing like my female intuition was telling me. So I did what I thought I would never do, I looked in his phone while he was asleep. I was heart-broken. He was still telling her that he loved her, that he eventually wanted to be with her again. Another female was exclaiming how good the sex had been. Others he was just flirting with. Long story short, I forgave him. And like I don’t trust him, he doesn’t trust me.

We got past that, things got good between us again, I had fallen even more deeply in love with him. I was helping him with his family. They don’t have a car right now so I have been helping him with getting to work and everything he asks of me, which isn’t much. I spend majority of my time with him and I think about him all day. I even took him home to meet my family. While visiting the family, he sat me down and told me,

I’m going to do right by you. I love you.” I felt complete. I trusted him again at that very moment. It was naive of me, I know. Recently I asked him what we were, and he basically stated that we’re together without the titles. He said he was content with where we are and we’re still fresh in the relationship. I was a little hurt. I didn’t know how to take it. He says he wants to take things slow because he doesn’t want to ruin anything before it happens.

This past Wednesday, I was picking him up to take him back to my place, my phone went dead and beforehand, my best friend called and wanted to talk to me. So he offered his phone. When he ran into a friend’s house, I quickly glanced at his text messages with his Ex and there he was telling her he missed her and wanted to be with her. He wanted to make things work.

I didn’t question him about, instead I brought it up randomly and asked him if he missed her, if he wanted to be with her, if he still loved her. He said that he has love for her, but he doesn’t want to be with her. He said he doesn’t miss her and that he’s not trying to make things work with them. I just sat there, numb. Because I knew he was lying.

I just really don’t know what to do. I really love this guy so much. But I know I cannot be accepting of this. My best friend always tells me that I’m worth more than this. For some reason, I feel like I will be missing out on something.

One thing I have learned about myself so far in my time of dealing with him is, I love hard. Really hard. When I am committed to someone, I am the most loyal, caring, and loving person. I have never cheated a day in my life, but unfortunately I’ve been cheated on. Numerous times. I often wonder, why haven’t I found someone to commit to me? Someone that loves me, for me? Have I been searching in all the wrong places? I hope that you can give me some insight on what I should do or how to handle this situation I’m in. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I pray that you’re having a blessed day king.

Signed,
A Confused Heart”

The reason why males continue to text their Ex-girlfriend “I love you” and “I still miss you” is, not because he still loves her. Queen, if your boyfriend still loved his ex, he would still be in a relationship with her and would not be committed to you. Males still text their ex-girlfriend, because he misses receiving the ATTENTION from multiple women vying for his heart.

Understand, some males are way more insecure than a woman could even imagine being. Receiving attention from multiple women gives scorned, emotionally unstable males LIFE, because it feels the crater sized holes in his self-esteem. A weak-minded male wants to FEEL wanted by multiple women who he has no interest in loving or committing to. He uses their attention to sustain his insecurity. He is an emotional wreck and he hides this, by display behavior society deems “masculine”, such as being a womanizer. Weak-minded males act overly mach, because they think women think, a man who shows emotion is soft or unmanly.

A woman does not want a man who has no emotion. She wants a man who knows how to manage his emotions.

But attention from one woman in a committed relationship does nothing for an emotional unstable male, but make him even MORE insecure. Why? He simply knows he lack the emotional stability to keep you satisfied in a relationship. When you tell him, “I love you babe,” he feels so inadequate, undeserving of your love, that he will go in secret, and text his ex “I miss you baby” simply so his ex can text back, “aww, really? 🙂 I miss you too!!!”

He doesn’t miss her. He’ fishting. Fishing for attention from his ex, using flirtatious texts as his bait. Males who like every picture of a particular girl on Instagram, always comment hearts, saying “your body is perfect” or “you are so beautiful” exchanging genital photography with her via Snap Chat, he does not love that IG honey, he is fishting. Fishing for attention from random women, texting undeserved compliments as bait.

This is worse than standard cheating, because he is doing it all day long to a high volume of women all over the world, via social networks. This is why your boyfriend never lets you use his phone. At any time, randomly say, “baby, can I use your phone? mine is dead.” He will say, “where’s your charger?” rubbing his pockets to make sure his phone is still in there.

Anytime you mention a male’s phone and he starts patting himself down all over his body and looking left and right for his phone, know that is a tell-tell sign he has fishting all through his iMessage and social network notifications.

When I was in a relationship with a woman who was self-admittingly insecure, I told her,

“Baby, steal my phone, look at my texts & go through my DMs, else I will start thinking you don’t like me and I will leave you for a crazier woman. An un-loyal man gets annoyed by his woman searching his phone. If you like it, I love it sweetheart. I know I’m loyal, it gives me an opportunity to show it & prove my monogamy. If you don’t check my INSTAGRAM pics daily to notice if there’s a pattern of my conversing with the same girl consistently liking & commenting my pictures, I will confront your ass about it.”

After I told her that, she laughed at my sarcasm and appreciated how I did not try to make her feel she was crazy for her insecurities about the attention I get from women on social networks.

Now, I understand you may love your boyfriend and you want his loyalty, but he has no intention of just giving only you his attention, he does not even value attention from just one woman. He feels he needs attention from non-committed females. Commitment turns him off, this is why it seems like your boyfriend never smiles around you, or is not sexually attracted to you. He is emotionally cheating on you and yes, online cheating counts as cheating too.

Once a male cheats on a woman, and you take him back, he has ZERO love and respect for you. He can not respect someone who lacks the respect for her self to STAND UP to one who stabs them in the back, even if that someone is him. Cheating is treason. Why should a man or woman give someone another CHANCE to hurt them again? Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, nah, never give them a TWICE.

You need to look in the mirror & tell yourself this, “Beautiful, why the hell are you giving your ATTENTION & TIME to a weak-minded male who refuses to give you his consistency? Is the presence of a man worth your self-respect? Love your self! Stop trying to teach a child how to be a man! Value yourself enough to walk away from someone who goes out their way to prove how much they don’t love you.”

Allow me to speak life into you. Queen, you hurt, not because you are alone. You hurt because you feel you have WASTED love & time building towards something alone while with him. You feel cheated out of your time & love you poured into a bottomless glass. You deserve so much better and it is all coming your way as long on you keep working on your self and self edifying your mind through wisdom, but please never feel alone. Once someone you loved so much proves to you how much that take your loyalty to them as a joke, laugh at their ignorance and free yourself.

You are now AVAILABLE for someone who can value your worth enough to walk in your life & pour love into YOU for a change. Aren’t you tired of always being the one who has to love so hard? Aren’t you tired of always having to be the one who brings up commitment, like, “so what are we?” Aren’t you tired of wondering if the next time you forgive a make for cheating on you, then lying about it yet again, will be the last? Well now you are free of that. You ARE valuable, like crystal, let someone who PROVES THEY DESERVE YOUR LOVE pour love and life into your glass heart. Your heartbreaking boyfriend was a cancer, not many people are cured of their cancer, you were. Rejoice queen. Your king awaits you.

