Black people need to STOP calling White people RACIST. Your God is a WHITE Man.

Posted on December 4, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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By: Ebrahim Aseem

The justice department will launch a civil rights investigation in the death of Eric Garner, yet another unarmed Black man murdered by White police, after NYPD placed him in a fatal choke hold last summer.

In response to a grand jury declining to indict the officers caught on tape gang choking an unarmed man, who pleaded “I can’t breathe,” as he posed no apparent threat to the half-dozen officer surrounding,

Attorney General Eric Holder said, “All lives must be valued, all lives.”

“When will we as Black people start valuing our OWN lives?” I asked a group of 47 Black college students, during a pan-African speaking event.

“As young Black men, we need to stop blaming White people for all our problems. YOU become your own problem when you don’t know your worth & culture, & your own solution when you know your regal self.

If you are unsuccessful in life, it is because you are lazy & you procrastinate. Not because of anyone else.

Take responsibility for your own life. Man the hell up. Throw on a button up, get a fresh line up & start making LEGAL money. Stop leaving your women to raise a baby alone you helped her create.

Your life will mos def improve once you stop making excuses, blaming others & work on SELF. No Beautiful, successful, self-dependent woman is attracted to a man who doesn’t have his OWN. Somebody had to tell you.

Unarmed Black citizens murdered by police are NOT responsible for their own death. You cannot blame a person for being clearly target, because of the color of their skin.

You are at a disadvantage, living in a country full of privileged who do not value your life. And by “your” I don’t just mean your race.

Why would a prosecutor help indite a police officer? They work as teammates on a 100 cases a year to get “thugs” locked up. This system is rigged.

‘This is not a New York issue or a Ferguson issue alone,’ The attorney general admitted. ‘Those who have protested peacefully across our great nation following the grand jury’s decision in Ferguson have made that clear.’

As Black people, we must stop calling these White Supremacists ‘racists’ for five reasons:

(1) Calling a racist ‘racist’ does nothing to them, but stroke their ego. They murder you unarmed, & all you can do is call them a little name? Stop talking & start DO SOMETHING!

Your passive leaders taught you to demand your rights. My strong leaders taught me to TAKE my rights. You don’t ask for a right, it’s yours from birth.

(2) Calling a racist ‘racist’ is too easy for them to deny. The media gives them ammunition by assassinating the character of the unarmed Black men who are too guilty to deserve their lives to be valued and defended.

Instead of calling them a racist, call them out intellectually. Make them show their true hateful nature. Speak to them like this,

‘If you can straight face justify violence against unarmed citizens , what side do you think you would’ve been on during the Holocaust? Jim Crow? Apartheid?

If you’re going to hate me for my gender, age, race, have some balls you coward. Admit it.

Stop hiding behind your political correctness & say, ‘I hate you Nigger, your very existence is a threat to my supremacy. I wish murdering you was still legal, so our Darren Wilsons wouldn’t even have to face a trail.’

You know why you can’t call me a nigger to my face? Deep down, you hate your God for favoring me over you. “Me” being a race-less spirit, who will never late your hate extinguish my light & peace. “You” being a fallen death angel void of care & compassion’

(3) Stop calling White supremacist “racist”. That is too soft of a word for such a hateful person. They are eugenists. They don’t have misplaced hate. All this was planned. The ghetto you ‘rep’ was a planned environment, built to keep you physically incubated & mentally suppressed. Planned parenthood was created to kill you before you are even more via the number one killer of Black people, abortion.

(4) This is not about an attack on all Blacks. Your Black president is willfully allowing White murders with a badge to be exonerated for snatching Black lives.

This is an attack on civilians. This is domestic terrorism. Armed forced are being taught how to take down & capture unarmed civilians. This country will founded on domestic terrorism.

Calling a snake ‘snake’ is ignorantly redundant if you’re just going to assimilate your mind to the reptilian.

The same ‘conscious’ people who are so quick to call the NFL ‘racist’ for fielding a Redskins team with a Racial Epithet, are the same conscious people who celebrate Thanksgiving yearly, a holiday founded by the founding fathers celebrating their terrorizing slaughter of over 15 million natives.

You proudly scalp Redskins tickets to watch RGIII get massacred not knowing the word ‘scalp’ originated from the U.S. government paying $1 to any citizen who fatally chopped of a Native American’s scalp & brought them the scalp as evidence of the murder.

(5) You call all White males ‘racist’ yet you worship a White male God. You’re a walking contradiction. You teach your children, ‘all White police hate you’ then you drag them to church on sunday, to worship the image of a White Man on a cross.

Jesus was murdered by his OWN people. He came to save them & also be a light to the gentiles & his own people killed him on a cross. And you worship the very weapon used to kill him? Do you hate Jesus? “or nah?”

I’m sure your answer will be the later, “or nah” as you passive-aggressively make light of any knowledge you don’t innerstand. Don’t be offended, slow down. I know you go, “zero to a hunddit real quick.” But riddle me this,

Will you wear a police pistol around your neck to honor Michael Brown’s death? A noose to honor the lynching of your people? An airplane to honor 9/11 victims? Use your mind. Mentally ascend to your throne.

Stop slandering all White men, then giving all your praises to a White Male God. God is not a White man, nor a Black woman. It says that in your OWN bible. Oh you want the scripture now huh? Sure, it’s Numbers 23:19.

When will we stop praising a human-God with a white face & start praising the gender-less, race-less SPIRIT of God? Religion was manmade, spirituality is God made.”

“Well said brother, I agree the concept of praising a White male God is new,” a Rastafarian testified, “just like this concept of Egyptians being all White is new. What are your thoughts on the upcoming film, ‘Gods and Kings’ depicting Egyptians as Anglo without melanin?

To be continued, next Thursday.

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“I don’t want to be Black anymore,” the 5yo said. I heartbreakingly fought tears & told her this

Posted on November 27, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“I don’t want to be Black anymore, the 5-year-old girl confessed to the room full of people, with a sad face, her head down & eyes low.

My heart sank. I was sick. At that moment, I didn’t want to stand. Part of me wanted to punch a hole through the wall in anger. The other part of me just wanted to break down & cry in sadness. Nonetheless, I decided to pour my heart out to this little girl.

Three hours earlier, the day started with me waking up at 5am to a flood of texts & notifications from friends, upset about the preposterously inaccurate verdict of the Michael Brown murder.

Before reading any of the messages. I sent my daily mass motivational text to 2,000 of my mentally ascended network, consisting of CEOs, VPs, professors, college students and military members.

I didn’t know it then, but I would be reading this very text in a room full of kindergarten parents 3 hours later.

The first text I did read was from one of my college classmates who was worried her students would be sad & confused about the verdict. She wanted me to speak life into her kindergarten class.

I texted back, “anything for you” and begin what I had no idea would be the saddest, most controversially motivating days in my life as a Black man.

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“Good morning seeds,” my Afro-Latin college classmate greeted with a huge smile, before introducing me to her kindergarten students.

There were seven other adults in the classroom, sitting towards the back who I would later learn were parents, concerned about what their children might hear in school after such a racially polarizing verdict.

As the teacher begin speaking to the children about Darren Wilson’s exoneration, I began looking on my device for ice breakers to do with the children. Before I could screen-shot something I liked, a little boy’s words both caught my attention and broke my heart.

“What’s the point of life? No matter what we do, the world hates me, because I am Black. I didn’t make myself Black. It’s just who I am,” the little boy said. “Why is it bad to be Black?”

At that moment, things just had gotten real. I realized this was going to be the most challenging speak I had ever done. I nixed the ice breaker idea and started praying for guidance.

“It is not bad to be Black,” the teacher corrected, fighting off tears, “it is an honor to be Black or Latin, or Caucasian or Asian, or Indian, or whatever you are.

Last month, all the teachers in this school attended an event promoting a book about a Black woman called Hela, entitled, ‘The Immortal life of Henrietta Lacks’.

Two of Hela’s grandchildren told us her deceased grandmother’s cells were stolen from her during her cervical cancer chemo therapy treatment. Her ‘Hela cells’ have since been used by scientists around the world to cure diseases. This Black woman’s cells have saved many lives.

This is why we learn about the history of our people, and other cultures of people. It makes us more confident in our own culture and worth.

Now, how many of you know what a chef is? Raise your hands, mouths closed, hands only. Yes, Jamariye?”

“Him,” Jamariye answered, his left hand pointing towards me, while his right hand’s pointer finger dug for nostril gold in his nose.

“Yes,” the teacher replied, “he is a chef. It is his job to cook food for hungry people, like the chefs who cook your lunch everyday in the cafeteria. This young man is a chef and a writer, & he was speaking life to a group of us at the Hela cell event last month that his pastor helped organize.

So, today he’s going to be sharing his words with you. I want you to listen, behave & show him respect. Ok?”

“Okay!” The class agreed, in unison. I gripped the pink dessert box I’d been holding in my right hand, and walked in front of the kindergartners.

“Good morning young princesses & princes, my name is Ebrahim Aseem,” I greeted with a huge smile & deep voice, after putting the dessert box down.” I want you to repeat after me, say, ‘sawobana unjani!”

“Sa-nu-bowel-oo-mami!” The kindergarteners yelled, butchering the phrase.

“That is how you say, ‘good morning, how are you?’ in my isiZulu language. I am West African-Hebrew. How many of you know how to speak a language from the motherland? Raise your hands.” I directed them. After I saw no hands raised, I continued speaking.

“I want each of you to know, you have your own mother tongue & your own culture. Raise your hands if you like Disney movies!”

“Ooooo, meeeeeeee!” Many of the children yelled, with their hands reaching for the sky.

“I want you to, in your mind, without talking, think of your favorite Disney princess,”I directed them. “Your ancestors were queens and kings who ruled their land, and their children were princesses and princess. When your ancestors first came to this country, they were dethroned, given a new language & religion, &they learned those very well,

but they always knew one day, their great great great great great great grand children would awaken their hypothalamus & remember who they are, their language & their original spiritual connection with the universe. And those children are you.

You are the princesses and princes who will lead us back to royalty and our connection with the universe. Who knows what ‘universe’ means?”

“The stars in the sky,” an adorable, Indian girl answered. She had half a dozen pony tails with red knockers attached to them.

“Yebo!” I answered. “Yebo means yes in my language. And you are absolutely correct, universe does mean the stars in the sky. Give yourself a pat on the back.” The adorable brown girl smiled bright and patted herself on the back before I continued.

“The stars in the sky are where your ancestors live. They watch over you & protect you while you are asleep & awake.

We just had a HUGE feast in my Hebrew Cultural Community called Feast of Tabernackle. We all come to gether and eat a huge feast twice as big as your Thanksgiving dinner, with music, games, dancing, gifts and fun.”

I showed them some of the pictures from our feast, before addressing the topic of the day

Now, does anyone know who Michael Brown is?”

