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Giving your all to someone who will never be mentally equip to value all the painful sacrifices you make to trust them will turn your heart cold. Move on.
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From the upcoming book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”…
When a loyal woman sees you date down or act as if she meant nothing to you after the break-up, you make her feel like everything she gave you, every secret about her past she ever shared with you, every time she opened up to trust you & everything about love she tried to put you on to was all a waste of her time and energy.
A break-up makes her question life and its meaning, because she doesn’t want to have to do it all again. Learn to trust again, open up again, invest so much of her, time, love & emotion into getting to know another man again, unsure if this will finally be something real, or just another eX painted on the canvas of her heart.
Those EXs hurt. Imagine engraving an “x” on your actual heart. That is how a breakup feels to a loyal man and woman. Its agony. It feels like drowning, every day, every time they remember anything from the relationship. When people say, “what happened to you and your boo thang? You and him looked so good together” you don’t know how hard it is for them to keep a smile on their face while drowning inside.
The biggest mistake I ever made was making a woman love me before I took time to see if we were compatible enough to be together for life. That is what this love thing is all about to a loyal woman. It’s not a game to her. This is LIFE.
A loyal woman doesn’t fall in love, she doesn’t feel love, no, she IS love. That’s why she treats her pet dog like it’s her baby. That’s why she loves flowers like a sibling, mourns when she sees animals brutally hurt, cries when she hears a Jhene Aiko verse speaking to her soul or squeezes your arm & hides inside your cuddle during the scary part of a movie. She is everything that love is, and every thing that has love touches her heart.
She is not her ass, nor her breasts, nor hear pretty face, hair or curves, that’s the spaceship her spirit has to wear as it travels through this dimension called life. She is not a “bad bitch” she is love, and once you plant feelings inside her only to remove that love, she questions life, because her whole life is love.
Don’t make the mistake I made in my past by rushing love, young kings. Take your time with love, she is like an aged wine to be sipped and savored. Be gentle with love, she is like a fragile Tigerlily pedal, who’s aroma of love is released through time. Value love. She is worth more than money, she is more precious than rubies, and all the things you can ever desire can not compare to her, love. If there is a loyal woman in your life who has given you her heart, but has yet to fully heal from her last break-up, tell her this…
If you are my woman, you don’t have to rush into the sheets with me to keep me from cheating on you with a woman who will. My self integrity does that for you. Your body isn’t a weapon against cheating, my LOYALTY is and everyday my loyalty is a weapon, out here fighting off all these other girls for you. I’m too much of a strong, competitive man to fail at love by cheating myself out of a future with a treasure like you.
If you are my woman, the warmth of my love, consistency & loyalty to ONLY you should melt away your trust issues & burn away your insecurities. If I’m not IMPROVING your life, why am I in it? Just because I wasn’t the one to give you trust issues, doesn’t mean I can’t be the one to take them away by understanding you.
The reason it’s so hard for you to get over a break-up is, a part of your EX’s ora is still inside you. Sex is more than physical relations, it’s also spiritual penetration. When a man goes deep inside you, his energy & ora is penetrating yours, his spirit goes inside yours and a piece of it stays with you. Even after the break-up, that piece of energy is still inside you, haunting your mind, forcing your memory bank to deposit painful thoughts on repeat into your head.
The only way to exercise your EXs energy from your spirit is to shed the image of yourself as being weak & grow a new self-image of strength.
A break-up can feel like you’re burning alive, like everything you feel and everything you are is on fire. To heal from a break-up, shed your burned image of self. Lose the idea of who you were before the break-up. Let it go. That was a former life. You were not dumped, you were FREED. You are now available for your dream mate to walk in your life and give you something realer than you ever felt. This is your cardiac-emancipation.
In your heart of hearts, you know damn well your EX never deserved your number, let alone your love. You settled for them, because you saw potential in them they never saw in them self. But your phantom heart cannot drive off the potential of fuel. Only true love can fuel your heart. Your ex was on empty, possessing no love fuel to give you. This break-up was a blessing. No one was dumped. You were freed.
Ever wonder how your Ex can move on from you so easily? Because they finally realized their selfish ass never would be good enough to deserve all your amazing, loving spirit has to offer. When will YOU realize this too? Your EX finally realized your worth, that’s why wih this break-up, they removed the curse holding back all your life’s blessings, themSELF. When will YOU realize your own worth?
In order to get over a break-up, you must go out on a date, find a new love and write them a love letter. This new love must be special, they must be sweet, caring and able to see your worth in a way your EX never could. This new love must promise to never hurt you, bad talk you or make you feel like life isn’t worth living by destroying your trust like your EX. This new love must have inner beauty, be more loyal than all your EXs combined and you must promise yourself right now you will love this person for life in order for the healing to really work.
There is only one place you can find this new love and it requires using social networks. But first, go in your bathroom and use your mirror to take a picture of yourself smiling.
Post this picture on your facebook & Instagram under this caption “#TheLoveOfMyLifeIsME”
There is power in self-love. There is healing in self-love. You are your new love. Get dressed up & take yourself out on a date. Write your SELF a love letter, saying all the things your dream mate will love about yourself, then frame it on your wall. You want something real? Be someone real first. If you don’t love you, how do you expect a man to love you. Don’t try to feed me a dish that is unappealing to your own taste. Would you want a man who lacked self-love and confidence? Afraid to be strong and take control? No. Well, your dream mate doesn’t want to fall in love with a self-hater.
