The mNemonic beat knock of Hip-Hop & R&B

Posted on April 24, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Usher’s Confessions is one of the greatest pure albums. He poured his vocal soul on a vinyl canvas. A score of his love life. It told a story. It’s constant concept throughout. Passion filled lyrics. Soulful melody. Don’t let this “new” techno Usher fool you. He’s trying to stay relevant. #EbrahimAseemI’mma need Usher to get another woman pregnant so we can get Confessions: Chapter 2 😩✌

Usher’s newest hit “I Don’t Mind” where he proclaims, “if you dance on a pole, that don’t make you a hoe” is not just a sign of Usher abandoning his soulful Confessions roots. Just like Kanye abandoning his immaculate College Dropout roots, it is a perfect example of the mnemonic beat knock of hip-hop & R&B.

King, queen, listen. You’re not in a universe, or a dimension.
You mind IS a universe, engaging in conscious ascension.
Too many young people are stuck in embryonic cognition, stuntin’ their only mission. #EbrahimAseem Lacking in goals, drive & ambition will lead them to mental descension.
Mind in remission detention, pineal gland inactivated, chakras unaligned.
Their frontal cortex connection has stopped. Due to the mnemonic beat knock of hip-hop.

mNemonic (n) a verse, sound, formula or rhyme used to incept thoughts into one’s memory, intended to invoke a secret reaction.

The beat knock of hip-hop is used as a mnemonic key to lock listeners mind into an unintuitive, droid state, void of free thinking & ripe for consumer inception. I’m so thankful for Solange, Kendrick Lamar & J. Cole, because a lot of these other ass artists have clearly sold their soul & forfeited creative control.

GE owns Nicki Minaj, JayZ, Cash Money, Drake, Kanye & Iggy’s record labels that glorify crime & violence, manufactures weapons & owns stock in private prisons. Clearly, rappers & singers are unknowingly being used to mnemoniclly incept prison-culture into Black youth’s mind, pipelining them into the private prison system via weapons-glorifying lyrics over a rhythmic beat. #EbrahimAseem

“About a weak ago, weak ago” may be the most memorable line of Bobby Shmurda’s debut hit rap song, yet the gun violence glorifying, black on black crime bragging lyrics hidden under an amazingly slapping beat highlight the mnemonic inception of gun violence as unbeknownst product placement into listener’s memory, fueling GE’s weapons manufacturing portfolio.

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Slavery was more than picking cotton. African slaves were inventors. They drafted blueprints, designed cities as slave architects & created inventions for their masa to steal, patten & put their name on. The 14th amendment states slaves is outlawed everywhere except prison. General Electric is using hip-hop artists on it’s label to product place prison culture into young minds, pipelining children into prisons, funding their investments in the private prison industry aka the new slavery. #EbrahimAseem

Black entertainers invent amazing forms of art used to keep people of all races in a drone-like, mental slave state via mnemonics.

Consciousness is controlled & free thought is limited by one-percenters who fear elevated consciousness will lead the 99% to acquiring the knowledge & wealth one-percenters desperately hold hostage.

These demonic one-percenters’ most powerful weapon is mnemonics & their aim is to keep our minds frozen in a consumer state, too busy to cognitively thaw & mentally awaken into using the law of attraction naturally, as a form of second nature.

Music provides a powerful mnemonic link to product brands & amoral ideas.

The “ba-da dot dot daah” jingle is a mnemonic sound used to trigger memory of the taste & smell of McDonald’s poisonous food in the brain, sparking premature hunger.

Reality TV shows like Love & Hip Hop & Basketball Wives use beautiful women with sweet hearts & messy lives, drama & hip-hop culture as a mnemonic tool to incept sponge-like insecurities into female viewers head, so they’ll soak up beauty-themed product placement in the show & subsequent product-ads during the commercial break.

If you don’t listen to Soul or 90s R&B, we can’t be anything more than friends. I’m looking for an old soul. Go listen to Justin Beiber, since you wanna act childish.

Sade. Anita Baker. Avant. Bilal. Stevie Wonder. Whitney Houston. Patti LaBelle. Jill Scott. Erykah Badu. Lauryn Hill. Chrisette Michelle. Kem. Anthony Hamilton. Levert. The Isley Brothers. Maxwell. Boyz II Men. Aretha Franklin. Michael Jackson. Goapele. Raheem DeVaughn, Musiq Soulchild. Raphael Saadiq. D’Angelo. KeKe Wyatt. Janelle Monae. Luther. Monica. Brian McKnight. Jodeci. Jagged Edge. BeBe & CeCe. Janet (Ms. Jackson) Panic At The Disco! No Doubt. Portishead. Led Zeppelin. John Lennon. Bob Marley. Nirvana. Duke Ellington. I love soul, country, 90sR&B, New Jack Swing, punk, rock, gospel & most of all JAZZ music.

If you don’t listen to any of those, because ALL you listen to is Hip Hop, we could never be anything more than just platonic. A person’s taste in music speaks volumes of their aura, vibe & chemistry to me.

I love Hip-Hop w/ every breath in my body. It pains me such beautiful music lost its originality & lyricism I miss Missy. I miss College Dropout Kanye, not this new Kanye. I miss Lil Weezy. I miss The Blueprint Jay. I miss Just Blaze & Ruff Riders Eve & 21 Questions 50 Cent. I miss #90sHipHop I miss real music.

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Resources:

“From Independent to Corporate: A Political Economic Analysis of Rap Billboard Toppers” By: Myer & Kleck, 2007 – http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/03007760701267649

“Psychology Modeling: conflicting modification” By: psychologist Albert Bandura, 1971

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Do SISTAS’ lives matter? or just the Black males’? | Cop who murdered unarmed Rekia Boyd found NOT guilty, few march for her

Posted on April 24, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Just 48 hours before a civil lawsuit against the city of Ferguson was filled by Michael Brown’s parents for the murder of their unarmed son by a cop, the Chicago Police detective who fatally shot unarmed 22-year-old Rekia Boyd in 2012 was found not guilty on all charges Monday.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Black women fought for women’s rights against being slave property of their husbands in the 1800s & the Women’s suffrage movement abandoned them.
Black queens like Ida B. Wells & Rosa Parks strategically planned powerful peaceful protests against segregation & the Civil Rights movement credits Black male speakers for the foundational work the sistas laid down.

Our sistas breathed life into the Black Lives Matter movement & how do we show our appreciation? We ignore the life of #RekiBoyd We refuse to march for her. We remain silent while her killer goes free. Being a Black Woman is the beautiful, hardest to be, because you fight daily to defend your melanin & your femininity. We need to support our sistas. Stop trying to define our sistas. Don’t decline our sistas’ worth in your mind. She is one of a kind. Honor her. Spport her. Ride for her like she rides for you. All human life was birth from the womb of a Black woman. She is earth’s royalty & the spiritual portal & liaison of light to the universe.