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Why people take you & your LOYALTY for Granted (Motivational Video)

Posted on June 6, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

You’re so patient, loyal & you do so much for people who never give appreciation you deserve. They take all you do for granted. Here’s why ==> Please share this MOTIVATIONAL video.

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You are not IN the Universe, Your Mind IS a Universe

Posted on June 5, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Imagine loosing your phone right now. All your pics & contacts!

This technology revolution was intentionally scheduled to happen at this very moment in time, to stop us from reaching the mental ascension boost about to take place. The Mayans never thought the world would end, that’s a misinterpretation. Nouns don’t end. The “END” their calendar refers to is the end of an age of vanity and the beginning of a new age of higher consciousness. According to the macrocosmic Equinox cycle in the universe, the Age of Pieces has come to an end and the new age of Aquarius has begun. This new age is: SELF AWARENESS. Yet, not a physical self-awareness. Your SELF is not your body. Your body is a portal your spirit must wear like clothes to travel in this earth zone. Your SELF is your mind.

Your mind IS a universe. You are not IN the universe. You were taught that to limit your thoughts. You ARE a universe.

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Every thought you have travels at the speed of light. How is it you can remember things you’ve never experienced yet? It’s not ” déjà vu” . It’s a memory of an experience your spirit had before you were imprisoned in this body, to live on this planet. Some are even memories of an experience you have yet to experience yet on earth, because your spirit experienced it somewhere in the universe in the future, while you were sleep, because TIME does not exist in the universe.

Stop reading. If you are still plugged into the matrix and still prisoner to technology, stop reading this right now, because you will not understand nor comprehend such high mental stimulation. Only keep reading if your chakras are aligned. It’s about to get real deep.

Race is an illusion. Gender is an illusion. Spirits have no race. spirits have no gender. These are human characteristics used to keep our minds prisoner to fear so we won’t remember who we are, a universe. You are not a human being, you are a spirit, being human for a short time, as your spirit and soul vacation in this dream called “life”. How silly for people to think their God has a gender or a race. Those are HUMAN characteristics. How could your God be a human, if your God created humans? How could your God be a he, she, man or woman if your God had to CREATE man and woman into existence? Let it marinate. Think.

Anything you want, or want to KNOW, you can attract to you, with just a thought. Our thoughts are not something only we can hear. Our thoughts are energy, forms of matter, vibration. Powerful forces of energy that can be heard through sound, vibrating to the depths of the universe.

This is called “the law of attraction”. Everything in our life, we have subconsciously attracted to us, through our thoughts. Anything that is not YET in our lives, we have repelled from us, through our thoughts. This power cannot be used or controlled if we are not in tune with our SELF.

Now you can clearly see why your opposition keeps feeding you the latest form of technology, app, Smart Phone, Computer, Tablet, iOS update, Video game, YouTube clip, TV show, Song, Movie, Car, Plasma, to keep you distracted & too mentally unaware to KNOW YOUR SELF. The 1% of the population that owns 99% of the wealth acquired such wealth by monopolizing 99% of the KNOWLEDGE. That 1% withholds the keys to the great secrets of knowledge, distracting us with vain forms of technology and entertainment, to keep us mentally sleep, while we give amazing forms of technology and entertainment our full, undivided attention while our brain is on auto-pilot. We have become sleep walkers without a bed. The mental walking dead.

You will not stop using your app to take a phone call, or have an in-person-conversation, yet you will stop an in-person-conversation to adhere to an app notification.

Technology is a tool. Use it. Don’t let it use you. We cannot live without our phones. We are prisoners to anything we cannot live without. Practice leaving your phone home one day a week. You just thought, “no, I cannot do that.” See, not only does technology have you programmed to automatically refute anything that frees you from it, technology also makes your thoughts predictable. Thoughts are things. You only cannot do something, because you keep telling yourself with your thoughts, “I can’t.” I can’t is the mantra of a mental prisoner.

Prove to yourSELF, key word SELF, you are not a prisoner to anything. Stop just following your favorite celeb gossip and start following your purpose. Communicate with it like it’s your soul mate, because in reality it is. Say “You’re the first thing I pray for when I awake & last thing I think of at night. You make my heart throb, mind soar & pineal gland take flight💫 You’re my purpose.”

Men: challenge yourself to approach ONE beautiful woman a day. Respectfully & confidently approach her, look her in her eyes & say, “Excuse me, my name is ____ , may I ask you’re name?” Make her laugh, call her, get to know her, then take her OUT on a real date. Not just to your house for sex. Call her and say, “I would like to take you out on a date this Friday to hear live music after an Italian dinner, a deep conversation and a walk on the boardwalk; what time are you available gorgeous?”

Don’t let your only form of approaching a woman be, send friend request, then send inbox message or DM, “Hey sexy”. Young king, that is not approaching. That’s computer love *Zapp & Roger voice* Don’t let yourSELF be a prisoner to technology. Please don’t waste several weeks and months texting a woman without asking her out. Don’t depend too heavily on technology to get to know a woman, she’s so much more than her texts and her two-dimensional pictures.

Ladies: Challenge yourSELF to get all dressed up, hair done, eyebrows on point, outfit fierce, heel game vicious and go out on a REAL date or with your girls once a weekend. It does not have to be “out” to a club. Live music, comedy club, musical, fancy dinner and art murmur are just a few of many options for going out. Don’t let the only time you get all dolled up be to take a picture, post it to Instagram, await the likes & attention, feel pretty.

That’s not a man giving you attention, that’s males using your pictures for jack-off material. Yep. And if you didn’t know, now you do. Don’t allow yourSELF be a prisoner to technology. You feel insecure so much, because you rarely go out on REAL DATES. You can get 1,000s of likes on your pictures and all the mentions in the world on Instagram, but how many men have taken you out on a REAL DATE where he plans and pays for everything without you having to tell him what you would like to do?

Queen, please don’t think you are crazy for being a hopeless romantic and insane for expecting a man to be chivalrously romantic to you without you having to first ask him to. Besides, sanity is unattractive on a woman. If the ways of this world do not make sense to you, it is because your mind is above it and your spirit is not from it.

Log off social networks, and log into SELF. I promise you, once you do, you will begin to mentally awaken and spiritually ascend. Remember, you are a universe.