“Ooo, I know, he’s the Black boy on Vine, who got shot by police last night,” a curly-haired boy answered, after I called on him. “I’m scared of police.”

I didn’t know there was a video of the shooting on Vine, but learning that didn’t shock me. What shocked me was that a boy no older than 6 years old had seen it & was aware of the impact the verdict had when it was released just 12 hours earlier.

“Prince, are you scared of dogs?” I asked the boy.

“No, I got a dog, he’s my friend,” he replied.

“Dogs are very friendly,” I responded with a smile. “There are different breeds of dogs and they all have their own characteristics.

Just because one canine viciously murders an innocent man does NOT mean all dogs are evil beasts to be feared.

Some friendly dogs love people the same as their own species, because they know those people are royal and will one day mentally ascend to their throne. Don’t be scared of dogs, you may not know it, but dogs are actually scared of you.”

I knew even though they were not too young to relate issues of race they saw on the internet to themselves, they were too young to understand a deep conversation on it, unless I related it to things they liked and understood.

“Are you Black or mixed” A 5-year-old girl asked me.

“I’m Black,” I answered, fighting off a laugh. I love children, they speak their mind and she was low key roasting me and my melaninly challenged ass. “Both my parents and their parents are Black. Why do you ask?”

“I don’t want to be Black anymore Ebrahim, the 5-year-old girl confessed, with a sad face, her head down & eyes low.

“Have you told that to anyone before?” I asked her, while heartbreakingly fighting off tears. “Have you told mommy?”

“Yes, but I’m scared to tell daddy, because he’s Black,” she replied.

I single tear rolled down my cheek. I knew I had to be strong for them, but I also wanted them to see, a real man cries. He’s comfortable in his strong care to put it on display & confident in his vulnerability to express his sadness, openly.

I want you to know, your baba loves you, so much. He will always love you, not matter what you want to be. Why don’t you want to be Black anymore?”

“Sometimes at recess, the other kids won’t let me play. They say you’re Black, get away,” she confessed.

“We talked about that, Simone,” the teacher chimed in, reassuring the little girl with her eyes.

“Yes, we did,” a dirty blonde with a French accent complained, “my daughter came home & told me at lunch time, the other kids told her to put her hands up in a surrendering position, and they were making gun symbols with their hands.

This type of thing should not be allowed in an elementary school. It broke my heart to hear my daughter say she’s afraid to tell her father she doesn’t want to be Black anymore.”

I took a deep breath and looked at Simone, who still had her head down. When I saw her, I saw my daughter. A young moldable, delicate mind. Children are but a budding rice seed, whose only chance at growth is to not just be showered with love and reassurance, but drowned in it.

This is the true definition of “education”. Educate does not mean to put knowledge into someone. Educate, by definition, means to bring out the most fruitful part of a seed that is already in it, by awakening that dormant seed, intrinsically.

“Do you like bugs?” I asked Simone, after sitting down & folding my legs, as if I were preparing to meditate.”

“Ladybugs?” She replied in excitement, flashing her adorable smile.

“Yes,” I answered with a smile. “Ladybugs are so bright and pretty. Who wouldn’t like a ladybug? What about caterpillars, do you like those?

“Eww, slimey,” one of the other children replied, erupting the classroom in a “ewww”.

“No body likes cap-a-tillers,” Simone answered, somberly, after looking around at her classmates responses to the mention of a caterpillars.

“I want to tell you why I love caterpillars,” I replied with a smile.

“The caterpillar is always told how worthless it is for being born itself. It looks at the ladybug & feels unpretty compared to it. Yet, it was divinely favored over all other bugs to one day fly.

They don’t defend the killing of caterpillars not because they’re blind to its value. They don’t want the babies to metamorphosize to the cognitive epiphany they matter, created to be beautiful butterflies. Using knowledge of self & culture to soar high, & spiritually fly, unlike they who have always mentally crawled unable to spiritually ascend.

Raise your hand if you think butterflies are beautiful!”

“I like butterflies!” Sophia responded with a huge smile, as her classmates raised their hands as tall as they could lift them.

“You are a butterfly,” I told her as tears rolled down my face,” You are a beautiful black butterfly. You don’t have to be tired of being a Black caterpillar, just because some people undervalue you for being Black.

They only try to break you down & hate yourself, because they see the butterfly inside you. Caterpillars grow to be butterflies. Little black girls and boys will grow to be beautiful butterflies, because your race does not define your beautiful spirit. You are a beautiful Black butterfly Sophia.

“Yes!!” She yelled with a fist pump, before turning to the adorable, Alice in Wonderland looking little girl sitting to her right, “I’m a beautiful Black butterfly, so you can’t make fun of me no more.”

I covered my face and cried tears of joy. Thoughts of my daughter came on, but I fought them off, yet again.

“Recess time!” The teacher yelled, “Line up in alphabetical order.”

As the children walked out of class, I felt the parents who were listening gather around me.

“That was very profound young man,” one woman complimented, with tear-glazed eyes. “I have to admit, I woke up filled with hate and anger, but you healed me of that with your words.”

“It’s not me,” I told her. Wiping my eyes. I don’t know what I am saying. The Holy Spirit speaks through me, I’m just an instrument I promise you. But, I am glad you no longer feel hate. Can I read you all some words I wrote down about my response to this case?”

“Please,” she responded. There were seven parents, off all races. I opened up my device and read my good morning mass text.

“I am furious. Scared. Embarrassed. Honored.

Furious at the privileged jurors who allowed their supremacy & bias hate for a whole group of people to dictate their ruling.

Scared for my unborn children. They can be quick to abide every law & still be murdered just as quick. I’m not even confident their killer will be brought to justice.

We live in a world where a police badge is a get out of killing a nigger free card.

Embarrassed at my people who are actually SURPRISED by this so obvious verdict. Do you know your history? Do you know all your people have endured?

Why are you acting so surprised racism exists? Are you THAT naive, you don’t understand a country founded on racism, built on the backs of Black slaves, the hands of Chinese free-laborers & stolen from Indigenous people can never be anything other than what it was founded on, unless a metamorphosis takes place?

‘Most’ people are NOT racist. Yeah, see White Quakers helped Black slaves ESCAPE slavery, but many of us are unaware of this & subconsciously think everyone who is different from us are racist.

This is because we are taught to hate more what we don’t understand, and fear what we cannot conquer, but we are all race-less souls.

I never met a soul that possessed any race, gender or age. None of these exist in the universe. Only two energies, peace and fear. Let’s not allow fear of those who hate us extinguish the light and peace put inside us by the most high. You are the chosen. Let your light shine and eclipse this hate.

Honored by this challenge to show why despite how much they try to break our resilient spirits by showing us we don’t have value, WE will never posses as much hate as THEY. Our ancestors faced it. Now were must confront it.

They tried to bury us. They didn’t know we were seeds. Now,

you can plant the best seeds, but if it is sown in dry, desolate, negative, hate-filled soil, those good seeds will never come to fruition.

Focus less on hating the evil & focus MORE on feeding your spirit. Hating those who hate you does not defeat evil. Being you defeats evil. You are light. You are peace. You are strength. You are royal.”

I put my phone down as thoughts of my daughter flooded my mind. I could no longer hold in this pain I had been holding in so long.

“We have to do better,” I said. “As adults, we treat children as our slaves. We don’t just discipline them to protect them, we take pleasure in disciplining them. We brag about it. ‘I will beat your ass’ we say. We sound like a cocky clansman threading a noose, anticipating the hanging of a nigger.

If it were just about discipline, we’d do it, then come back an hour later & say, I love you. But we hold grudges. We verbally degrade our child. We call them stupid. We make them hate life, because they live it as our prisoner.

Your child is not some source of free labor. Your child is not some punching bag for you to take out your misplaced anger against your boss, bills or significant other. You were once a child. You were made to feel low. So you grow up & repeat the cycle of hate? You masa you.

As adults, we treat children like we are the privileged cops and they are black.

If you are blessed to have a child, shower them with love. Some of us would give our lives just to raise a child from the prison and turmoil of adolescence into adulthood.

I rarely speak on how I lost my daughter, but a couple of EXs ago, when I was with my first Caribbean girlfriend, I got her pregnant.

I told myself, I will buy a house and move her in with me, because I wanted my child to have what she herself never had, a father.

I had it all set up, I stayed with her during the pregnancy & picked out a house and a two rings wedding and engagement. See, in my Nubian Hebrew culture we have brotherhood. Dozens of father and husband elders who teach us boys from birth to make a woman a wife before we make her a mother. I

Then 4 months into the pregnancy, she had a miscarriage. The doctors called it a ‘natural abortion’ because her body rejected the baby. I was devastated. Every night since that day, I have dreamt of my unborn baby girl. Some days, I cry about it & I’m not scared to openly admit that.

I want to be a father & help raise a child. I know in my heart that one day, when I meet the right woman, through her my unborn daughter will come back to me. I need her, because I have so much love to give, that has been stored up just for her. In the mean time, I’ve been blessed with 11 nieces and nephews who I can treat my like they are my own daughters and sons by taking them on uncle days to the park and ceramics & things like that.

Being an uncle is practice, so one day, when I earn the right for my daughter to come back to me and be born, I will be ready.

When that jury found Officer Darren Wilson not guilty, I wanted to be the angriest I ever felt in my life, but I wasn’t. All I could think about was my daughter.

How do I explain to her as a Black person, your life will only be fought for, protected and defended, as long as the defense of your life doesn’t infringe upon the protection of a White life. Well, I decided never to tell her this.

The Darren Wilson’s of the world want me to tell my daughter this. They want us to force feed our young seeds fear, so fear will be incepted into the seed, ensuring mental slaves to be born and breed. I refuse to do the enemy’s will

I instead will teach my children their life has value, because the enemy only targets those who it views as a threat. This is proof Black lives matter. Black lives matter so much, they must be stolen by a thief who will be rewarded for that murder with exoneration, an exoneration that encourages other trigger happy cops to steal innocent lives as well. This is a bounty system. Steal their lives. Take their organs. Break their will.

You don’t have to commit a crime to be shot by police, your very existence as a Black person is a crime to eugenics who want your organs at the expensive of your life. If you are in a position of power or influence, it is your birth obligation to speak up & fight against systematic oppression, but some brothers would much rather switch sides than fight.

It is a poisonous concept that every race except Caucasians are viewed as possessing one-dimensional valuable.

Asians are more than math and connivence stores.
Blacks are more than sports & entertainment.
Latinos are more than hard workers for cheap labor.
Jewish people are more than outstanding legal council.
Pacific Islanders are mor than mani/pedis & eye brow threading.
White Supremacy is about treating us all like niggers, an object with a dead mind.

You are only targeted by your enemy, because they clearly see your value as a threat to their existence. If your life was not divinely chosen for a purpose, the enemy would not be so committed to destroying you.

