Why men NEVER cut off EX-Girlfriends

Posted on February 5, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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After I live tweeted her impromptu engagement party, she inboxed me this shocking message with a scandalous, lustful ending.

“Andrea,” he said, looking me in my eyes, “your fiancée, Keyshia and I are threesome partners. Well… we were. Look, he loves you ok, I know he loves you if I know NOTHING else, but he loves us too……”

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“E, thank you for using your platform to help me. I have no real girlfriends I can trust. My last ‘bestie’ slept with my previous EX. I always love the insight the queens who follow you give. Please ask them the following questions & keep me & his name anonymous.

If you’re reading this, know I desperately need your advice on my love life.

I met the love of my life two years ago at CAL Berkeley. As a photojournalism major, I always have my camera in hand, ready to snap unforgettable memories in time. So, when I saw this fine, tall, athletic, chocolate hunk of a man running suicide drills during my cardio walk to the coffee shop lol, I had to shoot him. Click. Click.

He said, “say, baby… can I be your slave? I’ve got to admit girl you’re the shit girl… and I’m digging you like a grave.”

I immediately clinched my thighs to prevent from squirting. This man had not only quoted poetry from my favorite movie, he had debunked the assumption in my mind that all athletes were unintelligent.

“What you know about Love Jones?” I asked him, trying my hardest to fight off a smile.

“I know I got one, for your body and your skin tone. My name is Patrick. What’s your name?” he said walking up to me & reaching out his hand, with a smile brighter than headlights in heavy fog.

At that moment, I knew he could get it. My hand in marriage, as well as my panties. Guys don’t know, that slight smile shit they do, showing just the right amount of pearly whites, with the raised eyebrow joint poppin, lawd hah mercy! Makes a woman have inappropriate thoughts. I wanted to rub my hands up against his chiseled chest right then and there!

“My name is Andrea. Are you somebody important?” I asked, losing my battle to fight off my smile. “Someone I should know about?”

“Not yet,” he said, “but I will be. I can tell you’re the type of girl who loves to ask a bunch of questions. Let me take you to grab some coffee and you and that camera can ask me anything you want.”

Not only did I let him take me for coffee, I let him in my life, and in my heart forever.

He was a gentleman. Held open doors. Studied with me every night. Text me throughout the day. Took me on dates. Bought me flowers. Held my hand. Said, ‘I love you’ in front of his homies. He even meet my father who hated all my boyfriends, and my father just loved him.

This man didn’t have side pieces and always put his little fans on Instagram in check when they got emoji happy. Y’all know how thirsty females do. They see a good loyal man and try to test his loyalty. Patrick never had me looking stupid on social networks throughout our whole two-year relationship.

So, right after the Super Bowl this Sunday, when his EX girlfriend Keisha tweeted,

“kinda don’t know how to feel right now, my bd just proposed to a Boo Boo Kitty wannabe while I’m expecting wit our 2nd bundle of joy”

it hurt, because I never even knew she was his EX, let alone that they had any children together.

I met Keisha before I met Patrick, but it wasn’t like me and her were friends. Her and I just happened to have the same hairstylist on campus. We’d both hosted the same club events a couple of times, but we never hung out together. We didn’t even have each other’s phone number. We just followed each other on twitter.

I never saw any pictures of her & Patrick online, nor did they ever tweet each other. I checked Patrick’s mentions periodically. It’s not something I am proud of, but when you find a rare good man, it can make you a little insecure if you’ve never been blessed to have one.

I now know why Keisha tweeted that after Patrick proposed to me, but at the time I was too hurt to think with the right side of my brain. I pulled her to the side and gave her a piece of my mind.

“Excuse me, but what the fuck is this about?” I asked Keisha, holding up my phone so she could see I saw her sub-tweet.

“Something I said?” Keisha said smugly, sipping her IPA.

“You know what you said Keisha,” I tried to reason, calming myself down.

“What’s wrong?” one of the other girl’s at the party asked us.

“I’m expecting and Patrick is my baby’s father,” Keisha answered, loud enough for everyone in the room to hear. “Other than that, everything is just peachy.”

I took my earrings off. Patrick came over and put his hands around my waist. Keisha poured a little of her beer in my direction, making a ‘oops’ face to pretend it was an accident.

“Now we’re pouring drinks bitch?’ I asked, fighting Patrick off. Keisha winked at me, which damn near made me lose it.

“Babe, be cool, she’s a straight up liar,” Patrick told me, calming me down.

“Oh, you ain’t my baby’s daddy?” Keisha asked Patrick. “You ain’t tell her?”

“Patrick?” I asked, staring in his eyes. He exhaled deeply, then after ten seconds of silence, he answered.

“Keisha and I have a daughter together,” Patrick admitted, with his head down.

“When the hell were you planning to tell me you had a daughter Patrick,” I asked, freeing myself from his grasp, “after she walked down the aisle as the flower girl at our wedding?”

I stormed out of Ebrahim’s party room and into the women’s restroom. A minute later, Patrick followed me in.

“I got my eyes clothed, just incase there are any other women in here,” Patrick yelled.

“Nah, it’s ok,” I told him, “even tho this is a women’s only restroom, you can come in, since you wanna act like a little bitch. How the fuck are you going to have me out here looking like your fool in front of all these people and not let me know you were fucking this Iggy wannabe?”

“Babe, It’s not even like that!” Patrick assured me in a stern voice. “Look, after she found out she was pregnant, Keisha texted me and told me I was the father. An hour later she texted me that she had gotten an abortion. We didn’t even get to discuss it, because at the time, I was in Oregon with the team, playing the Ducks.”

“Then how the hell are you the father of her children?” I asked.

“She lied about the abortion,” he yelled. “I only found out after she posted pics of her & the newborn baby in the hospital, and tagged me in them on Instagram. I had to rush to remove the tag, before texting her asking what the fuck was going on. She told me, she wanted to keep the baby, and that she didn’t want me in my daughter’s life. She said she wanted to raise it on her own and that she only had a baby by me, because she wanted a pretty mixed baby with my green eyes and curly hair.”

“The fuck? You should’ve let me slap that high yella heffa while I had the chance,” I complained.

“I know babe, you can still do it, I’m sure she’s still out there,” he joked.

“Don’t tempt me,” I complained. “ I need you to be completely honest with me. Is that baby inside her yours or nah babe?”

“Ain’t no way,” he said, “I haven’t slept with her since before you and I even met. Ever since I made it to the league, she’s been trying to DM me and text me, asking to hook-up, but I just ignored her.

“Hold up, why are you even still following her on Instagram?” I asked. “I feel like I don’t even know you right now. You should have been told me you had a daughter. God. I can’t even go back out there, I’m so embarrassed right now. Can you just give me a minute alone?”

After arguing with me, Patrick left me alone in the restroom to think. I spent several minutes sitting on the toilet seat, fully clothed crying. I felt stupid.

I went on Keisha’s twitter and scroll down her tweets for the past eight months for answers. I didn’t find anything about Patrick, just pictured of her & her current boyfriend. I went on Instagram & tried searching her twitter handle, then her name. Nothing. That’s when I noticed Ebrahim poster about what had just happened on his Instagram page.

There were 100s of comments from women offering advice. It made me feel better. Somehow, reading personal testimonies from all the women across the globe who’d gone through something similar made me felt like i wasn’t alone. I felt empowered. I started to comment thank yous, but I didn’t want to put myself on blast. I wiped my runny make-up off, took a deep breath & returned to the party, confident & empowered. I knew what I had to do.

When I walked in the Party room, everyone was standing by the bar and Ebrahim was speaking life into them.