Some males complain, “I never met a woman good for anything other than her body, or giving me money,” yet they were birthed by a woman who gave him all the love in her heart. Only a sorry, weak-minded male hates & degrades women, especially if he has a daughter. This is a self hater.
Some girls complain, “I never known love!” on their pics, yet they’re blessed with a child who loves them more than a man ever could. Only a sorry, weak-minded female puts desire of moby dick over her children. This is a self hater.
You know what’s attractive to a mentally mature man? A woman who loves herself, more than she could ever love a man. Mmmm queen, that means you got self-love and you got good head. But when I say “head” I’m not talking in the bed. I’m talking about your mind, meaning I love our conversations. Our words french kiss, while our thoughts have relations.
Your curves are a weapon, but your body is a blessing. Shake your intelligence before my eyes, grind your deep thoughts on mine. Mind you if I mind your mine, golden thoughts I’m sure to find.
Thing I’d always miss most about being in a relationship after a break-up isn’t the sex, as amazing as it was. It’s the mental ascension conversations that get DEEPER every night we converse. Conversing with a Deep Thinking woman who loves herself feels like a movie building to a plot that never gets old & story with an ending that never gets told. If you have ONE person who has your heart, call them right now, or lean over & say, “I love you & I never get tired of talking to you.”
“Right now I really need your spiritual advice more than ever,” a brown-skinned beauty confided in me,” I’m going through a lot with this break up. Thoughts of suicide have been crossing my mind these past couple of days and i just feel so stuck right now I’m at work crying I just don’t know what to do.”
“Your EX made a selfish, cowardly, snake-like decision to improve your life by removing himself from it. He broke your heart, not because you’re unattractive, or un-pretty young queen. No. A male’s infidelity and selfishness is not automatically a reflection of your worth as a woman. Your EX wanted to gain confidence from breaking a loyal woman’s heart. He wants you to remain in pain for months, so he can smile from your pain. Don’t let him win. Move on, hold your head high, wear your crown of self confidence & be healed. Your monogamous king awaits you.
You are not the problem. Do not let a man dictate how you feel about your self where, if he’s happy with you, you’re happy with life, but, if he’s not treating you how you want, you are unhappy with life. A man is not your God, so stop giving a man ultimate power over how you feel about yourself.
Seeing a loyal woman depressed and suicidal from a break-up gives a weak-minded male LIFE. Mentally immature males are more insecure than a woman can ever dream of being, they love to reverse the roles and make a loyal woman mourn the break-up that released the curse from her life that was him.
This is why I speak life into young kings, I don’t want good men to think if a woman doesn’t give him attention, text him first, make him her #mcm or approach him first, that she doesn’t like him. I tell them,
‘Women don’t want to seem EASY. Don’t make her have to call, text or approach you first. Show effort & actions. Consistently contact her often as possible. Give her attention. Make her laugh & smile hard. Compliment her. Pray for her. Reassure her. Your queen is worth it.’
I made the mistake of committing to a woman before putting the time in courting her, and it proved disastrous. It doesn’t matter that I didn’t cheat on her. I broke her heart and I will regret it for life. I will dedicate my life to making sure I never put another loyal woman through heartbreak, and this is why…
My Sister told me this one day, “brother, do you know what us girls do when you guys lead us on, make us fall for you, thinking you like us, then just stop talking to us out of nowhere? Us girls will start to question our selves, like, ‘what is wrong with me? Am I Ugly? Is it my ass? My breasts? My stomach? My face? What did I do to make him not like me?’
We will replay everything you ever said to us in our head, trying to make sense of the pain. Then when it hits us you are really moved on to another girl, we sit & cry. We’ll grab a pillow, hold it to our face & cry into the pillow so no one will hear it. Then, we think about all the guys before you who acted cool in the beginning, making us catch feelings for them, only to break our heart out of nowhere. That bullshit hurts us brother.. That is a physical pain we feel all day in our stomach, we cry ourselves to sleep every night over it.
You guys will have us pretty girls thinking we are ugly & us loyal women thinking there is something wrong with us, because of how bad you guys treat us. It only takes a minute for us to start liking you guys, but it takes forever for us to get over you. So, don’t lead none of these women on, making them catch feelings if you don’t have intentions to commit to them.
Just because you guys stop talking to us, does not mean we stop loving you. If you find a loyal woman who cares about you, treat her like you want a guy to treat me. Remember, every tear you make her shed are the same tears I cry when a guy hurts me.’
When you have to see you sister cry over a break-up & you can’t do anything, but hug her, rub her hand & dry her tears, you will realize like I have how stupid it is to play with a woman’s heart.
@Maria @Jessica I was in tears while writing this & recording the video bellow. because the 1,000s of emails I get daily from suicidal men & women still not over a break-up is what motivated me to stay up all night & write this article. I still haven’t slept, omw to speak life into à group of teen girls, but I am thankful for all young kings and queens for knowing your worth. Thats the only reason I do this, to promote #SelfLove
A brown-skinned beauty told me, “With this BREAK-UP, suicide has been crossing my mind.” This is what I told her…
My book will be out this summer.
To show my appreciation for the millions who have shared the article, “Why All Men Cheat On Loyal Women” I will come out with a book on this WHOLE topic, including how to find your dream mate. Thank you for supporting my movement of changing the way women are respected in this world. This is only the beginning. #SpeakLife
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This fascination our world has of expecting a Woman to be PERFECT in every way, have the perfect body, zero fat, no stretch marks, huge curves, never get upset or “talk back” that is POSION.