In reality, it is not merely about racism. White supremacists can see the value in Blacks. Their house is filled with African art. They just don’t want YOU to know your worth. Active your pineal gland and remember who you are. We are all race-less spirits. Race is only used to make us hate and fear, so we won’t mentally ascend from being the droids of this world.

I will not be a spoke in the wheel of the enemy. I will not teach my child fear. I will not teach them to blame all White people for their problems.

I will teach them that just because a king and queen has bounties put on their head, does NOT change the fact they were divinely ordained to reign. Royal blood pumps through their veins. You can try to break their body, but you can never touch the throne of their regal spirit.

They keep trying to break us with hate & cut us deep, when will they realize, the more you cut a black diamond, the brighter it shines. We are black diamonds and pearls. Never allow fear to eclipse your peace and light to the world. Shine.

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What made Aaliyah Beautiful, what makes Solange Regal – Ebrahim Aseem

Posted on November 17, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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What made Aaliyah beautiful was her sweet, genuine caring heart & her old soul. It shined through her glass beauty. She was sweet. She cared deeply. The most attractive quality on any woman is how deeply she can care about life, nature, the universe, the stars, people, animals & everything.

This is why Aaliyah was a light, to women, letting them know, you don’t have to have to be without flaws to be beautiful.

You don’t have to have blemish-less skin, huge-unsagging breasts, hourglass figure, perfect bubble butt, washboard abs, small-narrow nose, or the longest hair to be attractive. You can be your happy, shy, imperfect self & still be radiant with beauty.

The theory that Aaliyah was not as good of an artist, compared to her contemporaries, simply because her vocal range was not as elaborate, is a simple minded idea.

One does not create their OWN talent skills, no more than one creates their own physical features. Height, curves, or color, you have no control over tangible gifts you posses.

The ‪#‎Aaliyah‬ biopic could have focused on this, but instead, they disrespected her family & their pleas for the film not to be made, as well as her bandmates & legacy in hopes of financial gain.

The media hates women. They make them feel they have to be perfect in every way just to attract a man.

This film could have helped combat that. Helped bring light to the spiritual abuse of pedaphiles sexually targeting teenage girls Lifetime dropped the ball & missed an opportunity to use Aaliyah’s life as a way to inspire young girls to be their self & accept their flaws. I miss baby girl. I miss the genuineness in real music. ‪#EbrahimAseem #‎SpeakLife

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A woman who can see the beauty in this.

The regalness in Solange’s elegance.

The grace in her natural hair. The confidence in her slight smile & deep state. The strength in her non-submissiveness. The gorgeousness in her simplistic existence.

Just bless me with a woman who can see the beauty in this, & I promise I will never let a day go by, w/o showing her the beauty you put deep inside her, by reassuring her how beautiful her soul, vibe & heart is.

I want a wedding like this. I want a wife like this. Give me her, & I promise, I will bring her closer to you. When she’s mine, she will never belong to me, she forever belongs to you. She is your daughter. She is not mines to control. Use my soul to #SpeakLife into her, until she is whole. #EbrahimAseem

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Why Black Men are NOT ATTRACTED to Nappy Haired Black Women

Posted on November 13, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“I love my thick nappy curls,” Eden confessed. “But I noticed when my hair is all laid & straight, I get approached way more by guys. Otherwise, black men treat me like my natural hair makes me instantly ugly. That’s kinda why I approached you first.”

She removed her headband & ran her fingers through her huge, natural curls, as her brown skin glistened in the daylight. I marveled at her beauty before replying.

“Some males who are hesitant to approach women with natural hair are intimidated by the confidence you’re displaying by wearing your natural hair & he cowers at the possibility of you rejecting him,” I explained.

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“This is the same reason the corporate world does not fully embrace or always endorse women who wear their natural hair. You are seen as a threat. Too militant. Rebellious. Non-submissive.

An overly-macho, mentally fragile male can NOT handle a free thinking, conscious woman with her own mind. She does not even arouse him sexually. He needs a submissive woman.

A woman’s beautiful natural hair is a repellant for the judgmental, weak-minded little boys & it’s a magnet to attract mentally conscious MEN.

Wearing her natural hair does NOT mean she has an attitude.
Wearing a weave does NOT mean she’s insecure.
A queen styles her hair to enhance her beauty & compliment her confidence., not to cover up insecurity.

A woman is not an objected to be defined, controlled or put in check by a man. She is a powerful spirit, a universe unto herself.

No matter the style, she is wearing her everyday confidence on her head, allowing her to repel males with unactivated pineal glands, who are nowhere near her level of consciousness anyway, while only attracting confident, self loving men.

Some insecure males don’t want their woman to have her pretty natural hair, because he’s afraid she will attract a more conscious, confident man than he.

As a 10-year youth mentor for young men, & a public speaker, Black men often say they view natural hair as an indicator a woman’s everyday confidence is bolder than ever that day.

They say they are more apt to approach you on your days wearing relaxed hair, or a weave, because he feels he has less of a chance with you when you’re even extra confident to wear your hair however you best feel comfortable at that time. Unbeknownst to these males, a woman is confident and non-submissive no matter how her hair is styled.

A woman who can be her true self, unapologetically, is simply beautiful, regardless of how her hair, body, or skin may reflect on your iris.”

“It’s not even that,” one of the men with a mohawk fade rebutted, “a lot of these Black Women think that nappy-haired, Lauryn Hill shit is cute, and it’s not. Why would I approach kinky haired Lavontasia, when I can approach blonde-haired Becky? Who actually speaks to me like I’m not a fuckin child. Black women always gotta be right, talk down to a man and treat you like you didn’t graduate high school.”

“Nigga, you didn’t graduate high school,” one of the men joked, erupting the group of men in laughter.

“You know I’m right,” mohawk fade continued. “All that attitude is so unnecessary. Like why are black women so angry all the time? Slavery is over. Our president is Black.”

“I never understood why you brothas find the need to bash black women,” I interrupted. “They look like heaven & treat real men like royalty. You should aspire to be one instead of degrading your own women, like a traitor. And it’s not ‘nappy’, I hate that derogatory term. Just say corse, coiled, curly or natural.”

“So it’s being a traitor just because I want my kids to live a better life than a curly haired Sista can provide?” Mohawk fade asked, mocking my use of the word “curly”

“The hell are you talking about bruh?” I asked.

“I read your article man,” Mohawk fade continued. “You know, ‘Why the hell am I still dating Black women.’ I only opened that shit, because of the title, and I agree with some of your points, but just because I didn’t marry a Black woman does not mean I’m weak-minded or can’t handle one. I just don’t want my kids to grow up under a mother who talks down to them and always wants to go Adrian Peterson on them when they do little kid shit.”

“Nigga, you must be illiterate,” Eden defended, “because if you did read Ebrahim’s article, you’d know he said spirits have no race and it’s nothing wrong with loving someone outside your race. However, dating someone outside your race only because you hate your own race is the definition of self hatred.”

“Exactly,” I agreed, “it’s not even about race. It is about culture and each person’s individual character. Spirits have no race. Spirits have no gender. We are all spirits, wrapped in the human form, like a gift wrapped in a box. Who cares what color the box is, it is the gift inside that is to be vauled over its container.

And bruh, the fact you just admitted the main reason you married your wife, was so you didn’t have to raise children with a Black woman, is the very evidence you are indeed weak-minded.”

“Ooooooo,” the group of men instigated.

“Why do you think a pro-Black, conscious brotha like Kanye would marry a white woman like Kim K?” Mohawk fade replied.

“That ass,” one of the men answered, folding his hands, as if he was worshiping the booty.

“Nah that’s not the only reason,” Mohawk fade continued. “Black women hate themselves. This is why Black men are not attracted to nappy haired Black women. They hate their men. They hate their skin, their body and their hair.

This is why they have an identity crisis. They don’t know if they want to wear hair weaves like Europeans, or go natural and nappy like Erykah Badu, who has her own identity issues. This short haired woman wears a nappy afro weave, over her nearly bald head. Such a walking contradiction.”

“As a Black man. you are the definition of a walking contradiction,” I retorted. “You legit sound like a eugenicist. Black women don’t hate themselves, nor do they hate us men. We act like we hate them. They hold us down so much, and we never defend them.

Why are we so quick to defend Kim Kardashian’s choice to show her unnatural bare ass,
yet we never defend the choice of our own Black Women to wear her natural bare hair?

Being a girl is like being Black. It’s even worse when you’re both. Life is hell, really. Tupac once said in an interview,

‘No black males talk about black females like we should. We need to take more responsibilities for our sisters because if we don’t, who will? Because if you look at it now, black females are held lower of the totem pole than anybody.’ Pac said that shit in ‘92.

In the 60s, Malcolm X said, “The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman.”

Society shits on Black women, then will talk shit about her, for having shit on her. The irony. The hypocrisy. Well, I’m a black man, telling you the greatest ISM is not against me, not against us, it is against our women.

I say it to the world, because when she says it, you refuse to hear her. You pay her 70% of what you pay me. After Black slaves were “freed” all women in this country were sold as property, from father to husband by a simple dowry.

They tell her assimilate, you will be accepted. They vilify Beyonce.
They tell her be conscious, be natural, you will be respected. They blacklist Lauyrn Hill. They fear the woman, because as they say, ‘she’s closest to God, hand picked to be the only vessel of life, as mother’.

They tell her to worship a human-male God, instead of the gender-less spirit of God, so she’ll always believe God is a human male, despite the fact her God had to create males and humans into existence.

Black men as a whole do not hate Black women. Don’t fall for that lie. Mentally mature Black men love our sistas. Always have. Aways will.”

“I respect the fact women are the vessels of life,” Mowhawk defended. “But just, because I married a Puerto Rican woman does not mean I can’t handle a Black woman. I’m just not attracted to Black women and their smart-ass mouths.”

“At first I thought you were an arrogant idiot,” I responded with a smirk, “but now I realize you’re just arrogantly ignorant. Your wife is Black.”

“Look, I know Boricuas got a mouth on them too,” he defended, “but…”

“No, seriously,” I continued, “African slaves were never brought from a ship to American soil. They were brought to the Caribbean. Jamaican, Trinidadian, Hatian, Dominican and Puerto Rican people all have African descendants. So, like I said, your wife is Black. Now, your reason for marrying her is your business, but I just wanted you to understand why those Black Women-bashing reasons are ignorant.”

“I see you dropping knowledge, tryna impress the bitch so she let you hit, huh?” Mohawk fade snapped, to get a coule laughs.

“The bitch has a name,” Eden defended. “And why is it little boys like you would rather impress a group of males than a impress a woman simply by respecting her? I guess it’s true what they say about why guys love to come to the gym so much. Sus-pect.”

“Using the word bitch as a synymon for “women” may get you some cheap laughs, but really, you’re just showing how much of a bitter, bitch-ass-nigga you are to disrespect a whole group of what you can’t stimulate on any non-sexual level, women.