“But, I have to speak the truth to you,” Ebrahim said. “As men, we will pat another man on the back for disloyal behavior that holds back his manhood and mental maturity. That’s not a homie, that’s an enabler.”

“You always say we come from African kings right?” a man with a neat-dreads said. “Well, didn’t they have a harem full of hoes?” Shit, Patrick is just one step ahead of us. Side piece is the new wifey, I’m just keeping it royal.”

“How the hell can having multiple women make you a king, if you’re sitting on a throne of dishonesty, wearing a crown of infidelity to mask your receding insecurity?” Ebrahim said. “Bro, you know these brothas only have side pieces, because they lack the ability to keep one woman satisfied, in the mind and in the bedroom, so they build a team of side pieces.

The reason some men never cut off Ex-girlfriends is, he’s using the attention & love his ex gives him to extinguish the heartbreaking complacency he feels for not being on his current girlfriend’s level. An insecure man’s pride is his loyal woman’s worst enemy.”

“Honestly, and I will keep it one hunnit right now,” neat-dreads said, “the real reason niggas keep their ex around and have side pieces is, because sometimes your girlfriend can get annoying. Y’all know I’m right. The nagging and repeating shit over and over, like damn calm that shit down. Y’all talk ya man into some new pussy.”

“If it is annoying to you when the loyal woman who loves you, sees the best in you and prays for you, respectfully speaks her mind with words to make you better, you simply don’t deserve her,” Ebrahim said. His words were empowering me.

“If she mentions it more than once, it’s bothering her. Don’t make her always have to seem crazy for noticing our inconsistencies. Listen. When she says, “it doesn’t matter” it always does. She’s just wants to see if you care enough to realize what matters to her. Listen more. How is it hard to listen? If she says it more than once, it means you didn’t love her enough to listen the first time.

Cheating and lying is for boys of insecurity, marriage and fatherhood is for men of valor. Patrick, you have to decide which one you are before you ask Andrea for a lifetime of loyalty.”

“Thank you Ebrahim,” Keisha said. “I ain’t hating on your marriage or nothing Andrea, I’m just trying to protect my babies’ future.”

“I don’t believe you,” I told Keisha. “You wish you were me. You wish you had this fat rock on your finger. You wish you were marrying a NFL player. You wish you were wife material, but you’re not. You’re just side hoe material, and the fucked up thing is, that’s good enough for you, isn’t it? You l’re the crazy EX Patrick always talks about. The one who left him after he got injured against USC.

Well, I AM the woman who motivated him through rehab. I AM the woman who studied his ass out of academic probation. I AM the woman who held him down after his father died. I AM the woman who earned this ring, and I will not let your jealousy, lies and misery destroy my engagement. There’s no way Patrick could be your unborn’s father. You and your man have been a couple for months. How do you know it’s not his?”

Keisha smiled really hard, like she’d just heard a dirty joke.

“It’s both of there’s Andre,” Keisha said.

My heart sank. I tried to replay what she’d just said in my mind, but the sound of everyone voicing how shocked they were was too loud for me to think through.

“You’re full of shit!” Patrick yelled, trying to fight off the other men who were holding him back from getting in Keisha’s face.

“No, you’re full of shit!” Keisha’s boyfriend yelled, breaking his silence.

He looked like a building. Tall, brown, bald and muscular. When he spoke, he spoke with authority.

“You are a coward!” Keisha’s boyfriend yelled. “What are you afraid of bruh? It’s 2015. Embrace who you are. There’s nothing for us to be ashamed of anymore.”

My head was throbbing. I had no idea what was going on, but somehow, my heart knew what was about to be said, because it was beating hard and fast non-stop.

“Andrea,” Keisha’s boyfriend said, looking me in my eyes, “your fiancée, Keyshia and I are threesome partners. Well… we were. Look, he loves you ok, I know he loves you if I know NOTHING else, but he loves us too.

I never meet you, but I know a lot about you, because all Patrick does is talk about you. He screams your name during our threesomes. Now, usually we wear condoms, but that shit just got old real quick you know what I mean? So, I’m figuring based off what Keisha is saying, Patrick and I both got Keyshia pregnant together before Thanksgiving break, while you and him were on your relationship break.”

“Wait, how the hell can two men get one woman pregnant?” one of the Italian men holding Patrick back asked. He sized Patrick up in disgust.

“Just use your imagination,” Keyisha’s boyfriend said. “Two men, one box.”

“Ewwwwwwww,” all the women in the room screamed.

“Ooooooooooooh!” all the men in the room yelled.

I held onto the nearest chair, gripped it, and fought so hard not to cry. I felt broken into a million little pieces. I felt like the whole world was staring at my brokeness.

“You know what? I’m done,” I said with a laugh, before walking away. I know I probably looked crazy for laughing at a time like that, but in stressful times I laugh to keep from going insane.

I got in my car and drove across the bridge to go home. Every 20 seconds, my phone rang with a notification from either Patrick calling, my girls texting or Instagram activity. I ignored them all until I got home. I cried the whole drive home, and a little in my driveway as I sat in my car, thinking about my life.

I came up with three questions I would love anyone reading to help answer for me:

(1) If the DNA test proves Patrick is not the father of Keisha’s unborn baby, should I go through with marrying him? Break-up with him? or just cancel the engagement until we grow closer? Because as much as I hate to admit it, I still love him. Ebrahim offered to give us counseling no matter which I decide.

(2) Do you consider a man ‘gay’ for having male-female-male threesomes?

(3) If you met the love of your life, the best person you ever dated, would the fact they have a child by a crazy, jealous EX be a deal breaker to you?

(4) What do you think is wrong with me? Like what did I do wrong to deserve being lied to and cheated on? I am intelligent, independent, ambitious, beautiful, fit, curvy with a genuine soul. I treated every man I ever committed to like a king, and I have been lied to, cheated on and even abused by my high school sweetheart. I just want a happy life and I planned to be married by graduation, which is this spring. I just feel so hopeless, so any insight and criticism is welcomed. Thank you and much love to you for taking out the time to hear my story. Hopefully it helps some woman out there.”

*Please include the number of the question in your comment, so she can know which one you’re answering.
I changed the names & edited her email to protect the privacy of all parties.*

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Sarah Baartman – The First Video Vixen

Posted on February 5, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Sarah Bartmaan was a South African
Teenage girl, from the Khoisan tribe

Abducted by Europeans who exploited her
displaying her large butt,

very big hips, voluptuous breasts
& large “outie” vagina as a “circus freak show”

to white men all over London in the early 1800s.
The “circus freak show” consisted of

An underage Sarah having her
Breasts, vagina, buttocks, mouth, lips &

Body parts alike touched, rubbed, pulled,
Molested, raped and physically and visually

“Examined” by men who hated women.

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Born in 1789, the curvaceous beauty was

“Discovered” by British ship doctor William Dunlop,
who persuaded her to travel with him on his ship to London.

As soon as Dunlop laid his
blue eyes on her brown skin,

The little blood he could spare to rush
To his “head” connected to his brain 😍😍😍

influencing him to formulate the plan
to exploit young Sarah for money;

displaying her curves in little-to-no clothing
As a “freak” in “circus shows”, to stimulate the intrigue

Of white men from his home country in Europe,
Who had never laid eyes on such

Curvaceous physical features on a woman.

In the early 19th century, some

Europeans of prestige, obsessed with
Asserting their power through national supremacy,

Eugenics to fuel their hatred of any
Non-white race & Stroke their superiority.