As a man, I am so damn tired of this. I will dedicate my life to change it & #SpeakLife so this world will learn how to value a woman by the time I have a daughter.
It’s amazing how un-valuable you can be made to feel by people you do so much for. The reason they make you feel so worthless is, they know if you only knew how AMAZING you are, you’d realize you deserve better than them & remove the blessing your presence is to their life. Prove them right. Reclaim your worth. You are worth more than the value people place on you.
Tell yourself, I may be flawed like a diamond, but my spirit is a treasure.
The love I have for myself is built on a rock, so I AM a rock, unbreakable.
Don’t you just love it when you need someone to give Support, Advice & Affection & Understanding to you & the same people who depended on you for all that are now nowhere to be found when you need them most? Yeah me neither
Some people don’t DESERVE your loyalty. Make them EARN it first with their actions. Your friendship, love & loyalty are too valuable to just give away. Stop giving your love & loyalty at a discount. #ReclaimYourWorth
You are worth more than the value people place on you.
Tell yourself, I may be flawed like a diamond, but my spirit is a treasure.
The love I have for myself is built on a rock, so i am a rock, unbreakable.
The reason people break you down with their words & selfishness is not because you deserve it. It is not because you are too nice.
Understand, you are not the problem. People want to trick you into thinking you are not as amazing as you are, because they celebrate through your pain & mourn through your happiness.
The one who created you want you to turn a blind eye & a deaf ear to all other’s opinions of you. When you wake up in the morning, look at that strong, beautiful person staring back at you in the mirror and tell yourself:
Trust no one but the one in the mirror, because when it comes to my worth no one sees it clearer.
If they deserve my trust, they will earn it,
if they’re a flame holding back my blessings, you will burn it.
If i’m not fluent in self love, help me learn it.
Happiness & self confidence belongs to me, please return it.
From this moment on I reclaim my worth!
I am worth more than the value people place on me.
I may be flawed like a diamond, but my spirit is a treasure.
The love I have for myself is built on a rock, so i am a rock, unbreakable.
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When a woman opens up & shows she likes you, as a man, we cannot take advantage of that feeling she feels for us by failing to make her our only ONE.
Don’t call her BABE, if she’s not the only woman you’re calling that. Young kings, you know how we can be. Some of us will call every girl in our phone “babe” because we LOVE how it makes a woman just open up her heart to us and shower us with attention, love & affection.
Don’t use calling a woman “BABE” or saying “I love you baby” as a key to enter into the closed quarters of her emotions, invading the locks of her heart. stealing forms of affection from her you have no intention of reciprocating.
This goes for women as well. Do not call every man in your phone babe or baby, just because you love to feel wanted. Attention from multiple men will never fill the void of the lack of love you were shown growing up, nor replace the fact you have always been used by males in your past, but loving yourself will fill that void. The love of a Mentally mature can help fill that void.
A Loyal Woman deserves to be our ONE and ONLY. A loyal woman does not like sharing. We as men have to stop texting multiple women & simultaneously giving our attention to multiple girls on social networks, when we KNOW damn well she wants to be our one & only. You wouldn’t want a man treating your sister like this.
My sister checks me on this constantly. She told me, “brother, I do not want to see multiple women in you phone sending you hearts, blow-kiss emojis, calling you babe, sending you intimate pictures, and you have yet to introduce me to her. If she’s not serious enough to let me meet her, & communicate with her, you should not be giving her your consistent attention.”
Loyalty is not dead in our generation. Mentally mature men want monogamy, because we have sisters & mothers in our life who teach us daily how to be faithful and loyal to ONE woman.
Just because a woman doesn’t hit you everyday, does NOT mean she doesn’t think of you every night. Before she goes to sleep tonight, hit her with that good night text, good night call or good night massage & kiss.
You may think she’s sleep, but so many women stay up late at night, because they are OVER thinking about us. Fantasizing about a future where us & her are ONE. Replaying in her mind all the relationships she has ever been in, trying to figure where she went wrong & why she can never have something real.
Reassure her your level of loyalty to her is the highest of the high. Reassure her your love for her is on accession, so she never has to wonder. We have to get on our job and stay on it, consistency is so sexy to a loyal woman. Hit her right now & put a smile on her pretty face to let her know your heart is a throne with only her name on it.
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75% of my network consists of my deployed male friends, overseas in the Air Force and Marines who are away from their wives for 6 months at a time. Among the many relationship questions men email me weekly, one question they always ask is, “why does my girl love watching SVU marathons so much?”
Ladies love Law and Order ==> SVU <== specifically, for these reasons:
1. Strong Women with a Smart-Mouth are celebrated.
In a man’s world, strong-minded women are often discouraged to down play their strength and portray submissive characteristics by weak-minded men who are intimidated by the strength of a woman.
Olivia Benson represents the feminine, strong-minded woman inside of every female. She’s gentle, yet tough as bricks.
She’s feminine, yet not super-girly.
She can seduce a man with her beautiful smile, or kick his ass with her quick hands and sharp tongue.
The later is one of the more subtle, yet empowering aspects of her character, displayed on the show.
SVU promotes the “Intelligent, Quick-Witted, Smart Mouthed Women”.
Often labeled an offensive adjective that starts with the letter “B” by weak men,
who couldn’t assume them alpha role if their manhood depended on it,
SVU displays the true nature of a smart mouthed woman as one who knows her strength and embraces it.
Who doesn’t down play her intelligence to appease the male ego.
Who doesn’t bite her tongue.