I don’t want you to allow your trust issues, the complaints people have of the way you live your life, nor the selfish way people treat you to stress you or consume you. That is the only purpose of stress. To try & make you doubt your strength. People will constantly bring up old mistakes you made in your past, but you are NOT your past. You are not your pain. You are NOT the mistakes you’ve made. You are unbreakable. One small crack flaw does not ruin the masterpiece. It only makes you value that work of art more, because it survived that crack. Don’t let any pain or stress rob you of your happiness. ‪

I know you get tired of being so patient, giving, considerate & loyal to others only to be used & NEVER getting the same in return from them. But I want you to promise yourself you will STOP allowing how people TREAT you to dictate your level of happiness or stress. I mos def pray people stop taking all you do for them for granted & start acknowledging your caring nature & all the energy, time & effort you put into doing for others is reciprocated back you you.

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Ebrahim Aseem’s cooking show #1 – How to cook Fresh PASTA from scratch

Posted on June 3, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

How to cook Fresh PASTA from scratch & EAT to LOSE WEIGHT #EbrahimAseem

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Good Morning Text

Posted on June 3, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

I don’t like how when you awake & start your day

You pick out all these reasons why you’re doing things wrong, why you’re not where you’re supposed to be in life. How you’re a failure, why you don’t look as good as you should.

Then you look at your reflection in your camera phone & rather than just take a picture, you say things like, “eww I look hideous” “ugh why do I have so many wrinkles & blemishes” “why do I have to be so fat” cut that out. I know you don’t have my eyes & can’t see what I see, but you’re absolutely breathtakingly beautiful to me.

Even when you can’t find the right outfit Pile all the clothes in your closet all over your bed & feel like you have nothing to wear, my fav thing you can ever wear is your CONFIDENCE. Rock that high confidence today along with your high heels. Strip yourself naked of your self doubts. Smile all day at the fact your beauty makes me smile throughout my day. Good Morning Beautiful.

Kings, send this ‪#‎GMText‬ to the woman you like. My brother, you DESERVE to have the woman of your dreams, I want that for you just as I want prosperity & success for you & I promise you will get it all. Walk in your integrity. Remain confident at all times king. #EbrahimAseem #SpeakLife

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Maybe if WOMEN STOP NAGGING so damn much MEN would COMMIT to their lonely asses

Posted on May 29, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Queens: Men are NOT mind readers. If there is an issue, don’t always expect us to be aware of it if you hold back & don’t communicate tactfully.

Kings: Women are NOT naggers. We have to listen more to understand her, be observant & pay attention to her. Her look reveals her feelings. One word can tell you everything on her mind.

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‘I’m fine’ can mean she’s going through it.

‘It’s ok’ means she’s really wants you to do something, so don’t disappoint her like everyone in her life always has.
‘Whatever’ means she feels continuing to talk to you will get her nowhere, because she can clearly see you lack understanding and common sense to follow her wisdom.

‘You know what?…’ means she really wants to tell your stupid ass the hell off, but she doesn’t want to allow your immaturity to dim the shine of her happiness, so she is choosing her words carefully.

‘Never mind’ means she wants you to do something on your own, without her having to tell your ass, but she doesn’t want to be the one to bring it up, because she’s so tired of being disappointed. COME THROUGH FOR HER! Make her feel crazy for ever doubting her expectations of a man. If we’d just LISTEN, we’d understand women so much better.

Men, let’s stop saying our women are nagging us.

If she’s nagging you about keeping your word, getting a job, going to school, setting goals, being responsible, cleaning up, utilizing your talents & pushing your potential, that’s not called nagging, that’s called being your MOTIVATION. Your Backbone. Your rib. Your Queen. And a queen doesn’t want a peasant boy with no goals, A queen wants a king with drive & ambition, who is confident, yet HUMBLE. A queen wants a man who is strong and hard, yet not too tough and solidified to be molded by her ceramic wisdom and insightful advice.

“Most women are annoying and they nag, because they don’t know how to respectfully communicate without rolling their necks and speaking loudly. Can we agree on that?” a marine complained, during a cooking class I did for a group of recently deployed Marines and Airmen.

“No man wants to deal with an annoying woman,” he continued. “Now, I love my girl back home, but she always tells me things fifty times, and when I complain and tell her that her nagging is the very reason why I am so hesitant to commit to her fully, she just cries right in front me and makes me feel like an asshole. Now, all of a sudden, I’m the one wrong for being honest. It’s not like I can’t see myself with her long term, we have three kids together and I would love to one day take our relationship to the next level, but I’m a grown man and I shouldn’t be spoken to like a child by my woman. Maybe if women stop nagging so damn much men would commit to their lonely asses. Maybe if women knew how to treat a man like a man and stop being so annoying, we would want to come home to them and only them. When I express my true feelings to her like that, she cries and bitches about me, saying I’m being insensitive. So, how should I respond to her when she’s nagging me and going off on her tangents?”

“The makings of a Strong Man is not just one with huge muscles & a well cut physical physique as yourself. The makings of a strong man is one who is strong enough to humble himself, swallow his pride and listen to a woman, so her wisdom can make us a better man,” I responded.

“A nag is a horse. We have to stop using words referring to women as animals, like horses and dogs, and start valuing her words. She’s not nagging, she’s not bitching, she is speaking life into you and it is up to you to value the love she has for you to correct you and perfect you.

Respond to a woman honestly, but with respect. Love is not a war soldier. Don’t use your words as a weapon to pierce your woman, use your words as a pair of binoculars to helps her see deep inside your heart to how much you care about her. Don’t lug spiteful grenades at her with your selfish verbiage, help her see why you even want her in your life at all, it should be crystal clear. As men we can not camouflage our feelings for our woman, we have to put them on display. In any response to your woman, let your words be a revelation of two things, an expression of how you feel about the matter at hand and an assurance to her of how clearly you can see her worth and benefit to your life.”

“I’ve been engaged to my boyfriend for nine months,” a tall airwoman revealed, “Well, technically we aren’t engaged yet, because he didn’t buy me a ring. Before I deployed, I told him I wanted us to be married, and he said he didn’t mind. Since then, I have kind of been planning out our wedding to take place sometime in the next two years. But, I have to admit, I get real discouraged about our future together, because I feel like I am the only one being responsible enough to invest in my education and career, while fighting for my country, while all he does all day is play Call of Duty and sell weed. How do I get my man to think more ambitiously for our future together?”

“A Woman with ambition and goals, and a weak-minded male with hobbies and no drive do not match,” I responded. “Successful, beautiful, deep thinking women such as yourself don’t attract lames. It’s just many males will ACT like a Man, but think like a boy. He will play the role he knows an ambitious woman wants to SEE in a man. He will listen to you talk about all you want in a man, then he will project back to you all you told him you want in a man. He will SAY he wants the same things you want. He will SAY he has goals. He will SAY he wants commitment. He will SAY he has ambitions. He will SAY he wants a career, but is he making the necessary moves to accomplish those dreams he is selling you?

Pushing weight is not a career. Pimping is not a career. Making t-shirts is not a career. If a male tells you otherwise, tell him, ‘cool shirt bro, but you’re not a fashion designer, you’re just a male who sells t-shirts with mildly clever words printed on them.’ Those are side hustles and I never knock hustles, but know this; having a side hustle does NOT make one a hustla.