European eugenicists viewed Bartmaan
& her “unusually large buttocks & genitals”

As the “scientific evidence” to justify their
prejudice & Prove their bias against other races,

Particularly Blacks, that they were:
Inferior, oversexed & cro magnan in physique.

How ironic is it then,

these Caucasian eugenicists’ forefathers
crawled on all-fours out of the Caucus Mountains.

Unbeknownst to young Sarah,
Before the age of 17, she became a pawn

In the fast-growing
Sex-trafficking industry.

Human trafficking, like in the case of Bartmaan,
Exists not solely to sexually arouse a trick.

Sex trafficking is a spiritual warfare.
Dark souls live off the energy

& essence of children’s innocence.
They receive this POWER through raping them.

As they raped Sarah Bartmann.
This is what rape is. It’s not sexual.

It’s spiritual EXTRACTION.
They live off of the innocence of The child they exploit.

It is their fuel there only taste of “life”

as they are the soulless walking dead.

Given the name, ‘Hottentot Venus’

Sarah spent four years in London,
then was moved to Paris, where she

continued to be degraded & forced
To move her curvaceous Body in a fashion

Not unlike “twerking” today.
Sadly, these acts she was forced to perform,

Are common place today, on InstaVideos
Filmed & posted by women

Of the same Black race as Sarah.

When she was shipped to Paris,
Sarah attracted the attention of

French scientists, in particular Georges Cuvier,
Whose peers began to pimp Sarah as a prostitute.

They told her,

“if you’re going to have sex with men for free,
You might as well get paid off of it.”

She was prostituted until she died
in 1815, at the age of 25 from

“inflammatory and eruptive sickness”,
possibly syphilis.

Cuvier made a plaster cast of her body,
removed her brain & genitals,

pickled them & displayed them in bottles
at theMusee de l’Hommein Paris.

After 16 decades on display,more remains
Were finally removed from public view in 1974.

In 1994, then president Nelson Mandela
requested that her remains be brought home.

Sadly, Two centuries after Sarah was made
The first video vixen history,

forced to display her body for free,
Many young women continue this tradition,

Embracing the title of unPaid model
Or unPaid Video Vixen.

Watch the movie for free……


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Why THESE HOES Stay Winning & wifed, while CLASSY women stay SINGLE

Posted on January 29, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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There’s one winning advantage these self-proclaimed hoes have over Classy Women, the ability to…

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

“Girl, I saw you mug me while you asked that question, do I look like a ‘hoe’ to you? Well, I’m a married hoe, bills paid & hair laid,” a fair-skinned, extremely curvacious woman asked, twirling her wedding band. “Hoes win, because no guy wants a stuck up, boring little girl, with her face stuck in a book. By ‘hoe’ I don’t mean ‘whore, I’m talking the woman who dates ballers, goes on trips in her 20s, and has memories & money by her thirties you wish you had.”

“First of all, you look like a broke-ass Draya. And B, my question was directed to Ebrahim,” the naturalista responded, “but apparently, you feel the shoe fits. Or in your case, the clear heal fits, because the weave definitely isn’t fitting. Maybe it’s too tight on your scalp for your thoughts to circulate.”

“You hot-comb-fearing naturals want to be Erykah Badu so bad, “the married woman joked. “You need to be more like Draya. She’s winning with a tall baller, money and fame. The fact she has haters just means everybody knows her name.”

“Jesus take the wheel, the naturalista responded, “no this heaux did not just suggest we aspire to be like Draya. The THOT of all THOTs.”

“Be for real. What has being classy & keeping your clothes on ever got any woman in this life? That’s why you good girls are losing & these hoes stay winning,” the married woman defended.

“If Draya was really winning, those police wouldn’t have been in her tiny ass one bedroom, shack of an apartment trying to take her son away,” the naturalista clapped back.

The co-ed group applauded.

“How do these hoes stay coming up winning, when women with a job and degree stay tryna figure our lives out?” the naturalista complained.

“My intelligent fashion designer home girl Kimberly Yohman said it best,

There’s one winning advantage these self-proclaimed hoes have over Classy Women, the ability to not get emotionally attached to a man before he gives her commitment.

How many men have you been emotionally intimate with the past 3 months? Told your life story? Referred to as “bae/my man” to your girls. ‘ Talking’ w/o courtship is emotional horedum.

Telling multiple men your life story hands them the knot to lace a soul tie. That’s why it hurt like hell when you & he were ‘talking’ for a month, texting all day, calls all night, then all of it just stopped. He emotionally hit it, then quit it.

If you’re crying over a breakup & he never even committed to, you were his emotional hoe to get over his EX. He was only ‘talking’ to you to build his confidence. Communication stopped once he used you, gained confidence & approached the woman he REALLY wanted.

You look down on women who post half naked selfies, calling them ‘hoes’ when you let multiple men strip you emotionally naked w/o commitment & penetrate your heart. & you did it all to get over YOUR ex ooyou never truly healed from.

You may not be a hoe, but your heart is. Stop pimping your own heart out to every handsome guy who asks for your number.

You deserve a strong man who will wait until you are ready to open up, let down your guard, after he proves loyal with actions & you will be found by him. You were born to be a wife, stay married to your ambition & integrity & I promise you will win at life without paying a hoe price.

“Wow, I never looked at it in that way,” the naturalista admitted. “I thought being abstinent until marriage was enough. I didn’t realize I need to be emotionally celibate with a man, until he commits & proves worthy of my emotionally intimacy.”

“Ebrahim, it’s very frustrating, one cheerleader complained. “I’m struggling to get my tuition paid, car note paid & hair laid, while these hoes are accumulating body counts higher than their age with Benzs & Sex in the City style vaykays.

Fake ass Draya over there. Amber Rose. All these Basketball Wives. It’s like if a woman doesn’t look exotic, foreign & show her assets in every pic, we’re getting passed up by men.”

“I see too many queens struggling to pay Sallie Mae,” I encouraged, “grinding a legal hustle 9-5, feeling like they’re losing at life, because they see these World Star vids, Reality shows & IG Honeys with thick hips, a nice whip & a fat grip, stunting for the gram, taking trips to Dubai. But class is something money can’t buy. These frauds ain’t winning. They sold their soul & their vagina about a weak ago, weak ago. Keep your head up, eyes on your mission. The universe rewards class, integrity & ambition.

I hate the word HOE & THOT. Hoe is NOT a synynom for “female”. I do not consider nor call any woman a hoe or thot. She has a name. You have a mother. Posting pics online does NOT make her a hoe. Being on reality tv does not make her a hoe. Everyone has a story you don’t know about.

Some of MALES are self proclaimed hoes. They own Fortune500 companies, movie studios & hoe them SELF & their time to secret societies for money & power, starving their own family of love, time & attention. Don’t judge.

Understand, you don’t have to be foreign and curvy to be attractive. Lupita Nyong’o is considered Native & flat chested by many, yet she is the finest woman I ever seen. My WIFE will look like her, naked of insecurity, wearing nothing but grace, self confidence & a smile, because I will pour confidence, time, love & life into her daily.”

“Freshman year, I was extremely naive,” another girl confessed. “I thought I’d meet a man in college, fall in love first semester & be married by graduation. But, once guys realized I wasn’t putting out, they’d stop talking to me, telling me, ‘the classy girl act is overrated.’

The next day, I’d see them with multiple girls & they had no shame about it. I realized if you ain’t giving up the kitty for most younger men, you’re completely useless and serve no purpose to them. They don’t want a conversation, to listen to your goals, or see how intelligent you are, they just want to know ‘what that mouth do’.