It shows a woman doesn’t have to follow every statement she makes to a man with a girly giggle or an “lol”, as a way to lighten up her intelligent assertions.
Who doesn’t have to passive-aggressively respond to a man under her breath
as a way to avoid his father-like discipline of her not “knowing her role and staying in it”.
Benson’s character, played by Marishka Hargitay, is the girl next door;
if the girl next door had the face of a model, with the fight of a black-belt.
Women love her, because she doesn’t take any misogynistic BS.
Not only does she stand up for women on the show, Benson /Marishka founded the Joyful Heart Foundation in 2004
To heal and empower survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse, while raising awareness for these often over-looked epidemics.
Gotta love a strong-minded woman with a conscious.
One word says it all for true SVU fans
who’ve been watching from the start.
Strong minded women LOVE a strong man, with mountains for arms who knows how to take charge and DEMAND her attention with his romantic aggression.
Elliot Stabler is just that.
Although Christopher Meloni has since left the show, he won’t soon leave true fans’ hearts.
The impact his punch first, ask questions last persona leaves on the screen, as well on the face of a suspect, is unshakable.
3. Girls love Gore.
Even a woman who refuses to watch a horror film
will sit and Google “serial killers” on her phone all day,
or read about “The black dahlia” on Wikipedia, until her eyes turn red,
or YouTube the most heinous real life crimes, like the news clip about the mother who put her 2-month old baby in the microwave, while on her lunch break.
This counterphobic attitude is a response to anxiety that,
instead of fleeing the source of fear in the manner of a phobia,
one actively seeks it out, in the hope of overcoming the original anxiousness.
It’s a subconscious response to seek out what is feared.
A woman’s love for detection and problem solving rivals her love for chocolate.
And that’s saying a mouth full. When she first meets a man, she has no hesitation to background check his Facebook, google his name and phone number, and cross reference his social networks to ascertain his TRUE relationship status, if he has any children, as well as his characteristics and attributes. By the time a woman agrees to go on a first date with you, she knows substantially more about you than you know about her.
The thriller of solving a suspense or mystery gives life to an intelligent woman. A CSI team has nothing on a woman’s intuition. A woman knows the answer to a question she asks a man before she even asks us. She just wants to see of we will be honest with her. This is why a man should never lie to a woman, she knows. Trust me.
Women are DEEP thinkers by nature. They will stay up all night, playing out scenarios in their head about what “would” happen if she did this, or what “might” happen if she did that. There’s something therapeutic to a woman about watching an SVU marathon with her phone in one hand and a container of ice cream in the other.
Despite the anxiety crime and violence induces, experiencing it through a fictional lens helps a woman minimize her anxiety of her fears, through familiarity and understanding coupled with the usually satisfying conclusion of the abuser being brought to justice at conclusion of each episode.
*If you love reading about crime and serial killers, bookmark this link ==> http://longform.org/crime
4. … because they never say “she asked for it.”
When a woman gets sexually harassed by a co-worker, family member or her bestie’s husband, SHE is told,
“how can you dress so sexy like that and not expect a man to want to force himself on you?”
Women know this. They know they live in a world, dangerous and unjust for women. They know the live in a rape culture, where if a man wears a bathing suit, he’s “handsome and attractive” yet, when a woman wears a bathing suit, she’s, “a whore” or “setting thirst traps”
But on SVU, the cops don’t blame the victims, they listen to them.
They treat them with respect.
They don’t ask women, “well, what were you wearing or doing to MAKE him touch you?”
Ignorance like this is not allowed on this show.
The police are extremely attentive and they show the victims they really care.
They treat women with the respect, assuring them their abuser will be caught.
5. It’s cathartic.
1 of every 3 women are physically or sexually abused at some point in their lives.
In real life, the victims are blamed for this.
But on SVU, the abusers are held to a high standard,
while the victims are comforted and their accusation of abuse or rape is often justified, as no one blames THEM for being raped or beat up.
Survivors of sexual & physical assault, find it healing seeing stories similar to theirs, where people actually care about the victim and bringing the perpetrator to justice in some way.
Survivors want to think some survivors get help and support the way they never did.
Their fantasies of Detective Stabler punching their abuser, rapist or molester until he was bloody and unrecognizable,
Olivia understanding and supporting them through the trial,
Alex brilliantly and successfully arguing for their abuser’s conviction,
causing them to emerge from therapy whole and unafraid is fueled through every SVU marathon they watch.
In real life, however, rape crimes are not taken seriously by police.
Sexual harassment at the office is common place.
A man hitting his girlfriend is laughed at, with ill-advised Chris Brown and Rihanna jokes subsequently following chuckles.
And the much too common “date rape” is often seen by many mentally immature males as,
something a woman “owes” him if he pays for dinner on a date.
Conversely, on SVU, the cops consider rape or domestic abuse just as serious as any other crime. This is why it appeals to a demographic that often has no voice and no one willing to speak for them. They watch it to feel less alone.
So she can know she’s not the only victim out there.
She watches it to see the rapists get their asses kicked and brought to justice, because hers never got punished.
It takes years before hearing ‘it’s not your fault’ becomes an emotional reality, so
Sexual & domestic abuse survivors can find comfort in living vicariously through a character they know will receive some solace within the conclusion of the sixty minute episode.
*If you have ever been abused, physically or sexually, this 2 minute video will help HEAL you!!* Listen to me Speak LIFE into you ===> http://youtube.com/watch?v=bwSnify-K6M
6. the Elliot and Olivia hook up that never was, but always seemed right around the corner.