A TRUE HUSTLA has ambition, drive and determination to accomplish dreams. A true hustla has the mentality of a boss with unbreakable goals. No one should ever knock anyone’s hustle. Likewise, one should never limit one’s self to only a side hustle.

Don’t reject the advice of a woman, who only wants the best for you young kings, because that girl who never calls you on your stuff, that girl who never pushes you to want better in life, that girl who never challenges you, that girl who stays silent when you make mistakes, that girl who never motivates your dreams, that girl who never tells you to go back to school, that girl who doesn’t care whether or not you have a job, that girl who lets you use her car to chill all day while she works all day, that girl who gives you her money she worked hard for, while you smoke it up and waste your day away; she’s not a ‘down ass female’, no. She’s a snake. A Lame. An enabler. She’s using you and holding back your hustle.

A queen will always bring the best out of you, she will not bite her tongue when she sees you need words of wisdom, she will not put a muzzle on her mouth, in fear you will think she has a smart mouth, she will always speak her mind and speak life into you. To treat a man like a man is not to only tell him things he wants to hear, and fear saying words that will crush his fragile ego. To treat a man like a man is to hold him in high regard and hold him accountable for his actions with respect and love.

I most definitely respect any man or woman who speaks their mind, regardless of what the hell anyone has to say about it or thinks about it. A strong minded man is admirable. A strong minded woman is commendable. Any man who can’t respect a strong minded woman who respects him, it’s because he’s an insecure coward of a male. A strong man will want his woman just as strong and confident as he is. This is the type of virtuous woman a mentally-mature man is dying to commit to, a woman who is a habitual truth speaker and a hopeless romantic.

I learned the most romantic thing I can do as a man, is listen to a woman, understand her, take mental notes, then when she least expects it, surprise her with something small she told me she likes. A woman just wants to know we are listening and understand her. If we as men listened to women more and complained about women less, there would never be a reason for a woman to ‘nag’ us in the first place.”

75% of my Facebook friends list are men, in the Air Force, navy & army, because my grand pop was a Tuskegee Airmen. So many of my distant uncles, cousins and homies are veterans. Many words I post online, sharing how to VALUE a woman & be a loyal man is based off the 100s of inbox messages these men send me weekly, asking me advice about women, to help them with their LONG distance relationship they have with their wives and girlfriends back home.

Being deployed away from their woman for several months in the year is so hard for them, they risk their lives protection our lives, our country, our rights, our security and they don’t do it for praise, they do it for a deep, undying love they have for all the people in their country. Many of them tell me they copy & paste my posts, print them out and send them to their woman, just so she can know he is not blind to her worth.

No matter what your opinion of war or politics is, you have to appreciate a man who not only puts his life on the line to protect you and fight for your freedom, likewise you have to respect a man who every day he is away from his woman, will focus on her and how to be a more understanding, emotionally sportive and loyal man for HER. I salute these men and woman, and anyone who fights to protect our rights as people. To me, that is a real king and queen.

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Why the most GENUINE WOMEN slow to TRUST have the fewest FRIENDS

Posted on May 22, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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WOMEN who have the smallest circle of friends tend to be the most genuine, because when you’re caring & loyal, it’s rare to find that in return. They keep a close circle, because fake female friends are not on their level of mental-maturity, compete with them, imitate their style, hate on them, are disloyal, talk behind their back, use them & always have their hands out for help, yet are never willing to help them when they need it most.

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“I honestly don’t have that problem, me and my girlfriends get along fine,” a blond, Danish woman testified during a cooking class I taught for a bridal shower. “In fact, my girls show me more affection than most guys ever do. My question is, how can I tell if a friend is really genuine or if they are just friendly towards me, because I am pretty, and they want to have a group of beautiful, stylish girlfriends to go out with and take pretty pictures with, basically just for show?”

“Young queens, you can tell a female is not a genuine friend if she will ask, ‘aww are you ok? What’s wrong honey?’ when she clearly sees you’re not ok, just so she can know all your confidential business to spread it around as gossip. You can tell she’s not genuine, because she will always ask you what’s wrong with much enthusiasm and a slight smile, like she’s actually happy that you’re sad.” I replied.

“She doesn’t really care if you are ok, she just wants to use you as a form of entertainment to attract friends by gossiping about your life to others. Females who lack confidence feel as though the only way they can get other women to like them is to have some messy drama about someone else to tell.

A fake friend will always rejoice in your misery and never celebrate in your happiness. They will always be around when you experience failures like, ‘oh what’s going on? Tell me more!” But, when you have successes and happiness, they don’t want to hear you talk about it. This is because some of your so-called friends get happy off your failure, because it makes them feel like at least they aren’t the only ones miserable, misery loves company. Your success annoys your fake friends so much, because it reminds them of the success and happiness that forever eludes them.

Some of your female friends look at you as their boyfriends. That is why she shows you more affection than most guys. She wants to be the one you go on dates with, cuddle with, confide in and say ‘I love you’ to. This is why every time you get in a relationship, she says, ‘girl, I don’t like him for you’. Then when you’re single again, she’s like, ‘girl, come to the club with me this weekend, so we can be the prettiest girls in the club, go hunting for guys with small egos and huge muscles, take pics and shine for the gram.” She doesn’t value your friendship, she is a leech, living of your genuine happiness.

If after you break up with your boyfriend, rather than console you and build you up, one of your girls says something to you like, ‘You acted like that guy was your whole life. I didn’t like him for you anyway, now I get my friend back.’ See, that just proves she is not a genuine friend. She was jealous of the relationship, not that you had with him, but that he had with you. Cut that leech off ASAP. A genuine friend will be happy you found love, not try to compete with your new love for your time and attention.

Some females are in constant competition with their friends. If you go out and buy a Michael Kors purse, next week you will see her with the same purse, same color, same design. If she sees you in some heels or a dress that you bought from an online boutique, she will say, ‘girl that’s a pretty dress and heels, what store did you buy it from? So I can know where to shop for you.’ with her slick, copy-cat ass. She doesn’t care about shopping for you, she wants to bite your style, simple as that.

I know you are tempted to put your girls on with your stylist, because some of your girls got nerve to wear open toe-heels without a pedicure, knowing damn well their feet look like eagle claws. We’re talking yellow toe nails, ashy ankles, like how is she light skin with ashy ankles? I know some of your girls act like they are allergic to pedicures, or even allergic to eye brow threading, with her bushy, Drake brows, but as a woman, your self-identity is everything.