I always get told I’m too pretty to be single, but being passed up by guys for girls with no standards makes me feel so unpretty. Why do men wife the hoes and strippers, and side chick us classy girls?

Here’s 5 reasons ‘these self procliamed hoes stay winning’

#1 Classy Women are so direct with their Smart Mouths & never dance around the issue. These self proclaimed hoes twerk around the issue & accept whatever treatment gets them paid.

Guys like a self-proclaimed hoe (SPH), because she’s easy to manipulate. He can use her whenever he wants. Classy Women won’t stand for such treatment. They have standards. They complain. Her so-called ‘smart mouth’ is her best weapon. It annoys & scares off weak-manipulative males & it attracts strong men able to silence her mouth with his consistent actions.

#2 Classy Women are annoying & complain. These self proclaimed hoes say ‘how high’ before a guy even says ‘jump’

Loyal Women are going to be annoying and get on your nerves, because they love you & want you to reach full potential. SPHs don’t get on your nerves, because they got other hoes. She doesn’t love YOU, she loves the lifestyle you provide for her.

Guys who like a SPH are too affected by their past EX who hurt or cheated on them to be emotionally available to you classy women anyway. Scorned males respond to heart-brake by turning into a hoe himself. When a scorned Chris Brown sings, ‘these hoes ain’t loyal, he is referencing the man in his mirror.

#3 Classy Women don’t know how to submit to a weak man. These self proclaimed hoes happily will.

Scorned males secretly want to be treated like a God by a woman, to repair the damage their EX caused his low self esteem.

Classy women are too smart to treat a man like he is her Lord & savior, so he chooses a SPH instead, because she strokes the male ego, by playing into his fantasy of being worshiped like a God.

#4 Classy women are boring. These self proclaimed hoes are fun.

A scorned male knows a SPH just wants temporary fun with no rules & substance. He fears he lacks substance to keep a classy woman interested in him long term. Nothing destroys a male’s ego like realizing a woman with class has absolutely no use for him.

A SPH requires no substance. She doesn’t require he be monogamous. She has male-hoes of her own. Classy women make a man earn her time and a chance inside her body. A SPH will offer up a man her ass before he even asks, appealing to a male with nothing but dick to offer. A SPH is willing to validate him and be his trophy. Scorned males care more about validation from other males than they care about a woman, because they are ego-driven.

#5 Classy Women posses too many standards to be ride-or-die Wifey material like These self proclaimed hoes are.

A Strong man wants a motivating woman, not a ride-or-die chick.
A strong man wants a woman who asks questions, like:
What is your relationship with God?
What are your intentions with me?
What can you see us building together?
Don’t just be along for the ride, dying to ask questions, afraid to speak your mind.
That’s how you end up in a relationship with a man for months, thinking you’re his girlfriend, when you’re really just his side chick.

You want to ride? Ride for my goals & ambitions. Ride for a cause with me. Let’s change the world together.

Keep being good women ladies.. It’ll pay off in the end. I know Usher said, ‘Shawty, I don’t mind If you dance on a pole, that don’t make you a hoe. I’m proud to call you my bitch’.

A complement to your mind is directed at you. Being called ‘Bad bitch’ is really a synonym for, ‘piece of meat with the most fuckable body parts’. Be more than that queens. Be substance. Be fierce. A strong man wants to fall in love with your mind, dine on your food for thought and let your appearance be the icing on the cake.

I know you see Amber Rose pose to all the likes and attention, & you may get envious. Just know, men in the real world don’t want every man to see the most intimate parts of their woman, unless she’s doing it as a form of self expression, because that’s who she really is. I don’t feel Amber Rose is a hoe in light of her current pics, she’s a stripper turned model, comfortable in her own skin. & I disagree with the following meme featuring her,

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We need to stop always blaming the woman & what she lacks or ‘has to offer’ for a break up. Sometimes it’s not about her flaws or lacks, sometimes two people meet each other before they are ready for each other.

I don’t knock or judge any woman who flaunts the assets she was blessed with. If that’s what you want to do, bare it all at a Caribbean nude beach, Sex only who you want to. Just do it, because that’s your form of self expression, of the exhibitionist you really are, not for money, likes, attention or validation, not to be a hoe who’s winning. You are NOT a hoe. You are a royal spirit. No amount of money is worth your integrity.

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“He ACTED interested, filled me with passion & LEFT, snatching the WORLD from under my feet. Why?” Men do this, because…

Posted on January 22, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“He acted interested, filled me with passion, was sweet & the beginning & did everything to make me happy, then left, snatching the world from under my feet. Ebrahim why do men do this?” she asked with tears in her eyes. I looked into the coed crowd & gave an honest answer.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

“When we know a woman likes us, as men, we can’t take advantage of the feeling she feels for us by failing to make her the only ONE we commit to pouring intimate attention into.

Don’t call her BABE, if she’s not the only woman you’re calling that.

Bro, you know how we are. Some of us men will call every girl in our phone “babe” simply, because we LOVE how it makes a woman just open up her whole heart to us, showering us with her time, attention, love & affection.

BABE & I love you baby are a manipulative male’s key to enter the closed quarters of a woman’s emotions, invading the locks of her heart, stealing forms of affection from her he has no intention of reciprocating.

The hardest thing for a woman to do is forgive herself for breaking all her rules for a man who’d eventually break HER heart. That’s why she stays. Through all the cheating, disrespect, pain & side pieces. Manipulative males know this & take full advantage, until she’s sold him her soul. Reclaim your worth!

Weak minded males use loyal women as emotional stepping-stones, to help him rebound from a woman who broke his heart. This is why you are his side chick, not his wife.

An overly macho, emotionally unstable male can not handle heartbreak. To rebound, he breaks as many loyal women as he can find.

This is why he fills her up with passion, only to leave & snatch the world from under her feet. It helps him get over HIS ex.

This is why he takes time to peel back the layers of a woman & seems genuinely interested in knowing more about her. He builds her up, only to break her by denying her deserved commitment, as a sick form of revenge against the one who broke him.

‘I’m just not ready for commitment,’ he’ll say, once he’s stolen your soul to fill the hole of his emotional brokenness.

He’ll keep dangling marriage, living together, or money over your head, whatever it takes to keep you around long enough, so he can steal your soul to replace the one he sold to his EX.

The woman who opens up to every man she falls for about her tragic story is not ‘trusting’ or ‘open’, she is naive and weak-minded, subconsciously using her painful life story to get a man to give her something real, as a reward for enduring pain all her life.

Just because you’re telling a man your life story, does NOT mean you two are “connecting”. He just learned how to do what few men ever did for you, listen, until you’re comfortable enough with him to become intimate. The devil is patient too. You just want him to be your ‘babe’ so bad, don’t you?

Opening up to & holding down a man depriving you of commitment is NOT loyalty. It’s side chick behavior. Keep playing that ROLE & you’ll get type cast forever.

Ladies beware of sharing your tragic, sad, abusive life story with your crush, because he will use your pain against you once he’s ready to snatch the wold from under you.

‘That’s why you were abused in your past, because you’re so annoying.’
‘You’re just being insecure, because your EX cheated on you.’
That’s how manipulative males use your past pain against you, to break you.

Be careful who you vent to. The devil is patient, listening & attractive.

He will come off as genuinely interested, talk on the phone with you for hours, ask to meet your mother, play in your hair, hold you close, encourage you, listen to your tragic life story, which he doesn’t give a damn about, ALL to lure you into a false sense of vulnerability in order to syphon strength, peace & genuine energy from your spirit into his. He wants pieces of your soul to make him whole.