How many women have watched SVU every week to see if this week is the week that Olivia and Elliot would one day make love, because their sexual tension is insane?
7. Ice T’s sarcasm.
The irony of a once hardcore rapper playing a police officer on TV is humorous in and of itself,
and yet Ice T’s sarcastic loquaciousness makes the irony of his existence on a cop show play the comedic straight man.
This clips acts as a perfect ode to Ice T’s unbeknownst hilarity:
8. SVU Marathons are so suspenseful.
You can get emotionally invested in the characters
without having to start from the beginning and watch every single episode sequentially;
Unlike many shows that are impossible to understand unless you binge watch the first three seasons on Netflix without leaving the house for 2 days straight, and if you miss one episode, you have no idea what’s going on and who the hell people are.
Whereas with SVU,
you can turn on the TV and see a complete story in an hour with beginning, middle, and end each time; and you don’t have to watch them in order. This is the major appeal of an SVU marathon. It’s like turning on your favorite playlist and randomizing the tracks.
At the same time, there’s continuity from episode to episode, and Benson and Stabler age, evolve, and change throughout the series,
unlike shows where the main characters are static and interchangeable.
Character development is a huge appeal with SVU fans.
It’s like a mystery or suspense novel in this regard.
9. They don’t act like most victims “cry rape”.
A very low number of rape cases are convicted let alone reported.
The number of people who truly believe most rapes are fabricated and that most women “cry rape” for attention is terrifying.
This lie contributes to the reason most women who get raped don’t report it to the police.
They genuinely feel like no one believes they were really raped.
There is a huge misconception in the world about what “rape” REALLY is.
Sadly, many males, not men, but males don’t consider it “rape” if a woman flirts with him,
or if she enjoys it,
or if she has an orgasm,
or if she has had at least one baby by him,
or if she’s on top,
or if they’re in a relationship,
or if she has ever consented to sex with him at any time.
No matter if a woman consents to sex with a man or not,
if at any time, before or during sex a woman says “stop” “no” “don’t” or “pineapples” it means get up and stop.
Males who say, “well she didn’t use the safe word” or “sometimes no means yes, and stop means harder” miss the point.
Sex is about comfort level.
If at any time a woman doesn’t feel comfortable during sex, it’s best to stop, otherwise that is indeed rape.
The only thing about rape on SVU that is misrepresented is the persistent myth that most rapes are stranger rapes.
Studies show between 70% and 90% of all rapes are committed by someone the victim already knows.
This is rarely portrayed on the show, however,
SVU does a great job of displaying the severity of sexual assault through the amazing storyline and character chemistry.
10. that *sound*. Dun dun
Signifying a beautiful escape into a fantasy world where life is just a little more fair for women.
Why do you love Law & Order SVU so much?
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Being a MAN does NOT mean you have to have “hoes” or sleep with multiple women, real men are hopeless romantics. Being a man does NOT mean you have to be a thug, or be ignorant & uneducated, or sag, or degrade & use Women, or call women Bitches & Hoes, or put your career & making money over spending time w/ your family, or be a criminal or a Pimp, or slang or hit licks. Just because you speak well does NOT make you less REAL. Grown men have class, “swag” is for little boys. Stop seeking validation on your manhood from OTHER males & pretending like you don’t have love for a woman. Mentally ascend to your thrown.
A king wants a virtuous QUEEN with whom he can pray with. Not just lay with. Where are the women who are more than a Phat ASS? More than a pretty face? Willing to grow with a mentally-mature man above the waist?
Young kings, from now on let’s challenge ourself to only go DEEP inside of a woman, if she is FIRST willing to grow DEEPer mentally, in her mind, through mental ascension & her spirit with you. Hold your head high, think & behave like the King you are. #SpeakLife into a Woman.
I am not a victim, I am a victor. Their is victory in enduring pain, it makes me stronger.
I know you feel like you have to be so strong for the world all the time, yet when no one is around you feel so weak & doubt your strength.
You tell yourself, “I am so stupid for opening up to trust, because all people do is use & abuse me everytime.” You tell yourself “I DESERVE to suffer in pain, because I am being punished for mistakes I’ve made in my past.” Well, I want you to tell yourself this,
I am not a victim, I am a victor. Their is victory in enduring pain, it makes me stronger.
I’m so sick & tired of you putting on this smile in public, like everything is ok,
but in private, you pick out every little thing wrong with yourself. It is not your job to tear yourself down. It is your job to build yourself up. Stop beating yourself up, because you aren’t where you want to be in life right now. Stop beating yourself up, because you’re unhappy with your current living situation. Stop beating yourself up, because of all your flaws, physical imperfections. & insecurities.
How you look does not define you.
Your insecurities are NOT a bad thing
Your flaws are NOT a deal breaker
Your trust issues are temporary.
You are not weak. You are a rock, unbreakable. Tell yourself,
“I am not a victim, I am a victor. Their is victory in enduring pain, it makes me stronger.”
People have used & abused you to rob you of your inner light, because all their weak, coward ass has is darkness. That is why some of you get used & abused, physically, financially, verbally, sexually, over and over and over by everyone you meet. Because, a predator only approaches victims who have been victimized before. It’s like they can smell the victim in you. Reclaim your strength. Stop holding on to the idea of yourself being as victim.
Tell yourself,
“I am not a victim, I am a victor. Their is victory in enduring pain, it makes me stronger.”