Your hairstyle, fashion style, shoe game and hand bag style is a form of self-expression. You are not being selfish by being hesitant to share your beautician, hairstylist, esthetician and eyebrow-threader with your girls. Help them with it as much as you can, but when it reaches the point every time you invite one of your girls over, she’s asking to ‘borrow’ one of your outfits or heels, knowing damn well she has yet to return your favorite pair of heels she borrowed last summer, you know you have a leech on your hands.

You are in your friends’ life for them to learn from you if they are willing, but never become friends with someone you cannot learn anything from. Never become friends with someone you don’t want to become. Negative company corrupts positive fruit. You will be blessed with a few amazing friends in your life time. When you find true and genuine friends, shower them with love and affection while always remembering you are your best friend in this world. Be true to your friends, while remaining loyal to your self.

Loyalty is everything in a relationship with friends, family and dream mates. The worse thing a man can do is make his woman feel like she can’t talk to him about the issues she’s having with him, because he’s unwilling to shut up long enough to listen to her & understand how she feels, because he’s too busy interrupting her telling her how he thinks she feels and making excuses.

The worse thing a woman can do is talk to another woman about her relationship with her man. Young queens, you have to learn to be loyal to your man, not just with your heart, but with your mouth as well.

Don’t speak ill of your relationship on social networks. Don’t call or text your girlfriends, talking bad on your man, telling them all the things he does wrong, because once you do forgive him and the two of you make up, your girls will still have that negative picture you’ve painted of your man in their mind.

They don’t see the make up; they don’t see him apologize. They only see what you have told them when you were mad at him. Now, they hate him and secretly they want to break the two of you up, to protect you from what you told them he does wrong.

Young queens, when you and your man have an argument; no one should ever know about it. Please do not run to your phone and post on Facebook and tweet every time your man does something you don’t like. Do not hop on Instagram & create a meme about love every time you and your man fight, because when you do, you are breaking down the privacy levees of your relationship, allowing disloyalty to flood in like a hurricane.

The biggest threat to your relationship is not side hoes, it is you gossiping about your relationship to snakes in your circle. Not all of your ‘besties’ are happy you found love. Even if they love you, subconsciously if she can’t get a good man; your disloyal friend will always bad talk yours, shooting down your happy relationship, especially if you give her the ammunition. The best type of relationship is the one everyone sees, yet no one knows about.”

Women who are very strong-minded & very deep thinkers tend to be misunderstood, because not many people are mentality on her level. What stresses mentally mature women the MOST is not dealing with men. She knows exactly what she wants from a man. In fact, When she asks a man a question about something, she ALREADY KNOWS THE ANSWER. She just wants to see whether or not he will be honest about it.

What stresses mentally mature women out the most is other females.

So much of the stress in a virtuous woman’s life comes from the females in it. Her so-called ‘friends’, female co-workers, her girls who call her ‘sister’ ‘twin’ ‘backbone’ ‘ride-or-die’ or ‘best friend’, the type of females who are always hitting her up for relationship advice. Yet, after she gives her advice, the female goes and does the exact opposite of the advice. Then, she’s left like, ‘wait, so if you were just going to do what the hell you wanted to anyway, why call me for advice in the first damn place?’ The reason for this is deeper than many of us men can even imagine.

Strong women are often used by their female friends, who are really leeches & snakes. She gives them her friendship and she is used as an emotional crutch. She’s someone to lean on when her girls feel down, but just because a woman is very strong does not mean she doesn’t feel weak and get emotional sometimes. Just because she’s a deep thinker and gives great advice, does not mean she doesn’t need someone to talk to, to vent to, to give her advice, to lift her up.

A strong-minded woman needs a friend to lean on and be the caring friend to HER she is always to others. Yet, often when she needs a friend, or advice or help, her girls who she always helps are nowhere to be found. She’s always the one in the circle who has to call one of her girls out on their stuff and tell them the truth about their self.

She is always the one who has to tell her girl when she’s been drinking too much when they go out, to the point every night ends with one of her girls face down in a garbage can, throwing up. She is always the one holding her girl’s hair, while all the other girls in her circle are busy snapping pictures of her with their phone, posting it on Instagram, yelling, ‘WorldStar’ and ‘turn up!’

She is always the one who has to check one of her girls for trying to sleep with one of their girlfriend’s EXs, or check one of her girls for tying to talk to a guy who she knows damn well one of their close mutual friends has a crush on.

She is always the one who has to speak up and let one of her girls know she’s been spending way too much time with her man, flaking on her girls, even cutting off her girls, because her new man, who has yet to faithfully commit himself to her, doesn’t like her spending time with friends, because he wants to monopolize all her time and attention, making her dependent on only him for her happiness.

She is often told by her girls, ‘bitch stop acting like you’re my mother! Telling me what to do!’ Or she’s told, by her girls, ‘every time you get your eyebrows arched you think you can just say whatever you want to me huh?’ When in reality, she is only trying to look out for her friends. That is when her friends get defensive and start to talk b.s. about her to each other behind her back. Texting her friends, telling them all of her personal business she told them in confidence and confidential secrets, just to make her friends turn against her. Posting subliminal meme’s about her on Instagram. Telling all her business on social networks, then taking it down, trying to act like she never did it, with her ole snake ass.

This is why many strong-minded women keep a small circle, because there are very few women she can trust who match her mental maturity level. Mentally mature women feel like the women in her circle should be a reflection of Her. She’s not into having a circle full of pretty girls with zero ambition, who go to all the latest functions, yet, never go to work or school.
She’s not into having a circle full of girls who get their hair done, make up done and get dressed only to take pictures for Instagram likes. Yet, they are broke, living at home with their mother, who pays all her bills, phone and even washes her tacky clothes.

A mentally mature woman only wants women in her circle who are as ambitious, caring, mature, classy and intelligent as she is. She’s a REAL friend. When her friends hurt, she hurts. She stays up at night, thinking about her real friends’ problems like they are her own. Praying her friends will make better decisions with their life and learn to love themselves more.
Sometimes she is more mature than her own mother, who at times behaves like a toddler, and she has to deal with all of this all alone.

These are the characteristics of a Strong minded woman. This is all the stress & burdens deep thinking women have on their plate and carry on her shoulders. As men in her life, we have to know this and make a commitment That we won’t add stress to her already stressful life. If you are going to be part of a mentally mature woman’s life, either be bringing something to the table, taking away her stress, understanding her, offering her intellectual stimulation through DEEP spiritual conversation, or don’t even approach her, because she has so much on her plate and the last thing she needs in her life right now is us as men planting feelings in her heart, if we have no intention of cultivating them.

My sisters teach me everything I know about understanding a woman & that a confident woman loves to see the beauty in other women, because she doesn’t view every woman as her competition.

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Why ALL WOMEN OverTHINK, with their INDECISIVE BIPOLAR ass

Posted on May 15, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Most beautiful women OVER think, carrying so much pain & baggage from her past, because shallow leeches continue to load more B.S. onto her back, which clogs her mind. A woman can be dealing with so much & no one would ever know it, because she smiles, sucks it up & deals with it. But DEEP in her heart she feels the weight of the world on her shoulders.