Ladies, until a man shows you HIS flaws, HIS weaknesses & HIS vulnerabilities, you don’t know him. He’s a stranger. If you up open your life story & GIVE him your ALL before this, YOU slipped up. Stop this cycle. This is a red flag.

A man with multiple females is also a major red flag. He’s collecting side piece souls to get over heartbreak. RUN. But, never run back to what broke you.

I go in depth & detail about the “red flags” in my book, so women can know straight away to turn around and go in the other direction of males like this.

Men, we must stop peeling back layers of a woman’s vulnerability to get over our past heartbreak.

She’s been hurt multiple times & is now ready for something real, let’s stop emotionally setting her back by switching up & toying with her heart.

Let’s stop telling these women we want marriage & a family ONLY, because we know those wants are the secret code words to unlock her guardedness.

Let’s stop friend zoning her AFTER we’ve been emotionally intimate with her, as a way to exact vengeance on all the women who’ve friend zoned us.

Let’s stop breaking down a woman’s guard only to let her down. Don’t make her pay for all the women who hurt you & toyed with your heart.

Let’s stop putting loyal women through what we’ve been through before. The truth is we had our heart broken & never repaired it, because the world makes us feel a man can’t be vulnerable. A man can’t admit to ever being hurt, feeling weakness, getting played, being the side piece.

She actually thinks the reason you continue to spend time with her, talk to her & peel back her layers is, because you like her. She doesn’t know you’re just using her to get over your EX who broke your heart.

A Loyal Woman deserves to be our ONE and ONLY. A loyal woman does not like sharing. We as men have to stop texting multiple women & giving our attention to multiple girls on Instagram & in our phone at once, if we know damn well we have a woman thinking she’s our one & only.

You wouldn’t want a man treating your sister like this, would you? My sister just checked me on this.

She told me, “brother I do not want to see multiple women in you phone sending you hearts, calling you babe, sending you intimate pictures, and you have yet to introduce me to her. If she’s not serious enough to let me meet her, than you should not be giving her your constant attention.”

Loyalty is not dead in our generation. Real men want monogamy, because we have sisters & mothers in our life who teach us daily how to be faithful and loyal to ONE woman. We have fathers, brothers & cousins with wives, and these men are grooming us to be husbands one day just like them.

I’m tired of meting a girl, fall for her, say ‘babe’ everyday, stop talking, repeat. I want to say ‘fiancé’ ‘wife”‘ ‘mother of my children’ ‘love of my life’. I’m tired of ‘talking’. I want to build. I want marriage. I want forever. We deserve for life bro, not just for one night.

Let’s stop giving up on a loyal woman & choosing fast options over her, none of them can make us a better man the way a loyal woman can.”

“So Ebrahim, help me understand,” one woman asked, “why a guy will lie and pretend that he likes a girl and do the fuckin most just to get some pussy when its females that are more than willing to throw it back just for the hell of it. Like just take the free pussy instead of fucking with people’s feelings. If loyal women can make y’all a better man, “why do these hoes stay winning & wifed up, while classy women stay single?”

To be continued next week…

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The NEW Nigger

Posted on January 19, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“Don’t trust them new niggers over there.” – Uncke Ruckas, The Boondocks

In the 1960s it was “boy”.

Today, it is socially acceptable for White people to say “nigger” by using its new synonym, “thug”.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

“Thug” epitomizes fear White Eugenists posses when they see a unassimilated Black person. They inaccurately fear one day, Blacks will rise up, unite & exact vengeance upon them for slavery, apartheid & segregation.

In the film Selma, Dr. King was depicted, not as a coward afraid to fight, as historians love to depict him, but as an articulately, eloquent solider, leading his non-armed civilian troops on an epic march from Selma to Montgomery, Alabama in the 1965 battle to secure equal voting rights.

He was no God. He was a man. He laughed. He joked. He smoked. He was unfaithful. He was imperfect. Beware of this idea of Dr. King the descendents of his murderers are trying to feed you.

“They saw him in the distance & they plotted to kill him.
They said to each other, “Here comes that DREAMER. Let us kill him & throw him into one of these pits & say that a wild beast has devoured him. Then we shall see what will become of his DREAMS”. – Genesis 37:18

The same hypocritical people who honor Dr. Martin Luther KING Jr. today, were the very ones who killed him & his dreams when he was alive.

“What about in our minds? Equality in the black psyche. Look at these men. Beaten & broken down for generations, deciding to demand more. What happens when a man stands up? Murdered. A man stands up only to be struck down.” – Dr. King, Selma.

“Strip the African of his knowledge of self. You can then replace that knowledge with any falsification of consciousness you desire.” – Dr. Umar Johnson, Hidden Colors 3.

The new nigger is a mental slave.
No need to beat him to behave, he will mentally beat himself unconscious.
He will vulgarly & lyrically oppress his OWN women over a rhythmic beat. Truuuuuuu.

The new lynching is: arrest, shoot to kill, organs steal, slander in the press.
Rip his character to shreds, make the world detest.
Who cares if he was weaponless.
Use miseducation to disarm the most feared weapon in the world, Black Consciousness.

We became the new nigger
when they changed our name, stripped our culture, force-fed us manmade religion to replace Godmade Spirituality.

We became the new nigger
when they begin stealing our organs to sell on the black market.
“Cops give a damn about a Negro
Pull the trigger, kill a nigger, he’s a hero.” – Tupac Shakur

We became the new nigger
when the Eugenics Society “Planned Parenthood” realized the greatest way to kill the next Dr. King is in the womb, via abortion. Sterilization.

We became the new nigger
when we had our own cities & they burned down the wealthy Black-owned Greenwood during 1921, in one of the most devastating massacres in American History.

We became the new nigger
when their Alexander Graham Bells used our Louis Latimers to steal our invention patens. When Dr. George Washington Carver’s plant-based invention fueled Henry Ford’s ability to mass produce cars.

Why am I not taught Black inventions in U.S. History class? Elevators. Stop Signs. Heart Surgery. Gas Mask. Telephone. Research. Question. Wake Up.

I don’t apologize for my blackness and your fear.
I don’t apologize for your White Guilt & your tears.
You felt pain seeing Trayvon, Oscar, Michael & Eric’s killers set free?
Imagine how you’d feel if you had to live life as me.
Your thug, your new nigger is what I refuse to be. – Ebrahim Aseem

Are some Black people Thugs? Of course. Thugs are like Starburst, they come in all colors. But to label an unarmed non-felon a “thug” is passive-aggressive. You want them to believe they are thugs & forget they are royal.

Black unity & self-awareness is one of the most highly feared things in the world.

I don’t take men who use “bitch as a synonym for “woman” seriously.
I don’t take women who use “nigga” as a synonym for “man” seriously.

The reason Blacks love to listen to music that degrades their women, the reason Blacks hate historical movies about the struggle is they’ve been taught to be ashamed of who they are.

They want to be accepted & validated by White Privileged more than they want to know their regal history.

Selma & its director Ava Duvernay was snubbed for an Award nomination by a non-diverse academy.

We don’t need a majority White jury to tell us, Selma was an outstandingly amazing film & Michael Brown’s killer deserved indictment. We don’t need them to validate our truth.

We are not their new nigger. We are regal. We are divinely chosen. We have purpose. We endure tragic pain and claim tremendous triumph. We were the first to walk the face of this earth, because we are its nucleus. We are spiritually royal. Love yourself. You were created in the very image of the architect of this universe. Who’s daughter are you? Who’s son are you? Say it! Know it! Live it! Be it! Reign.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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Also read, “If Dr. King Were Alive Today He’d Still be Arrested, Like He was Dozens of Times Before” http://thefreethoughtproject.com/dr-king-alive-today-arrested-dozens-times/#AFx7hxLaIyCIOvXC.99

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Is your SMART MOUTH keeping you SINGLE? Does NAGGING drive men to CHEAT?