Judge Dennis Porter handed down the verdict in queen Rekia Byrd’s case Monday afternoon amid heavy security in his courtroom, but not before asking anyone who might become emotional to leave. “I know this case has generated a lot of emotion … but this is a court of law, not a court of emotion,” Porter said before issuing a long ruling.

Porter said while he had no doubt that Officer Dante Servin did indeed shoot Boyd, he said prosecutors didn’t prove Servin acted recklessly when he did so, a requirement for finding someone guilty of #manslaughter.

After the verdict was read screaming members of Boyd’s family were dragged from the courtroom as Servin hugged relatives. “You want me to be quiet?! This muthafucka killed my
sister!” Boyd’s brother, Martinez Sutton, screamed as he was dragged out of the courtroom by deputies.

Outside the courthouse, protesters began to gather and Boyd’s mother, Angela Helton, sobbed with family.

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I pray for justice for Rekia’s family.

Jan. 9th 2015 my 20y/o nephew & 20y/o cousin were murdered execution style in a parked car with 2 other black men in San Francisco, CA.

The SF police refuse to continue the investigation, despite bragging through private texts they know who killed them. The SF police department has come under scrutiny after cops’ private texts were leaked of them saying, “all Niggers deserve to hang” claiming their murders don’t deserve to be solved.

I’m disgusted & fighting for justice, I pray for justice for my grieving sister losing her son & for any mother or father who has to bury their child. Prayerfully this #LorettaLynch confirmation leads to a change of heart in eugenicists in powerful positions, starting with the civil suit against the Ferguson police department.

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Black women will remain SINGLE, until they drop this silly “at-ti-TUDE”

Posted on April 21, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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42% of Black women are unmarried. 70% of professional Black women are single, despite the fact 100% of Genuine Black women are intelligent, successful, self-sufficient, spiritual, fierce & beautiful.

When will women innerstand their high ass standards, their respectful ‘speak my mind’ attitude, the fact that you always have to question everything, all that is not a deal breaker? It is weak-male repellant. Be your sassy self queen, it will attract you ONLY a mentally mature man who can HANDLE you & that mouth with his rugged intellect.

Black women, you are not a problem. You are not “too difficult”.
You are the nucleus of this earth. You are the vessel of life & portal of energy as a liaison to this universe.
This is why eugenisists conspire to sterilize you & your seed via Planned Parenthood.
This is why your image is ridiculed, your hair is shamed, your skin is slandered,
it is because you are the very blood that keeps this world running warm.

If you are single now, it is because the world conspires you to wipe you from its existence. This is why your sons are murdered by police, shot dead in the streets, case unsolved, mystery unresolved. The enemy is after your seed. The plan is to sterilize you after you get an epidural to wipe your royal lineage from existence.

If you are single now, it is, because all the others you met where nowhere near your level, but there is a loyal, conscious king on his way who will dig you like a shovel. Your help meet is looking for you, looking forward to going half on a baby with you, raising your son to be a confident man, aware of his regal ancestry, raising your daughter to know she doesn’t need a man to stand in front of her, she is a queen by herself. He will not “save you” or rescue you, he was taught by his father to compliment a woman, not validate her.

Too many single black women are unintentionally repelling men away, by possessing this silly “where are the good men” attitude. That’s so unattractive.

Do you lack the conscious cognition & intrinsic innerstanding that one’s gender does not dictate their values? Meaning, there are commitment craving men,, monogamy, loving mentally mature men on earth. They exist, because a mentally mature woman raised them to be that way, their mother.

In reality, being single has nothing to do with your race & everything to do with your self-standards.

A woman must ask herself, “why did I settle & give my body, my heart, my loyalty, my matrimony, my children, hell my number to a man who did not appreciate a woman with integrity & substance?” Why did I ever lower my standards? Is the reason I have never had something real, because I have chosen to settle for less than I deserve?

As a man, the worse mistake I ever made was choosing a self-proclaimed bad bitch over a mentally mature woman. If a man or woman can not ADMIT they have settled & made poor choices in companions, they will forever be single.

I receive 1.3k emails a day from men of valor, asking for advice, yet this one really humbled me,

“Mr. Ebrahim I’ve read your entirety online just now because me and my fiance’s going through some changes and I must say you’ve described us down to a tee. Uhmm, you’ve enlightened my view on my selfish prospective on how we as men see our (black) sisters. I’d like to thank you and ask for some advice?”

Black women are difficult, hard to get along with, mean, bitchy, argumentative & bitter ONLY to a narrow-minded male, who lacks the mental endowment to handle her. If you were a self-sufficient, confident, leader of valor, no woman would EVER dare to be mean, difficult or have an attitude with you. Husband, father, brother or son, an intelligent man dripping with cognitive masculinity renders a woman with a “smart mouth” speechless.

Ladies, I don’t give a damn if you have a fat ass when I approach. You can’t attract me with curves, & booty pics. I’ll pour love into a skinny woman with stretch marks before I entertain a curvy beauty with only amazing body to offer. ‪#‎EbrahimAseem‬ I’m not one of these limp noodle lames impressed by a big butt & a smile.

I have a mind, can you stimulate it? Or is the only head on a man you can arouse connected to his penis? I’ll grip, manhandle, massage & worship Your booty if you have one, but if you think that will attract me, you are ass hopeless as a penny with a hole in it.

When I speak this message in front of hundreds of women, they complain, “I wish your mentality was more common, most guys don’t want this!” to which I reply,

“I pray it was more common for women to stop caring what the hell weak coward males who can’t handle a strong woman “don’t want” and start living for what they as queens want.

The mentally mature men who DO think like this get turned off when all women want to converse about is the “many men who don’t want a woman with a mind”.

Men can only be as loyal & monogamous as the women who birth them #raise them to be. I pray mentally mature men like me were chosen more by women, instead of assholes who make them assume “all men are dogs”.

I’m not married yet and abstinent while single, because I refuse to SETTLE for the gorgeous, curvy distractions I’ve met until now. If we can’t further each other’s intellect, spiritually connect, be goofy, vibe wherever & build towards a forever, fine as you may be, we can’t be together.‬

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The ‘Strong Black Woman’ promotes EMASCULATION of Black Men

Posted on April 16, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“They put every black man in the movies in a dress in some point in his career. Strong brothers, why do they want to see us in these dresses?” Dave Chappelle

“A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.” – Deuteronomy 22:5 ESV

People are so fixated on Jaden Smith wearing a dress & Young Thug wearing make-up & lee press ons, they’re unable to see, the castration of Black Men starts in the mind, in the home, it starts with how we treat our women.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

#1 The “strong black woman” concept

Black women are always told to “be the strong one”. She can’t show her flaws, fatigue, weakness or shortcomings. She’s always made to feel she must “hold it together” in adverse times, while the men are allowed to wallow, drink, curse, yell & throw a temper tantrum… just like a little boy.

A small percentage of us Black men have created this strong woman concept, as a crutch for our lack of leadership. As men, we have no right to define a woman by how much strength she displays through pain. We are being cowards who lack leadership whenever we put it on a woman to always be the strong one alone.