If you have ever been hurt, lied to, cheated on, abused, used by family and made to suffer for just being who you are. When you wake up each morning, this is what I want you to tell yourself.
Yeah I know you been hurt, and maybe you have been victimized
But what are you going to do about it?
You gave your love all your loyalty & they took it all for granted
But what are you going to do about it?
Everytime you try to build yourself up the pain of life brings you down
But what are you going to do about it?
“I am not a victim, I am a victor. Their is victory in enduring pain, it makes me stronger.”
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Taken & Loyal Women get so lonely, they feel single.
Her phone barely rings. She constantly feels unappreciated. All her loyalty goes unacknowledged & unreciprocated. She stays sexually frustrated, especially at night. She rarely goes out to have fun, because some of her girls are jealous she has the level of commitment that eludes them. A Taken woman’s man spends less time with her now, then he ever did when they were just “talking”, proving they should have “courted” instead.
Just as some mentally immature females are not yet relationship ready, some mentally immature males are not yet relationship ready. Once he has her full commitment, he stops doing all the things he did to get her.
Good morning texts stop. Late night conversations stop. Flirting stops. The goofy and silly banter stops. Intimacy and sexting gets boring & predictable, same ole soup, warmed over. She stops getting those butterflies in her stomach and random smiles at the mention of his name like when they first met.
She gives her man the respect of a husband, by shutting down any male who does even the slightest hint of flirting with her. Yet, even the women on her man’s social networks get more attention from him they his own woman does. Taken and loyal women really feel like widows at times, because they are in a relationship with a boring, unexciting, predictable male, not man, but male.
Never let a woman get bored with you. Be spontaneous, constantly show her something new. Bring something unique to the table, she has never experienced before in a relationship. Virtuous women are looking for something they never had in a Man before.
Penetrate her mind, and her body will follow. Arouse a woman’s intellect with the head connected to your brain, not just the head connected to your penis. Hold her down with your strong hand of wisdom, build her up with your compliments. Pour confidence inside her, so she falls in love with her self, body mind and soul. The strongest woman wants to lose control in your strong embrace. Be stimulated cognitively by your intrinsic touch. Penetrated by your intellectual prowess. Overwhelmed by your mental penetration. This mental stimulation must be constant and reciprocal, else the one you love will get bored with you.
Just because a woman has fallen in love with a man, does NOT mean she won’t cut you completely off if you fail to make her feel wanted CONSISTENTLY. Just because a mentally mature man has fallen in love with a woman, does NOT mean he won’t start losing respect for you if your physical beauty & amazing curves start becoming the ONLY thing you have to offer him. Love must grow into care, where two kindred forms of matter become ONE.
Diamonds are not just to be pursued. Once you capture a diamond, that is when the real WORK must be put it to KEEP it. A beautiful woman is like a diamond in that regard. Once she gives you all her attention, you have to KEEP her attention by doing all that you did to get her, plus more. Don’t get it twisted.
Don’t take a woman’s loyalty as a weakness. Should could legitimately have dozens of suitors if she wanted. She gets approached by tall, handsome, wealthy men all day long, but she chooses to turn them down to stay loyal to you. Stop taking that for granted. She could have a different guy take her out on a date every night, but she CHOOSES to be loyal.
When a loyal woman likes a man, she will be loyal to us even without a title and faithful to us even before official commitment, but when she’s tired & fed up, she will drop us without a second thought. Don’t ever make a loyal woman regret the decision to be loyal to you.
“I wish I could say social networks don’t matter but it’s destroying our relationship,” a breathtakingly beautiful, interior designer asked me during a relationship counseling session. “He pays more attention to this girl from Instagram than he does to me. Follows her on everything and likes all her pictures. She’s his top Snap Chat friend as well, I don’t even feel important. When I mention things like that to him, he doesn’t reassure me that I am who he wants. He thinks I should feel lucky for even having him.”
“You are important young queen, he loves you,” I reassured her. “It’s just that he simply does not want commitment with just one woman at this point in his life and he is telling you that constantly with his actions.
When a man OPENLY likes all the pictures of other women on Instagram, knowing damn well you can see it, he is trying to tell you something. When a man OPENLY shows more attention to another woman his phone and via social networks, even after you have made him aware you know about her, he is trying to show you something specific about how he feels about the relationship, and you obviously are not getting the picture.
The reason your boyfriend flirts with other women online openly and in front of you is, because he is tired of being exclusively committed to only one woman.
Repeated infidelity is a cry for help and a way for a coward to break out of a relationship. He is too scared to break-up with you, because he is a coward, so he cheats and gives other women attention openly and in your face on a social network, so YOU can be the ‘bad-guy’ and break up with him. In a weak-minded male’s mind, this tactic is logical, because he feels rather than leave you broken by him breaking up with you, he wants you to feel empowered by breaking up with him because of his infidelity. Stupid tactic indeed.
The reason a weak-minded, non-sex-addict male commits infidelity is, because he is not fully in love with you anymore, as he subconsciously feels he can never DESERVE someone as amazing and loyal as you. Prove he is right & move the hell on. Stop staying seated in an unlocked prison cell. Escape queen.
“What if you have so much to offer and he still treats you with disrespect?”
“Then honestly, it shows you lack SELF respect, to stay with a MALE who treats you with disrespect. You are not the problem queen, he is the problem, but staying LOYAL to a man who disrespects you with constant infidelity is NOT the solution. You know he is being unfaithful with this IG honey. You know he DMs her and they snap chat intimate pictures of each others’ body parts.”
“That’s disgusting,” she complained.