When you insult one woman, you insult them all. Whether a woman be White, Latin, Asian, Indian, Pacific Islander or Black, she deserves respect, honor and love. To pit women of differnt races against each other based off race, hair or body type is misogany. All women are sisters, and we must love and respect our women, as every man is born from one.”

“Look,” Mohawk fade responded, “my own sister, who’s a Black woman, admitted to purposeful having a baby by a Pacific Islander who she had no intention of raising her child with, because she told us she always hated her nappy hair growing up and she wanted her daughter to come out with good hair. You expect me to respect that?

“That’s self hatred,” Tedrick chimed in. “Hair is a woman’s glory. Any Black woman who uses chemicals, dyes, non-organic shampoo, hot combs, or weave in her, hair is displaying self hatred.”

“Excuse me?” Eden responded. “I love my natural curls and I love myself. Just because I use henna to dye my hair, does not mean I am displaying self hatred. Henna is a natural plant. So when you speak on something, make sure you know what the hell you’re talking about.”

“See what I mean,” Mohawk fade replied, “these pro-black, overly-conscious, nappy haired sistas always gotta hit a nigga with an attitude.”

“Just because a woman is unafraid to speak her mind to you, does not mean she has an attitude,” I explained. “You simply have no idea how to render the respect of a woman with your presence, vibe and confidence.”

“Now Tedrick, I love naturalistas just like you do. Seeing a woman’s natural curls is like seeing your woman’s bare breasts for the first time.

Not in a perverted way. It’s just that the nakedness of a woman is beautiful. Natural hair is raw, beautiful nakedness. However, just because a woman uses a hot comb or weave does not mean she hates herself. Just because her hair is short does not mean she’s lost her glory. Short hair or straight hair does not make her any less of a woman.

Her hair is a canvas, each style she paints on that canvas is her way to express her happiness, pain, joy, stress, aelf love, self confusion and new beginnings.

Every woman has a different mindset. Her hair style does not define her. Her gender, style of dress and body shape does not define her. Don’t decline her worth in your mind. She’s one of a kind.

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically her natural self; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. It is not up to us as men to define a woman, her hair, skin, nor her behavior.

She is not some queen in need of a king to define her, she is royal by herself.

She’s not some damsel in distress who needs to be saved. This knight-in-shining armourism many males posses stems from being raised by a weak-minded woman, without the presence of a father figure. To treat a woman as something who needs to be defined or rescued, that is hate and male privilege.

“My brotha,” Tedrick backpedaled, “I’m not trying to define how a woman should wear her hair, and I don’t hate women. But shit, women hate women. They are the ones who give life to this Weaves vs. Natural hair debate.”

“It’s not that women hate each other, I replied, “every form of music, entertainment and work force in the world makes women feel like they have to compete with each other.

The rarity of finding a woman who doesn’t hate other women, nor rue the idea of existing in a world with women unlike her is attractive to me.”

Even though I was replying to Tedrick, I was looking Eden in her brown eyes. She smiled after we made eye contact. I grabbed my gym bag with my right hand, grabbed Eden’s right hand with my left and walked her out of the gym, to the coffee shop across the street.

“Is it always that heated in there?” She asked once we sat down.

“Honestly, it’s usually worse,” I answered. “You gotta understand, treating a woman as if she were at all an equal to a man makes a coward male completely flaccid. Treating a woman as if she is inferior to a man does the exact opposite for him.”

“I like how you speak,” She complimented. “I didn’t recognize you when I first approached you, until that guy mentioned your article, but I did read your work. That article helped give me back a lot of confidence I had lost over the years. The only men who seem to love my natural hair is White Men. When I say you, I never thought you’d never approach me like this.”

When I moved to a white school, I got made fun of for wearing a weave, so I took it out. Then, I got made fun of for wearing braids, so I went natural. Now, people make fun of me for being natural. For being habesha. For having darker skin. It’s like, no matter what I do, I’m never good enough. Never pretty enough.”

“That hurt me to hear,” I told her.

When I tell you Brown Skin is beautiful. Don’t ‘believe me.’ Know it.
Be acquiescent to the verbal inception of a poet.
Who’s mother is the same shade. What a gorgeous Apparatus.
A work of art painted on the face of a Brown Canvas.

Despite the flaws manifested in the reflection of your iris.
Your over critical view of your physical form is blinded.
Binded with the confession of you being a perfectionist.
Please be receptive to the idea your melanin is a blessing.

Dear Black Women,
Black men do value you.
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Black men do value your hair, your derriere.
The unconditional way that you love.
The affectionate way you care.
The struggle we share.
The children we bare.
Every single curve you wear, or lack there of.

Lack of a phat ass does not make you “less black”.
Lack of long hair does not make you “less black”.
An inability to dance doesn’t make you “less black”.
Speaking properly doesn’t make you “less black”.

You are not smarted mouth, rude with an attitude.
You are mentally regal, never declining to speak your mind.
Your melanie is goregous, queen. Mmm.
Yo’ shade, yo’ shade.
Kim K & Iggy want to be you so bad.
No shade, no shade.
Never forget the very features of yourself you were always taught to hate,
are the very features the world now tries emulate.

A beautiful soul comes wrapped in many tints and colors.
Beauty looks gorgeous in every shade.
Embrace your hair and the skin your soul lives in.
Your natural hair is just everything life has to offer.

Love yourself, because I love you more than life itself.
Let’s have a bunch of mentally ascended, kinky haired children & live nappily ever after.

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Is it Rape Culture, or does your SINGLE ASS just DRESS like a whore & PROVOKE it?

Posted on November 6, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

“Look at bae!” I said under my breath as I watched a tall, brown-skinned, Monica-from-Love-and-Basketball looking woman walk past me & bat her eyes, lookin’ like a pretty ass giraffe grazing the savanna, despite the fact we were on a 24-hour-fitness basketball court.

She was wearing a black t-shirt, with the words, “you go girl” printed on it, long black basketball warmup pants, the Jordan Cool Greys, a white head band to hold back her huge curls and a naked face.

I could tell she was giving me, “the look”, because it wasn’t just a glance. She looked at me, glanced down, then slowly raised her brown eyes, until they were at my eye level. She was giving me the look Nala gave Simba in, “The Lion King”, before the two of them rolled around & made love in the grass.

“I’ll play you for it,” she said, rolling her basketball towards me.

“Play me for what?” I asked, before picking up the ball & laughing after seeing what she did there. “That was corny as hell, Monica! What’s your name sweetheart?”

“Eden,” she replied with a huge smile after putting down her gym bag, ripping off her snap-on warm-up pants & reaching her right hand out for me to shake. “And I may be corny as hell, but it worked didn’t it?”

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She was right. Lowkey, corny women are really the best girlfriends. I learned not to sleep on a witty woman with corny humor. You will never get bored with her. I also found it dope she knew my favorite line to one of my favorite movies, and used it fluently in conversation. Using random art & culture references in a relationship is as clutch as a sense of humor.

If we’re arguing, & I hit you with a “Damn, Gina! You know I love you gurl!” & your oblivious ass fails to retort with, “Boy, you so crazy” I will tell you, ‘GET THE STEPPIN’!” I refuse to stay loyal to a humor-less relationship. Go watch Spongebob or Doug, since you wanna act all childish.

“Ebrahim,” I replied, before shaking her hand. “You must get told you look like Monica all the time?”

“And your light skin ass looks nothing like Q,” she responded, in a smart mouthed tone of voice, before laughing out loud. “Ha! I’m just joking handsome, what are you mixed with?”

Before I could respond, one of the brothas who was on my team in the previous game interrupted & began a conversation that would ruin my day.

“Damn ma! You’re killing those boy shorts. Can you really hoop?” he asked, after pulling out his iPhone & snapping a picture of her from the back.

“Nah, nigga I’m just wearing these for Instagram likes,” she snapped sarcastically, rolling her eyes & pointing at his phone. “Can you delete that please?”

“At least she’s honest,” he said with a smirk, moving his phone away from her grasp. “Here, I’ll trade you. I’ll give you my phone so you can delete the pic, but only if you promise to lock your number in.”

“You know what,” she exhaled, raising her hand to stop him, “keep the pic. It’s probably the only picture your no game havin’ self has in there of a woman whose body you didn’t screenshot from Instagram.”

“Ooooooo!” many of the other men in the gym instigated.

When a coward male gets his ignorance put on blast by a confident woman with more intelligence in her eyelashes than he has in his brain, it not only dissolves any chill mode he has. It ignites a fire inside the heart of his pride only showering a woman with disrespectful insults can extinguish.

“Please, nobody wanted your number anyway,” he replied. “Dressing all thirsty at a 24-hour-fitness is a little desperate, don’t you think Thotania? I’m suprised you didn’t walk in here wearing red bottoms and a full face of make-up.”

“You know, it’s funny how I went from ‘damn-ma’ to ‘Thotania’ in 12.5 seconds,” she retorted, talking with her hands as if she was trying to grab at the air in front of her repeatedly. “Snapping a pic of my butt and paying me objectifying ‘complements’ is no way to approach a woman.”

“Oh,” he replied, “so your low self-esteem having ass can just display your body in tight clothes, with the cakes all out, booty all poking and boobs on swole, then complain you’re being objectified by the very niggas you’re displaying your body for?

“Bruh, you seriously need to chill the fuck out,” I said in disgust. “First of all, she wasn’t displaying her body for you, let alone her attention TO you. Me and her were conversing before you butt in. Secondly, you’re personifying that word ‘nigga’ you just referred to yourself as so well, as it means an object with a dead mind. Peep game. How a woman dresses is not necessarily a reflection of her self-esteem.”

“Thank you,” she co-signed. “A real man. Goddamn, it seems like they barely exist.”

“Women don’t choose their outfits based on garnering the attention of men. They dress for themselves, and for other women, if anything.”

“Nigga please,” he replied, sarcastically. “This nigga think he’s Cornel West and shit, over here saving hoes with that simp game.”

“It’s funny how the non-female pullin’ wimps always refer to respecting a woman as being a simp,” I fired back. “Don’t confuse being a non-chauvinistic, respectful man with being a simp.

Sympathy is simply feeling pity and sorrow for someone’s misfortune. The only person on this court I feel sympathy for is you bruh. Now, I know you got a sister, aunt, daughter, niece or at least a mother. You wouldn’t want some jerk verbally abusing them like you’re doing this queen.

“Queen?” he laughed, obviouslly amused. “Don’t try to turn a THOT into a queen. My sister would never thirst trap niggas by showing that much skin.”

“We’re on a basketball court my nigga,” a dark skin man who was also on our team corrected, in a very humorous tone of voice. I think he said his name was Tedrick, but he looked dead on Idris Elba.

“Dee-zamn, “Tedrick continued. “This ain’t the 50s. You expect a woman to dress like a nun while shooting hoops?”

“Hahahahaha,” the group of men laughed.

