You invest in his potential. He commits to the girl after you. The reason will shock you…

Posted on April 15, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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For years you gave him your all, stayed loyal, speaking respectfully, bringing out his potential, only for him to break up with you & snatch the world from under your feet. So why does he want to keep you around, texting you & acting jealous when HE is the one who ended it? Because he’s using you to learn from you & better himself for the side chick or next woman he meets after you, who will reap all the benefits of the man you molded him to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem This is why he will never marry you.

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Once a man breaks it off with you, he can love you, but he can never be IN LOVE with you again, nor look at you the same way. In his mind you’re damaged goods, but he knows he still have feelings for you. So he wants to use your “feelings” to stroke his ego & make up for the inadequate way he feels about his life, his career, his education, his living situation or his wasted potential.

He does this so your attention can build him back up & he can have the courage to pursue a new woman who knows nothing about all the mistakes he’s made & flaws he overcame, like you know.

Nurturing an unaccountable man’s potential makes him resist your help out of resentment. He knows his apologies write checks his inconsistent actions can’t cash. Men want respectful critique. No man wants to be condescendingly babied. #EbrahimAseem The same man who withheld patience, affection, providing & commitment from you will use all that advice you taught him on the next woman.

Too often I’m verbally accountable for my mistakes to my woman, yet my argumentative actions prove hypocritical. This discourages Brie. Then I’ll selfishly have nerve to confuse her discouraged disposition with disrespect. No. If I was man enough to make my actions match my words, I wouldn’t hallucinate about being spoken to like a child. A woman treats you according to your consistency of actions, not your pretty words. I must do better. I must live up to the potential I showed her in the beginning, so I won’t lose my meal, who stays looking like a snack, chasing the crumbs of narcissism. #EbrahimAseem

Nurturing an unequally yoked man is unattractive to him. It makes him feel he’s not good enough for you. You can cook, clean, sex him good & be patient with his mistakes, and he will still break up with you or cheat on you, to convince his inadequate mind he’s in higher demand than you. #EbrahimAseem

This is why inadequate men chase the bad bitch fantasy girl who looks nothing like you. To purposely bring your confidence down to his low-level, so you’ll feel as inadequate as you make him feel by loyally nurturing potential he never shows. #EbrahimAseem He will view you as his mother, pouring time & affection into side chicks. All the while, using you to reach his potential for the next woman after you.

Men don’t neglect who they see a future with. If he’s not making time & effort without you having to ask, he’s using your ‘investment in his potential’ as practice for the next woman he really wants after you. #EbrahimAseem

Men want a woman who sees him as a leader, not a boy she needs to always tell what to do. If he’s not a consistent leader & provider, why are you settling for him?

You never realize how much affection, patience & respect you deserve, #EbrahimAseem until you finally walk away from the selfish, loyal user you were settling for.

Queen, it’s not your job as a woman teach your man how to be one, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. #EbrahimAseem Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop raising grown ass men.

If you always have to tell him what to do for him to do it, he’s not for you. Walk away before he uses you to learn how to attract the woman he really likes. #EbrahimAseem

Girls will see red flags, yet stay years waiting for a guy to reach potential. Fear of seeing him reach his potential with a woman he chose after she invested all of those years keeps her loyal to his complacency. #EbrahimAseem

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Stop molding him into a man for the next woman.

Girls will ‘give their all’ stressing over pain to fix a broken man with potential, instead of just choosing the loyal, equally yoked, handsome man she wanted in the first place. #EbrahimAseem There is nothing wrong with you. You are not to giving, too nice or too nurturing. I prayed for my future wife before I met her. Every night I’d think to myself,

I want a nurturing woman who’s required my apologetic words to match my consistent actions. That’s Brie. She’s sweet, affectionate & likes to cuddle pinch my cheeks, rub my beard, rub her feet on my leg, poke me in my arm repeatedly, only so I’ll grab her & tickle her until her pretty, bright smile shines like the midnight moon. #EbrahimAseem

I want a woman who cares so much, about animals, nature life, who will treat my dog like she’s her own child. Who I can surprise at work with 1-800 Flowers & chocolate & she won’t think it’s corny. #EbrahimAseem A woman I can take to the beach at night & gaze at the stars with, while I rub her feet & recite poetry to her.