Where are the provider men? The leader men? All our girls see is lair men & cheater men.
Where are men who take responsibility for a child they make, instead of leaving a woman to raise a life alone that he helped create?

As Black men, we must man the fuck up. We wear our bank account on our feet, the newest Jordans, while our babies wear frowns, wondering why their daddy doesn’t want them.

Let’s be men of accountability.
Let’s stop labeling our women “strong woman”.
She’s allowed to hurt while she’s resilient,
to care deep while she’s speaking her mind,
to grieve while being strong on her terms.
She’s not your strong woman, she’s a woman of strength who belongs to her SELF. A woman is not some thing to be defined or appraised, she’s a virtuous woman to be appreciated and praised. (proverbs 31:30)

#2 Single Mothers have to be “the mother and the father?

During slavery in America, when a Black man had a child with his wife, he was sold away to split up the family.

This was done intentionally, so his son would never be raised by a man to be a man. Done so his daughter would never have the love of her father, who could set the example of how a man should treat her. Growing up constantly seeking love of a man from every guy she meets.

3. Slavery has never legally ended in America

Even after the emancipation proclamation was issued by President Abraham Lincoln on January 1, 1863,

Slavery is still legal in the U.S. via prison, according to the 13th Amendment. Victoria’s Secret, Starbucks, Wal-Mart, Nintendo, Costco & Microsoft have all used prison slave labor.

Billionaires buy prisons, then outsource free prisoner labor to companies.

People of color are 30% of the U.S. population, yet 60% of the prisoners. 1 in every 15

Black men are in prison, while 1 in every 106 white men are in prison. (*1)

1 of every three Black men can expect to go to prison in their lifetime. (*2)

Black offenders receive sentences 10% longer than white offenders for the same crimes. (*3)

This is not about racism. The apparent imprisonment of Black men is done as a cognitive emasculation to outsource their free labor, harvest their organs via police shootings of unarmed men and sterilize the Black population by not destroying the Black home structure.

Slavery wasn’t about picking cotton. It was about stripping a spiritual people, favored by The Creator, of their identity, language, culture & rites of passage, force feeding them man-made religion.

When a Black man ran away from his master, his penis was cut off, forever stunting his growth from boyhood to manhood. Today, the aim is to destroy Black boys before they can grow to men, before their frontal cortex can fully cognitively connect and before pineal gland activation can commence.

4. The emasculation of black men has created an inverse mentality in the Black psyche, composed of two types of women:

A. Black women who are educated, successful, opinionated & financially self-sufficient are told they are tying to “be the man”.

B. Black women who treat Black men like boys, instead of holding them accountable as providers.

A woman must innerstand, allowing a man to live rent free in a home you pay all the bills in is treating a man like a boy. If you loved him, boyfriend or son, you’d him to pay his portion, have his own & be the self-provider he was put on earth to be.

A man must innerstand, a woman with her own mind, money & motives is not “trying to be the man”. Don’t fault her for being more of a man than you. She is being loyal to her ambitions. She refuses to wait around for a man to “save” her. When males say a successful woman is “trying to be the man” he’s really admitting her mind is cognitively maturing on a rate he can never grow to meet. I want a woman who knows that a queen without her king is STILL a queen. She doesn’t need a man to make her royal.

I want to go half on a baby with a woman who won’t raise my son to be a nigga. Won’t call him “cute lil nigga”. Won’t refer to me as “real nigga” or “my nigga”. Husband & father sounds better than “real nigga” to me.

What these wanna-be-hood-yet-square-on-the-low girls don’t realize is, projecting stereotypes of black culture will never attract commitment. Using nigga as both the subject & predicate in the sentence of all your social media posts may feel cute slipping through your lips, but it will ONLY attract you a male who is baby daddy material. You’re not Nikki. Stop speaking with such a high-pitched, upward-inflected, exaggerated tone of voice. Be yourself. Stop pretending you’re only trap music & swishers, when you’re really Taylor Swift & Game of Thrones. Embrace your natural self. Love your natural self. Innerstand, you are not in a universe, queen, you ARE one. State your intention to the universe and watch it submit itself to your vibration.

Likewise, a man is a universe. His mental maturity & cognitive growth depends on how resilient he is willing to work & self edify. Too many Black males are stuck in embryonic cognition, due to the mnemonic beat knock of hip-hop.

To be continued next week.

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References.

*1 – https://www.aclu.org/infographic-combating-mass-incarceration-facts?redirect=combating-mass-incarceration-facts-0
*2 Bureau of Justice Stats – http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.1525/sp.2011.58.2.257?uid=2&uid=4&sid=21106484931793
*3 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bill-quigley/fourteen-examples-of-raci_b_658947.html

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Guys starve girls of EFFORT, because girls settle for “talking” over Courtship. | 7 Levels of Commitment

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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I took a natural-haired, mocha, Bahamian fashion buyer out dancing on a first date to a Caribbean restaurant for salsa night. The night ended with her going through my phone, me thrown out the restaurant & a mojito being thrown in an innocent person’s face.

After approaching her at Whole Foods & exchanging numbers, we talked on the phone for two weeks to vibe before our first date, because “texting” does not equate to conversing. I’m often asked, “what’s the difference between talking, dating & courting?”

There are 7 levels to reaching commitment:

Approach.
Date.
Courtship.
Relationship.
Common Law Marriage.
Engagement.
Legal Marriage.
Some of these girls have never even been taken out on the date stage. Once a guy sees you’ll settle for talking, he’ll never commit to you. Why commit to the girl, when you can get her loyalty for FREE?

#1 Approach.

Inboxing or DMing you empty words & dick pics does NOT count as approaching. If you give a man your number without requiring he make you laugh, show you respect, ask your passions & stimulate your mind with voice words, not text, he will never take you serious enough to commit to you. Welcome to the Side Chick Zone. Serving community dick from 11pm to 3am.

#2 Date.

Not to be confused with “dating” (which is a synonym talking) a date is a planned, payed for event or events a man takes a woman out on to observe couple chemistry. The movies are a played out first date. A woman gets approached dozens of times a week. If a man wants to set himself apart from other suitors, he’ll take a woman on a memorable date.

Memorable does NOT mean expensive. Taking a woman on a date does NOT mean tricking or simping. Any male who thinks that may be more attracted to spending intimate time his homies than a woman anyway. FYI, unless it’s a cooking class, inviting you to his house for the first meet is NOT a date.

#3 Courtship.

After several dates, if you establish chemistry, attraction & find they are a reflection of the light you want to be, you court. Courtship precedes engagement and marriage.

#4 Relationship.

There is no such thing as a girlfriend to a guy.

A “girlfriend” is not a recognized legal union on a W2 form, nor is it a serious level of commitment to a man. If you have a girlfriend, you still put single on all your legal documents, because “girlfriend/boyfriend” are relatively new terms. They don’t appear in any books or bibles until the mid 1900s. If you’re not leading to forever with each other, you’re leading to a break up.

