Why NO male wants a GUARDED woman

Posted on January 1, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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How to love a BROKEN Woman, before being GUARDED leaves her single, forever.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Edited by: Noemí Henriquez Follow @emivhenriquez

“Ebrahim, sir, I just can’t do it with these broken, jaded, scorned, bitter, guarded females anymore. I actually fell in love this time, and it was great the first month. We spent all our spare time together. Wine tastings, a cruise to Greece, I even introduced her to my grandparents. She told me she loved me. Now, she’s guarded and distant, saying she’s not yet over her EX, who ripped out her heart after years of making her play the side hoe role. I feel like I’m done my brother.

I go on Instagram, & women 1,000s of miles away show me more affection & sweet words than my girl does. They send me good morning texts, and good night pics. It’s hard to stay loyal to a broken woman who’s so guarded, when there’s so many affectionate girls willing to let a nigga in. When she’s happy, she’s so in love with me & it’s great! But when she’s guarded, she’s so distant with me, & it’s frustrating. How do you love a broken, guarded woman?”

No nigga wants a guarded woman. She’s bitter. She’s guarded. She’s scorned to love. She’s an over emotional mess. Cries for no reason. Afraid to let a nigga in. Because a “nigga” is a WEAK male. Sorry. Double-minded. Unstable in all his ways. Bro, we must cease being a woman’s NIGGA & start being a woman’s MAN.

Here are 10 steps to loving a guarded woman.

#1. Stop judging her emotions & holding her hard past against her.

She’ll be guarded. She’ll be difficult. She’ll say she needs time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. She’ll cry for no reason. She’ll feel so broken. Whatever you do, don’t you give up on her. Don’t you make her feel she isn’t enough. If you love a woman consistently enough, hard enough, you will fight her demons, defeat her trust issues, & the reward will be her heart. King, you deserve the woman of your dreams. Holistically improve your self to attract her, you amazing spirit you!

#2. Understand her. She only guards her heart, because all the issues of life flow from it.

Sometimes a woman is guarded & holds back, because she’s scared of falling for you so fast, when nothing in her past was ever made to last.

All she does is give & it leads to depression, because all she ever gets in return is pain, heartbreak & rejection. They tell her, “I’m different” yet, every day is the same. She holds back her trust, just to keep from going insane. She only has ONE drop of love left, so if you want to be her man, consistently SHOWER her w/ love & drown her w/ reassurance, do what no one ever does for her => Understand.

#3. Be strong for her. She always has to be strong for herself.

A weak male can’t love a guarded woman. He’s too busy judging her past & flaws to appreciate her worth. She’s not broken. She’s not fragile, she’s cautious. Her heart has been built up & teared down so many times, yet it still beats fine. She is an uncut diamond in the rough, yet she still shines. Cherish her. Cater to her. Be her rock.

Diamond sharpens diamond. Iron sharpens irons. Let a loyal woman be the gem that sharpens our iron, and we can reciprocate & sharpen hers. A guarded woman is more than capable of standing on her own, but a strong man won’t let her. He will hold her hand & stand by her side. She’s not a strong woman, she’s a woman of strength.

#4 Be patient with her Trust Issues.

Do you know what it feels like to meet someone, fall for them, have them give you the world, open up to them about all your demons & secrets, then have that person just snatch the whole world right from under you. Only to have to meet someone new & learn to trust again? It’s agony. And you want her to just trust you off the bat? How dare you even suggest it. EARN her trust, over time and support her as she takes responsibility for her past.

#5. Help her fight the demons in her mind.

Girls will over think the perfect man for them out their life. Her mind is her worst enemy. Pain is so comfortable, because love is so foreign.

Being a man of actions & consistency will help re-write the guarded thoughts in the dramatic script that is a woman’s over-thinking mind.

#6. Stop taking her strength for rudeness. You have no idea the tragic, life threatening pain she’s had to endure from her past, just to be strong today.

We have no idea how HARD it is for a woman to share her thoughts & feelings, when no one’s ever taken time to understand her, or HEAR her. Be her ear. Be her heart. Be that strong hand that grips & massages her curves after a long day, & just LISTEN. Be her peace. Take her stress away.

As a girl, her mother constantly cut her off, never allowing her to express herself. Males always cut her off in mid-thought.

She’s not rude or smart mouthed. The only way she’s able to speak her mind is to do it assertive, because it feels like she can never get her true feelings out fast enough for someone to listen.

When a woman respectfully calls you out, man the hell up & TAKE IT, listen, then apply her wisdom to your life, & ALLOW her to be your help meet.

Don’t get defensive, it makes you look guilty.
Don’t brush her words off, it makes her feel so sick, like she’s not being heard.
Don’t call her over-emotional, crazy, stupid, dumb, idiot, or say she’s trippin.
YOU are trippin. YOU are crazy. She’s not doing too much, she just loves you bro.

#7. Stop dangling commitment over your woman’s head, like a carrot to a horse to feed your ego & mask your insecurities. Commit to her already!

Don’t confuse a woman’s loyalty for stupidity bro. She can love you to death, yet, want absolutely nothing to do with you, for life. A woman’s fall back game insists upon your level of consistency.

Women are more than looks bro. Once we find ONE who improves the man we are, supports our ambitions, puts us in check, yet shows us respect, let’s let go all these girls with ONLY body & looks to offer, & give that rare ONE something real. Commitment.

You can’t blame a woman for being so guarded. She’s never been given commitment. You would guard a treasure from people too, if it has never been appreciated & valued. Teach her how to let you in by faithfully committing your self to her.


#8. Once she commits herself to you, be her provider. Fulfill her every need.

Nothing ever works for her. Nothing goes as planned. She always loses. Family. Promotions. Student loans. Friends. Commitment. She feels alone. She’s always so strong for herself. She deserves someone to be strong for her for once in this life. Be that for her bro.

A real man can’t stand seeing his woman suffering in any way
He will powerfully move mountains to keep her emotionally, spiritually, sexually & financially complete.

#9. Don’t use your words to tear her down, use your words to SPEAK LIFE into your woman.

I just want you naked. Past that fake smile you wear to hide your doubts. I know you combatively converse with the demons in your mind, i know you don’t feel as beautiful as you look. I just want to be your calm. Your peace. Your strength. Lean on me. Let’s be weird together.

We don’t have to lay together to be intimate. Let’s converse deeply about nothing. If I ease deep inside your mind, will all your fears drip out? I know you’ve always felt so misunderstood. Teach my how to speak your mind’s language the way no one ever could. Let’s be weird together.

Baby, when I look at you I don’t see a broken woman. I don’t see a guarded woman. I see buds of happiness, on the eve of blooming. I see clouds of closure on the verge of raining down, to wash away your trust issues. I see me. You complete me. What am I without you? I am broken. I am a gun, with ITS guard on, no bullets, worthless.

And I need you baby, I need you to set me free. I don’t want you to LET your guard down & LET me in. Keep it up, if need be. Just know, I will fight for you, I will EARN you. I will be strong for you & rip, fight, claw, punch & BREAK your guard down with the strong arms of the chambers of my heart.