I want an intelligent, nerdy women who likes random facts, animal planet & the universe. I want a deep thinking woman who likes to converse. #EbrahimAseem I want a sweet woman who likes home decor & picking out patterns for my living room.

Let’s have a mall date, I’ll take your pretty ass to Sephora for an hour-long shopping spree. You can get whatever you like on me get pretty for our dinner & opera date that night. #EbrahimAseem

I want a sweet girl I can take to a Jill Scott concert, a comedy show, to hear live jazz. #EbrahimAseem Let’s have bbq lunches in the park & dates to the zoo. I’m kid at heart. I want to wife a Woman who’d let me bring my little niece on a date WITH us to the aquarium, paintballing, or the park for a water balloon & water gun fight. #EbrahimAseem I love to laugh & have fun & I need that in a Woman.

I want a sweet girl with an old soul who has so much love & affection to give. I have dated the self proclaimed “bad bitch” before, & I must confess, their pretty, sexy, fine, curvy asses bored the hell out of me. #EbrahimAseem Silly, goofy, sweet, corny, nerdy, healthy, home designing, wedding shower planning, baby fever having women are everything life has to offer.

I want to reach some of my potential before I make my fiancée my wife. I don’t want her to feel she has to teach me how to be a man, that was my father’s job. #EbrahimAseem

I don’t have a perfect relationship. Too often, I argue with my woman Brie, which frustrates her, because I’ll seek to be understood by her, when in that moment, I need to understand her. She shouldn’t have to keep telling me this same thing repeatedly. #EbrahimAssem

When our woman repeats things in a respectful tone of voice, she’s not “nagging”. She’s offering you growth. Don’t make her have to repeat things. Do the thing yourself so she won’t have to repeat it, it’s simple. #EbrahimAseem

I learned I need to meditate on what she repeats, then understand her instead of seeking to be understood by her. Then I must have faith the Holy Spirit will put it on her heart to give me a chance to do things, instead of her assuming I won’t & repeating it. If she can look deep inside me & see growth enough to stay with me past my flaws & mistakes, I have to be her peace, & let her be my growth. I can’t let pride lose me the best thing that ever happened to me, Brie. I’m mos def learning. Love is a door & communication is key. A nag is a horse, not a respectful woman.

I just want to give her two rings, our two children and two dogs, two trips overseas per year, two cars, but most of all, I want to give her two words, I do. I apologize. Please forgive. I’ll listen. Stay baby. Don’t go. I’m growing. You’re everything. Ebrahim & Brie. Infinity forevers. #EbrahimAseem & every real man wants a nurturing woman too.

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Giving men “another chance” after mistakes will make him Side Chick zone you.

Posted on April 8, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent guy know she will stay, waiting for him to reach potential he doesn’t have.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

That man who begs you for yet another chance after he broke your ability to trust him, he is not showing “potential” when he finally gives the effort. He’s playing a role off the script you gave him. #EbrahimAseem

When a man messes up really bad, don’t tell him what he did wrong, how he hurt you & what he can to do to win your heart back. Stop giving a man who broke you the road map to your heart so he can break you twice.

It’s not your job as a woman teach him how to be a man, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop adopting grown ass men. #EbrahimAseem

If you give him a million chances after he makes mistakes, you’re not his woman, you’re his mother. Claim him on your taxes & call it a day. #EbrahimAseem

He’s using your need to give & nurture against you. Your whole identity is based on being needed. Know why it’s so hard for you to accept love from that handsome, consistent, genuine man who stimulates your mind & calms your fears? You know he doesn’t NEED you to fix him & that scares you.