That’s why when men cheat on their loyal wife, it’s called “adultery”. Cheating means cheating the “agreed upon nuptials” as marriage is a LEGAL contract. Adultery does not apply to “girlfriend/boyfriends” as there is no legal nuptial contract to “cheat”. He’s not a cheater, he’s a jiggalo. Not all men are jiggalos. But if a woman gives a man sex without first requiring his commitment, he won’t respect you, your “relationship” or your pregnancy.

What is a girlfriend? A girl who gives you loyalty before you give her commitment (marriage).

What girls loyal during the “talking” stage don’t realize is, giving a man undeserved loyalty teaches him he can get your best without giving any effort. If you give a guy loyalty without requiring he faithfully commit to you, he’ll make you look stupid on purpose, simply because you’re lack of self standards isn’t giving him anything to respect nor commit to.

A real “relationship” is where a man tells the woman he’s courting if & when he plans to marry her. Girls will plan a whole life with a handsome guy who lacks a life plan. If he hasn’t set you down & told you his priorities, don’t make him your priority. A lot of these girls are too naive to realize they are not even in a committed relationship. Stop letting ‘babe’ be the key to unlock your heart & loyalty.

#5 Common Law Marriage.

Marriage without the certificate, ceremony, tax benefits & financial security of alimony. Common law Marriage is often a “shacking up stage” where girls allow men to live with them & have sex with them w/o putting a ring on it. That stage is not for me. I’m celibate until marriage, because moms raised a future husband & father, not a future baby daddy.

For virtuous men & women, this stage is the #5 Celibacy Stage. Spending extending time, while making out & engaging in mental intimacy, without sexual activity. If they can’t keep you satisfied above the waste, they don’t deserve to go to the next stage of commitment.

#6 Engagement.

A public promise & appointment to legally marry a woman. If a man hides his relationship status on social networks, & doesn’t want to activity like his woman’s pics or post about her, he may not be ready for marriage.

7. Legal Marriage.

When two people become ONE. No more “I want” or “I think”. If a man says ‘I’ more than ‘we’, he is not yet married to the idea of you & him being equals. A man knows exactly who he wants to wife later on & who he wants to sex for the time being. He only starves you of effort, b/c you give loyalty by “talking” w/o requiring commitment.

The Bahamian woman I took on a salsa dancing date was intelligent, witty, sassy & curvaceous.

Unfortunately, she was also into “talking” over courtship. I found out, because just 10 days after approaching her & hours after my salsa date proposal, she posted meme after meme on Instagram about “finding the one” and how “you don’t have to be talking to him for long to know he’s the only guy you want to talk to”. The most shocking meme she posted was accompanied by the caption, “and since you lames can’t text me back, I found a real man worth talking to.” along with the following meme bellow:

This shocked me, because she had texted me a cropped out version of the picture above, with only the little girl, saying, “I had a dream this is what your daughter will look like.”

Four days later, when we finally had our first date, I knew I had to upfront, as I always am with women, and let her know my thoughts on “talking vs. courtship”.

After our salsa dance instruction, we sat down & ordered some Caribbean food. Before our meal came, I served this beauty food for thought. I told her I was celibate while single and reveled I went out on dates with women to see how compatible we our for possible courtship, because I was raised to be a future husband & father, not a future baby daddy.

Even though she assured me we were on the same page, in hindsight, I should have addressed the memes she posted on Instagram earlier in the week. After we enjoyed our food, I ordered dessert, asked the waitress for the check and went to the restroom to wash the sticky salsa off my hands. When I came back, I saw the Bahamian beauty sitting with her arms folded & a pissed off look on her face.

“What’s wrong?” I asked her.

“You’re full of shit, that’s what’s wrong,” she complained, sliding the receipt booklet towards me. When I looked at the recipe, I saw the waitress’ name circled with a heart shape & her 10-digit phone number written inside it with red pen.

“I saw you flirting with her high yellow ass all night,” the Bahamian beauty complained.

“Are you serious, right now?” I asked. ” I didn’t even look in the woman’s direction once tonight. Nor did you see me look in my phone once, because when I’m out with a woman, or even with family, the person I’m with gets all my attention. Not my phone nor other women. By the way, have you seen my phone?”

The Bahamian beauty pulled out my phone from her purse and handed it to me.

“Explain this then,” she sassed, showing me a text from another woman. The other woman’s text featured heart eye emojis and kisses.

“Listen,” I responded, “I’m honest with this girl whose texts you’ve read just as I have been honest with you from jump. I’m single and I go out on dates. Just because we text does not mean we are in a relationship. You deserve transparency, which is why I am so open with you about my singleness. For you to go in my phone is completely unacceptable. I’ve been nothing but respectful to you. Excuse me.”

I stood up and walked towards the kitchen until I found the waitress.

“Excuse me,” I told her, “I appreciate your service, it was outstanding. Yet, I am completely disappointed in the way you disrespected the woman I am with by writing your number on my receipt. How do you know the woman I’m with isn’t my wife?”

“I am so sorry,” the waitress told me, ” I really didn’t mean to offend you or her. But I didn’t intend for her to see it. And honestly, judging by her dance moves, you can do better my brotha.”

“You really need to apologize to my date,” I urged the waitress, motioning her back to my table, “in the interest of professionalism.”

Once the waitress got back to my table to collect our tab, the Bahamian beauty picked up her mojito and threw it in the waitress’ face.

“You don’t know me,” the Bahamian beauty yelled with a heavy Caribbean accent, swinging at the waitress. Then, she said something in her language I couldn’t make out. Minutes later, we were kicked out of and banned from the restaurant. I dropped the Bahamian beauty off home, despite the fact I’d bought tickets for us to see Janelle Monae perform live, accompanied by an orchestra. Needless to say, I never went out with Bahamian beauty again. I’m pretty sure she blocked me on Instagram as well.

The lesson I learned from this is, always hold true to your values. If you red flags, obey them and be more loyal to your standards than you are to an attractive person’s potential.

I am so tired of “talking”. Being in a relationship where the sex is so damn good, but there’s no growth or courtship is a waste to me.

I see your fine ass has curves, but are you nurturing? Patient? Good with children? Finances? Home decor? I don’t date for a hobby. If we aren’t planning for forever I have no interest.

What are your passions? Goals? Can we stimulate each others spirit? Align each others chakras? Activate each others pineal gland? Can you digest knowledge my food for thought feeds your mind? What type of mother will you be? Where do you want to raise a family? Let’s stop asking these women for pics, ask if she’s a WIFE.

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You’re not “in love” you just feel too emotionally invested to leave. Stop being loyal to what ‪#‎neglects‬ you #BreakfastInBed Ep.7

Posted on April 3, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“Mom!” Rosaria yelled in shock. “Why did you kill Cynthia?”

“You didn’t think I would waste a perfect opportunity for insurance, would you? the twin’s mother Gloria smirked. “Tomorrow, I announce my candidacy for governor of California. The press and my opponents alike will till every crop in the field that is my past, searching for dark secrets to reveal for headlines. Killing Cynthia & her thugged out adulterer will ensure both the silence and allegiance of the two most important frenemies I have, my twin daughters, you.”