“I hope you know you’re losing,” Eden asserted. “You’re losing at life and you’re losing as a man, because you’re perpetuating the very catcalling & rape culture your daughters will have to fight when they grow up.”

“Rape culture?” the tall misogynist repeated, with a scrunched up face. “The fuck?”

“Yes,” Eden affirmed. “For you to be with a group of men surrounded by a woman, and speak to her like this, you’re a walking definition of it. A woman’s safety should never be threatened, because many men find her body attractive. THAT is rape culture.”

“Is it Rape Culture,” he replied, “or does your single ass just dress like a whore & provoke it??”

“Nigga! Tedrick replied, stepping in front of the tall misogynist. “Whore?”

“You’re starting to get way out of line with how you’re talking to this young woman,” I warned, stepping next to Tedrick.

“Nah, it ain’t even like that,” the tall misogynist back pedaled, “I wasn’t callin’ HER a whore, she’s a queen. I’m just saying these hoes on Instagram wanna thirst trap all day, then cry rape culture when a nigga want to see what’s up.”

He pulled out his iPhone, turned 90 degrees so we could see it, scrolled in his camera roll, pass the picture he snapped of Eden’s plump butt, to a screen shot of a picture on Instagram.

“See,” he continued, “these broads made this page called ‘@ByeFelipe’. Look, it says, ‘Calling out dudes who turn hostile when rejected or ignored.’ Like how are you on Instagram, snapping naked pics of the cakes, then get mad when a nigga tryna see if you ‘bout that life? That’s some bullshit. And tell me you saw what happened to Ms. Kerry?”

“Who Keri Hilson?” a guy from the other team asked.

“Nah, Cari Champion,” the tall misogynist corrected. “From Steven A. Smith’s show on ESPN. She stays posting all these thirst traps on Instagram, look.

Then. this White Comedian who used to be on the Howard Stern Show started roasting her as for it on twitter. Pure comedy.”

After seeing the rape joke screenshots on in his camera roll, including the sexually violent and racist twitter rant Artie Lange directed at Ms. Cari Champion, I went off.

“Pure comedy?” I responded. “Tell me, what’s funny about rape jokes? You think it’s funny to make fun of the fact that 1 of every 3 women are physically or sexually abused at some point in their lives?

Laughing at that is the definition of male privilege. We as men only find humor in domestic violence against women, because we subconsciously know we don’t deserve the power over them society gives us from birth.

We are told to praise a human-male God, instead of the spirit of God, despite the fact both gender and humans would’ve had to have first been created by your-God in the first place. Misogyny is pure comedy, because it’s fueled by cognitive ignorance.

“I’m just saying,” the tall misogynist responded, verbally digging himself in an even bigger hole, “these hoes should put on some damn clothes and respect their self if they don’t want to be objectified and asked for sex.”

“So, by your same logic, these young Black men shouldn’t put on a hoodie and sagging jeans if they don’t want to be stopped, frisked and shot by Police? You’re a fuckin’ joke, bruh. Why do you hate women so much? Seriously, who hurt you?

It’s funny how some of you so-called ‘men’ will vulgarly curse out a woman & call her bitch, hoe or THOT for rejecting your thirsty advances. Meanwhile, a man will curse you out & call you a bitch over a loss in NBA 2K & you’re all smiley, jokey & flirty around him, scared to speak your mind.”

“Hmmm, sounds rather suspect,” Tedrick replied, in a hilarious tone of voice, erupting all the men in laughter.

“Let me break this shit down for you, bruh,” I continued. “See, no matter what you see a woman wear, if you can see her cleavage or derriere, it gives you no right to touch her body or curves, with your hands or hateful words.

It’s not up to women to dress in a way that doesn’t arouse a man. It’s up to is as men to control our lust & think w/ our brain head, not our dick head.

There is so much more to a Woman than the clothes she wears, her style of hair or her pictures online. Just because she has fans & gets attention, doesn’t mean she allows all that attention to go to her head. Just because some ‘females’ show their bodies off for attention online, does NOT mean all ‘women’ do.

Just because she likes taking pictures of her body in outfits, does NOT mean she’s vain, stuck up, cocky, or coincided. Beautiful spirited Women are some of the most HUMBLE, down to earth, intelligent, spiritual, deep thinking women.

The reason she doesn’t hit or reply to a lot of you self-proclaimed ‘niggas’ on social networks & in person, who subject her to your thirsty advances is not because she’s trying CURVE you bruh. She just knows you genuinely have nothing to offer her.

Beautiful Women do not take this social network b.s. seriously. Twitter, IG & Facebook is purely entertainment when she’s bored. She has a LIFE outside of Instagram. I know, because I’ve dated Beautiful Women, you’d consider “InstaFamous” or “TwitterFamous”.

But really, in REAL LIFE, they are sweet, caring, humble women. With goals, with drive, with a mind, with feelings. Who do not care at all about how popular they are online. You can like her pics, but you can never begin to see the depths to which her mind is able to reach, because she’s much more than what your eyes can capture through a picture.”

The room of men begin to clap, and yell in agreeance. I looked around and noticed many of the men wearing wedding bands, proving only coward males need to verbally degrade a woman to feel more of a man. A confident man can acknowledge a queen & show one respect, even if it mean’s calling out another male.

“Now, I agree with 99% everything you said,” Tedrick confessed, “but there’s one thing we differ on.

“What’s that?” I asked with a smile, after seeing Eden’s bright smile out of the periphery of my eye.

“Well, you said a woman’s style of hair doesn’t define her,” Tedrick replied, “but I beg to differ. I feel it says so much about her self esteem, or lack thereof. For instance, what’s your stance on weaves vs. natural hair?”

To be continued. Part 2 next Thursday.

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Is Halloween ‘the Blackface Purge’ for White People? The Holiday’s orgin says YES

Posted on October 30, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

Wearing a Ray Rice jersey, while dragging an unconscious Black female doll, with nappy hair. This has become the most virally trending Halloween custom of 2014. Worn by White males in blackface. Last year, their blackface costume of choice was Trayvon Martin in a hoodie.

As shockingly sexist & offensive as this image is, sadly, it is keeping with the spirit of the true woman-hating origin of Halloween.

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Nigga, faggot, bitch. Those are three words I don’t allow spoken out of context around me. It’s not being “cool” or “hip hop” You sound ignorantly insensitive, hiding behind popular slang slurs to mask your insecurities.

I don’t like when a Black man meets me for the first time & greets me with a “my nigga”. I’m not your ‘dead-minded black object’. I don’t like when a woman of any race approaches me like, “I can legit see you replacing my current nigga.” & when I turn her down, I’m hit with, “your light skin, faggot ass must’ve never fucked with a bad bitch, such as myself. *tosses hair*”

#1 When did offers of cheating “with” someone become a compliment?
#2 Just because you’re only with a man for his ‘black object’ does NOT make him your nigga. He’s just some guy you are giving unreciprocated loyalty to.
#3 Referring to yourself as a bitch is your right of self identity. However, it is so unattractive to hear a woman use “bad bitch” to describe herself. That includes boss bitch, curvy bitch, model bitch & bad bitch. Is your vocabulary that limited? or is being a bitch of any kind the greatest thing you have going?

Racism, homophobia & sexism against women are de facto satiric fetishes of choice by the white male privileged. Flaunting impunity helps masquerade their self hating inadequacies. Neo-paganism has long been their forum for this.

The Hate Purge origin of Halloween, in 5 acts:

Act #1 The Women Hating Purge – Halloween’s origin.

On October 31st, while women of the 21st century straight murder the club, with fashionable Halloween outfits in fiercely fire heels,

The Celtics of the Iron Age, would burn women at the stake who displayed intellect, conscious & free-thought, under the guise the murders were protection against insidious possession.

On the eve of October 31st, they’d dress up in ghoulish costumes, burn women & children, and destructively parade around the neighborhood, in attempt to frighten away the dead spirits. This is the pagan origin of Halloween, All Hallow’s Eve.

#2 The Life Hating Purge – Day of the Dead origins.

Dia de los Muertos is a Day of Remembrance, originating in Mexico, celebrating the lives & spirits of children & family who’ve passed away, honoring their loyalty & kind deeds.

Nowadays, you almost have to praise loyalty & honesty. It’s so rare to find in people. Never allow selfish cowards to make you lose faith in genuine people, nor hesitate to honor genuine loved ones while they are alive.

If you have to tell someone to give you more attention, more affection; it’s a sign you need to move on. Never beg someone for what you deserve. The ancient Aztecs felt lost loved ones are deserving of being remembered, which is why they coined this Feast of Harvest day of remembrance.

When Spanish colonialist conquered Mexico, they moved the day of remembrance from summer to November 1st, All Hallows day, forcing their pagan customs & man-made religion onto the Mexican people, tuning the human skeleton from a marveled symbol of life to a feared symbol of death.

#3 The Nigger Hating Purge

If there was a serial killer who had a mustache like hitler, & people dressed up as this serial killer for Halloween, they’d unintentionally be paying homage to racist Hitler. Dressing in blackface is no different. It pays homage to racist minstrels.

There is no way White people don’t know wearing blackface is racially insensitive.

How can the sexism & offensiveness in dragging a female doll of any race go unbeknownst to White people who have daughters, mothers & wives? They simply don’t care. This is white privilege, inherited from their predecessors.

In 19th century America, a Halloween day picnic consisted of a White male wearing a blackface costume to entertain his friends, family & children before they’d PIC-a-NIGger to hang from a tree, then burn to a crisp.

Serving bland, flavorless potato salad while watching the nigger burn. Just potatoes and mayonnaise. No seasoning, no relish, no mustard. Their actions manifesting as much poor taste as their pumpkin-spice palate.

“Whites admire, envy & seek to emulate such supposed innate qualities of Blackness as inherent musicality, natural athleticism, the composure known as ‘cool’ and superior sexual endowment,” confessed John Strausbaugh, in his 2006 book, “Black Like You”.

Before movie theaters production companies allowed Black actors to stereotypically mock themselves in movies like they do today,

White male actors in minstrel theaters would dress up in blackface, portraying people they called “niggers” as lazy, over-sexual, buffoonish, cowardly characters, who stole, lied pathologically, & butchered the English language.

Act #4: The Slut Shaming Purge

For 400 years in America, all women were slaves just as Blacks. Both were sold as property. Neither were allowed to rights, to vote, or to act, much less attend theater.

Cross-dressing, white males in blackface portrayed black women they called “nigger bitches” as unattractive, sexually provocative and grotesquely mannish; while wearing physically revealing, sexy costumes, not unlike the sexy costumes designed for women to wear for Halloween today.

After slavery was abolished, the only time Blacks were allowed to perform is when they wore heavy make-up & costumes portraying themselves as ape-like, over sexualized freaks, exposing their big lips, hips, buttocks and breasts. The most famous example of this is Sara Baartman.

Today, women are not only slut shamed for wearing sexually provocative Halloween costumes, exposing their hips, buttocks & breasts, they are victim blamed for it as well.