From birth, girls are taught nurturing a man’s potential defines her womanhood. In reality, being unapologetically vulnerable to her needs & what she wants, despite what any man thinks, defines her womanhood.

Making a man give effort will never feel like enough. You deserve a man to commit, make time & reassure you without you having to tell him.

Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, non-commiting, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self love. #EbrahimAseem

What hurts a woman most is, she’s more upset at herself for giving him another chance than she is at him for breaking her trust. Be more loyal to your self worth than you are to potential he never reaches.

If you have to ask a man what are we or why he’s taking so long to commit he has no plans for a future with you. Court a consistent man who will let the world know you are his only. He will tell you,

“I just want to love you until you glow so much, people notice your growth. Until the shine of your smile eclipses your fears. I want to be your peace.” #EbrahimAseem

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Women stay SINGLE due to their Smart ass MOUTH

Posted on March 31, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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If you’re a woman who talks back, you will be single forever, unless you learn to SUBMIT to a man.

If he has side chicks, it means your smart mouth scared him away. Stop correcting your man, calling out his mistakes & acting over-emotional. Have his dinner cooked, his house clean, his bath drawn & your smart mouth shut. Know your role. The man is the head & his woman must submit to him. These are the poisonous lies we teach our daughters by telling them to “shut up & submit to a man”. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re a woman who always has something smart mouthed to say, constantly speaking your mind when no one even asked your damn opinion in the first place, so quick to call a man out or nag about what he isn’t doing right, well you are just everything life has to offer. You’re amazing young queen. You’re so attractive to a man invested in his growth. He wants a witty, queen with mental depth, who can match his strength & speak life into him with her so-called smart mouth. #EbrahimAseem

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Women don’t nag, or bitch or “talk back”. It’s called communication. If you were the LEADER you should be, your woman wouldn’t have to tell you what to do. #EbrahimAseem Women want a man to be considerate, caring, loyal, romantic & mature without her having to ask or tell him.

When your woman respectfully calls out your inconsistency, don’t get defensive or complain. She’s articulating advice to help you grow. Listen to what she is saying, say, “thank you for having my back babe,” then, take her advice. #EbrahimAseem

If you constantly argue & yell at your loyal woman who’s helping you grow, but obey everything your homies say, giggling & flirting when they call you names, you might not be attracted to women bruh. #EbrahimAseem

Constant arguing with a woman is NOT part of a relationship. When you earn your Woman’s respect, she may disagree, but she won’t argue with you. If you want a weak, ride or die chick, it’s only because you’re mentally weak, un-aroused by the femininity of a strong woman. #EbrahimAseem

There is nothing more attractive than a woman, who loves a man so much, she will tell him he is wrong to his face, because she loves his soul & wants to help mature it. #EbrahimAseem

The reason she doesn’t submit to you is she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can barely lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t tell her to shut up. She’s not over emotional. She’s just expressing her deepest feelings. It’s already hard for her to open up to you & let down her wall. She thinks all day about her connection with you, how you will react to her expressing herself. #EbrahimAseem It even keeps her up nights over thinking about us. She lies in bed & replays scenarios in her mind, like “why does he always treat me like that?” “If I do things like this and say it in this way, will he treat me better?”
So when she finally opens up to you, don’t belittle her. Don’t tell her she’s “trippin” or that she’s over reacting, acting like she’s on her period, being bipolar. If you love your woman, listen to your woman. So the two of you can connect deeper, grow closer & vibe together.