I want lazy Netflix Sundays with you, where we order deep dish pizza & never leave the bed.

I want trips overseas to foreign countries with you, where we visit ancient bistros, & inhale art with our pupils.

I want a daughter who looks just like you, my beautiful flower, so I can take both my flowers to the beach, & water them with love as we watch the sunset.

I want cruises with you, live music concerts with you, deep hugging you from the back, as I draw the lyrics to the love song with the trace of my tongue on the back of your neck.

I want a life with you, not just because you are the most beautiful form of matter I have ever seen in the universe. It’s because you were made for me. You are my rib. You complete me. I want to be your poetic justice. Pain has written your life story as a tragic plot. The blood ink of my undying love for you will write you a fair tale crescendo, my queen.

#10. Become equally yoked with her.

If you can lay with her, you should be able to pray with her.
True marriage is not you to her, it is her married to the word, wisdom deep inside her & you married to wisdom inside you, thus you two walk together, married, because you agree.

You want her to open up to you? Fine, but when she does you will not use it against her, you will not make her pay for showing you her vulnerabilities. You will not make her feel wrong for opening up to you. Pour so much love into a guarded woman’s glass heart, that if she sips it slow, it will last her forever.

I met a sweet girl, she opened up to me & I made her feel foolish for it. I over questioned her & made her explain her feelings. I was selfish, young & dumb, & I lost out on something real.

Men, we will always lose when we take a loyal woman for granted. A broken woman will always be repaired one day, but a selfish man who breaks a woman is cursed to live with that regret for life. Don’t become that man, bro. You only get one queen. Cherish her, adore her, flood her with an abundance of LOVE, until she becomes it.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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How a person identifies themSELF has nothing to do with you.

Posted on January 1, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

How a person identifies SELF has nothing to do with you.

A biracial person is NOT a mut, they define SELF, not you.

A transgender person is NOT gay or bi, unless THEY identify themself as such.
Their gender is more so for THEM & their chromosomes to define, not YOU.
Some people are “Agender” = no defined gender, & you WILL respect it. Don’t respect it? Cool, then refrain from conversing with them.

You have no right to call people names or appraise their worth.

People may bully you, pick on you, call you ugly, fat, dumb, fag, just know, I love you. You are a valuable light of energy in this universe, whose frequency is too high to be defined. You are one of a kind.

Maybe if we stopped judging others by appearance & started loving each other by vibe, people
wouldn’t feel so unloved to take their life. ‪#‎EbrahimAseem‬ ‪#‎LeelahAlcorn‬ ‪#‎OneLove‬ ‪#‎SpeakLife‬

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Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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“Ladies! He wouldn’t STALK you if you ACKNOWLEDGE him.” No clown. A Woman owes you NOTHING!

Posted on December 29, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549622967391776768

That’s what Cheyenne Bostock, an author & self proclaimed “relationship expert”, with the swagger of Braxton P. Hartnabrig, from the 1990s “Jamie Foxx Show”, tweeted during his women bashing diatribe today, victim blaming women for being stalked.

A woman ignoring you does NOT give you the right to stalk her, blow up her phone, slander her via social network, nor gossip about her within your circle. That is never the right of a man, it is the behavior of a coward ass mark.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Twitter.com/EbrahimAseem

https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549628336956522498

A woman is NOT “running” or “curving” a man by choosing not to entertain his foolishness. She peeped the warning signs. It read, “beware of dog.”

The women weak males consider curve masters or prudes are not being stuck-up. She keeps her legs closed, because she knows the power IN it.

Face your stalker? No Braxton, I mean Bostock, why do you want to get women killed?

Did you know 1 of every 3 women are physically or sexually abused at some point in their lives? Advising women to “face their stalker” is a suicide mission bro. Quit promoting femicide.

In her 1976 book, “Crimes Against Women” feminist author Diana E. H. Russell reveals,

“From the burning of witches in the past, to the more recent widespread custom of female infanticide in many societies, to the killing of women for so-called honor, we realize that femicide has been going on a long time.”

Over 90% of female homicide victims are killed by someone they know & 76% of these victims were stalked before their deaths.

Stalkers are emotionally unstable & flagrantly violent. Cheyenne, are you the rape whisperer?

https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549623568150298626
https://twitter.com/RealJudgeLynn/status/549624923812286464

Men, understand, a woman owes you nothing. Not a text back, not a follow back, not a date, not a conversation, not even a polite “no thank you” and a smile.

You can be respectfully persistent in fighting for a woman’s attention & she’s well within her right not to acknowledge your existence.

A confident man will accept this & move on. But a coward, poor excuse of a man will stalk her out of anger. Angered by her strength. Envious of her light. Armed with a pocket full of “bitches” & piercings insults as his knife.

https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549619923635679232

Women have the power to ignore and move on. They don’t have to acknowledge a stalker, follower or fan. No one has a right to harass a person into speaking to them.

If you approach a woman in person, do NOT put your hands on her. Do NOT double question her. If she ignores you, to the point of anger, she’s not being a “bitch” bro, YOU are.

Clicking follow on a woman’s Instagram does NOT count as approaching her. Just because you DM her a simp-riddled message disguising your insanity, does NOT mean she has to converse with you. Who are you? Obviously a wuss of a male too afraid to approach a woman in real life.

Stop calling a woman “rude bitch” for ignoring your lack-luster advances. YOU are the “rude bitch” bro, sassily snapping at her for being cognizant of the fact your lame, passive-aggressive-ass has nothing to offer her.

And by “offer her” I don’t mean money.
Your piss poor thoughts & bankrupt game can not afford
her rich, intrinsically ascended mind frame. Get the picture?

https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549624211732725760

It doesn’t matter what a stalker wants, all that matters is what the woman wants. If she says no, stop, turn, then walk your sorry ass away & try again next lifetime *Eryka Badu voice*

Women politely decline males all the time, and those males grab them, hit them or rape them, blaming his animalistic actions on her cleavage or how much skin she’s showing.

It’s not up to women to dress in a way that doesn’t arouse a man. It’s up to us as men to control our lust & think w/ our brain head, not our dick head.

https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549626788939579393

Cheyenne, you sound scorned as hell bro. Who hurt you? Are you mad that you look like an overgrown Curious George?

A woman drove you to cheat? abuse? stalk her? No, she showed strength & your weak-ass got sassy. A woman has a right to change her mind & her feelings. Males switch-up so often, she’s waiting to see who your thespian-ass is gonna PRETEND to be this week.

https://twitter.com/AskCheyB/status/549631502582308865

How dare we as men speak in a position of privilege in regards to makes excuses as to why WE do anything to a woman.

Nothing “stems” stalker behavior. Maybe if we stopped Victim Blaming women for every crime committed against them, maybe if we stopped calling all women hoes, sluts, slwhores, THOTs and bad bitches, maybe if as men we stark taking responsibility for how we treat OUR women, they wouldn’t be aggravated to anxiety, living in fear of being hurt and taken advantage of every day of their lives.

I feel so guilty as a man, after reading this trash, because WE do this. We harass & bully women into giving us their number.