Breakfast in Bed: Episode 7.
By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Anthony secured the premises, loaded his Beretta, handcuffed Austin, ducked tapped his mouth shut and threw him in the trunk of his Audi. With the help of his jail broken, encrypted laptop, Anthony was able to find India’s father’s estate, by typing her name & date of birth in the federal database.

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“What possessed you to think you needed to kill our boss to ensure our allegiance?” Rosaria asked her mother.

“Oh please,” Gloria replied, “let’s not play coy. Bitterness is motive enough for you to cross me in the press.”

“Bitterness?” Rosaria asked with a confused look.

“Can I talk to you outside for a moment?” India asked her mother.

“Why the secrecy?” Rosaria snapped at her twin, folding her arms.

“There’s no secrecy Ria,” India assured her sister, before staring at her mother, “I just have something I need to confide in my mother about.”

~

Once they arrived to the Taylor Manor, Anthony parked two blocks away from the entrance gate, pulled Austin out of his trunk and demanded he take his high heels off. Once Austin obliged, Anthony tossed the heels in his trunk, shut it and drug Austin 200 feet to a sewer drain.

“Does this drain lead to your father’s estate?” Anthony asked.

“How am I supposed to know?” Austin mumbled with the duct tape obstructing his speech.

“Booom!” was the sound Anthony’s gun made as he pistol whipped Austin in his mouth.

“You’re already dead,” Anthony told Austin. “Your sister wrote your death certificate and signed it to me. Trust me when I say, I am going to kill you. The only question is, will it be painless and quick, or slow and torturous. The answer lies between your lies. Now, does this drain lead inside your father’s estate?

Austin nodded with a shiver once he mentally digested Anthony’s ultimatum. Anthony pulled out his pliers to lift up the drain, slid it from over the whole and tossed Austin inside.

“Ahhhhhhh!” Austin mumbled. The mumble lasted 1.5 seconds, which, judging by Austin’s height, let Anthony know it was a 15 foot jump. He slid the drain top close to the hole, slid inside, slowly drug the drain top as far over the hole as he could, then jumped down the whole, bracing his fall for the impact.

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After her mother followed her outside the apartment, India shut her front door and let her mother down the steps.

“She doesn’t know,” India confessed to her mother.

“Bull-shit,” Gloria told her daughter, staring in India’s eyes with a stern look.

“Trust me,” India continued, “she doesn’t know. Because, if she did, she wouldn’t have greeted you with a hug, she would have greeted you with five fingers to the face. Momma, I’m not you. I never had whatever it is you possessed that allows you to destroy people with your words. You treat the closest people to you like they’re some hostile witness you’ve been summoned to interrogate. Well, that’s not me. As much as I love Rosaria, I could never muster up the courage to tell my twin sister her own mother knew she was being molested by her big brother and did nothing to stop it.”

“You watch how you speak to the future governor of California,” Gloria warned her daughter, “I can destroy your sassy-mouthed ass with the snap of my fingers. Now, if you really haven’t told your sister yet, you’re just as weak as I thought you were. Because now, you will never get the opportunity.

Gloria reached into her tote, pulled out a white, ether-soaked handkerchief and held over to India’s nose and face, until her daughter passed out in her mother’s arms.

~

Anthony landed just inches away from Austin, who was laid out in a puddle of sewer water, nursing his knee.

“I bet you’re glad I made you take off those six-inch heels,” Anthony joked.

Austin mumbled a retort, but Anthony couldn’t make out what he was saying. Still, he took out his gun and pistol whipped Austin for good measure. Just in case his mumble was a verbal sign of insubordination. Anthony put away his gun and pulled out his compass. After estimating the coordinates, he pulled Austin out of the puddle, kicked him in his butt and motioned him to walk through the tunnel leading northwest.

~

Gloria carried India’s body into the backseat of her unmarked car and shut the door. India’s body lay limp and motionless on the black, leather seats. Gloria hopped into the driver’s seat, started her car and drove off. She unlocked her phone and sent three pre-typed text messages she had written earlier, all to three different recipients.

Three minutes later, after her mother drove off with her twin sister unconscious in her backseat, Rosaria heard her phone rang. It was her friend Tatiana. Despite the ill-timed phone call during a tragic family crisis, she decided to take the call.

“Hey love,” Rosaria answered. “How are you.

“Girrrrrrrrrrl, I’m realky going through it right now,” Tatiana answered. “It’s my fiancée. He verbally shitted on me yet again.”

“What was it this time hun,” Rosaria replied with an eye roll.

“Same reason,” Tatiana sighed, “well this time, it was because I questioned his late nights with his boys. Like, go ahead and have fun, but don’t think you can just come strolling into my house at 5am in the morning, drunk as fuck, looking like who shot John and what for.”

“Tati, if he’s been so inconsiderate of your feelings now, just imagine what life will be like once you’re married to him,” Rosaria pointed out. “If he can’t respect your wants and listen to you speak your mind, you need to consider leaving his sorry behind.”

“It’s easier said than done,” Tatiana defended, “when you love a man, it’s hard to just leave him and start over every time he disappoints you. Besides, this is my sixth relationship & first time being proposed to. I refuse to go backwards. When you’re in love, it makes you…”

“Girl, you need to grow up,” Rosaria said, cutting her off.

“You’re not in love. You just feel too emotionally invested to leave. Stop being loyal to what neglects you.

A prison isn’t just being locked behind bars. It is to cage one’s mind & chain your conscious to the idea you are stuck. Free yourself of your mental prison. There is no cage. Try is an illusion. Simply let go of fear & trap it. Stop letting fear trap you.

A man will dangle marriage over your head like a carrot to a horse, if he knows it will keep you a prisoner to his inconsistency. Free yourself.”

Rosaria heard a knock at her door. Three seconds later the door was broken down, and a swat team stormed into her apartment with guns drawn.

“Freeze!” one of the men warned Rosaria, who was standing in the hallway, on her iphone.

“Ahhhh!” Rosaria screamed, dropping her phone in surprise.

“Where is he?!” the police officer yelled to her, pointing his gun behind her.

“Where is who?” Rosaria whimpered, her knees shaking in fear.

“Where is the man who tried to kill you,” the officer replied, “the man with the wig and high heels who shot your boss, her lover and killed your twin sister. Ma’am, where is your brother Austin?”

To be continued next Thursday…
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Children hit the block to teach African language. The hood’s response was epic…

Posted on April 2, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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In my culture we raise boys from birth to be a “baba” meaning, “father, leader & provider” in isiZulu.

The baba showers their daughter with confidence, reassurance, esteem, love & knowledge of self so she never NEEDS it from a man, yet REQUIRES any man who wants her time to provider her with all of this deserved respect, because her baba set the standard of how any man is to treat her.