Posted on January 15, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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The most unattractive woman is one who feels she is above reproach. When you snap at a man who respectfully calls you out on something, he won’t call you an insecure bitch like the immature males in your past. He will just leave you for a woman more on mental maturity level.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Ladies, men are NOT mind readers. If there’s an issue don’t always expect us to be aware of it if you don’t communicate respectfully.

Men, maybe if you’d just swallow your pride and listen to her instead of making excuses, she wouldn’t “nag” so much.

Respectful women don’t nag, or bitch, or have a “smart mouth”. It’s called communication. Women want a man who is considerate, caring, romantic & mature on his OWN, without her having to tell him what to do & how to do it.

Never complain about a respectful Woman’s mouth, or tell her to shut up, or say she’s being over emotional. No, she’s just EXPRESSING her deepest feelings.

It’s already hard for her to open up to you & let down her wall. She thinks all day about her connection with you, how you will react to her expressing herself to you.

It even keeps her up nights thinking about us. She lies in bed and replays scenarios in her mind, like “why does he always treat me like that?” “If I do things like this and say it in this way, will he treat me better?”

So when she finally opens up to you, don’t belittle her. Don’t tell her she’s “trippin” or that she’s too emotional, over reacting, acting like she’s on her period, being bipolar. No. If you love your woman, listen to your woman. So the two of you can connect deeper, grow closer & vibe together.

When your respectful woman calls you out on something you didn’t do right, don’t get defensive, don’t complain, just listen to what she is saying, say, “thank you for having my back babe,” & take her words into consideration. She just loves you bro. Same goes for women.

It’s crazy how the sweetest women who put everyone else’s needs over their own get cursed out & shitted on by loved ones they give so much to.

How can you be so quick to argue with your woman, call her all out of her name, yet when your fake, manipulative male friends tell you to jump, you’re all like, “how high?” “For how long do you want me to jump bruh?” “Do you want me to jump to a rhythm or a beat? I mean, because I can grab a jump rope and a Beats pill if you want me to.” How effeminate of you.

Constant arguing is NOT part of a relationship. That’s a lie. When you earn a mentality mature woman’s respect, she may disagree with you, but she won’t argue with you.

Converse with her, don’t argue with her. Listen to her, don’t ignore her. And can we as men stop acting like a Strong Minded Woman who speaks her mind has a “smart mouth”?

What, do you want a weak minded little girl? You want a push over? If you do, it’s because you’re a weak minded little boy yourself, un-aroused by the femininity of a strong woman.

A woman speaking her mind does not drive men to cheat. It repells the weak cowards who couldn’t handle her strong mind anyway.

There is nothing more attractive to a Strong Man than a strong minded woman, who will respectfully speak her mind, not bite her tongue & tell him when he is wrong.

I don’t want a yes woman. Any female who will agree with you & tell you what she thinks you want to hear, because she is scared to lose you, is NOT loyal, she is selfish & manipulative. She’s stunting your mental growth as a man.

I need someone to keep it REAL with me. Be blunt. Tell me the truth I NEED to hear. Speak life into me. I respect a woman who loves a man so much, she will respectfully tell him he is wrong to his face, because she loves his soul & wants to help mature it.

It’s very unmanly for us to as men complain about a Woman’s mouth, because in reality, she’s articulating advice to help us mature from being merely a MALE into being a MAN.

I will tell you the secret to getting your woman to stop “nagging”. When she calls you out on something, listen, take note, correct it & never do it again. Simple. Arguing with your woman for wanting to make you a better man is petty and immature.

Women who speak their mind aren’t “trying to be a man” or “trying to wear the pants in a relationship.” No, she just refuses to be lead by a weak coward of a male.

Even the strongest, so-called Craziest Woman, who talks back & has a smart mouth, will shut up & listen with respect, when she finally meets a Strong Man who commands respect with his mature actions.

A Woman’s past pain can make her seem crazy or have an attitude, but DEEP down, she is a genuine, caring woman who wants so badly to trust. She just needs a strong, trustworthy man to bring it out of her.

This is why I’m attracted to Women who have an Attitude, Women who talk back, speak their mind, have a sharp tongue, who some call “CRAZY”, because I know how to handle a Strong Minded Woman. Those are the most loving, caring, solid, and faithful women to have. She is only that way, to PROTECT herself from snakes & fake family who take her kindness for weakness, because when she loves, she loves HARD.

Don’t let a strong Woman scare you away young king. She’s been through a lot, more than you could even imagine. We must be Patient with her. Once she meets a Strong Man who knows how to take control & can PROVE to her with his actions he is trustworthy & LOYAL, she’ll let us in and work on her disposition. But, if we want our woman to grow for us, we must be willing to grow for her.

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The SECRET ABUSE you never knew your PARENTS did to you as a child

Posted on January 15, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

In the Black & Latin community, it is far to common for parents to financially abuse their children, unbeknownst to them. The sweetest parents have used their 10-year old child’s name to take out a mortgage, page bills or own a credit card, because they ruined their own credit first.

An estimated 500,000 children have had their identities stolen by a parent, according to ID Analytics, which sells identity fraud protection.

Most children do not find out, until they become an adult and try to get a loan for college, buy a house or a car, only to find out their credit was trashed by the person who gave them life.

Financial abuse often goes unreported, because it is so embarrassing to bring charges against someone you know so intimately, whether biblically or biologically. Should a child report their parent to fix their credit? Or remain silent and begin adulthood with a damaged credit score?

Financial abuse happens in 98% of all cases of domestic violence. Conversely, this silent abuse is not exclusive to sufferers of domestic violence.

“One in four women will be a victim of domestic violence,” Scandal star actress Kerry Washington says in a PSA. “Finances are almost always a weapon of choice. Taking away access to cash, destroying credit, jeopardizing jobs; financial abuse leaves invisible bruises that can take decades to heal.”

Toting a purple purse for a magnanimous purpose, the star of scandal released a PSA for the 2014 Allstate Foundation Purple Purse Program, a cause championed to raise awareness about domestic violence and financial abuse.

While nearly 80% of Americans have never heard of financial abuse as a form of domestic violence, many know this great country was founded on slavery. What is often ignored this country was founded on two types of slavery, the selling and trading of Africans, and the selling and trading of Women.

Less than a century ago, all women in America were considered “property” of their husband, sold to them by their fathers for a “dowry”. Women were not even the legal guardian of their own children. They were seen as both intellectually and financially incompetent compared to a male. Although these laws no longer exist in America, this thought pattern is still alive and well.

Coward males use the threat of abuse to keep a woman playing submissive to him, stroking his flaccid ego. “I will ruin you,” these cowards will often say.

Some cowards only approach women who live with their mothers and are not in control of their finances. He will offer to take her in for free, knowing as long as he is in control of her lodging, she will feel obligated to stay loyal to him in a loveless relationship.

Some cowards will sell a woman a dream, saying they can be a “power-couple” only to move in with her, then physically abuse her, so he can live off money and lodging she earned, with no help from him.

Principalities of darkness loves to promote abuse against women and children, not solely out of hate, not just out of control. Abuse against women and children are spiritual warfare.

Baphomet worshipers are given life from taking power and extracting cosmic energy from women and children. Why women? Because she is the closet being to the Divine Creator, chosen to be the carrier of life. Chosen to have souls travel through her, praying to be born through her womb.