Where are the REAL MEN? Not the weak wusses playing a “good guy” role.

Stop being a coward. No woman likes a sussy-coward male.
THAT is why she doesn’t like you & ignores you.

How to approach a woman:
I like you & would love to take you out on a date somewhere fun to see if your vibe is as beautiful as your face is.

If she accepts, say, “I want to take you out Friday, what time are you available?”
If she declines, say, “Cool beans, prayerfully you enjoy your weekend.”

It’s that simple. If she rejects you, respect it. That’s HER choice. She doesn’t owe you her time, her number or her smile.

Why call a woman a bitch, because she was kind enough to reject you instead of leading you on?

And please stop crying, “girls only want assholes, not nice guys” No. Women simply crave confidence & ruggedness. You wear the “good guy” mask to hide your insecurities & apprehension. You’re a yorkie. She wants a MAN, not a pet bro.

The cold truth is women are not bitter bitches, you are bro, when you can’t take “no” for an answer.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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Why your FAMILY treats you like they HATE you, no matter how GIVING you are

Posted on December 26, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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If you found someone who’s consistently good to you. Dont ruin it, don’t run from it, don’t doubt it, don’t push it away. Just appreciate it & reciprocate. It’s too rare not to.

In the Disney film, “Wreck-It-Ralp” Ralph wasn’t even invited to the game’s 30th anniversary party. When he put his figure at the top with everyone else, they got so offended.

This is how a giver feels when family takes their giving for granted. Abandoned. Used. Alone. Like they’re the villain.

Ralph met a kindred spirit in Vanellope, who was bullied, mocked & teased for her glitch flaws. Her flaws turned out to be her gifts. Ralph turned out to be more family than her sisters.

Your flaws are not a bad thing.

Your blood family is not your SPIRIT’s family. Blood is nothing but relation. Being born around people does not mean their frame of mind is a kin to yours. Keep your family at a distance & your enemies close, because SOME folks you call “fam” tend to envy the most.

The reason family treats you like they hate you the more you give to them is, they don’t want you to know how amazing you are.

Your family brags about you when you’re not around & starves you of appreciation when you are. They do this, because they think if you ever realized how amazing you are, how much they value you, you’d leave them for bigger and better things.

Stop caring so much what people think. Stop letting others’ opinion of your past define who you are today & shape how you feel about yourself. You are simply amazing.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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IG: @Fuel4TheBODY

“Why do the love ones you give to the most treat you the worst?” a young woman asked me during a public speaking event.

“My mother treats her boyfriend’s kids better than she treats me. She always has, even though I was always the one to carries her up the stairs & to her room after she’d come home drunk. I clean her off & fix her up, because if her boyfriend saw her drinking, he’d yell at her.

My mother doesn’t acknowledge anything I do. I just can’t talk to her. I can’t talk to anybody. The three main people in my life who I thought were my best friends basically abandon me. Like really, I didn’t do anything & they just decided not to like me anymore. After how many years? 8? I don’t understand how I could be so foolish. The more I give to my family & friends the more they treat me like they hate me. Am I too giving? Is that possible?”

“You are not to giving, people in your life are just too selfish,” I responded.

To a user, you have no value. To another giver, you ARE appreciated. Find another you to pour your all into & they will reciprocate.

A giver never requests anything for them self. They always ask, “how can I help others feel appreciated & take their stress away?” It makes a giver so sick no one ever does the same for them. Shower them w/ care & affection.

They hurt you so badly, because your pain is their happiness. Hurting someone so badly they get suicidal thoughts gives a selfish person life. It makes them throb to know they hold your life in the palm of their hands.

I swear some blood are against you. They will speak so low about you to your face, steal from you, tell all of your business, sleep with your EXs, let money come between you, then have the blood sucking nerve to ask you,

“why are you actin brand new? Blood is thicker than water.”
No, why are you acting like a two-faced snake out for blood?
Blood doesn’t make family. Possessing the same frame of mind does. Some family are EXs. Ex-family, so make sure you X their snake ass out of your life.

FamiLIES
Can’t spell families without LIES, because
snakes lie in the grass awaiting a way to make you their prey.

Blood doesn’t make family,
having the same vibe & frame of mind reveals who your true family is.
To hell with anyone who ever crossed you, fam or not.

Anyone who was ever close to you & took your real ness for weakness by being disloyal proves you were & are realer than they can ever hope to be.

If you have to beg someone for respect & acknowledgement & to give you what you give them, it’s an indicator they don’t deserve you. Walk away.

You are NOT your flaws mistakes or past hurt. You’re the strength & resilience you show after bouncing back from pain. Don’t let pain scorn you.

I know too many people in your life never want to notice or acknowledge all you give to them, but you DESERVE to be acknowledged & appreciated.

Stand up for yourself more. Respectfully & articulately let them know how you feel.

You have no idea how much my FAMILY means to me. I like to stay strong for them when tragedy strikes, because I know my family looks to me for strength.

I think deep about my family all the time. When I pray, it’s for loved ones alive & spirits passed on. It hurts me when they stress. Their happiness is everything to me. But I refuse to entertain the opinions blood (fake fam) have about the way I live my life.

If you only drop in my life when you need something & only follow my life through my posts & pics, you have no right to tell me how to live it.

The coldest feeling is looking around & realizing the ones you give your all to don’t got you the way you got them.

Queen, it will always get better. People lie, things fall apart. Pain heals. Scars remain forever then you realize this body is temporary & scars don’t ever wound your spirit.

“Well, I’ve never really been a happy person,” on young woman admitted.

“I’m always down or complaining about something. At a certain point I didn’t care about anything, not even myself. I contemplated suicide for two years. I’m better now. And for a few months I was actually happy. But these past couple months have been so drained. I have no self-confidence what so ever. I don’t believe people when they say they love me or care about me. I just feel so alone. And all the this time I have to myself is wasted on hating everything I am. I don’t know what to do.”

“I’m glad you never ended your life,” I told her, ” because if you did, I wouldn’t have met you. And my life would not be great, because we would miss you. See you are here not for all those selfish family who blame you for everything that foes wrong. You are here for the genuine people in this room, who extract strength & purpose from your resilience & endurance.

I know you go through a lot of b.s & pain, & people in your life don’t appreciate you & acknowledge all you give & sacrifice to trust like they should.

I know at times you feel alone, but don’t let pain mold the person you are. Don’t let sadness & hurt stop your from being happy. You are too giving & caring to everyone else to not have the genuine energy you give others reciprocated.

I know you are tired.
Tired of the pain, sadness and stress of this dark, cruel and twisted world. But you know something, happiness is the people we surround ourself with & the thoughts we hold.

I know you smile to hide your pain, so no one else can see, but I see it
I see you.
I know you got issues.
I know you got temper.
I know you got problems.
I know you are far from perfect.
But you are perfectly imperfected.
Every flaw of yours helps outline your awesomeness, because your weakness & vulnerability makes strong, genuine, kindred spirits want to help you through it.

I know how hard it is for you not to have self-confidence, & I know you feel alone. There is a reason. There is a reason you are being made to hate everything you are.