In a time where a nation is in an uproar over police murdering unarmed Black men, just days after two Vineland cops beat & killed a handcuffed a Black man in the street, it is comforting to see one of the most feared things in the world, Black unity.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Fillmore, one of the more dangerous & crime-riddled neighborhoods in America, received national attention after an execution-style quadruple homicide claimed the lives of four, young Black men sitting in a parked car on January 9th, 2015.

Two months later, the murder is still unsolved, but the magnanimous response by the family of two of the victims was nothing less than miraculous.

Parading through the streets of San Francisco in a cable car, the isiZulu speaking children of the Hebrew Cultural Community sung, “Black lives matter, all lives matter” and taught young Black men standing on the corners of Fillmore that they have a rich history, beautiful language & they are the descendants of royalty, yelling “Sikelele!” which means “bless” in Xhosa.

“We’re Hebrews,” one of the 7-year old boys proclaimed to a sagging Black man who recorded the parade on his iphone, “they call us niggas, but they know we’re really Hebrews. They just don’t want you to know who you are and how powerful, and royal you are inside.”

“You’re a young king lil’ bruh, I see you,” the sagging Black man replied, slapping the 7-year-old boy a high-five.

You are too royal to be loyal to hood soil.
You’re a king. When they see you mug mean and gangster lean with confidence, they emulate it.
When they see your women dance, shake and move their thick curves, effortlessly vibrating their full lips to enunciate their words, they inject it.
You are so often imitated, yet rarely duplicated. Most hated, yet frequently imitated.
Your life indeed matters, because your life was the first form of matter to exist on earth.
Since birth, you have been told you are their nigger, black object, dead mind. Lies.
You are divine. One of a kind.
The same police who murder you, go home to a house filled with African art.
The snake bites the lion, not because it hates it. It is jealous of the lion’s reign. The fact it was chosen by the snake’s own god to rule over it.
Hold your head high. Love your self. Raise your children. Uplift your women. Reclaim your mental throne. Be ambitious. Awaken your pineal gland. Active your chakaras. State your intent to the universe. You are too royal to be loyal to hood soil.
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San Francisco is the number one tourist locale in the world. Tourists are used to seeing the cable car, but few travel into the hood to soak up Black culture. This is why using a cable car as a parade float was so epic. It allowed people of all cultures to see the spirit of San Francisco infused with the soul of the motherland.

“The Chinese New Year parade was outstanding,” a Jewish man said, waving to the Cable Car, “it’s beautiful to see these children embracing their culture and bringing in the Hebrew New Year with such pride.”

The New Year is January 1st on the modern calendar, but earth’s new year begins during the vernal equinox in Spring. Each planet has a moon that aligns its gravitational pull. Our moon has a 28-day cycle, just like every woman has a 28-menstrual cycle. There are 13 moon cycles in a year, the first appearing during the vernal equinox, which marks the new year.

The term “April Fool” was coined after Pope Gregory XIII in February 1582 published his new, 12 month calender with rearranged months, that featured a New Year in winter, January, as well as October as the 10th month, despite the fact “Octo” means “eight”.

The Gregorian calendar is a refinement of Julius Caesar’s 12-month calendar, drafted in 46 BC. Before these balanced calendars, with an average year of 365.2425 days, time was measured evenly by the moon, which is named ‘Yearh’.

It’s amazing to know, despite having knowledge of earth and knowledge of self stolen from their ancestors through slavery, there are still people of African decent who acknowledge the original new year, as well as acknowledging their true culture, language, regal ancestry and identity as the original Hebrews, by praising the ancient name of God, which is “YHWH Eloheem of a Mother Soul Cell fundamental Principle only.

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She’s not crazy. She’s been put through hell. Her hesitation is her protecting you from her demons. #BreakfastInBed Ep.6

Posted on March 27, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“Well, what are you waiting for?” Rosaria asked her twin India. “Let momma in.”

India stood with her back to the front door, in complete shock. The woman who knew her older brother was molesting her twin sister since age 11, the woman who knew, but didn’t tell anyone, she was standing on the other side of her door.

The guilt of keeping that secret for her twin sister nearly destroyed India every time she looked at Rosaria. But, she knew telling that secret would destroy her sister. Despite the pain of holding it in, she decided to keep the secret from Rosaria and let her mother in.

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“Nobody knows our mother told me to rape Rosaria, not even my twin sisters,” Austin told Anthony.

“But where are the sex tapes your mother shot of you doing it on the nanny cam?” Anthony asked, choking Austin.

“Locked away in a safe on the family manor, I’m sure,” Austin confessed.

“Well then, you’re going to take me to them,” Anthony demanded.

Breakfast in Bed: Episode 6
By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

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“Mom!” Rosaria greeted, hugging her mother as she walked into her apartment.
India turned her nose up at the sight of her twin hugging their mother.

“We don’t have time for affection,” the twins’ mother admitted.

“You never had time for affection,” India snapped. “Heaven forbid you show one of your daughters the affectionate approval they deserve, or let the words ‘I love you’ slip paste your lips, the whole world might end.”

“I’m not here for hugs and kisses,” the twins’ mother replied, staring at India, “I’m here to save your world from ending. There’s been a murder…and once the police find the body, the two of you will be linked to it.”

Rosaria & India stare deep into each others eyes.

~

“I can’t just waltz you onto my family’s manor,” Austin warned Anthony. “My family has a lot of secrets to hide, & they have insidious ways of protecting them. You wouldn’t make it to the front lawn.”

“You must not know who I am & what I represent,” Anthony assured Austin. “The rights you take for granted daily, are rights soldiers a thousand times the man you are fight to protect. We face danger you couldn’t possibly fathom, the type of danger that would make your skin crawl just hearing about. I’ve watched men die, and had to pick up their dead, cold corpse, load it on my back, and crawl miles in a swamp with no food, water, lodging or refuge.

I’ve snatched the lives of serial killing terrorists out of thin air, with my bare hands. Wrapping my grip around their pulse, until their last breath escaped their sinister bodies. So, when you tell me I wouldn’t make it on your twisted family’s property, realize you’re not just insulting me, you’re insulting the tutelage of the greatest armored forces in the world, the US Navy.”

~

“What could possibly give you the impression we will be linked to a murder?” India asked her mother Gloria.

“Well, naturally because the body will be found at your apartment,” Gloria smirked.

India & Rosaria looked at each other with confused facial expressions.
Gloria walked up to Rosaria, until they were inches from each other.

“Your boss gives your sister herpes,” Gloria continued, “she fires the both of you in anger, & you kill your boss and the man who gave her herpes in retaliation.”

“I didn’t kill anyone,” Rosaria defended.

“I know you didn’t baby,” Gloria laughed, “but cops tend not to believe you when you have a dead body in your bathroom.”

“What is she talking about?” India asked, puzzled.

Rosaria ran to her bathroom and opened the door.

“Oh my God!” Rosaria screamed.

India ran to her sister, who had just discovered the body of her weed man laying on the bathroom floor, face down.

“Ria! What happened?!” India screamed in shock.

“I don’t know,” Rosaria cried.

“Tell me you did not kill your weed man!” India responded.”