She’s not a “stuck up bitch”, she’s just protecting herself from pain. She makes it hard for guys to get to know her, because she has been hurt too many times, heart stepped on & ripped apart. So she ripped out her own heart, put it in the palm of her hand, and made a fist with it, to fight & protect herself against males who try to break it. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t give up chasing her. Keep proving yourself loyal. Don’t tell her you’re “different” than other guys. Women get so tired of hearing that same lie. SHOW her you’re different with consistent actions. Don’t complain about her trust issues; destroy them with your loyalty. #EbrahimAseem

Don’t call her “insecure”. Cut off all your side chicks & faithfully commit yourself to her. Rip out your own heart, & give it to her on a silver platter. #EbrahimAseem Then she will open up her fist & give you her heart. Put your heart in her chest, put a crown on your head & be your QUEEN, once you prove with your loyalty to be a KING.

Sanity is unattractive on a woman. This world doesn’t make sense to her, because her spirit is not from it, and the beautiful thoughts in her mind are beyond it. #EbrahimAseem

Society loves to label Intelligent Women who think for their selves “crazy”, to perpetuate the misconception that women are the weaker sex. #EbrahimAseem

A genuine woman with trust issues is not crazy or over emotional. She has just been through so much. You don’t know how hard it is for her to met a guy, fall in love, finally trust him, only to get her heart shattered to pieces by his disloyalty, because he was only playing the role of a good man. So then, she has to pick up all those pieces only to met a guy again & go through the same thing over & over like a never ending nightmare. #EbrahimAseem

You don’t know growing up her mother treated her like crap & put Men over her own daughter. Her mother never acknowledged any of the things she did, never showed her unconditional love & care, always putting her down & calling her names. You don’t know family & friends who she trusted, stabbed her in the back, let money come between them & proved to be disloyal. #EbrahimAseem

If you always get angry, mad, frustrated or yell when your woman corrects you, you’re not a mature man. You’re a sassy little boy; quit being so sassy with your woman. #EbrahimAseem Else she will hit you with “girl calm down” then say, “oops, my bad babe.” What happened was you were behaving so unmanly, for a split second; your behavior reminded her of one of her immature girlfriends. #EbrahimAseem

Iron sharpens iron. Let your strong woman be the iron to mentality sharpens your iron. Being open to growing for a woman is not something a man should do for all females. If she doesn’t value your manhood, she doesn’t deserve you. #EbrahimAseem

You don’t have to hold back or down play your strength to get a man. Or hide being right about something in the presence of a man just to get one to “accept you”. #EbrahimAseem

Your insecurities are NOT a bad thing. Your flaws are NOT a deal breaker. Your trust issues are temporary. If you are my queen, it is my job as your rock to DESTROY all that by showering you with my loyalty and consistency. #EbrahimAseem

Be possessive. Be passionate. Be smart mouthed. Be a little crazy. Be yourself. It shows you CARE. Love isn’t perfect, so you don’t have to be perfect, but I promise you young queen, your love is WORTH it; trust. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re blessed with a supportive woman, tell her:

“I’ll never walk away from you. You can push me away with your guardedness. Come up with all these reasons why you don’t deserve me, because of your flaws. #EbrahimAseem Girl, you must be blind if you can’t see no flaw can overshadow all you mean to me. I’m not going anywhere. I will sit here right until you let me love you. #EbrahimAseem ”

As rugged & masculine as I am, I want a wife, whose affectionate nurturing makes me submit my heart, loyalty & romantic aggression to only her. My consistency & providing will make her submit her trust & patience to me. Submission isn’t about “control”. It’s about reciprocating all we both give. #EbrahimAseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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Men don’t neglect who they see a future with.

Posted on March 20, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Men don’t neglect who they see a future with. #EbrahimAseem Women don’t settle for inconsistency, when she knows her worth.

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If he wanted a future with you, he’d commit so no other man could have your time. He leaves you available to other men, because he doesn’t see himself with you long-term. You’re temporary.

If he cared, he’d call, take you out on dates & pour more time & attention into you than he does girls online. Making him give effort will never feel like enough. You deserve a loyal person who treats you loving without you having to tell them.

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If you give your all, stay loyal, cook, sex him & treat him like a king & he acts like he doesn’t care about you, it’s only because he doesn’t care about you. Why can’t girls see this?

Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, non-committal, passive-aggressive when he’s mad, can’t text back but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men don’t change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self-love. #EbrahimAseem

Stop pouring all your loyalty & energy into a man who behaves single, flirts online & makes you beg for effort.

When I get my wife, I will kiss, bite & massage every inch of her body. Play in her hair & massage her scalp as I rub all over her curves, just so the whole world knows I’m only hers. #EbrahimAseem I don’t get how husbands can get bored & complacent with their wife. But when I’m blessed with a love who’s true, I will say I do & consistently pour affection, providing & protection into her for life.

If you’re blessed with a consistent man who gives effort, stays by your side through all your insecurities, you can’t treat him with the same lack of trust by comparing him to every man who’s ever hurt you in your past. He won’t yell, argue or throw all he’s done for you in your face, he will just leave you for a trusting woman who’ll value his manhood & all he gives. #EbrahimAseem

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If he CHEATED, here’s what YOU did wrong. Sorry ladies.

Posted on March 17, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent guy
know she will stay waiting for him
to reach potential he doesn’t have. Stop being “loyal” to complacency. #EbrahimAseem

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If he cheated on you, you should have loved him harder. He wouldn’t feel the need to cheat if you were doing your job, fighting for him. These are the poisonous lies we teach our daughters by telling them to “love him harder” whenever he displays disloyalty.

Loving an inconsistent man harder won’t help him reach potential. It will make you procrastinate reaching your own. Giving up your goals for him is not loyalty. It’s disloyal to your worth. #EbrahimAseem

Girls: “why can’t guys be loyal in relationships?” You’re not even loyal to your intuition, which warned you not to entertain him. #EbrahimAseem

Guys cheat, because how the hell do you expect him to be “loyal to you”, when YOU are not even “loyal to you” & the promises YOU made to yourself about what you’d no longer accept from a man. #EbrahimAseem Queen, giving up your standards to settle for an effort lacking man is NOT loyalty. It’s self disloyalty.

Men don’t cheat because they’re sexually driven. If that were true, cheaters would just remain single to sleep with as many women as they wanted & it wouldn’t be “cheating”. #EbrahimAseem Cheating is about control. Filling their insecurity by breaking your trust. Holding your heart hostage while they behave single. They could just leave you to sleep around, but they WANT to stay, make you suffer to siphon power from your brokenness via a soul tie.

Men, we can’t be fooled to think these “ride or die” girls who stay “loyal” after we disloyally put her through hell really love us. A girl who stays loyal to your inconsistencies & never calls out your mistakes has no investment in your growth. #EbrahimAseem

I want to wife a woman who loves a man so much, she will respectfully tell him he’s wrong to his face, because she loves his soul & wants to help him mature it. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re blessed with a woman who’s as loyal to her self worth as she is to you, tell her:

“I’ll never walk away from you. You can push me away with your guardedness. Come up with all these reasons why you don’t deserve me, because of your flaws. #EbrahimAseem Girl, you must be blind if you can’t see no flaw can overshadow all you mean to me. I’m not going anywhere. I will sit here right until you let me love you. #EbrahimAseem ”

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Why I chose a Bad Bitch over a boring, “too-nice” Woman.

Posted on March 3, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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If he’s flirting with Bad Bitches on Instagram, get your hair & nails done. Do booty squats. Dress sexy. He wouldn’t need side chicks if you’d just stop letting your body go. Stop being so over emotional. Girls be having more tears than edges.

If he cheated on you with a bad bitch, it’s because you’re too boring & too nice. These are the silly lies boys tell themselves to get over losing the best thing that can ever happen to them, a genuine woman.

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Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”

Men, let’s stop pushing away that supportive woman who has been through everything with us, to chase the selfish girl with only curves, who adds no growth to our life.