There is an energy there with you in this room right now. It’s a dark evil energy and it wants to trick you. It wants you to judge your life off of the bad things only, so that you will not stick around long enough for your BIG GREAT GRAND REWARD OF A HAPPY LIFE.
It’s close, very close.

But that evil energy wants you give up and judge your life off ONLY the pain.

Your life gives purpose.
You are inspiration.
You are strength.
And I pray that you don’t hate yourself, because then that means you hate my inspiration. I speak life for genuine spirits like you, belittled all their life by selfish family.

My life is hard too, but seeing all that you been through & all the pain you lived with, seeing you still stand helps me go on strong.

Don’t take my motivation away from me. We need you to stay strong, so we can last & make it in the crude dark world.

So what I want you to do is let tell yourself ‘I AM strength’.

“Well can I just say thank you,” she replied. “Thank you so much. I do believe that God has a plan for me. I can see it. But all this darkness has clouded it for me. Just takes a few words of wisdom from you to help me see clear into my future again.”

“You matter.
You are great.
Just because people don’t say it enough doesn’t mean it’s not true
You are so giving. So special. I’m so proud of you.

You are a princess, like Vanellepe. At the end of the movie, when she won, all the people in her life rememebred she was a royal. People in your life just have yet to remember, you are royal.”

“As your merciful queen, I here by decree that everyone who was ever mean to me shall be…. executed…haha just kidding.” – Princess Vanellope, Wreck-It-Ralph

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker, nutritionist and author, of West African Hebrew ancestry. I speak isiZulu & Swahili I’ve been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years.
Book me to speak at your unversity! Currently doing a college speaking tour on this & many topics.
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Black people. You were NOT Egyptians. You were something GREATER … Gods & Kings #Review

Posted on December 18, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“Egyptians are White & Annie is Black. What’s going on with hollywood?” – Chris Rock

The White Privileged’s ancestors learned at the feet of yours. Do no hate them. You are much greater than they. Be proud they learned from you how to walk, after crawling mentally for so long.

A king & queen does not waste energy hating the peasant minded who are beneath them. A king knows he rules OVER peasants.

I do not hate White people. I love them & ALL people of the human race, who I detest are negative spirits in ANY form or color who hate them self & hate life, & hurt innocent dogs and kill them & hurt rare species. I am for peace. Spirits have no race. One love.

Black people who don’t know their own history hate white people & ignorantly blame all White people for the sins of their ancestors.
Black people who know their royal lineage don’t waste time hating their peasants, they’re too busy living the frequency & purpose of THEIR ancestors.

Slaves hate their master.
Kings love their peasants.
Which one are you?

Black people were never “Egyptians” We were Kmt. who ruled the East African country way before Kemit was renamed Egypt.

It’s like calling slaves “American” to hide the fact they descended from the womb of a West African Queen, stolen from their land BY Spaniards, then brought to the Caribbean.

If you deprive a lion from living in the house, he’ll fight to be accepted in. This is how man imprisons a born king.

The man fears the born king learning his regal history will not only FREE him, but awaken them all to the intrinsic realization they were divinely chosen by that man’s OWN “God” to rule, instead of him.

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The new film, “Exodus: Gods & Kings” depicts Egyptians as “White”, their servants as “Black” & people they enslaved to build monuments as “Jewish”. This is historically inaccurate, done to hide the rare known fact the original Hebrews were Black. They lived a matriarch way of life.

Brotherhood, strong husbands & fathers, taught their boys young to be confident protectors. Sisterhood, strong mothers & queens, raised their daughters to value self as the jewel.

Post Kmt. Egypt was a melting pot, the way America is today.

In fact, the same way Europeans “discovered” (stole) America from the Native Chiefs & Kings, their ancestors “invented” (stole) Egypt from Black Kmt. Queens & Kings.

Egyptians (not Kmt.) were multiracial pagans who, tried to colonialize the motherland & enslave its people AFTER learning at the feet of Blacks for centuries before Kmt. was renamed Eygpt.

This is before the motherland was renamed “Africa”. At that time, major continents did not have a name. Nomadic tribes ruled & their names rung out, like Zulu.

The original (Black) Hebrews were never colonized, because they always had two armies, one all male, one all female. Thus, when their descendants, The Moors, The Kmt., battled, it was a handicap match, two on one

An example of this is when The Moors conquered Rome. The Moors had both a male & female army.

These all-female armies were just as skilled, if not more, as their all male armies. But HIStory books do not tell these truths, it was re-written by the underdog to make HIM appear the hero.

The reason the one percent has made our current world a “man’s world” was simply, to hide one’s royal lineage from them. They don’t want you to know if you descended from a queen or an emperor.

This is why the only history of yours they tell you is slavery. They don’t want you to know THEIR ancestors used to be YOUR servants.

They don’t want you to remember your spiritual connection to the universe & the Divine Creator predates their little manmade religions.

In the non-fiction masterpiece, “Metu neter Vol. 2 Anuk Ausar” historian Ra Un Nefer Amen reveals,

“To the Africans of antiquity, the master-key to wealth, wisdom, harmony, true salvation in this life & the other, resided in [living] a way of life in which every individual strove to awaken & develop the higher, godlike part of being self.

They clearly knew all emotion & pleasure motivated behavior were not expressions of the self.”

The film “Exodus” offers amazing visual pleasure that plays on the emotions of actions lovers. Yet, other than outstanding visuals, amazing details of ancient buildings & a spectacular score, Gods & Kings feels emotionless & lacks the substance the film’s director Ridley Scott put on display in his hit film, “Gladiator”.

Instead of drafting such a poor script, Scott should have adopted his screenplay from a historically accurate book, such as “Metu Neter Vol. 2 Anuk Ausar”, that highlights,

“It is unfortunate the millions of people who have witnessed the great accomplishments in art, math, architecture, etc. of Egypt, have never understood that the singular cause for such accomplishments was the people’s devotion to a way of life in which the [elders] exhorted the population to identify with the divine aspect of their being their true self, & to strive to realize the ideas symbolizing it in their daily lives.

It is the only way a nation can survive for 400 years that enabled Kmt. (Ancient Egypt) to accumulate the knowledge.”

Despite having a plot based on Exodus, a biblical book, and a setting in Egypt, “Gods & Kings” fails to showcase the spiritual ascended spirit the Kmt. exuded.

Christian Bale’s acting is fairly fantastic, despite a poor, cliché script, which wastes his true ability as an actor to make the viewer Care about his character & FEEL his emotion, passion an fears.

“The Prestige” & “The Machinist” are little known film gems that allow Bale to flawlessly shine in his role far brighter than his dull depiction of Moses in “Exodus”. Download “The Prestige” & “The Machinist” on Netflix ASAP. Don’t waste the better part of a $20 bill on the Egyptian fan-fiction called “Exodus”. Catch it on cable.

Hollywood gives us amazing epic films that lack substance and wisdom, to keep us sleep. Our pineal gland inactivated. Our chakras unaligned. This is mental control, paralysis via entertainment, done to prevent spiritual ascension & keep seeing everything as a human “I” & not the spirit we “AM”

i AM man. Thus, everything ‘I’ create is manmade.
Once “i” awaken to the SPIRIT i “AM” everything we touch will ascend mentally & spiritually.