“I didn’t!” Rosaria defended. “I hit him up to buy a couple of bags and a couple of minutes before you came, he showed up, I bought the weed from him, then he asked to use the bathroom. And now…”

“Ok, ok, ok,” India replied, cutting her off, “so if you saw him alive, that means someone else killed him.

India looked down the hall to her mother who was still standing in their living room.

~

“So tell me, mister Navy Seal,” Austin responded, “why would such an important man like yourself take such risks, offering to kill for a woman you barely know?”

“Granted we’ve known each other for some time,” Anthony replied, “it doesn’t take a whole day to recognize sun shine. I’ve had more women in my bed than some men have in their phones. I’ve had model chicks, fit thicks, CEOs and college grads, all wanting me, fighting for my time, begging me for the commitment I withheld from them. From all that I learned, time is an illusion.

As men, we play game of depriving a woman of our time, withhold commitment, acting like it’s ‘too early’ for her to expect exclusivity from us. Well, it’s not. If a man cares strongly for a woman, why should he fight that feeling, or hold back on a relationship, because he doesn’t think he’s ready?

The truth is, we will never feel ready enough for a successful, genuine, sweet woman unlike any woman we’ve ever had, until we lose her. Then, we will fight our whole life to get her back, but women of integrity don’t repeat mistakes. I refuse to make that mistake with your sister India. Many guys, half the man I am, have passed her up, maybe, because her family is a little crazy, maybe because of the smart mouthed attitude she feels the need to hide. Well, her flaws will never be a deal breaker to me. I learned,

a genuine woman with trust issues is not crazy or over emotional. She has just been through so much b.s.

You don’t know growing up her mother treated her like shit & put men over her own daughter. Moms never acknowledging things she did, never showing her love & care, always putting her down & calling her names. You don’t know family & friends who she trusted, stabbed her in the back, let money come between them & proved to be disloyal.

You don’t know how hard it is for her to met a guy, fall in love, finally trust him, only to get her heart shattered to pieces. Then, have to pick up all those pieces only to met a guy again & go through the same b.s. over & over like a never-ending nightmare.

Which is why I don’t mind putting in hard work, time & patience to EARN a sweet woman’s trust by proving myself trustworthy with my actions over time.

As a good man, we will watch her give the assholes a million chances at her heart & she’ll be so slow to show us real men affection, but in her mind, she just doesn’t want to hurt us.

She’s protecting us from her demons. Show her you’re willing to dedicate your life to standing by her side, taking away her demons. Show her it’s not her against the world, it’s you & her against the world. Be her peace and she will become that. This is why I am willing to kill for your sister. She is my peace, and that is why she asked me to wipe this horrid peace of her past out of her life. She knows my love for her is that deep.”

~

“I think she knows,” India reveled.

“What, about your Black Thor killing Austin? no way,” Rosaria assured her sister.

“Well then,” India asked, “why would mom kill Cynthia, our boss, and her lover, who just happens to be your weed man, unless she’s trying to frame us in retaliation for killing Austin?”

“How do we even know mom killed them in the first place?” Rosaria asked.

“Be for real!” India commanded her sister. “If it wasn’t you and it wasn’t me, then who the hell else could have done it?”

“But even if she knew you ordered the hit for Austin,” Rosaria replied, “why would she want to frame us for a murder we didn’t commit?”

“Let’s ask her,” India responded, grabbing her twin’s handed & storming back into their living room.

“Rosaria didn’t kill Cynthia,” India told her mother, “and you know that. So, what I want to know is, why would the police think she did it. And, how the hell do you even know Cynthia is dead in the first place?”

“Because,” India’s mother replied, leaning in to India to whisper in her daughter’s ears, “I just killed Cynthia.

To be continued….
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Why the ‘Natural Hair Women have low Self-Esteem’ theory is complete B.S.

Posted on March 27, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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A woman’s beautiful natural hair is a repellant for the judgmental, weak-minded little boys & it’s a magnet to attract mentally conscious MEN.

Wearing her natural hair does NOT mean she has an attitude.
Wearing a weave does NOT mean she’s insecure.
A queen styles her hair to enhance her beauty & compliment her confidence., not to cover up insecurity.

A woman is not an objected to be defined, controlled or put in check by a man. She is a powerful spirit, a universe unto herself.

An overly-macho, mentally fragile male can NOT handle a free thinking, conscious woman with her own mind. She does not even arouse him sexually. He needs a submissive woman.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Black Men are NOT ATTRACTED to Nappy Haired Black Women”

Here’s 5 reasons why the ‘Natural Hair Women have low Self-Esteem’ theory is complete B.S.

#1 Women with Natural Hair Have Low Self-Esteem – B.S.

Women with natural hair do not have low self-esteem. Staying true to your natural self & dreams in a world constantly telling you ‘you’re not good enough’ is what truly makes natural-haired women so damn unbreakable.

#2 Natural Hair is many times matted and coarse, and is not considered appropriate for a business environment – B.S.

The corporate world does not fully embrace or endorse women who wear their natural hair, because you are seen as a threat. Too militant. Rebellious. Non-submissive. Possessing the fervor & confidence to take their bosses’ job.

#3 Men prefer relaxed hair & are not attracted to natural haired women. – B.S.

Some males who are hesitant to approach women with natural hair are intimidated by the confidence you’re displaying by wearing your natural hair & he cowers at the possibility of you rejecting him.

No matter the style, she is wearing her everyday confidence on her head, allowing her to repel males with inactivated pineal glands, who are nowhere near her level of consciousness anyway, while only attracting confident, self loving men.

#4 Women look prettier with weave. That’s why natural hair women never get approached. – B.S.

As a 10-year youth mentor for young men, & a public speaker, men often admit they view natural hair as an indicator a woman’s everyday confidence is bolder than ever that day.

They say they are more apt to approach you on your days wearing relaxed hair, or a weave, because he feels he has less of a chance with you when you’re even extra confident to wear your hair however you best feel comfortable at that time. Unbeknownst to these males, a woman is confident and non-submissive no matter how her hair is styled.

#5 Wearing natural hair makes women feel inadequate, compared to women with straightened hair. – B.S.

Every woman has a different mindset. Her hair style does not define her. Her gender, style of dress and body shape does not define her. Don’t decline her worth in your mind. She’s one of a kind.

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically her natural self; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. It is not up to us as men to define a woman, her hair, skin, nor her behavior.

She’s not some damsel in distress who needs to be saved. This knight-in-shining-armor-ism many males posses stems from being raised by a weak-minded woman, without the presence of a father figure. To treat a woman as something who needs to be defined or rescued, that is hate and male privilege.

Low self-esteem stems from the culture one is raised in
Growing up, the images media shows us of MEN are: confident, strong, on to the next girl.
The images media shows us of WOMEN are: weak, needy, insecure, chasing men.
Low self-esteem stems from the culture one is raised in. We must start uplifting our women.

Faux articles are written in magazines everyday, telling women how ugly they are, how fat they are, how insecure they are, how they just aren’t ENOUGH. If women started loving them self, all these product companies would go out of business. Male privilege is a financially lucrative.