“It is disgusting,” I agreed. “But, any male who has Snap Chat has it for one of two reasons, business or exchanging nudes. Any male who has Instagram, has it for two reasons, business or sexting, exchanging numbers with random women, or to screen shot pictures of half-naked women for masturbation-material.
“We’ve been together for 3 years. I just didn’t want to give up, she complained. “But the fact that he knows it bothers me and doesn’t care to change it tells me I should. Sometimes it’s just hard to let go.”
“It’s HARD to give birth,” I compared, “but if you don’t push, you will destroy that beautiful little life. Now, if you don’t PUSH that snake out your life, you will destroy your SELF. Give birth to self-love. Give birth to self-confidence. Give birth to self strength. Even though it is hard, PUSH queen. Your strength through pain is impressive to the one who created you.
Now, if you insist on attempting to make this relationship work, I want you to tell him you want his loyalty and want to make your relationship with him exclusive.”
“How should I do that?” She asked.
“As open as you are communicating with me,” I responded, “communicate with your man in a monotone, calm voice, without crying, yelling or making assumptions.
Do not give a man your loyalty before he earns it from you first. Do not assume a man is faithful to you, just because you are faithful to him.
If you really like a man and want his loyalty, ask him,
“What do you want out of us? Because I want you. I like you & I would love to see if we can grow into a spiritual relationship. But I’m the type of woman who needs complete loyalty. I know my worth. I have so much to offer you, my friendship, my passion, my affection, my love, my loyalty and my spirituality. I can help you grow spirituality the way no other woman can. I have been honest with you, so I deserve your honesty. I want to know if you want to faithfully commit yourself to me and cut off ties with all your Ex-girlfriends and cease giving your attention to any woman but me?”
Mentally mature men have no intention of cheating on a woman in a relationship. His wisdom will not allow him to commit to a woman if he is legitimately unready to give all his attention to just one woman.
Cheating is for insecure cowards. Cheating is not about sex. If it were, these cheaters would just remain single to sleep with as many as they wanted, then it would not be cheating. Cheating is about control. Manipulation. Filling insecurity.
Cheating is to hold a loyal person’s heart hostage, while one behaves single. They know they could just end it with them at any time to sleep with someone else, but they WANT to stay committed, make their partner suffer, to gain power from their pain.
The one you’re so in love with does NOT always want commitment. Some only want to be with you for a short time, while building their self confidence up and tearing their insecurities down by gaining power at the expense of pain their disloyalty causes you. They can’t wait to drop you & “upgrade”.
But a coward with this frame of mind, will continue to look, yet never be able to find satisfaction for their lack of self confidence.
A mentally mature man gains confidence from remaining faithful. His loyalty impresses himself. He loves nothing more than turning down all the women who want his attention, just so he can give all his attention to that ONE woman who does the same & gives him all of hers.
Why Men Cheat On Loyal Women: Part 2 “Why your boyfriend will never stop loving his EX and still texts her when he’s not texting you.”
Recently, I received an email from a reader of my work that completely humbled me. A young queen asking for relationship advice inspired me to devote a whole chapter to my upcoming book on this very topic. Her email read,
“A confused Heart!
Hello Ebrahim Aseem,
I am 22 years old and I currently reside in Atlanta, GA. I want to start off by saying, you are one of most inspirational people I have ever come across. You have no idea how many times your posts have gotten me through my day. I am having a problem that I pray you have the time to respond to. I have been dating this guy named Justin for the past 8 months now.
Generally, he is a good guy. He does things for me no other man has. Now, I know I’m young and not much time has been implemented into this relationship, but I can honestly say that I love him. He is sweet, caring, and loving. I don’t trust him though. I know what you’re probably thinking, “why are you with him?!”. Honestly Ebrahim, I don’t know. I think it’s because I love him so much, I’m afraid to lose him.
He is still friends with his ex-girlfriend of 8 years off and on. She, along with other girls, would call him at/after midnight and text him. He swore, it was nothing like my female intuition was telling me. So I did what I thought I would never do, I looked in his phone while he was asleep. I was heart-broken. He was still telling her that he loved her, that he eventually wanted to be with her again. Another female was exclaiming how good the sex had been. Others he was just flirting with. Long story short, I forgave him. And like I don’t trust him, he doesn’t trust me.
We got past that, things got good between us again, I had fallen even more deeply in love with him. I was helping him with his family. They don’t have a car right now so I have been helping him with getting to work and everything he asks of me, which isn’t much. I spend majority of my time with him and I think about him all day. I even took him home to meet my family. While visiting the family, he sat me down and told me,
I’m going to do right by you. I love you.” I felt complete. I trusted him again at that very moment. It was naive of me, I know. Recently I asked him what we were, and he basically stated that we’re together without the titles. He said he was content with where we are and we’re still fresh in the relationship. I was a little hurt. I didn’t know how to take it. He says he wants to take things slow because he doesn’t want to ruin anything before it happens.
This past Wednesday, I was picking him up to take him back to my place, my phone went dead and beforehand, my best friend called and wanted to talk to me. So he offered his phone. When he ran into a friend’s house, I quickly glanced at his text messages with his Ex and there he was telling her he missed her and wanted to be with her. He wanted to make things work.
I didn’t question him about, instead I brought it up randomly and asked him if he missed her, if he wanted to be with her, if he still loved her. He said that he has love for her, but he doesn’t want to be with her. He said he doesn’t miss her and that he’s not trying to make things work with them. I just sat there, numb. Because I knew he was lying.