Religion is manmade. Spirituality is Godmade.
God is man’s human perception of the non-human, genderless Divine Spirit Creator.

“Metu Neter Vol. 2 Anuk Ausar”, expresses,

“The key to understanding God resided in Its [not he, not she, but ITs] creation of the world.

The creation of the world must be understood as the action of consciousness, that wills substance (matter) & energy to assume the various forms in the world.

According to Kemitic tradition, ‘God’ transforms Itself into the creatures of the world. They, thus share in Its substance (energy/matter) & consciousness.

The dominant behavior shaping systems, religionists, psychologists, excuse the failure of their systems by shifting the blame to the people.

Things are the way they are, they claim, because people are hypocrites, ignorant, evil, sinners.

They fail to realize, if people were not as they are, there’d be no need for behavior shaping institutions such as religion. These word invented to raise people out of these shortcomings.

Unlike western behavior shaping systems, which are based on Man’s lower being, with its animalistic faculties…ancient African civilizations based their [spirituality] on the higher parts of man’s being, to elevate man to his divine essence, wherein reside the divine elements that created him/her.”

Many epic flims based on history use the foreign language spoken INSIDE the film, “City of God” “IP Man” Even fictional movies/books “The Godfather” (Italian) “The Housemaid” (Korean) “Slumdog Millionaire” “Life of Pi” (Hindi) use the authentic language of the setting INSIDE the film.

“Exodus” is a visually beautiful, creativity insufficient piece of garbage. As an epic, it lacks authenticity. Why are the characters speaking English?

Why are characters saying the English title “God” instead of the ancient name for the title of God which is “YHWH” Eloheem of a Mother-Sole-Cell fundamental Principle only, which was known & used in that time?

Why are there only a dozen Blacks in a film taking place in Africa?

Why do we even call it “Africa” when that is the name of the Roman General Scorpio Africanus who slaughtered women, children & men in Carthage?

For the same reason we don’t question the books, schools and churches we were taught everything we know from childhood, because ignorance is bliss & comfortable. The truth is dark and scary. It is easier to stay sleep & sleepwalk through life.

The greatest systematic oppression was not slavery. It is to make one hate themSELF, forget their rich culture. It allows you to split the husband up from his family by selling him away during slavery, so you can sit back centuries later & watch the fathers leave their women & children to suffer alone, repeating the cycle you implemented.

What good is it to be of royal blood, from kings, but you don’t even know it, because you hate yourself? There is no power in simply knowing you come from kings. The power lies in knowing HOW you were kings & WHY your enemy has fought so hard to keep that knowledge from you.

Kings don’t beg their masa for freedom. Kings TAKE freedom after remembering they are their OWN master. Know self. Learn culture. TAKE your rites.

Royalty is a bloodline inheritance. In-her-rite. Kmts traced their lineage tree through the roots the royal seed was cut from, the mother. Every human has a belly button.

Egyptians, patriarchs by nature, begin tracing lineage through the father, to hide the royal legacy of the Kmts. Last names became a way to hide one’s royal lineage from them, by cutting off the direct connection to the royal matriarch.

Your father’s lineage is not yours. He came from his mother, but you didn’t come from him. You came from your mother, specifically her matrix. Matrix means womb. Yet, adopting your father’s last name starts your lineage over from scratch, placing you in a mental matrix. A lineage is a portal, tracked only by those who are portals for life, mothers.

This is why Kmt’s last name would be their mother’s first name. It made it easy to see exactly were one came from. If your mother was a queen, her name would follow yours every time someone spoke of you.

You can deserve so much, but if you can’t see it first, how can anyone else?
You claim to elevate to such high levels of consciousness, yet every time you’re around that one family member, you play their fool, dumb down your intelligence, b/c you’re afraid of their ridicule & judgement.

If you can’t master small this first, like family & standing up to yourself, how do you expect to master great things such as being seen as Kings and queens?

When will Black people as a whole stop seeing each other as competition & start working together through the power of sisterhood & brotherhood?

When will Black people stop begging authority for rites & rulings, & start demanding & TAKING their rites?

A caged lion does NOT beg the white man who trapped it for the key. The lion knows remembering his royal history IS the key, then he BREAKS free & TAKES his throne back.

I attened the first university in the world to have a Black psychology department, SFSU. My professors assigned us 4 dozens books on African history, including “Metu Neter Vol. 2 Anuk Ausar”. Everything I know about life, understand a woman, & my culture, I learned from my pastor & teacher.‬

“They keep wanting us to be their nigger, dead mind, they call us nigga, negro, Black, and now, African American, but we are HEBREWS” – Yolanda Banks

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Why real Men CRY & this Football Player’s TEARFUL protest will make you cry too

Posted on December 16, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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We teach our boys to man up. Stop being soft. Don’t cry like a little girl. How sexiest. Calling a boy a “girl” simply for feeling says more about your cowardliness than it says about his emotions.

A real man isn’t afraid to shed a tear near his peers, in fear they won’t appreciate him being sincere.

Weak-ass cowardly males are scared if they cry, they’ll expose insecurities in their manhood. As a strong man, when I see my wife, my twin flame, walk down that isle, all the care I have in my heart for her will flow out the window to my soul & drip all over the flower petals lining her path to me. Real men do indeed cry. But, don’t take it from me. Take it from a football player.

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When a rookie Cleveland police officer received a dispatch call, describing a “young black male” carrying a toy gun, he responded by shooting him. That “black male” was 12-year-old Tamir Rice.

On December 14, Cleveland Browns WR Andrew Hawkins wore a t-shirt in protest while taking the field before a game that read,

“Justice for Tamir Rice and John Crawford” on the front & “The Real Battle for Ohio” on the back.

“It’s pretty pathetic when athletes think they know the law,” Cleveland Police Union President Jeff Follmer said of Hawkins’ choice to wear the shirt.

“They should stick to what they know best on the field. The Cleveland Police protect and serve the Browns stadium and the Browns organization owes us an apology.”

On Monday, Hawkins humbly & eloquently clapped back by gathering media in the locker & speaking on camera without notes, from the heart and fighting off tears.

He said:

“I was taught that justice is a right that every American should have. Also justice should be the goal of every American. I think that’s what makes this country.

To me, justice means the innocent should be found innocent. It means that those who do wrong should get their due punishment. Ultimately, it means fair treatment. So a call for justice shouldn’t offend or disrespect anybody. A call for justice shouldn’t warrant an apology.

To clarify, I utterly respect and appreciate every police officer that protects and serves all of us with honesty, integrity and the right way.

And I don’t think those kind of officers should be offended by what I did. My mom taught me my entire life to respect law enforcement. I have family, close friends that are incredible police officers and I tell them all the time how they are much braver than me for it. So my wearing a T-shirt wasn’t a stance against every police officer or every police department.

My wearing the T-shirt was a stance against wrong individuals doing the wrong thing for the wrong reasons to innocent people.