70% of my followers are men. One asked,

The worst mistake I ever made was choosing a Bad Bitch over a sweet woman, because I thought they were boring, too-nice & uninterested, because they’d flake on dates I invited them on, short text me or never hit me up first. I realized sweet women aren’t uninterested, they’re focused on their goals, ambitions, school & career and their time needs to primarily go to it.

As men we get so busy chasing the flirty, bad bitch fantasy girl, we don’t realize that sweet woman right focused on her ambitions was designed just for us. #EbrahimAseem It’s not up to her to chase you. She’s the treasure. You pursue her. Give her patience, attention, stability, love & consistency.

Let’s let go of the side chicks & stop sexting girls online when we have a loyal, supportive, affectionate woman at home. None of those curvy distractions can calm your fears, support your goals, & love you deep like a sweet woman can. If you’re blessed with a supportive woman, tell her:

“I’ll never walk away from you. You can push me away with your guardedness. Come up with all these reasons why you don’t deserve me, because of your flaws. #EbrahimAseem Girl, you must be blind if you can’t see no flaw can overshadow all you mean to me. I’m not going anywhere. I will sit here right until you let me love you. #EbrahimAseem ”

All my dreams started to come true once I stopped womanizing, quit chasing the “bad bitch fantasy girl” & only pursued women who promote my growth & call me out on my b.s.

Women who are so sweet are so attractive. Mmm I promise you don’t have to have the fattest ass or flattest tummy. You’re not “too nice”. Thank you for being nice.

A woman who loves hard, cares deep, & prays for you when you’re stressed makes a strong man want to shower her with adornment & affection.‬

She’s a lovable person who enjoys helping others with a passion. She always does for everyone else, yet who ever does for her? Who even thinks of her. Be her consistency & she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem

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Courting this single ass mothers

Posted on March 2, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Don’t ask her to chill: How to COURT a woman

Posted on February 28, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

Don’t ask, “where you wanna go?” Plan, pay & pick events. Say, “I’d love to take you out on a date. Live music. Food. Converse. What time can I pick you up?” Don’t say “Slide through bruh” No, pick her up. & stop calling a woman “bruh, bro or nigga”. Treat her like a woman, not ya bro. Show effort. Court her.

We think the most beautiful, successful women have all these hoes, when many have never even been taken out on a planned, paid for date.

This is how to court a genuine woman:

I met this tall, curvy, Bohemian woman at spoken word nite. Brows on point. Afro on Badu. Body on Beyoncé. When I saw her dark brown, 5’11” frame trying on bracelets, I just had to approach.

“Excuse me, but I just had to let you know, your natural hair is beautiful, do you style it yourself?” I asked her with a smile & an extended hand.

I’ve learned, approaching a woman by saying ‘excuse me’ allows you to get her attention, while showing respect for her. She may be in deep thought, depressed, on her cycle or just doesn’t feel like being approached. Being respectful when approaching a woman can be the difference between getting her 7-digits in your phone, or getting her 5-fingers slapped across your face.

“Thank you, yes I do,” she replied with a thick Caribbean accent & a hint of sass, shaking my hand. “And how do you know my hair is natural?”

“Really?” I replied with a laugh. “You’re out here smelling like cocoa butter & coconuts & you’re gonna ask me how I know your hair is natural? Of course I was gonna know your hair is natural.”

She laughed so hard she had to cover her mouth. Bruh. You know a woman is feeling you, when your laughgasm-game is so on point, she has to cover her smile. That’s how you KNOW you’re in. A woman knows within the first five seconds of meeting you if she’d give you her number, date you or sex you. All you have to do is stay confident, funny & don’t blow it!

We exchanged names & numbers, before departing. I called her that day & invited her out on a date to The Weeknd concert that weekend after dinner. Based off how sweet she was to me, I figured if everything went well, a couple dates later, I’d be willing to court her.

There’s no “talking” or “Bae” option on a job application.