Eugenicists, Luciferians, and disciples of The Knights Templar know this. That is why they worship the she-goat, Baphomet. The practice of extracting cosmic energy from genuine women is long documented, dismissed as “conspiracy theory” only, because every U.S. president ever born is a part of this bloodline.

When you see a woman chose to have her OWN bank account as well as a joint account to pay bills with her husband, smile knowing this is a proclamation to genuine women everywhere, letting them know, they have one of the most powerful forms of energy in this universe, the “God-given ability” to not only give birth, but to give LIFE, speak life and be life.

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Two cops charged with brutal murder of homeless man

Posted on January 13, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

Murder charges filed against 2 Albuquerque cops in 2014 killing of a mentally disturbed homeless man. It was captured on police helmet camera.

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Chivalry is dead, because the INDEPENDENT WOMAN killed it. Stop chasing men!

Posted on January 8, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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An independent woman has her own. She doesn’t rely on a man to make her happy. She’s a boss. She makes her own money. Pays her own bills & comes home every night to an empty house. She eats alone. Drinks wine alone. Takes her self on dates. Is romantically frustrated. She scrolls through her selfies when she’s depressed, clueless as to why no man has made her beautiful, successful ass a wife yet.

A loyal woman deserves to be spoiled with time, affection & attention.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

“You just know my life don’t you?” a tall, short-haired, East African woman confessed during my Q & A session after a speaking event . “This is me. I feel like the more successful I get, the less real men approach me. Do you feel a woman should approach men?”

“Absolutely, positively not.” I answered.

“It is very emasculating to a man for a woman to chase him. It makes him feel you don’t think he’s man enough to chase you. It turns him off. He can never truly be attracted to you.

This is one reason he makes you his side chick & cheats on you repeatedly. A man will never stay loyal to a woman who doesn’t make him feel like a man. When you give a man loyalty before he’s given you commitment, it makes him resent you, pity you & lose respect for you.

A lion doesn’t want you to throw him a steak. A lion is a hunter by nature. A beast wants to chase & approach his target, then feast on its beautiful substance.

“Should a woman give up her career for a man & just be his little trophy wife” one woman asked.

“My wife better not give up her career for anyone,” I answered, “she better have her OWN mind. She better pursue her ambitions, and she better let me spoil her. Pick her up from work, take her straight to the mall & tell her, pick out something pretty, I’m taking you to the Maxwell concert tonight. She better let this spoil adorn her.”

“When you’re my man, I give you my all,” a Platinum Blonde, Greek woman complained, “I respect you, I don’t make you jump through hoops. I don’t require you pay for everything. I have my own, because I don’t want a man to control me. I make it so easy for a guy to like me and they still can’t act right. I’m convinced guys are intimidated by Independent Women who know their worth, all they want are bad bitches.”

“It’s not that men are intimidated by Independent Women,” I responded. “An independent woman emasculates a man.

She chops her standards in half to make it easier for men to obtain her.
An independent woman allows a man to lay with her, sleep in her house, and not pay rent. She pays her own bills.

An independent woman drives to a date herself, picks the man up in HER car & doesn’t require he put gas in it.

An independent woman behaves like she’s above reproach. No man can correct her. She’s always right. She talks down & rude to respectful men.

A man needs to feel WANTED. A man needs to be verbally respected, not slandered. An independent woman turns a man completely off, because she behaves like she doesn’t want him A man wants a SELF-dependent woman, with affection who appreciates the PROVIDER he was put here to be.

As long as a woman holds on to the idea she doesn’t need help, she will never get it. What do you think a husband is? He is a HELP MEET. Stop fronting, acting like you don’t need help in a relationship.

Where are the women who will let a man spoil them? How do you expect a man to acknowledge your own worth if you can’t acknowledge it yourself?

Paying makes a man behave controlling? What a perfect test. Now you’ve learned letting him pay will weed out the CONTROLLING men.

Chivalry is not dead, too many women don’t require it as a standard. Your child’s father wasn’t chivalrous, yet you blessed him with a baby.

Your EX had many side chicks when you met him, yet you still gave him your all & your loyalty. Where are the women with standards of a provider & the ambition of a rider?

Why isn’t having no side chicks & being a provider a standard women have for men they give their all to?

Until a woman starts having standards for who she lets inside her heart & her bed, she will forever be searching for something real.

A provider spoils all the women in his life with his time, attention & affection. He takes his sister on dates. Daughter on road trips. Nana to a matinee.

You will know I am a provider, because I will fill up your gas tank.
When you invite me over your house for dinner, I will bring you groceries.

When you tell me you are stressed from work, I will spoil you to spa treatment, mani/pedi & a deep tissue massage, so your pretty ass can get pampered, while I’m at work stacking, pursuing my ambitions.

You will know I am a provider, because you will no longer have bills. Baby, your bills are MY bills.

Your student loans are lookin’ kinda rough this month? Let me help you take care of that real quick. I just want you to know I appreciate all the hard work you put in studying, your educated intellect is legit.

Just because you have your own car, doesn’t mean you should have your own car note. Baby give me that shit, let me take care of it real quick.

I admire your drive queen, I love the fact that you’re a rider. So when I offer to pay that car note, don’t question me, just know you’re being held down by a provider.

A provider knows providing for your woman isn’t trickin. Calling it that is insane. A man provides for his woman, because he knows for him, she’d do the same.

A provider knows you can’t tell a girl with fresh eye brows & done hair nothing. Drop a couple of bills on pampering your woman. Keep her confidence high. Elevate HER! Approach HER. Chase HER. All the Side Chicks in your phone can’t replace HER.

A provider will never tell a woman:
“Let’s chill”
“Let’s hang”
“Let’s kick it”
“Slide thru”
A provider will say, “I’d love to take you OUT on a date Friday, for live music, bomb food & deep convo what time works for you?”

A provider will never use the term gold digger on a self-dependent woman. Immature little boys want an Independent Woman with her own money, so he never has to spend his own money, with his mentally poor & morally bankrupt ass.

A provider will let her know, “When you’re mine, you pain is my concern. Your hunger is my responsibility. Your bills are my debt. Your demons are mine to slay. You are my rib. I am your provider.

You don’t need a man? Well, I need you. What good is money & happiness with no family to share it with & spoil it on. I need you. How else can I become the husband & father I was meant to be? You complete my spirit. I need you. I want you, & I want you to want me too.”

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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Why NO male wants a GUARDED woman

Posted on January 1, 2015 by Ebrahim Aseem

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How to love a BROKEN Woman, before being GUARDED leaves her single, forever.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Edited by: Noemí Henriquez Follow @emivhenriquez

“Ebrahim, sir, I just can’t do it with these broken, jaded, scorned, bitter, guarded females anymore. I actually fell in love this time, and it was great the first month. We spent all our spare time together. Wine tastings, a cruise to Greece, I even introduced her to my grandparents. She told me she loved me. Now, she’s guarded and distant, saying she’s not yet over her EX, who ripped out her heart after years of making her play the side hoe role. I feel like I’m done my brother.

I go on Instagram, & women 1,000s of miles away show me more affection & sweet words than my girl does. They send me good morning texts, and good night pics. It’s hard to stay loyal to a broken woman who’s so guarded, when there’s so many affectionate girls willing to let a nigga in. When she’s happy, she’s so in love with me & it’s great! But when she’s guarded, she’s so distant with me, & it’s frustrating. How do you love a broken, guarded woman?”