Unfortunately, my mom also taught me just as there are good police officers, there are some not-so-good police officers that would assume the worst of me without knowing anything about me for reasons I can’t control. She taught me to be careful and be on the lookout for those not-so-good police officers because they could potentially do me harm and most times without consequences. Those are the police officers that should be offended.

Being a police officer takes bravery. And I understand that they’re put in difficult positions and have to make those snap decisions.

As a football player, I know a little bit about snap decisions, obviously on an extremely lesser and non-comparative scale, because when a police officer makes a snap decision, it’s literally a matter of life and death. That’s hard a situation to be in. But if the wrong decision is made, based on pre-conceived notions or the wrong motives, I believe there should be consequence. Because without consequence, naturally the magnitude of the snap decisions is lessened, whether consciously or unconsciously.

I’m not an activist, in any way, shape or form.

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred I keep my opinions to myself on most matters. I worked extremely hard to build and keep my reputation especially here in Ohio, and by most accounts I’ve done a solid job of decently building a good name. Before I made the decision to wear the T-shirt, I understood I was putting that reputation in jeopardy to some of those people who wouldn’t necessarily agree with my perspective. I understood there was going to be backlash, and that scared me, honestly.

But deep down I felt like it was the right thing to do. If I was to run away from what I felt in my soul was the right thing to do, that would make me a coward, and I can’t live with that. God wouldn’t be able to put me where I am today, as far as I’ve come in life, if I was a coward.

As you well know, and it’s well documented, I have a 2-year-old little boy.

The same 2-year-old little boy that everyone said was cute when I jokingly threw him out of the house earlier this year. That little boy is my entire world. And the No. 1 reason for me wearing the T-shirt was the thought of what happened to Tamir Rice happening to my little Austin scares the living hell out of me.”

It was at this point the football player’s emotions begin to take control of his disposition. The thought of his 2-year-old son being murdered by a police officer made tears form in his eyes. His voice cracked. He began to sniffle.

This was one of the bravest things he had ever done as an athlete. Braver than jump up in mid-air & catch a pass at risk of being knocked unconscious by a defender. He was pouring out his heart, crying out before the world, that we stop watching as cowards & start fighting for what is true to our hearts.

“And my heart was broken,” Hawkins continued, with tears forming, “for the parents of Tamir and John Crawford knowing they had to live that nightmare of a reality.

So, like I said, I made the conscious decision to wear the T-shirt. I felt like my heart was in the right place.

I’m at peace with it and those that disagree with me, this is America, everyone has the right to their first amendment rights. Those who support me, I appreciate your support. But at the same time, support the causes and the people and the injustices that you feel strongly about. Stand up for them. Speak up for them. No matter what it is because that’s what America’s about and that’s what this country was founded on.”

It’s natural for all humans, including men, to cry. In fact, not crying on a seasonal basis can result in heart attacks, strokes, tumors, ulcers or colitis.

Research has proven: emotional tears are produced for the purpose of riding the body of waste built ho by stress. Tears are often cuffed to emotion, as it is easier for the body to rid itself of waste in the Fight or Flight state.

Imagine your body as a 20oz soda bottle & stress as carbonation. When shaken up, the built up air bubbles (stress) must be eased out seamlessly. Otherwise, it will burst out from built up tension and pressure.

This is how out body manages stress.

When we are “shook up” about something, like bubbles from a shaken-up bottle, out body produces tears to seamlessly release waste & toxins created by tension & stress.

These hazardous discharges will be released from the body one way or another. When we prevent them from flowing out through tears, they BURST out, lime soda from a bottle, through negative energy & acts of rage, such as murdering unarmed citizens.

On average, women live 5.2 years longer than men. Many of the heart attacks, stroked, tumors & ulcers men died from were due to build up toxins, tension & stress and a hesitance to cry, because it is foolishly seen as “unmanly”.

A real man is not over-emotinal, nor does he pretend to be emotionally invincible, as he knows, male or female, we all get “shook-up” sometimes.

After all, real humans shed tears, fake men don’t cry.

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Why I refuse to support this “new” R&B by artist who’ve neo-SOULED Out | #BlackMessiah review

Posted on December 15, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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I miss true Soul & R&B, when music was about LOVE, enlightenment & expressing the art of loving a woman.

Now she’s a hoe who aint loyal? Are you singing to women? Or trying to impress males? Because that’s ‪#‎Suspect‬ ‪#‎DownLowBehavior‬ What happened to Real Music?

I respect how 14 years after “Voodoo” D’angelo still creates rhythm art true to his Neo Soul roots. Unlike artist who’ve sold their neo-souls by making radio friendly, women bashing garbage.

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I’m tired of hearing, “Mustard on the beat hoe” as a preface slapped onto every R&B song that comes out, as much as DJ Mustard’s beats do indeed slap.

D’angelo’s Black Messiah breathes funk, jazz, hip-hop, & soul into the lifeless genre of R&B.

[The dance grooves]:

D’angelo’s raspy tone commands your head to nod to the toe-tapping rhythm, dripping in funk, as the album starts with a house music vibe on, “Ain’t That Easy“.

“Betray My Heart” is a soul gem infused with jazz, pure Elevator-to-heaven music. This is a track you go to the beach & vibe to in the arms of the one you love after a long walk, full plate & your favorite bottle of wine.

Grab a dance partner & rock with “Charade“, until the lyrics imprint them self in the right side of your brain.

“All we wanted was a chance to talk,
‘stead we only got outlined in chalk.
Feet have bled a million miles we’ve walked,
revealing at the end of the dat, the charade.” – D’angelo, #Charade

The two-step appeal “Sugah Daddy” has is as impeccable as the dance the horns & drums do on this soulful groove.

[The Vibe-able grooves]:

A plate of ribs, baked mac & cheese, greens & cornbread is the vibe “Really Love” “Prayer” and “Back to the Future (Part I)” serves you. These ballads set that perfect mood for bomb food & deep conversation on date night.

“I’m not an easy man, to overstand, you feel me.
But girl you’re patient with me.
Oh how I love the little things you do,
I’m in Really Love with you.” – D’angello #ReallyLove

If you squint your ears, D’angelo’s delivery on “Till It’s Done” is reminiscent of Kendrick Lamar’s on Good Kid, M.A.A.D City, as is the consciousness dripping from the lyrics. It is at that moment you realize the influence the Brown Sugar singer has had on various genres in the music game since his 1995 musical debut.

“Carbon pollution is heating up the air.
Do we really know? Do we even care?
Acid rain dripping on our trees & in our hair,
Are you there?” – D’angello #TillItsDone

On “1000 Deaths, a Jimi Hendrix inspired based line is accompanied by the following words,

“When I say Jesus, I’m not talking about some blond-haired, blue-eyed, pale-skinned…I’m talking about the Jesus of the bible with hair like lamb’s wool…”

I respect how D’angelo actually says the true ancient name of YHWH, instead of just the title “God” and pays homage to the Black messiah “Yeshua” who’s name & story has been graffiti’d with anglo characteristics.