I just really don’t know what to do. I really love this guy so much. But I know I cannot be accepting of this. My best friend always tells me that I’m worth more than this. For some reason, I feel like I will be missing out on something.
One thing I have learned about myself so far in my time of dealing with him is, I love hard. Really hard. When I am committed to someone, I am the most loyal, caring, and loving person. I have never cheated a day in my life, but unfortunately I’ve been cheated on. Numerous times. I often wonder, why haven’t I found someone to commit to me? Someone that loves me, for me? Have I been searching in all the wrong places? I hope that you can give me some insight on what I should do or how to handle this situation I’m in. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I pray that you’re having a blessed day king.
Signed,
A Confused Heart”
The reason why males continue to text their Ex-girlfriend “I love you” and “I still miss you” is, not because he still loves her. Queen, if your boyfriend still loved his ex, he would still be in a relationship with her and would not be committed to you. Males still text their ex-girlfriend, because he misses receiving the ATTENTION from multiple women vying for his heart.
Understand, some males are way more insecure than a woman could even imagine being. Receiving attention from multiple women gives scorned, emotionally unstable males LIFE, because it feels the crater sized holes in his self-esteem. A weak-minded male wants to FEEL wanted by multiple women who he has no interest in loving or committing to. He uses their attention to sustain his insecurity. He is an emotional wreck and he hides this, by display behavior society deems “masculine”, such as being a womanizer. Weak-minded males act overly mach, because they think women think, a man who shows emotion is soft or unmanly.
A woman does not want a man who has no emotion. She wants a man who knows how to manage his emotions.
But attention from one woman in a committed relationship does nothing for an emotional unstable male, but make him even MORE insecure. Why? He simply knows he lack the emotional stability to keep you satisfied in a relationship. When you tell him, “I love you babe,” he feels so inadequate, undeserving of your love, that he will go in secret, and text his ex “I miss you baby” simply so his ex can text back, “aww, really? 🙂 I miss you too!!!”
He doesn’t miss her. He’ fishting. Fishing for attention from his ex, using flirtatious texts as his bait. Males who like every picture of a particular girl on Instagram, always comment hearts, saying “your body is perfect” or “you are so beautiful” exchanging genital photography with her via Snap Chat, he does not love that IG honey, he is fishting. Fishing for attention from random women, texting undeserved compliments as bait.
This is worse than standard cheating, because he is doing it all day long to a high volume of women all over the world, via social networks. This is why your boyfriend never lets you use his phone. At any time, randomly say, “baby, can I use your phone? mine is dead.” He will say, “where’s your charger?” rubbing his pockets to make sure his phone is still in there.
Anytime you mention a male’s phone and he starts patting himself down all over his body and looking left and right for his phone, know that is a tell-tell sign he has fishting all through his iMessage and social network notifications.
When I was in a relationship with a woman who was self-admittingly insecure, I told her,
“Baby, steal my phone, look at my texts & go through my DMs, else I will start thinking you don’t like me and I will leave you for a crazier woman. An un-loyal man gets annoyed by his woman searching his phone. If you like it, I love it sweetheart. I know I’m loyal, it gives me an opportunity to show it & prove my monogamy. If you don’t check my INSTAGRAM pics daily to notice if there’s a pattern of my conversing with the same girl consistently liking & commenting my pictures, I will confront your ass about it.”
After I told her that, she laughed at my sarcasm and appreciated how I did not try to make her feel she was crazy for her insecurities about the attention I get from women on social networks.
Now, I understand you may love your boyfriend and you want his loyalty, but he has no intention of just giving only you his attention, he does not even value attention from just one woman. He feels he needs attention from non-committed females. Commitment turns him off, this is why it seems like your boyfriend never smiles around you, or is not sexually attracted to you. He is emotionally cheating on you and yes, online cheating counts as cheating too.
Once a male cheats on a woman, and you take him back, he has ZERO love and respect for you. He can not respect someone who lacks the respect for her self to STAND UP to one who stabs them in the back, even if that someone is him. Cheating is treason. Why should a man or woman give someone another CHANCE to hurt them again? Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, nah, never give them a TWICE.
You need to look in the mirror & tell yourself this, “Beautiful, why the hell are you giving your ATTENTION & TIME to a weak-minded male who refuses to give you his consistency? Is the presence of a man worth your self-respect? Love your self! Stop trying to teach a child how to be a man! Value yourself enough to walk away from someone who goes out their way to prove how much they don’t love you.”
Allow me to speak life into you. Queen, you hurt, not because you are alone. You hurt because you feel you have WASTED love & time building towards something alone while with him. You feel cheated out of your time & love you poured into a bottomless glass. You deserve so much better and it is all coming your way as long on you keep working on your self and self edifying your mind through wisdom, but please never feel alone. Once someone you loved so much proves to you how much that take your loyalty to them as a joke, laugh at their ignorance and free yourself.
You are now AVAILABLE for someone who can value your worth enough to walk in your life & pour love into YOU for a change. Aren’t you tired of always being the one who has to love so hard? Aren’t you tired of always having to be the one who brings up commitment, like, “so what are we?” Aren’t you tired of wondering if the next time you forgive a make for cheating on you, then lying about it yet again, will be the last? Well now you are free of that. You ARE valuable, like crystal, let someone who PROVES THEY DESERVE YOUR LOVE pour love and life into your glass heart. Your heartbreaking boyfriend was a cancer, not many people are cured of their cancer, you were. Rejoice queen. Your king awaits you.
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