On January 24, 2011, Toronto Police officer Michael Sanguinetti told a group of students “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order avoid [sexual assault],”

while addressing the issue of campus rape at a York University safety forum at Osgoode Hall Law School.

Regardless of what a woman wears, she does not deserve to be raped disrespectfully approached, shamed or assaulted. Her sexuality is only for her & the woman in the mirror to judge.

Act #5: The Hate Crime Purge

On Halloween Eve, the mother who beat & tortured her 8-year old son to death, because she thought he was gay, reached a plea deal, agreeing to a life sentence without parole in the death of Gabriel Fernandez.

The child was beat with bats, struck with a club that knocked his teeth out, pepper sprayed, tortured & shot in the penis by his mother & her boyfriend as a twisted form of gay shaming.

Gabriel was found barely breathing in his mother’s Palmdale, CA apartment on May 22, 2013 & died just two days later after suffering a fractured skull, broken ribs and burns.

1 of every 5 LGBTQ citizens have been victims of hate crimes within the past three years. Too many of these crimes occur during Halloween weekend.

For children like Gabriel, Halloween is an exciting combination of dressing as their hero for a day, while overdosing on candy for a night.

For homophobic adults, Halloween is a vengeful combination of gay shaming for a day, while hate crime purging for a night.

After Halloween weekend in 2013, 18-year-old agender, Sasha Fleischman’s skirt was set on fire while sleeping on an AC Transit bus in Oakland, CA. Richard Thomas, the 16-year-old charged with the hate crime, admitted to police he started the fire, because he was homophobic.

In response to a 2008 gang rape of an openly gay 28 year-old woman by 4 men, who was first raped outside her parked car, then taken to a second location & raped again, while being drowned with slurs about her sexual orientation,

Jose Feito, a psychology professor at St. Mary’s College in Moraga, California said, “What you get is this kind of immature desire to display power, that all ties into blaming the victim, who’s seen as flaunting their homosexuality [sexuality or identity].”

Dear White Privileged,

Why does stripping power from someone, because of their sexual or racial identity turn you on?

Why is it when I embrace my identity & bring back past actions of slavery & segregation, I’m told, “get over it” “stop living in the past”

Yet, you can bring back blackface & produce films of Ancient Kmt kings & queens in whiteface?
Why does your very identity insist upon my existence. You want to be Black so bad don’t you?

Just know, you can inject your ass, lips, hips, hair & skin with as much chemical as your God-playing mind can conjure, you will never be us. You will never be the chosen, useless you are the chosen from birth. No, by “us” I do not mean Black people, I mean human. Genuine souls wrapped in human clothes.

It’s inhumane for a soul to hate another soul,
simply due to it’s clothes, gender, skin color, hair,
body parts or sexual orientation, which it can’t control.

Anyone who thinks, “all White people are racist” is purely ignorant.

Anyone who tells you “move on” or forget any part of your history is against the consciousness that comes from knowing who you are.

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If he cared about you, he’d call or take you out. Men are simple, really

Posted on October 23, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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If he really cared about you, he’d CALL you, come see you or take you out on a date. Men are simple, really. ‪‬

When a man really likes a woman, he will move mountains to make time for her. He enjoys calling; hearing her voice. Massaging the tip of her eardrums with the vibration of his conversing. He cares enough to contact her consistently. Not 24/7 all damn day. Clinginess is a red flag.

Consistent enough so she never feels she’s going through things alone. Being her calm, her peace. Making her laugh & smile so hard, with words so sweet. With a vibe so deep, the conversing never ceases.

Texts do NOT count. Contact is sensory stimulation. His pineal glad should touch your frontal cortex through sound & vibration.

He texts everyone. He calls the woman he sees a future with. If he isn’t making effort, he simply does not like you. Accept it & move on, but never be a man’s fool.

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“Wait, so guys don’t play hard to get to test you?” A brown-haired beauty asked, during a life speak I did for eight dozen twenty-somethings.

“Test you for what? I retorted. “Any male who’d test a woman isn’t a strong MAN you’d want anyway. Tests & tricks are for kids. A mentally mature man is straight forward. Why in heaven would he test you? Love is not SAT, it’s R-E-A-L.

When a man doesn’t make time for you, he’s NOT playing hard to get or testing you. He’s too busy spending time with the woman he REALLY likes.

I’m not gonna lie, when a woman acts spoiled when she can’t spend time with you, it’s the most attractive thing. Makes me want to cancel plans for you & let my spoil adorn you.

The “my spoiled ass is disappointed babe” face👉😒 works on me. Poke that lip out. If I love you, I have a strong desire to improve how you feel with my spoilage.

Unless it’s regarding work or family,
‘I’m too busy’ really means,
‘I’m too busy tryna spoil the woman I really like, so I’ll text you when I’m bored & horny.”

“Why do guys act like they’re interested, then just stop texting you out of nowhere?” A blonde asked.

“If he used to text you all day and night, then all of a sudden he just stops; he’s not ‘being a stranger’. He just doesn’t like you. Get over yourself.

Don’t spend all night staying up, over-thinking about someone who hasn’t thought of you once all day, or called you good night. Never let a man upset you to the point you go to sleep mad or sad. Simply let go,” I asserted.

“I’m so uninterested in investing my time, romantic efforts & strong feelings into someone, unless I have long-term intentions. When I love, I love completely, with all of me, but my heart only pumps loyal blood for someone who wants for-ever, not just for-one-night.

I don’t want to date anyone that I can’t one day build a future with. I want children. I want marriage. I want loyalty. I want for life. If you feel the same way, only make room in your life for the ones who want only you in there’s.

Once you see a man is not feeling you, move the hell on. Please don’t try even harder, complain to us or stay thinking about us, it will only make you look weak, repel strong men & destroy your self-confidence.

“I just hate the fact that if I don’t start the conversation with a guy, there won’t be one,” one women complained.

“If you always have to hit him first, he’s trying to tell you how uninterested he is in you. Listen. Sometimes getting no message from a person is the real message they are sending queen,” I answered.

“So what does it mean when a guy makes an effort to get my attention. Then when I let down my wall, give him a chance & text him, he doesn’t text back. He’s not playing hard to get?” She continued.

“You know what it means when your text goes unread, while he’s liking pics in bunches on Instagram? He doesn’t care about you the way you care about him. Stop making excuses for him,” I responded.

A guy will ignore a woman, & she’ll make excuses, like:
He’s sleep.
His phone died.
He has bad phone service where he lives.
His phone screen cracked.
He got shampoo in his eyes in the shower & is temporarily blind.
He got hit by a car, rushed to the hospital & is currently in a coma.

No. He just doesn’t like you. Why are you acting so desperate for dick? You’re so quick to cut anyone else off over the littlest thing. Meanwhile, you’re give multiple chances & excuses to a male who keeps ignoring your whole existence?

Is the dick that good? Are you that weak? Is he that much of your god? Please stop making us men your god.

Don’t lose your soul at the hopes of securing a tall, handsomely bearded guy, to make you finally happy with life. His love won’t make you love yourself, it will only briefly take your mind off the fact you don’t.

“I just don’t get how one minute you guys can be inside of us, giving us the greatest feeling, as if we mean something to you, & the next day we can’t even get a text back.” The brown-haired girl complained, before she started to break down and cry. Why does our loyalty go unappreciated? I just want something real. For once, you know?”

“I know you’re tired of wanting something real & always getting the worst, but don’t forget to fall in love with that beauty in the mirror first,” I answered. She smiled. I felt guilty as a man, because we have no idea how sick we make these genuine women with our selfishness.

“Women confuse amazing sex with affection. You actually think it means something to us, so you accept empty text messages & justify being ignored.

Our generation mistakes ‘being foolish’ for ‘being loyal’. He’s got your ‘loyal’ ass out here looking stupid by starving you of reassurance & attention. You staying with him & making excuses for his lack of romance is not loyalty, its weakness.

A weak woman will emotionally make excuses for why a male isn’t giving her commitment & attention. A woman loyal to her own integrity has enough strength to cut his sorry ass off.

In the 10 years I’ve been speaking life into young men as a youth mentor, I constantly tell them:

She’s romantic, not hopeless. She can love you & really not care to ever see you again at all. Stop taking her for granted. Adore her madly.

Lack of interest turns her off. Don’t waste her time. If you’re out here ignoring her & making her look stupid, don’t be surprised to find, your residence in her mind declined.

The prettiest spirited women really be lonely af at night, staring at their phone waiting for it to ring. Call her tonight. Say, “Your vibe is gorgeous. Your conversation is as pretty as your voice. I’m taking you out on a date this friday for dinner live music and deep conversing. What time works for you?”

Don’t just brush off her texts & her showing she cares. You don’t know how hard it is to show her feelings, when it has always been taken for granted.

If she stops caring, you lost her. The ONLY reason she doesn’t do you the cold way you do her is, because it is way out of her character.

Sometimes a strong woman feels stressed, frustrated, sad or alone & a simple call or text from you can take her stress away & make her day.

When a woman says, ‘I really miss you’ she’s really saying,

‘There will never be a day I wake up & want you out my life. Don’t make me regret showing my true feelings. Don’t make me feel crazy for giving you the chance I’ve given so many men who couldn’t come through.’

That deep thinking woman needs to be PUT to sleep. Her mind keeps replaying scenarios & What-IFs. She feels her life is at a breaking point. It’s hell, really. Call her right now king. Show her how much you do care. Mentally, lift her up w/ reassurance, carry her thoughts with your understanding heart & put her along with all her worrying concerns to bed.”

I go more in depth about this & other topics in my upcoming book, “Why All Men Cheat On Loyal Women”.

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8 Things ‘Gone Girl’ teaches us about Love & Marriage #7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get CHEATED on

Posted on October 16, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“When I think of my wife, I always think of her head. I picture cracking her lovely skull. Unspooling her brains, trying to get answers. What are you thinking?” – Nick Dunne, Gone Girl

The NY Times best selling book, “Gone Girl” has not only provided us with one of the more suspense-filled forms of entertainment this year, it has also provided us with 8 teachable moments in love and marriage.

#1 Men have no idea what the hell women are thinking.
#2 Women know when men are lying, but they play dumb to get more intel.
#3 Being fluent in sarcasm & humor will set you apart when approaching.
#4 Once marriage turns into work, you will quickly start to resent your partner
#5 If you love ‘The Walking Dead’ you’ll love ‘Gone Girl’
#6 Just because she’s moaning does not mean she’s enjoying the sex.
#7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get cheated on.
#8 Once affection and attention stop, the relationship is as good as over.

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#1 Men have no idea what the hell women are thinking.

When a woman is talking to you out loud, she is also having a second conversation with you in her mind and a third conversation with her intuition. This is a woman’s mul-tri-tasking intuition.

She can be cursing you out in her mind, because she knows you’re lying, while conversing with her intuition who’s telling her questions to ask. Yet, you’d never know this, because all she says to you is, “interesting.”