No nigga wants a guarded woman. She’s bitter. She’s guarded. She’s scorned to love. She’s an over emotional mess. Cries for no reason. Afraid to let a nigga in. Because a “nigga” is a WEAK male. Sorry. Double-minded. Unstable in all his ways. Bro, we must cease being a woman’s NIGGA & start being a woman’s MAN.

Here are 10 steps to loving a guarded woman.

#1. Stop judging her emotions & holding her hard past against her.

She’ll be guarded. She’ll be difficult. She’ll say she needs time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. She’ll cry for no reason. She’ll feel so broken. Whatever you do, don’t you give up on her. Don’t you make her feel she isn’t enough. If you love a woman consistently enough, hard enough, you will fight her demons, defeat her trust issues, & the reward will be her heart. King, you deserve the woman of your dreams. Holistically improve your self to attract her, you amazing spirit you!

#2. Understand her. She only guards her heart, because all the issues of life flow from it.

Sometimes a woman is guarded & holds back, because she’s scared of falling for you so fast, when nothing in her past was ever made to last.

All she does is give & it leads to depression, because all she ever gets in return is pain, heartbreak & rejection. They tell her, “I’m different” yet, every day is the same. She holds back her trust, just to keep from going insane. She only has ONE drop of love left, so if you want to be her man, consistently SHOWER her w/ love & drown her w/ reassurance, do what no one ever does for her => Understand.

#3. Be strong for her. She always has to be strong for herself.

A weak male can’t love a guarded woman. He’s too busy judging her past & flaws to appreciate her worth. She’s not broken. She’s not fragile, she’s cautious. Her heart has been built up & teared down so many times, yet it still beats fine. She is an uncut diamond in the rough, yet she still shines. Cherish her. Cater to her. Be her rock.

Diamond sharpens diamond. Iron sharpens irons. Let a loyal woman be the gem that sharpens our iron, and we can reciprocate & sharpen hers. A guarded woman is more than capable of standing on her own, but a strong man won’t let her. He will hold her hand & stand by her side. She’s not a strong woman, she’s a woman of strength.

#4 Be patient with her Trust Issues.

Do you know what it feels like to meet someone, fall for them, have them give you the world, open up to them about all your demons & secrets, then have that person just snatch the whole world right from under you. Only to have to meet someone new & learn to trust again? It’s agony. And you want her to just trust you off the bat? How dare you even suggest it. EARN her trust, over time and support her as she takes responsibility for her past.

#5. Help her fight the demons in her mind.

Girls will over think the perfect man for them out their life. Her mind is her worst enemy. Pain is so comfortable, because love is so foreign.

Being a man of actions & consistency will help re-write the guarded thoughts in the dramatic script that is a woman’s over-thinking mind.

#6. Stop taking her strength for rudeness. You have no idea the tragic, life threatening pain she’s had to endure from her past, just to be strong today.

We have no idea how HARD it is for a woman to share her thoughts & feelings, when no one’s ever taken time to understand her, or HEAR her. Be her ear. Be her heart. Be that strong hand that grips & massages her curves after a long day, & just LISTEN. Be her peace. Take her stress away.

As a girl, her mother constantly cut her off, never allowing her to express herself. Males always cut her off in mid-thought.

She’s not rude or smart mouthed. The only way she’s able to speak her mind is to do it assertive, because it feels like she can never get her true feelings out fast enough for someone to listen.

When a woman respectfully calls you out, man the hell up & TAKE IT, listen, then apply her wisdom to your life, & ALLOW her to be your help meet.

Don’t get defensive, it makes you look guilty.
Don’t brush her words off, it makes her feel so sick, like she’s not being heard.
Don’t call her over-emotional, crazy, stupid, dumb, idiot, or say she’s trippin.
YOU are trippin. YOU are crazy. She’s not doing too much, she just loves you bro.

#7. Stop dangling commitment over your woman’s head, like a carrot to a horse to feed your ego & mask your insecurities. Commit to her already!

Don’t confuse a woman’s loyalty for stupidity bro. She can love you to death, yet, want absolutely nothing to do with you, for life. A woman’s fall back game insists upon your level of consistency.

Women are more than looks bro. Once we find ONE who improves the man we are, supports our ambitions, puts us in check, yet shows us respect, let’s let go all these girls with ONLY body & looks to offer, & give that rare ONE something real. Commitment.

You can’t blame a woman for being so guarded. She’s never been given commitment. You would guard a treasure from people too, if it has never been appreciated & valued. Teach her how to let you in by faithfully committing your self to her.


#8. Once she commits herself to you, be her provider. Fulfill her every need.

Nothing ever works for her. Nothing goes as planned. She always loses. Family. Promotions. Student loans. Friends. Commitment. She feels alone. She’s always so strong for herself. She deserves someone to be strong for her for once in this life. Be that for her bro.

A real man can’t stand seeing his woman suffering in any way
He will powerfully move mountains to keep her emotionally, spiritually, sexually & financially complete.

#9. Don’t use your words to tear her down, use your words to SPEAK LIFE into your woman.

I just want you naked. Past that fake smile you wear to hide your doubts. I know you combatively converse with the demons in your mind, i know you don’t feel as beautiful as you look. I just want to be your calm. Your peace. Your strength. Lean on me. Let’s be weird together.

We don’t have to lay together to be intimate. Let’s converse deeply about nothing. If I ease deep inside your mind, will all your fears drip out? I know you’ve always felt so misunderstood. Teach my how to speak your mind’s language the way no one ever could. Let’s be weird together.

Baby, when I look at you I don’t see a broken woman. I don’t see a guarded woman. I see buds of happiness, on the eve of blooming. I see clouds of closure on the verge of raining down, to wash away your trust issues. I see me. You complete me. What am I without you? I am broken. I am a gun, with ITS guard on, no bullets, worthless.

And I need you baby, I need you to set me free. I don’t want you to LET your guard down & LET me in. Keep it up, if need be. Just know, I will fight for you, I will EARN you. I will be strong for you & rip, fight, claw, punch & BREAK your guard down with the strong arms of the chambers of my heart.

I want lazy Netflix Sundays with you, where we order deep dish pizza & never leave the bed.

I want trips overseas to foreign countries with you, where we visit ancient bistros, & inhale art with our pupils.

I want a daughter who looks just like you, my beautiful flower, so I can take both my flowers to the beach, & water them with love as we watch the sunset.

I want cruises with you, live music concerts with you, deep hugging you from the back, as I draw the lyrics to the love song with the trace of my tongue on the back of your neck.

I want a life with you, not just because you are the most beautiful form of matter I have ever seen in the universe. It’s because you were made for me. You are my rib. You complete me. I want to be your poetic justice. Pain has written your life story as a tragic plot. The blood ink of my undying love for you will write you a fair tale crescendo, my queen.

#10. Become equally yoked with her.

If you can lay with her, you should be able to pray with her.
True marriage is not you to her, it is her married to the word, wisdom deep inside her & you married to wisdom inside you, thus you two walk together, married, because you agree.

You want her to open up to you? Fine, but when she does you will not use it against her, you will not make her pay for showing you her vulnerabilities. You will not make her feel wrong for opening up to you. Pour so much love into a guarded woman’s glass heart, that if she sips it slow, it will last her forever.

I met a sweet girl, she opened up to me & I made her feel foolish for it. I over questioned her & made her explain her feelings. I was selfish, young & dumb, & I lost out on something real.

Men, we will always lose when we take a loyal woman for granted. A broken woman will always be repaired one day, but a selfish man who breaks a woman is cursed to live with that regret for life. Don’t become that man, bro. You only get one queen. Cherish her, adore her, flood her with an abundance of LOVE, until she becomes it.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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