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The most mentally-mature men & women are the DEEP thinkers. Their mind is constantly in deep thought. Ignorant doubters and negative pessimists irritate them, because they are mentally ascended high above the level of so many around them. Their MIND is what makes them beautiful, as it exudes beauty, wisdom & depth. Don’t let the negativity and ignorance of doubters dictate your level of happiness. Ignore the ignorant Deep Thinker. Pay them no mind. Their space-filled mind isn’t worth taking up space in yours.

The Deepest Thinking Women get bored with people easily & loose interest in people fast, because boring males with dry conversation aren’t interesting enough to keep her entertained. Every male who sees her wants her number, not solely due to her looks and body. Women with depth exude inner beauty effortlessly. However, when these mentally-immature males get her number, all they do is text her, saying, “wyd sexy?” “when you gone slide thru and take this vitamin D;)?” “hey” or ask her to send him intimate photography.

She’s not stuck up young king. She doesn’t text you back, because she can tell quickly you have nothing new and different to offer her. You get boring real quick after the first couple texts & you can’t make her laugh or talk about deep, interesting things on her mental level. You may possess an intriguing sexual prowess, yet if you cannot make an intelligent woman laugh, or even make her rethinking how she sees something with your wisdom, she will not take you seriously. Humor her. Intrigue her intellect. Stimulate her mind. Have something substantial to say and talk about. Teach her something new, stop hitting her with the same, dry conversation like, “hey, wyd cutie?”

First of all, ‘hay’ is for horses. If you’re going to text a woman, either text her uplifting words, or show her your sarcastic & tactfully humorous side by making her laugh. If you aren’t making her laugh uncontrollably or motivating her profoundly by showing her something new, a Deep Thinking woman will not take you seriously, instantly placing you in her ‘undatable zone’.

Second of all, texting a woman is extremely informal. If you want to show a woman you’re interested in her, do NOT just text her; CALL her. Tell her ‘I would like to take you out on a date this Thursday night, to the aquarium, before an Italian dinner and live music, and I promise you will not miss out on the level of humor and spontaneous excitement you are used to on a Thursday night, when Scandal is not on hiatus.’

When you primarily text a deep thinking woman, neglecting to call her and take her out on a real date, where you plan and pay for everything; you are proving to her why you genuinely deserve no chance in hell with her. If you don’t posses a deep mind, deep conversation and are unable to penetrate her deep with your mental stimulation, don’t try to approach a deep woman & ask her for her number.

“Anything that bleeds for more than seven days, I don’t trust,” a West Indian man with a heavy (hatian) accent complained during a public speak I did for a university’s Psychology department. “That’s some twilight, demonic, Bram Stoker Count Dracula type stuff. I have yet to meet a woman who doesn’t posses a double mind. Females are crazy. They talk to themselves all day long, over thinking about things they think might happen, like their minds are in a parallel universe or something. That’s why all women over think, with their indecisive bipolar ass, because they’re not sane. They literally posses a split mind and it’s annoying. How do you get a woman to stop being so indecisive, bipolar and stop over thinking and over analyzing everything so damn much?”

“Weak minded males always want to make a virtuous woman view her strong-minded thought pattern as a flaw,” I replied. “Whereas mentally-mature men can appreciate a strong-minded woman with depth. Now, you have to ask yourself, ‘which am I willing to be, a weak-minded MALE or a mentally-mature man?’ Once you decide, prune your mind of any thoughts opposing that type of man, or male, you want to be. Viewing all women as ‘anything that bleeds for more than seven days, undeserving of trust’ is the mentality of an ignorant, arogant, misogynistic, weak-minded, coward of a male.

Women don’t bleed for seven days. As men we have to stop referring to a woman’s menstrual cycle as some unholy, demonic, blood sacrifice. Understand, that cycle you are referring to is the very thing that caused you to be born. It’s not blood, it’s a degeneration of the prepared lining of her uterus.

A woman’s body prepares every 28 days, as if it’s ovum will be fertilized with your sperm cell. If it is fertilized, she get’s pregnant. If not, the whole prepared lining of her uterus degenerates and flows out of her body. That red degeneration is what you were referring to as her ‘bleeding for seven days’ when in reality, you didn’t know at all what you were talking about. Now that you understand a woman does not bleed for seven days at all, understand this:

When a woman is on her period, she’s not being over-emotional or ‘indecisive and bipolar’ as you say, she’s enduring the pain and early stages of what it takes to bring every man and woman into this world. She is balancing her thoughts while balacing the miricale of allowing life to travel pass her pineal gland, through her body, so pardon her if she tends to change her mind from time to time, she has bigger fish to fry than making her every action please a coward of a male, like, you know, bringing a life into existance.

During her menstrual cycle, it is a physical, emotional and psychological HELL for her. It feels like her vagina is being pierced, shot & stabbed, hence her irritability. Stop judging her and telling her how crazy she is. Be understanding of her and her emotions.

Once she comes off her menstrual cycle, she longs for the feeling of vaginal stimulation, almost like the scratching of an itch. As men, we have to be understanding of this & cater to our woman. Right as she comes off her period, make sure you trEAT her lower lips like you would treat your favorite meal, then give her that DEEP vaginal stimulation she needs, even if it is simply in the form of a deep tissue, full body massage. Conversely, if you can’t understand a woman and make her feel like she is in good hands with you, she will not afford you the opportunity to physically stimulate her, because she can clearly see you lack the ability to understand her enough to know she needs you to first provide her with the mental penetration and intellectual stimulation she deserves.

The difference between a MALE and a MAN is, a weak-minded MALE wants to be understood, while a mentally-mature man just wants to understand a woman, mind body and soul, then speak life into his daughter, sister, mother and queen. To answer your question,

the best way for a man to get a woman to stop being so indecisive, bipolar and stop over thinking and over analyzing things so much, is for him to simply shut his mouth, open his mind and allow his actions to speak life into a woman louder than his words.

A deep thinking woman feels the weight of the world on her shoulders and honestly, she just wants to be heard & understood. Lay her head on our chest so our heartbeat and strong-armed embrace soothes her to sleep. She always has to be so strong by herself, through all the pain she endures. Don’t make her feel she has no one to be strong FOR HER for once. It’s unnatural for a woman to be so frustrated and cry herself to sleep, feeling no one ever understands her.

As men, we were not put on earth to change a woman, we were put here to uncerstand her, and to be a virtuous woman’s strength, leader, protector & rock. We have to stop criticizing a virtuous woman who humbly opens up her heart to us. Conversely, we have to stop giving all our attention and commitment to selfish-using, weak-minded females who lack the humility for life to be spoken into her. Not every female you meet DESERVES your presence in her life you kings.