#1 Take multiple women out on dates to see which one you have the most chemistry with.

#2 Court ONE woman by taking her on dates exclusively, to see compatibility. Ask yourself: do we have similar values? Compatible views on: politics, spirituality, sex, raising children? Is she calm, or does she get irritated fast? Could I see myself raising a child with her?

Take her out on a date. Plan it & pay. Fill up her tank. Pay for her baby sitter. Buy her groceries. Be her stability but only if she reciprocates all you give.

#4 Propose. People get divorced because they didn’t use engagement to see a person’s consistency. People don’t switch up. They play a role until they get what they want from you.

#5 Marry her. Marry your commitment to her loyalty. To me a ring doesn’t make me married to a woman. If I can’t yoke my spirit to hers & wrap my consistent around her heart like a ring around her finger, it’s not true marriage.

When I told that Bohemian beauty about The Weeknd concert tickets I bought us, she lost her shit. Start calling me “babe” started using the diamond ring emoji, making plans for a future. But when I told her I don’t have sex outside of relationships, she stopped texting me back & started flaking on our date. Always tell all your flaws & requirements from jump. It will help you weed out the ones who aren’t for you.

Women being attracted to spiritual men who are abstinent until marriage is coming back in style soon. I can feel it. #EbrahimAseem

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Stop adopting grown ass Men.

Posted on February 25, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Ladies, it’s not your job to be loyal to an inconsistent boy, nor teach him how to be a man, provide, comfort you, listen, understand you. Don’t confuse being his woman with “being his mother”. #EbrahimAseem Stop adopting grown ass men. Stop being submissive to inconsistency.

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Stop wasting years & tears waiting for that neglecting, cheating, can’t text back, but can like 157 girls pics on Instagram-ass lame to change for you. Men do not change for a woman. A man changes for himself & grows for his self-love. #EbrahimAseem

Complacency has no potential. Be more loyal to the red flags you see than you are to potential he never reaches. #EbrahimAseem

A reader asked, “where does a woman draw the line not giving boyfriends “husband treatment”? Is sex & cooking for him included?” My response: If he’s hasn’t put a ring on your finger,

You don’t owe a man anything. Not giving him money when he’s broke. Not letting him live in your house rent free. Not sex. Not even loyalty. Only give to a consistent man what he reciprocates. #EbrahimAseem

If you cook, clean, pay his way & give your all to a man who has not committed to you, that’s not “loyalty”, that’s adoption. You are disloyal to your worth. #EbrahimAseem

If he asks you for money, he’s not a man. If you have to tell him to give effort & be consistent he’s not a man. If he can make it rain on strippers, treat his boys to rounds of drinks, but can’t plan & pay for you on a date, he’s not a man. Stop being loyal to boys who’ve never had a living example of what a man is. That’s why you don’t attract successful men. Based on your exs, you don’t know what that looks like. A mentally mature man will:

Take her on a date. Plan it & pay. Fill up her tank. Pay for her baby sitter. Buy her groceries. Be her stability, but only for a supportive woman who reciprocates all you give. #EbrahimAseem

Men, expecting a woman to chase you is not manly or “pimping”. It’s insecure. Stop fearing rejection. Man up! Court her to show her she deserves to be treated just as beautiful as the reflection of light & peace she is. #EbrahimAseem

As men we get so busy chasing the bad bitch fantasy girl, we don’t realize that sweet, giving woman right in our face who promotes our growth, sees the great man deep inside us & wants to bring was us closer to him. She was designed just for us. #EbrahimAseem Give her patience, attention, stability, love & consistency.

All my dreams started to come true once I stopped womanizing, quit chasing the “bad bitch fantasy girl” & only pursued women who promote my growth & call me out on my b.s. #EbrahimAseem The universe will yield all into you once you start respecting the vessels of life in this universe: genuine women. If you’re blessed to find one, tell her:

“You are my dream come true. My happily ever after. Where would I be without you? I love you more than my lungs love breathing air. Not just because of all you do. All you give & all you share. #EbrahimAseem I love you because you promote my growth. The love I have for myself is what matters to you most.