Code red. Abort mission.

#2 Women know when men are lying, but they play dumb to get more intel.

There are 24 fatal words a woman uses that have deeper meaning than their definition allows. All 24 are outlined in my upcoming book, “Why All Men Cheat On Loyal Women”

When a woman says, “interesting”. Beware. This means she is currently mul-tri-tasking, conversing with her intuition, who is telling her you’re hiding something. When she asks her intuition, “so, what should I ask him?” Her intuition will tell her, “play dumb & keep him talking, then cross-reference what he says with the lies his dumb ass told you before.” So to keep you talking & hide her suspicions, she’ll say, “interesting.”

Do not question why she says, “interesting” because if you do, she will answer that with fatal woman word #13 “no reason”.

If you ask a woman why she asks you a random question & she says, “no reason” in response, worry! “No reason” means, “I know you’re lying, I just don’t have all the proof, facts & hard evidence to prove what my intuition told me was true, so I’m going to play dumb & let your stupid ass bury yourself.

A woman’s loyalty to her deep thoughts is stronger than her feelings for you. She can be thinking about you all day, yet you’d never hear it from her.

She’s waiting for you to man up & reach out to her. Never attempt a “stubborn stand-off” with a woman, you’ll always lose.

Amy, the “gone girl” who goes missing often plays dumb to deflect males from being able to read her thoughts & intentions.

There is a scene where she is spying on a man’s whereabouts unbeknownst to him, because she feels he’s lying about his intentions with her. Yet, when the man asks her, “what have you been up to?” She replies “nothing”.

This is the calm before the storm. When a woman replies, “nothing” this means something & you should be on your toes. She’s been doing research, stalking your social networks, calculating her pie charts to prove what she already knows about your lies.

#3 Being fluent in sarcasm & humor will set you apart when approaching someone new.

When Ben Affleck’s character, Nick Dunne first meets Amy he asks her name, then he asks her, “who are you?”.

She proceeds to give him 3-answer multiple choice response for him to guess her personality & occupation.

The line, “who are you” is so clutch, because it sarcastically hints at the reality that when we first meet someone, they don’t show us who they are, they show us their representative. The person they want us to think they are. The role they play to attract someone, because who they are may be too crazy, too misogynistic, too creepy for us want to get to know.

Too much sarcasm can scare someone away, but a healthy dose of sarcasm paired with a humble sense of humor let’s a person know you’re down to earth and unpretentious. Unless of course, this is a Oscar-worthy role you’re playing.

4. Once marriage turns into work, you will quickly start to resent your partner

Gone Girl is the date night movie of the year, not just because of the amazing suspense, mystery, story telling and drama. It highlights the exact red flags you should look for before committing to a relationship with someone.

Watching it with a date, and noticing their reactions as it breaks both girl code and guy code is an amazing aid to tell you everything you need to know about how relationship-worthy your date is.

The relationship on display in this movie shows the moment marriage meets that honeymoonending point of no return, the resentment one can have for their partner can be stroner than love.

5. If you love ‘The Walking Dead’ you’ll love ‘Gone Girl’

Imagine a bipolar Michonne with a girl next door alter ego. This describes Rosamund Pike’s charter, Amy Dunne to a T. A love for gore, knives and blood shedding included.

Yet, its the character development and tension the scenes create that fans of The Walking Dead would appreciate most. It’s a must see.

6. Just because she’s moaning does not mean she’s enjoying the sex.

There’s a scene in Gone Girl when Ben Affleck’s character is trEATing his wife’s lower lips like food. In mid-moan, she stops and says, “are you done yet?” Ouch. I don’t care if a woman is moaning the tune to “Birthday Sex”, if she can still speak mono-tone during intimacy, it’s a tell-tale sign she’s not having an orgasmic crescendo. A dry bed is another.

Later in the film, Amy’s character confesses, “Nick uses me for sex when he wants, otherwise i don’t exist.” No marriage or relationship should have one way sex, if both do not receive pleasure from it, it’s work, not intimacy.

#7 Hopeless Romantic Women will Inevitably get cheated on.

It’s not just finding out he cheated that breaks her heart. It’s seeing he used the EXACT same sweet words & romantic gestures on another woman, that he used to make her fall for him.

Don’t treat her like she’s every other girl fighting for your attention. If she sees you using the same lines, same emojis, same complements you give her on random women & girls on Instagram, it will make her feel like there’s nothing special about what you feel for her. Like it’s all a game. Like she’s just another girl to you.

She wants something intimate. Something just for her. Not what you give to every girl who wants your attention. That crushes her.

Don’t put her through that. You don’t know the deep, dark pit of heart-break she had to crawl out of in past relationships, just to be able to love again & trust again with you.

She’s a hopeless romantic. She really wants to love. She has confidence that love exists. That is why her getting cheated on is inevitable.

Cheating on a loyal woman gives an insecure male life, for this reason. Siphoning a woman’s ‘confidence that love exists’ by cheating on her, fuels HIM with that confidence he’s never had. He cheats on her to take power from her, to give to himself.

As long as a loyal woman contiues to entertain mentally immature males, she will inevitably get cheated on.

8. Once affection and attention stop, the relationship is as good as over.

So, let me get this straight, you can see whoever you want, behave all single, & I’m supposed to just sit here like an old flame & be loyalty to your inconsistent ass? You clearly have no idea what the hell I’m capable of. If I were you I wouldn’t play with fire.

You don’t want to commit to me & can’t take me out on a real date. Yet, when I give my time to someone else, its a problem? You’re a joke. My go ghost game is on Insidious mode, don’t test me with your inconsistent foolishness.

If you’re going to ignore me and act “too busy” for me, when you are the one who first showed interest, don’t feel some type of way when you see me giving my attention to someone who values my time, worth and affection in a way you never could.

This is how a loyal persn feels. This s the conversation they have with you in their mind, when they re-play scenarios in their head all day long.

Amy’s character pours her heart out through her conversations with her words and into her diary, detailing all the things wrong with her marriage to Nick. Yet his character is too prideful to pay attention, until the inevitable happens. She is gone. This is when the movie gets really interesting.

Gone girl is not just a reference to the fact she goes missing. Gone girl references her mind state. Half way through the film, you realize, mentally, she’s gone.

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Women who are TOO NICE will be SINGLE FOREVER, unless they CHANGE this #SoulVampires

Posted on October 9, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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How to break a Soul Tie. #SoulVampires

Nice Girls get put through hell. By everyone. Friends, co-workers, mates, family, parents, oh yes even blood.

Their nice energy & positive vibe gets crushed by negative flucks who love to inflict pain, because miserable people hate seeing others happy. They want you as miserable as they are.

Not everyone DESERVES the “nice” side of you. It is too valuable. Make people EARN that nice side of you by displaying consistent actions over time. If they show inconsistency, ignore them.

Don’t waist one second worrying about what inconsistent people think of you. Stay away from them mentally, even if they are family. Feed the with a long hand spoon. Some friends & family are secretly jealous of your happiness, so let them be haunted by your absence.

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Being NICE does not mean being SOFT or speaking soft. Being nice means CARING enough to speak firm & true, because you love them more than their feelings.‬

Amazing how quickly the ones you gave so much care, love, happiness, prayer healing & affection to can treat you like you never even existed to them.

Cold how a person can be going through hell, drowning in their pain & when you reach your hand out to save them, they pull you in, hop out & leave you to drown in misery, alone.

Women who are so sweet are so attractive. Mmm I promise you don’t have to have the fattest ass or flattest tummy. You’re not “too nice”. Thank you for being nice.

A woman who loves hard, cares deep, & prays for you when you’re stressed makes a strong man want to shower her with adornment & affection.‬

She’s a lovable person who enjoys helping others with a passion. She always does for everyone else, yet who ever does for her? Who even thinks of her. She will bring food for her coworkers, yet they can’t even remember her birthday or notice when she’s suffering from so much depression. Her co-workers, friends & family lie on her, her bosses cut her hours, yet give her bitchy co-workers praise, raises and esteem.

Women who are “too nice” will be single forever, unless they change this ASAP! Change this false ideology. You are not, “too nice” you are genuine.

When a male complains a loyal woman is “too nice” or “over emotional” what he is really saying is, “I can never reciprocate the level of genuine you give me, so please find better.”

When a nice woman sees the good in a male, gives him her all & in return, he starves her of his time, affection, loyalty & commitment: what he is really saying is, “I am a soul vampire. If you give me your all, I will take it all & leave you depleted & mourning for months, so please find better.”

But she never listens. A woman who has accepted the inception that she’s “too nice” is deaf to what a male’s actions are trying to tell her, and blind to red flags & warning signs. All she can see is the good in people. This is a major flaw.

If “all” you see is the good in people, it shows bias. You only are seeing what you are, good. Nice. You don’t see the evil in a male’s intentions.

Soul vampires prey upon nice women. Beware. They look pretty, yet appear pale on second look. Their only intention is to extract your soul’s genuine energy via the oldest form of spiritual abuse, deprivation.

Deprivation is to intentionally ignore a person & withhold deserved attention from them so drastically, they will crave that attention to the point they will give you “their all” which is small pieces of their soul. This gives a soul vampire life.

Soul ties are not just attached through sex. If a soul vampire penetrates you via deprivation, it results in their soul being tied to and towed by yours, to leech energy from your essence, as your aura carries the dead weight of their soul.

But if “all you see is the good in people” it will be extremely easy for them to soul tie you. This is why it may take a nice woman six months to a year to fully heal from each break-up. Her soul’s energy tank is on low, because her soul vampire ex siphoned so much of her aura from her.

Even after she gets over the break-up, the antigen from the soul tie remains, plaguing her future relationships. This is also why a nice woman may feel she’s only attracting the same males. Soul vampires can see when a woman has been bitten by another soul vampire. It’s as if they can smell it on you.

The reward for being nice to a selfish person is them treating you the way they should have treated the soul vampires who broke their spirit.

If you keep attracting the same type of poisonous males, it’s because the antigen from your soul tie is still there.

The only way a woman can completely remove the soul tie is by having it cut off & broken by agape love, genuine unconditional love. It doesn’t have to be the love of a man. Unconditional love from a genuine soul in a human avatar will remove a soul tie.

The stain of a soul tie is hard & stubborn like the exterior of an uncut diamond. Only a diamond can cut another diamond. In this regard,

the only way a woman or man can completely remove a soul tie is by having it cut off & broken by agape love. Unconditional love from a genuine soul in a human avatar will remove a soul tie, like iron sharpening iron & diamond refining diamond.

True diamonds are beautiful, durable & rare. Genuine women & men are diamonds in this regard. If they weren’t rare, you could find them anywhere.
Rare signifies one must to go to dangerous places to find them.