What makes you a man is not making every woman you meet fall helplessly and madly in love with you, only for you to have sex with them all, then break all of their hearts. What makes you a man is seeking wisdom, which will exalt you with the discernment to know the difference between a selfish, weak-minded female who doesn’t deserve your understanding patience, and a selfless, mentally-mature woman who deserves your understanding of her and your patience with her.

I know you say you’re married, but so many women feel we as men start to get complacent once we win a woman’s heart and loyalty, to the point we stop doing all the things we did to get her in the first place. This is a sign of a weak-minded male.

The valuing of a diamond does not end after the pursuit of it. The valuing and cherishing must continue after it is obtained, FOREVER. Most men already know this, the problem is NO MALES understand this. A weak-minded MALE wants to win a virtuous woman over and once he gets her, he stops doing exactly what it took to obtain her.

A mentally-mature MAN does even more for a virtuous woman once he wins her heart, because he recognizes her worth so much, he constantly behaves as if he doesn’t deserve her, in order to prove to her with his actions why he does deserve such a treasure like her in his life.

But a MAN and a MALE are two different species. Mentally-immature queens in the making may not yet fully posses the wisdom and discernment to tell the difference between a weak-minded male and a mentally-mature man. This is why she will unintentionally ALLOW a weak-minded male to have her heart and her loyalty, placing her heart in an inevitable position to be broken. However, a mentally-mature woman will ONLY ALLOW a mentally-mature MAN to commit to her, not a MALE who can’t continuously value her worth.”

Women must stop complaining why they cannot attract the caliber of man they want, and start realizing it is because she has yet to reach the level of mental-maturity and humility to attract the caliber of man she wants. She must BE the caliber of person she wants to attract in every way, or else her dream mate will forever elude her, turning her down for the same reason she turns down males who are not on her level. It has to go both ways.

In order to deserve and attract her dream mate, a woman must first edify her mind and seek the wisdom needed for her to discern the difference between a weak-minded male and a mentally-mature man. That ability alone is the one thing she can’t realize is attractive to a real man. Her inability to do this is the one thing keeping a mentally-mature man from ever approaching her. I know this from experince, becuase I would constantly turn down breathtakingly beautiful women who lacked the discerment to tell the differnce between myself and my mental-maturity and all the weak-minded males in their past. That inability to distinguish myself from them was a contant turn-off to me once I became a mentally p-mature man.

Any weak-minded MALE can pull a beautiful successful, deep-thinking woman. The sign of a mentally-mature MAN is one who can KEEP a beautiful successful, deep-thinking woman stimulated mentally, emotionally, sexually and spiritually at ALL times and never fall off in doing so. If the male you love can’t do all of that consistently, it is proof to you that you are giving all your love and loyalty to a weak-minded male, and it us up to you to stop giving your love and loyalty to those who prove to you with their actions constantly that they do not deserve it.

Staying on top is more difficult than climbing the mountain of success. The pursuit of a diamond requires blood, sweat and tears, but to keep & protect a diamond requires valuing and cherishing it. A virtuous woman is like a diamond in this regard.

Marriage is scary to some males, not simply due to their fear commitment. Too many males know they genuinely do not have what it takes to keep a virtuous woman happy in a serious relationship. If a man has never had an anniversary, he is not yet relationship material for a virtuous woman who is wife material. If a man has never been in a relationship longer than two years, he is not yet relationship material for a virtuous woman who is wife material. It shows he cannot hold a woman’s attention longer than a few seasons.

His sex may heat you up in the summer, but can his love keep you warm in the winter? Too many males can only offer a woman “NEW LOVE”. New love is that feeling a woman gets when she first meets a new guy she’s attracted to or when she commits to a guy who was previously in the friend zone.

The mention of his name makes her smile and blush uncontrollably. She wants to talk to him every day. She thinks about him every night before she goes to sleep. His Good Morning texts give her goosebumps. His sex game sends chills running up & down her spine. But “new love” is not really “love” it is INFATUATION. Like a cardiac high.

Once that new love drug runs out after a season or two, he can no longer stimulate her & he gets bored with her. He will give his woman less attention and start giving that attention to the multiple women he approaches daily, females on Instagram who look nothing like his woman and random women on social networks. Males like this will LIKE pictures of half naked women on Instagram all day long, or comment and tell random girls, “you’re so beautiful”. But he won’t pick up a phone to call or even text his the woman who is giving him all her attention and commitment, to tell HER she is so beautiful.

Once I stopped thinking with the head between my legs, and I mentally matured into thinking with the head connected to my brain, I realized what makes me a man is not trying to “talk” to every beautiful woman I see, nor is sleeping with every pretty girl who wants to spend the night. What makes me a man is choosing that ONE queen, being faithful to only HER and spoiling only HER, my future wife, with all my attention, love and loyalty.

Young kings, there is no more amazing feeling to be madly and deeply in love with a deep thinking woman, trust me. The physical beauty of a woman gets boring and fades, but the beautiful mind of a deep thinking woman will arouse your intellect every single time like it is the first time your pineal gland laid eyes on her.

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Why are all these bitches getting pregnant? Lol

Posted on May 11, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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This is why I respect ALL WOMEN so much: Every month she cries in pain,

laying on the floor, passes out, comes out her clothes, enduring all the cramps and pain of her menstruation in order to birth us all into this world. So the next time you call her a “bitch” or complain she’s too “emotional” consider all she goes through is exactly what your MOTHER did.

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I’m so tired of seeing girls post ==> “Why are all these bitches getting pregnant? Lol”

Listen dumbass, human life revolves around pregnancy you ignorant idiot. Your mother was once pregnant with your dumb ass. If not, you simply wouldn’t exist.

When a shirtless male posts a status/picture saying, “I’m having a baby” all the thirsty idiots like it, share it & comment hearts and ‘be like’, “what a good man ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤.” or “Lawd yasssss, father of the year, lol.” Conversely, when a young queen posts a status/pic saying, “I’m having a baby” or “I have such a love affair w/ my child ❤.” All of the same thirsty idiots call her a “whore” or comment saying, “maybe if you had such a love affair with a college diploma or a career you wouldn’t be knocked up now would you? lol #bangbang #shotsfired #NextTimeHaveAPassCodeForThatiVagina lol”

How is a woman a whore for getting pregnant?

Every human was born by way of a woman’s pregnancy. Even Jesus was born through a woman’s pregnancy, so stop making pregnancy sound like a disease or something. It’s not “pregnant season” it’s called procreation. Your life and all human life is insistent upon it. The Holy Spirit choose women to give life to every male and female through pregnancy, so if you have such a problem with pregnancy, get your tubes tied and shut the hell up with your woman-bashing .

Second of all, can we as humanity STOP USING THE WORD “bitch” to refer to women as a whole. I taught summer school last year and there are first grade children who think the word “bitch” is a synonym for the word “female”.