She is not some queen in need of a king to define her, she is royal by herself.
Her natural hair is everything. Her natural body is everything, stretch marks & all. She is not flawed, she is a universe unto herself.

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Why men BREAK & hurt giving WOMEN, yet chase & repair HOES

Posted on March 20, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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No matter how beautiful, giving, curvaceous, affectionate, supportive, self-sufficient & educated a woman is, an insecure guy will break her. Oh, he will act interested in the beginning & build her up, then he’ll snatch the world from under her feet.

This doesn’t just happen. Insecure guys break giving women on purpose.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Growing up, I’d overhear the OGs in our crime-riddled hood teach us, “the best way to get a woman to like only you is to treat a giving woman like trash and treat a hoe like a queen.”

They theorized, breaking a giving woman robs her of her confidence, decreasing her down to a level you can control her emotionally, making her disloyal to her only life saver, her intuition.

In contrast, they felt encouraging a hoe (what they considered a fast, standard-lacking woman who’d do anything to obtain what she desired) increases her to such a degree, she will clingily acquiesce herself to his ego, filling any holes of insecurity he possessed.

I never used this theory, because it is the most idiotic thing I ever heard growing up, and yet, it works every time for one key reason.

A man who breaks a giver to chase a hoe, does so, because he is both broken & a hoe himself. To exchange a giver’s genuine nature for your brokenness is emotional whoredom.

Men hurt women who give their all, because he’s trying to save her from himself.

Imagine trying to save someone who loves you from a fire, but they won’t escape. You say go, they stay. You say leave, they remain. The flames are growing so rapidly. You’d push them, pull them & say any hurtful thing to get them to leave, wouldn’t you?

Well, this is why men hurt women who give them their all. He wants to save you from the fire of guilt & flames of insecurity he feels burning inside himself.

Insecurity is self-doubt, unsure of one’s self, lack of confidence
An insecure man in bed with both you & his self-doubt is an emotional-hoe.

Stop dating out of your league. If they’re not on your mental level, they will cheat to break you down to theirs.

A confident man is loyal. He knows karma humbles a player. Insecure men cheat b/c their mind lacks cognitive masculinity to innerstand karma.

I learned a woman who gives you her all, before you give her commitment, rocks with you without a title, before you cut off communicating with all your EXs & side chicks, gives only you her loyalty, before you prove with consistent & faithful actions you deserve it, a woman who gives you her all & expects nothing in return does not love you enough nor respect you enough as a man to inspire you to give your all. She’s an enabler.

If you give me your support, expect me to do something ambitious with it.
If you give me your time, expect me to value it by giving you effort.
IF you give me your loyalty, expect me to give only you my commitment.
Otherwise, if you give a man your intimate all & he is in no way required to give you his, you are his emotional-hoe.

It takes a strong, humble woman to admit she made a mistake being more loyal to a man and his red flags than she was to her own intuition.

A stunningly gorgeous single mother from Texas shared her story with me after reading my book, Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women.

“I just want to thank you so much for sharing all of your wise words, views and perspectives. You are my hero Ebrahim! You opened my eyes and saved my life!!! I was so lost, broken and confused. I was in a 4 year relationship with a male not a man who yes was cheating on me over and over.

Endless mind games, beyond comprehension. I am a 33-year-old Civil Engineer, independent single mom, have my own nice house, car, etc, and if I do say so myself I am the true definition of a good loyal woman as you describe. I put my all, my everything into this relationship. I had never put up with such disrespect from a man. One evening I stumbled upon your writing and read for hours. After the umpteenth time of discovering his infidelity with the same woman at work.

I literally quoted your words verbatim to him about “Why would I give my time to a man who refuses to give me his consistency…” and I left him alone. Just walked away. I didn’t freak out, pass go/collect $200, nothing, just left with my head high. I realized the reality of things. For once I wasn’t there trying to show him how much I loved him through forgiveness or how much better a woman I was or all that malarkey he had me doing for so long.

He was left alone all by himself with the girl he kept running to cheat with the whole time. It was then he realized how miserable he was. He realized how he and that girl had nothing in common. That she or no one else could ever come close to filling this amazingly huge space I had created in his heart and life. That he really had never hung out with her and knew nothing about her, and when he finally spent time with her, he really liked nothing about her.

He missed everything we had, everything I had been giving him for so long that he had been taking for granted. He missed everything he thought was so annoying about me. My goofy laugh, my country-southern pronunciation of words, my weird eating habits, my corny jokes, even my unique cooking (im half German/half Mexican) etc. He came back, like they always do, asking me if I had put a spell on him, because he’d never felt this way before.

He even asked me to marry him. I told him no, I was just a good loyal woman and although I may love him to death, I chose my self-respect over his inconsistency. I know my worth and know when to walk away from someone when they go some much out of their way to show me how much they don’t love me.

After that. it’s like your words became tattooed in his mind and heart and he has not stop going out of his way to show me how much he loves me. Its amazing. Incredible. Thanks again Ebrahim. We’ve never even met and you’ve touched my soul.”

My response to this woman, and any woman who gets broken by a man is this:

He didn’t break you. You held on too long. Be more loyal to your intuition than an inconsistent man.

You’ll find your husband once you stop looking and start being married to your ambitions. Mentally mature men aren’t looking for women disloyal to their dreams. They aren’t looking for a hoe, or a bae who will accept commitment-less situationships.

Wife sounds better than ‘bae’ to me. I refuse to downplay my marriage goals, because society deems it soft for a man to want monogamy with one woman instead of multiple bad bitches. If you find a giver, don’t use her, giver to her. Never walk away from a woman who stood by waiting for you. Never gave up on you. Don’t contribute to her anxiety. Be her calm. Fight for her.

I want a giver. Someone I can give my all to. Even when you’re irritated with the world. Even when you feel misunderstood. I will give you your space, but never leave you alone. Sit you on my lap & let you pour your venting words all over my ears. I will help you fight your demons. I will never judge your fears. I don’t have to save the day. I don’t need to fix you. I respect the enigma you are. Pour your words on me. I won’t interrupt their flow.

I want to pour my giving into you. Even when you get on my last nerves, I will never break you with my words. I want your corny jokes, your weird Bates Motel references & Pretty Little Liars quotes, which are weird to me, because I don’t watch those shows. I want to be your calm. The reason you smile, stupidly out of nowhere in front of your friends, because you just day-dreamed something I told you the other night.

I want to give you my fantasizes of cuddling you and the baby you give me, in my strong arms. Inhaling your scent. Blowing in our baby’s cute little neck, that has yet to unravel. I want to take away that tense feeling you feel in your stomach, right now, because you’re unsure if after all you’ve given, if one drop will be given back to you. It will. I will shower you with appreciation & acknowledgment, until you drown in my affectionate manliness.

I just want a loyal, affectionate, old soul, who supports my ambitions, calls my fears & who’s picture isn’t in everybody’d damn phone.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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