It isn’t easy to heal a nice, genuine woman who has a soul tie. Soul vampires inject a venomous healer repellent into the mind of their victim. This causes nice women to unconsciously reject genuine men & women who could break the soul tie, constantly finding an excuse as to why she shouldn’t trust them, despite the fact she fully trusted the soul vampire with all her heart.

Many genuine women were birthed by a soul vampire. How do you break a soul tie founded in blood when the soul vampire is your own mother? A nice woman doesn’t always feel nice. She has anxiety attacks no one knows about. She hears death angels whispering suicidal thoughts into her ears daily, all this flooded into her mind by the soul vampire.

She always sees the good in everyone, yet no one ever sees the sadness in her smile, the anxiety in her affection, the great depression in her good deeds. She keeps giving love a chance, but what has it ever given her, besides heartbreak?

No one should be facing dark tragic pain and have no one to talk to about it. My brethren, if you meet a genuine woman, don’t call her “too nice” or “over-emotional”. You don’t know how strong of a knot the soul tie is, binding her to depression. Understand her. Give without expecting in return.

That woman you’re so busy ignoring & neglecting is thinking of you right now, praying for you w/ her thoughts. I know our favorite hip-hop songs teach us to have multiple girls & avoid commitment bro, but having 1,000s of girls on your mobydick can never compare to one sweet, nice, genuine woman who cares for you. Court Her. ‪

No matter how low a Woman is feeling, you can always make her SMILE really hard, if you just show her how much you genuinely care. You may never know what a woman is going though, how sad she really is, how long her tears flow, how strong she has to be, how alone she feels.
Just be there for her. Be the one she can vent to & lean on for strength. Sister, daughter, mama & mate. Men, let’s get on our job.

Sometimes a woman holds back, because she’s scared of falling for you so fast,
when nothing in her past was ever made to last.

All she does is give & it leads to depression,
because all she ever gets in return is pain, heartbreak & rejection.

They tell her, “I’m different” yet, every day is the same.
She holds back her trust, just to keep from going insane.

She only has ONE drop of love left, so if you want to be her man,
consistently SHOWER her with love & drown her with reassurance, do what no one ever does for her => Understand.

To all the Beautiful spirited Single Women. I want you to remember, you are WIFE material. Your flaws are not a deal breaker.

Just because you’ve given your heart to soul vampires in your past who’ve chewed it up, spit it out, poured gasoline on it & lit it aflame, who broke your trust, trampled over your loyalty & played games, does NOT change the fact you were born a wife. Stay focused, get to know self, hustle for your career, stack for your future. Be patient. You will be blessed with a Strong, Tall, Handsome Man who will appreciate your nice, genuine nature, place two rings on your finger & make you the wife you deserve to be.‬

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Why guys always SWITCH UP, after ACTING like he had POTENTIAL

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Warning signs are there in the beginning, but a Loyal Woman emotionally driven falls in love with a male’s potential based off the role he plays before drastically switching up. He has none. A guy is who he is when you meet him. Attract one already on your loyalty level.

A mentally ascended MAN can blow both your mind & your back out. But you keep ignoring warning signs & giving second chances to that lame “boy” hoping he will “change” into his “potential”? Oh.

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“Hold up,” the tallest woman in the room interjected, during a speaking event I did for an undergrad BSU women’s group. “So, you’re saying a man can’t change? That doesn’t make sense. Everyone can change, if they really want to. Why can’t guys change?”

“Think about it like this,” I replied. “Why would a guy magically change for you, when he has met dozens of women before you, some of whom he liked better than you, and yet, he never changed for them? Because we are who we are.

We are not caterpillars. There is no metamorphosis, unless a man is mentally mature & intrinsically ascended. In which case, he would have ALREADY made the change to be the man you want before you even met him. Thus, he wouldn’t need you to rely on his ‘potential’.

Ladies, stop ignoring warning signs when you first meet a guy, expecting us to have some drastic, MIGHTY MORPHIN change based off POTENTIAL. We are not Power Rangers. It will never be ‘morphin time’.

Either grow daily to know yourself more & learn how to attract a man who is ALREADY on your loyalty level, or take a hiatus pursuing relationships until you’ve developed enough discernment to see past the ‘he was good in the beginning’ ACT males put on.

Being a loyal woman does not mean being gullible. Dating someone and hoping they’ll change into what you envision for them is not potential. It is naive and weak-minded for a woman to expect a guy to change who he is for her, when she herself is unwilling to CHANGE her standards & chose a guy who is ALREADY the man she wants.

If you meet a man and he is not EXACTLY what you are looking for in every way, why the hell do you let him in? Don’t even give your number to a man who’s not all you want, hoping he will reach potential. Blind hope is so weak on a woman. It turns strong men completely off, to the point one will never approach you and it will only attract males who play a role.

“So help me understand why guys always switch up, after acting like he had potential?” she continued. “Y’all are always perfect in the beginning. Good morning texts, sweet words throughout the day. Funny, caring, just really cool, then out of nowhere it stops, why play with our hearts?”

“Because it works every time,” I replied. “Males are simple. They will portray a role in the beginning, acting out exactly what you TOLD him you want in a man, if you give him a role to play.

Talk less. Ask more. Grill his thespian ass with hard questions about his true intentions with you, until he breaks character, then yell cut. End scene.

At some point, we have to ask ourself the scary question, ‘Why do I keep offering my whole soul & heart to a selfish, hellish person whose impure spirit is nowhere on my loyalty level?’

A cute smile, muscular body, sweet words and ability to make you laugh is not potential. Caesar from Planet of the Apes possessed all that, and even he was loyal to his ape-bae.

Meanwhile, you’re giving your all to a mentally immature male with the romance level of an ape, expecting him to change into a man. Who’s more foolish, the fool who played a role or the fool who fell for it?

A woman should always listen to her intuition. Never give a role-playing guy a chance to prove your red flags right, then blame HIM for being who your intuition already told your ass he was.

Open your eyes. Why wait until a disastrous break-up from a poisonous relationship to reflect on warning signs you should have seen from the start?

Staying with a male after red flags appear, hoping he will reach some potential he doesn’t even have, hoping he will ne the one, because you’re tired of staring over and over again is loyalty, its selfish stupidity.

We choose to see what we want, because we want that person to be everything we deserve, instead of respecting them for the whack ass person they are, then choosing someone who ALREADY meets our realistic standards.

Nothing like dating someone who can switch up their style often. Hair & outfit game have you feeling like you’re dating a new, same person every week. But if they constantly switch up their consistency level, it proves they’re an actor. End the drama. Yell cut on their inconsistent ass.

Make a man prove he is who he says he is. Stop being so weak & obvious with your feelings for him, until he’s consistently proven over time to be deserving.”

“Ok, Ebrahim can I ask you a question,” a fun-sized, French woman asked. “I’ve been with this guy for six months & I still don’t know if I’m single or not. I know he has cut off his ex, because he moved out of their place a month ago, to come live with me.

He’s really good with my kids, but all he does is lift weights at the gym all day and play Xbox all night. Then, when I need a foot rub, a back message, or more than 5-minutes of sex, he has no energy left. I don’t know what to do. He is really smart, charismatic and has a lot of potential, he’s just not applying himself. How do you ask a guy ‘what are we’ and ‘where is this going’ and actually get a damn answer?”

“Yes, you are single,” I responded. “A male living in your house rent free & commitment free is NOT a relationship. That’s adoption.

Ladies, if your ‘man’ has never sat you down & told you his vision of where he sees you two going, his ambitions, dreams, career plan, what he wants out of life & why he wants YOU in his, you’re dating a boy. You a single mother.

If he has never said, ‘I would like to make you my one and only, and commit to only you’ or said, ‘I feel you complete me. Your mind intrigues me. Your goofy ass humors me. Your inner queen compliments my inner king. I would like to court you to see if you and I are tailor made for forever.’ He ain’t real. You are one of a dozen. Get out. Free yourself. Prison break!

A mentally ascended man can bring home the bacon, cook it for dinner & trEAT you like dessert, but you’re staying loyal to a jobless man, living in your house, eating up all your kids’ lunchables, hoping he will reach his ‘potential’? Oh.”

“Not the lunchables tho, I can’t,” one woman replied, laughing hysterically.

“It’s not like he’s some bum on the street,” the bite-sized-Snicker-heighted woman responded, defending her poor excuse for a man. “He’s trying. When I tell him to look for a job, he complains no one wants to hire a man with a felony on his record.”

“Making excuses for why a male slacks giving you the attention, romance, consistency, reassurance & commitment you deserve is so cowardly of you. Where is your strength as a woman. What happened to that strong woman you used to be? Remove the desire of dick from you pineal gland & hold these men to a higher standard. You are smarter than this, remember?” I encouraged.

No disrespect, I have all the love in the world for you queen, but this is how a man speaks, with no sugar-coating. If a male tells you only what you want to hear, and the only time he speaks his mind is when he is defensively calling you out your name after you don’t acquiesce to his demands, that is the biggest red flag of all.

Women will send back her plate at Chipotle if they forgot the salsa, meanwhile you’re being served a plate of lies by a male who lied about still living with his ex, lied about where he works, & he’s still in your life because he has potential? How many red flags do you need

A woman’s so loyal to a male’s potential, but what about yours? What happened to all your dreams, goals & aspirations you had before you met this guy. You used to be so smart, so on point, so confident, but you met a guy with potential and he sucked away all yours?

You love hard, but if your relationship becomes a distraction from what you always wanted to be, it was never a blessing. The enemy sent you that curse as a distraction to pull you away from growing closer to your purpose.

All the red flags can be there, yet a girl will look past what she sees, hoping this guy can fit into the vision of her ideal man in her mind. This is not potential. This is projection.

You are being a weak-minded projector, projecting your wants onto a male who never had what it takes to live up to it. Instead of having projections of potential, have standards so high, only the exact man of your dreams with the highest loyalty level can ever reach them.”

As men we have to do much better. Women are starting to think they HAVE to settle for a guy not on her level, just because she feels he has potential, because we are making these women think chivalry is dead. Well it is not.

Guys, CALL her tonight. Say, “Your conversation is as pretty as your voice. I’m taking you out on a date this friday, what time works for you?” The new ‪Denzel‬ movie is out. ‪‎Erykah Badu‬ is touring. Fresh pasta is her weakness. There’s no reason SHE should have to drop hints. ‪Court her.

A woman should never not know if she’s single. Here’s some simple math for you.
Her Time + her feelings = her LOYALTY. Now, if commitment is no where in the equation, say so. Don’t have her second guessing if she’s a factor, because your inconsistent actions don’t “add up”.

She can tell within the first 5 minutes of meeting a man, if she’d date him, lay with him or consider marrying him. Please don’t waste her time with your inconsistency & mind games, showing interest then going ghost.

She sees everything. Don’t take her presence for blindness. A woman can still be with you, yet mentally be somewhere else. She’s planning her moves. She’s not switching up, she just sees all the red flags, lies & empty promises & refuses to entertain it.

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