It grieved my heart to see an adorable 6-year-old special needs girl be yelled at by a snotty-nosed, 6-year-old girl who said, “You’re going in the wrong door! That’s not the bathroom-for-bitches you retard. Come over here!” Hearing that broke my heart, however, I was not insanely furious at the 6-year old girl who was verbally abusing that sweet little angel who was just trying to potty quickly; I was insanely furious at the PARENTS, who allow their words in anger, their lazy vernacular in humor and the profane verbiage of music, movies and reality shows to echo in the ears of their children who are unable to even spell the word “WHORE” with the letters “w” and “r” included.

As self-proclaimed “grown” men and women, we need to stop using the words:

“Bitch” and “Hoe” as synonyms for “FEMALE” and
“Nigga” as a synonym for “MALE” while we are at it.

Word sounds have power. The vibration of energy that manifests itself off the tongue and onto the eardrum are conceptions of creations. Simply put, word-thoughts have power. Referring to another human as a noun describing an animal is a subtle form of degradation and an attack on their subconscious, stripping power away from that person.

The word “bitch” in NO WAY has any relation to human females.

“Bitch” means = fem DOG or canine.
“Slut” means = PIG, of no specific gender.
“Heifer” (heffa) means = baby COW, of no specific gender.
“Kid” means = baby GOAT, of no specific gender.

I know our favorite comedians make it sound so cool to use these terms for animals against women. I’m fully aware rappers make it sound so rhythmic to make songs degrading women in a repetitious hook, to the rhythm of an amazing beat, but despite that,

This is why you should respect Women:

It was my fourth day teaching summer school and one of the Austrian, English Lit teachers observed a 14-year-old Boricua girl in his classroom, sitting with her head down, arms around her head, so he said,

“Excuse me, hey! (snaps his fingers) hey! (claps his hands loudly to gain her attention) sit up right this instant, or I will give you an ‘F’ and kick you out of school. And once you’re out, that’s it, no making up these credits for fall semester; you will enter September as a second-year-Freshmen.”

The teenage girl grimaced, wiped her face and sat up. The teacher told her, “Why don’t you come on over to the board and solve this reconstructed sentence, placing the predicate where it belongs.”

The teenage girl put her hands over her face and shook her head, unintentionally piercing the arrogant teacher’s low self esteem, igniting his humongous ego.

He said, “come solve the problem or get an F. No other options.”

I walked over to the teenage girl, took of my blazer and handed it to her. Then, I reached into my pocket, handed her my key & told her to, “stand up and follow me young queen.” And I walked her to the bathroom, closing the door behind her. Right before I shut the door, I hear her in a low whimper say, “thank you so much.”

When I walked back into the classroom, the teacher smirked, did a fist pump and asked, “Mr. Aseem, did you kick her out?

I pulled him outside of his classroom and intellectually told him the hell off. This is what I said,

“Sir, every month, women endure the cramps and all the pain of their menstruation. You have to remember this & pay attention to women. That girl you were chomping at the bit to flunk, she is on her period and in pain, so much that she was in tears. Not only that, I think she may have been bleeding through her pants, because of how long you made her sit there. That, and that alone is why she didn’t want to stand up in front of the class at the board to acquiesce your chauvinistic demands.

You can’t have your, “no bathroom policy” sir. You have to allow these students go to the restroom, especially the girls, so they can handle their business, which frankly, is none of yours.

No lie, this arrogant asshole of a teacher told me, “You’re right SIR, it’s none of my business and it’s not my problem,” and he turned to walk back into his classroom. I grabbed that bastard’s shoulder and told him just like this,

“Your mother went through the same pain every twenty eight days in order to bring your stupid ass into this world. You know that? So, I beg to differ SIR, it IS indeed your problem. Now, I don’t know how you run your clown curriculum during the school year, but I don’t treat children like they’re animals. We are grown ass men. For some of these children, we are the only example of a man they have ever had in their lives, so we WILL treat them with respect. Remember, you too were a child once.”

No matter where you are, work or whatever, never be afraid to speak truth and stand up for what you KNOW is right. I am so tired of the way we treat our women in this world, it is disgusting how low we treat the ones who are the gatekeepers and givers of life, who are chosen divinely to give life at that. I feel if you come out of a woman, you have no right in the world to disrespect a genuine one. I pray this world learns to value women by the time I have a daughter.

I made a promise to my sister at the beginning of this year that I will devote my all to sparking change in the way women are treated in this world, and honestly I am not satisfied with anything I have done thus far. This is only the beginning. Trust.

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Mother’s Day is Everyday

Posted on May 11, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Ebrahim Aseem
Mother’s Day is EVERYDAY.

When I was a child, my mother often ate in her room w/ her door closed, separate from me & my sister eating at the table. One night, I heard noise in my moms room & when I went in, I saw my mother laying on her bed, exhaling deep breaths in exhaustion after a long day teaching kindergarten, holding her stomach. That was the moment I realized my mother seldom ate dinner, she’d go w/o food just so my sister & I could have enough food to eat.

My mother constantly sacrificed buying herself expensive clothes, jewelry & trips to give us food every night. She kept a smile on her face at all times, so we wouldn’t know how cash poor we really were. From that day on I taught myself how to cook &

I made sure my mother ate everyday. I promised myself I would do something with my life, so my mother would never have to over sacrifice just to pay bills. That is what fuels me. That is why I work 3 jobs, cooking all day. That is why I don’t complain about life, I just keep a smile on my face like my mother always does.

My mother showed me the true strength of a woman, that is why I respect good strong-minded women so much.

That is why I always speak to large groups of men weekly, teaching them the importance of not trying to change a strong, outspoken woman, but to understand a woman.

That is why for the past 10 years, I have done youth mentoring to hundreds of young Black & Latino boys, teaching them how to speak life into a woman & taking them on HBCU college tours all over the country. I may have money & success now, but I came from not having anything and it is because of that, & what my mother did for me I am the man I am today & I value understanding a woman and respecting a woman’s worth.

I was raised my a queen, so I know how to value one. To me women are not “bitches”, women are not “hoes who ain’t loyal”, women are NOT “only good for using her body for money”. GENUINE women are QUEENS & deserve to be treated as such. If we make a woman a MOTHER we have to respect her, stop calling the mother of your children a crazybitch, you bring shame to your OWN mother by disrespecting the mother of your children young kings.

I will dedicate the rest of my life to giving my mother the level of respect she deserves by respecting her, & all genuine women, & teaching every man I meet that we as MEN were put on earth to SPEAK LIFE into a woman, because every man was created by a mother & every woman is someone’s mother or sister & they all deserve respect.

Happy MOTHER’s Day
Never rely on a man made holiday to show love to your loved ones, mother’s day is everyday. I’m cooking my mommy pancake brunch.

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