When the original bible was translated to Greek, the Messiah’s name, “Yeshua” was translated to “Iesous”.
Then it was translated into Latin ” “Iesus”.
When tne letter “J” was invented in the 12th century, it was translated in English to “Jesus”.

“A coward dies a thousand times,
but a soldier only dies just once.” – D’angelo, #1000Deaths

D’angelo’s bravery to sing lyrics of consciousness in a time our country is fighting against all ISMs for it’s own integrity shows as an artist, he is a true solider on the battle field for peace, enlightenment & neo-soul.

This is the first R&B album I bought in 2014, and it will be the last.
I am tired of this new R&B with lyrics telling our women if they aren’t “Foreign” & light-skinned, with long hair & buns showing in every outfit they aren’t pretty. That’s not rhythm and blues, that’s hate and foolishness. Bravo D’angelo, keep schooling these clowns.

D’angelo explained the meaning of his new album in his own words:

The crescendo of Black Messiah, “The Door” “Back To The Future (Part II)” & “Another Life” feature the classic D’angelo sound he perfected with, “How Does It Feel”.

Despite being 15 years in the making, this work of art has arrived at just the right time.

If you don’t listen to Soul, we can’t be anything more than friends. I’m looking for an old soul. Go listen to Justin Beiber, since you wanna act childish.

Sade. Anita Baker. Avant. Stevie Wonder. Whitney Houston. Patti LaBelle. Jill Scott. Erykah Badu. Lauryn Hill. Levert. The Isley Brothers. Maxwell. Boyz II Men. Aretha Franklin. Michael Jackson. Prince. Musiq Soulchild. Raphael Saadiq. Luther. Monica. Jodeci. BeBe & CeCe. Janet (Ms. Jackson) Panic At The Disco! No Doubt. Portishead. Led Zeppelin. John Lennon. Bob Marley. Nirvana. Duke Ellington. I love soul, country, 90sR&B, New Jack Swing, punk, rock, gospel & most of all JAZZ music.

If you don’t listen to any of those, because ALL you listen to is Hip Hop, we could never be anything more than just platonic. A person’s taste in music speaks volumes of their aura, vibe & chemistry to me.

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#BlackLivesMatter is silly. Don’t ALL lives matter?

Posted on December 13, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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#Justice4All We’re marching DEEP right now #Berkeley #Oakland #SF #Cali

“Why do you guys say #BlackLivesMatter ?” A Hungarian woman in Rite Aid asked me. “That’s silly. I don’t get all the fuss. I mean don’t all lives matter?”

I smiled & replied,

“Would you tell marchers at a Breast Cancer awareness rally ‘all cancer sufferers matter’? No. B/c when you fight for one cancer, you fight for them all. When we fight for Black lives against the cancer of hate, we are fighting for ALL lives. Don’t forget, ALL life originated in the Motherland. #EbrahimAseem ”

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Why guys SIDE PIECE zone & neglect Hopeless Romantic women. | Are they TOO CRAZY?

Posted on December 11, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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A romantic woman with trust issues is not crazy or over emotional, She has just been through so much b.s.

You don’t know growing up her own mother treated her like trash & put Men over her own daughter.

Her parents never acknowledging things she did, never showing her love & care, always putting her down & calling her names.

You don’t know family & friends who she trusted, stabbed her in the back, let money come between them & proved to be disloyal.

You don’t know how hard it is for her to met a guy, fall in love, finally trust him, only to get her heart shattered to pieces.

Then, have to pick up all those pieces only to met a guy again & go through the same b.s. over & over like a never ending nightmare.

Just things my sisters taught me, which is why I don’t mind putting in hard work, time & patience to EARN a woman’s trust by proving myself trustworthy with my actions over time.

As a good man, we will watch her give the assholes a million chances at her heart & she’ll be so slow to show us real men affection, but in her mind, she just doesn’t want to hurt us bro.

She’s protecting us from her demons. Stop neglecting your woman & starving her off deserved attention. Be romantic to her. Be affectionate to her. Treat every day like you are trying to win her heart all over again.

Show her you’re willing to dedicate your life to standing by her side, taking away her demons. Show her it’s not her against the world, it’s you & her against the world. Be her peace bro.

“Ebrahim, I am a hopeless romantic,” a Cheyenne woman confessed, during a speak I did for a group of undergrad women in Berkeley. “I daydream about marriage, so much, my girls tease me. I have baby fever something tough. I’m gorgeous, in shape as you can see. And when I have a man, I take care of him, in every way. I even dress up for him in bed, ball gag, handcuffs, blindfolds, the whole nine.

But, no matter how romantic I am, it seems like every time I meet a guy I like, he’s either romantic in the beginning, then gets complacent really quick, or, I find out months after dating him he already as a girlfriend he never once mentioned. I am tired, king. Why are the good women like me always treated like side hoes? Why are you guys so afraid of commitment?”

“Thank you for sharing, queen,” I told her, before addressing the group. “I want you queens to know, this Side Piece movement is trying to replace monogamy. The only way it can is if you as women ALLOW yourself to accept pieces of a man, while you share him with other women.

Here are 10 reasons why guys will place a hopeless romantic woman in the side piece zone, & I want you queens to take notes & really digest these.

#1 You let guys TALK to you instead of requiring them to COURT you.

Once a guy sees a woman will let him “TALK” to her without requiring he take her OUT on a real DATE, he puts her in the side piece zone, forever.

#2 You behave LOYAL to guys before they even COMMIT to you.

Too many girls are so easy. All you have to do is show them a little interest & it will keep them “loyal” through months of neglect, games & lies. You are not loyal. He is not cheating on you, because he is not even committed to you.

#3 You’re too boring

If half your conversation is “lol” fake giggles & emojis, it’s no wonder your crush never texts you back. Have some substance about your conversation.

#4 You KNOW he’s entertaining multiple women, yet you are still foolishly giving him your time.

When you stay with a guy after finding out he already has women on the side, you are willfully being his side piece. Stop bragging about stealing another girl’s man. You both are his side pieces. Y’all teammates.

#5 You allow your man to behave single on Social Networks.

The girls on your a man’s social network have just as much access to him as you. You text him. They “@” him. You sext him. They DM him pictures.

If a guy is high level flirting with girls on his Instaharem & you don’t have the courage to call him out & address it in person, you are letting him know you are side piece material.

If you never ask a guy the questions in the back of your mind that keep you up at night, he will side piece zone you, real quick.

Males test girls. He waits to see if you will ask,

So who is this girl on Instagram who keeps commenting kissy face emojis?
Have you and her ever had sex?
Does she have your phone number.
Do you have a girlfriend?
Does any girl think she is your girlfriend?
Why do you always respond to comments of random girls on IG, but you never respond to mine?

#6 It’s your mouth.

Once you meet a mentally mature man, you can not keep speaking down to him, yelling, cursing or talking to him like he is a boy. He will not call you a crazy, over-emotional bitch like weak minded boys in your past, he will just leave you for a woman more on his mentally frequency level.

#7 You are behaving too dickdizzy for commitment

It is a turn off to a man, when a woman will request to sleep with you before even asking you:

Why do you like me?
What are your plans with me?
Maybe I just want sex with no commitment, is that what you want?
Do you have a girlfriend?
What was your longest relationship?

Women never ask me if I have a girlfriend before they ask me for my number. It’s sad girls will ask you for an abs pic or a dick pic before even asking your relationship status. Stop ruining it for the loyal women with standards.

I don’t like how as soon as I give a girl heavy D, she acts like she is all IN LOVE with me, calling me ‘bae’ saying we should plan a future together.

Yet, a day before I slept with her, she was barely texting me back, yawing while I spoke to her about my dreams, ambitions, deep thoughts & family, pretending to show intrest in me. You don’t love me. You love dick. Be real with yourself.

It makes a man feel really low when the only time a woman wants to show a man care & affection is after he’s inside her.

That’s why I’m abstinent while single now, until I met a Woman who can appreciate me for my mind & not just my body.

Honestly, being abstinent is extremely hard. I miss the taste of warm lower lips on my lips & tongue late at night. That’s why I hardly sleep. Warm juice is the only thing that can help me knock. However, I refuse to have sex outside of a relationship. My sister taught me how loyal a man behaves while single will determine the caliber of woman he attracts.

#8 Your taste in men scares Loyal Men away & attracts Players

Have you ever had a man call you, without mentioning sex, just to ask how you are feeling, pray for your day & send peace and light your way?

If not, you may not be ready to exit this Player Phase you are in and be open to a Loyal Man.

A loyal man is sweet to his woman & a bit of a jerk to girls trying to get at him. A loyal man does not respond to multiple girls thirst comments on Instagram. When I was taken, one girl who I never met messaged me like,

“You’re so handsome, are you single?
No, I’m happily taken. & just so you know, I show my girl my phone.
But I like you 😦
Do you like living?
Lol yes.
Then stop messaging me, else my girlfriend will end your existence & mine, she don’t play.

#9 You put more energy in your appearance on a Social Network than you ever put in courting a man.

A Confident Woman doesn’t need to rely on Compliments or Thirst, likes on pics, nor attention from random guys on social networks to validate her beauty, because, she KNOWS she’s beautiful before anyone else. Looking inside her self, she sees. The smooth inner beauty she exudes, clearer than a mirror.

Girls be like,
“Am I not pretty enough?
“Is my ass not fat enough?”😪
Nah, you don’t love YOU enough. That is the biggest turn off to a guy.

#10 You lack standards.

Females who will break up with a guy for cheating & still let him have sex with her are the main reason it’s hard out here for women with standards.

I always tell men,

The amazing thing about a hopeless romantic woman is she never gives up on love. She will have your back through thick & then.

She will stay with you through the arguments,
she will rock with you through all the side pieces who contact her, claiming you slept with them,
she will ride with you even when you are starving her of attention & respect.
This hopeless romantic woman is foolish. She is a user. She is not loyal. A real woman is more loyal to her mind than her emotions.

A weak woman is hopeless. A hopeless romantic woman will allow you to sleep with her knowing you have side pieces. She doesn’t care. She has no hope, no self love, no optimism. No standards.

Where are all the women with standards?
Women with more than a fat ass?
Women more than a pretty face?
Women who require a man to stimulate her above the waist, before she gives him a taste & rides his face?
I want a woman with standards.
I want a woman who makes me wait for sex.
I want a woman who’s more than small talk.

Tell me about your passions. Your ambitious dreams. Let’s talk about chem trails & aliens, & role play, & our fears. Let me take your demons away.

Can we pray together? Or is all you require a man to do with his hands include placing two fingers inside your pants?

Can I take you to the beach for a deep convo & long walk?
Can I court you? Or do you only “talk”?

If you want to “hang out” or “chill” I’m not interested in spending time w/ you.

I will not ask you to “kick it”. I will call you & say, “I want to take you out on a date this weekend for neo soul & fresh pasta, what time are you free?”

I don’t random text for months w/o a date. I want to court. I want to build. If all you do is “talk” don’t even ask for my number. 😒

See, I don’t talk, I court.
If I date you,
I see myself marrying you.
I see myself building with only you.
I see my spirit growing deeper with you.
I don’t date casually.
I’m courting you, because I see potential in you & I becoming ‘US'”

As men, we have to destroy our side piece zone and start claiming these women. If you know a woman has feelings for you, & she is loyal to you, stop having her out here looking stupid, because you want to talk to every girl to fill your insecurities. Let’s claim these loyal women.

There’s nothing worse to a woman than when we as men don’t want to claim her publicly.

If you’re out with her & family, a friend, or another female says, “hey how are you?” Bro, you better fit introducing your woman AS YOUR WOMAN somewhere in your response, by saying, “& this is my girlfriend __”

When you don’t it crushes her inside. She will be a lil salty & feel some time of way, & she has every right to. If you’re not going to claim a woman in public, don’t expect her to stay loyal to you, period.

You would NOT want a man to date your moms or sister & not claim them in public. You’d tell that coward tf off.

Don’t make a woman feel like she’s not your only one. It’s not about a title, it’s about loyalty. All a loyal woman really wants is consistency & attention. Give her that & she will give you everything, trust.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker, nutritionist and author, of West African ancestry. I speak isiZulu & Swahili I’ve been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years.
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Women struggling through COLLEGE just need to BUST IT OPEN

Posted on December 10, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Finals… Good morning Deep Thinker. Every single time you have finals or a paper due, you procrastinate. After grades come back, you tell yourself, “I’ll never procrastinate again.” Except you do, & repeat the cycle constantly.

But I’d be remiss if I procrastinated to let you know just how freakin’ amazing you are. You got this. You will destroy these finals today. Relax. Be calm.

I know you love to tell yourself how unprepared you are, how you’re so “stupid”, how you will just forget everything you studied as soon as the test arrives, but that’s so untrue.

See, your mind is as beautiful as you are. Your mind is ocean deep. I just want to dive inside & feast on every pearl your ocean provides.

You work so hard on your craft, on your studies. I respect that. Your ambition is so attractive to me. Your mind is as deep as the care I have for you. Own those finals. Dominate these tests. Make them your…exactly.

Now, go slap some trap music, put your game face on, eat yourself a fat breakfast, & after you murder those finals this week, I will trEAT you to, & like, dinner and dessert.

Kings, text this to your woman, then tell her you want to court her. We have to support our woman’s ambitions. She’s not a flake for being all about her studies & too busy to see us everyday. She’s regal minded & focused on her future. Reward her hard work. Ease her mind. Dive inside it daily. Be her peace. Reassure her she’s got this. Be her support.

I just spoke this message to a group of college students in Berkeley, CA

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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IG: @Fuel4TheBODY
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Blog: RealNewsPaper.wordpress.com
Motivational #SpeakLife vidoes: Youtube.com/RealNewsmagazine

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I am a chef, motivational speaker, nutritionist and author, of West African ancestry. I speak isiZulu & Swahili I’ve been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years.
Book me to speak at your unversity! Currently doing a college speaking tour on this & many topics.
For booking: AEAseem@gmail.com

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