You are the only woman I want to wake up to. Take out on a date. Show off around town. Go for a slow walk with by the lake. #EbrahimAseem You are the only woman that can arouse my mind, and throb my head. You’re the only woman whose body I want to devour in bed, every inch.

You’re the only woman I can be goofy with, sing along to 90s R&B with as we laugh & ride in the car. #EbrahimAseem Even if we’re driving nowhere. Because without you in my future, I’m going nowhere. You’re the best woman for me by far.

The first woman I ever seen was the sweetest woman I ever known. My mother. And when it comes to making one woman her daughter-in-law, my love, I can think of none other, than you. #EbrahimAseem

You make a hood man want to be a good man. You make the waves of my heartbeat want to kiss the soft sand that is your embrace. Make no mistake. I know your past is filled with hurt, sadness, pain & broken trust. #EbrahimAseem But for only you, I am willing to endure all the pain, destroy all your demons, break down every last wall that houses your trust issues, because only you mean that much.

I want my daughter to be as beautiful as you are inside & out, and as kind & nurturing as you are to me. I want my son to be born & raised by you, so he will grow up knowing how to attract a queen. #EbrahimAseem After all, he will be raised by one.

Thank you for sticking by me through all the arguments & mistakes. I will consistently use my actions to say, I will never turn away. No other woman can take your place. #EbrahimAseem

I want trips overseas with only you. I want to get on one knee for only you. I want to spiritually grow with only you. I want my consistency to circle your heart, like the the ring I will place on your finger. #EbrahimAseem I want to kiss you, my future bride, after I, with tears in my eyes, look the best thing that ever happened to me deep in your eyes and say, “I do”, to only you. I love you. And I want you to daily uplift you, so you always love you too. #EbrahimAseem

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Stop giving marriage loyalty to boyfriends.

Posted on February 18, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody

A girlfriend is the new side chick. Until he puts a ring on it, his relationship status is “available”. His phone has girls texting him. His DM has girls sending pictures. He is keeping his options open. Stop giving marriage loyalty to boyfriends. #EbrahimAseem Stop doing permanent things for temporary people. This isn’t all men, only inconsistent men.

A ring won’t make him change. If he’s not ALREADY being the consistent fully faithfully commitment man you deserve, who wraps his consistency around your loyalty, like a ring around a finger, why the hell is he your “boyfriend”? Don’t be loyal to complacency. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re not married, you’re single. There’s no “talking” or “Bae” or “girlfriend” option on a job application. It goes (1) take her on dates. (2) Court her. (3) Propose to her. (4) Marry her. If you give him all your loyalty before he gives you all his commitment, he has no incentive to ever commit to you. #EbrahimAseem Require him to court you. A girlFRIEND is just that to a man. A friend. Ask me you trust & they’ll tell you.

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Before committing to an inconsistent man, require at least one of these:
1. His phone, to view in full with him one time.
2. The full names of all his EXs, with an explanation of why it ended.
3. His Instagram password changed to your name.
If he can’t provide full transparency, don’t provide him with full loyalty. #EbrahimAseem And if you can’t do the same for him, you’re not as “loyal” as you think you are. It’s not about “trust issues” it’s about transparency & reassurance. #EbrahimAseem A loyal person welcomes opportunities to prove their loyalty & reassure your doubts. But a guilty person will never let you see all the evidence in their phone.

You’re not wasting your time. You’re playing house & giving your boyfriend ‘husband privileges’ while he’s denying you ‘wife commitment’. #EbrahimAseem He texts other girls, some of which want a future with him just like you. You & his side chicks are basically teammates & he’s the player, dribbling your hearts, playing all of you. Think I’m lying? Ask to see his phone right now. Don’t worry, I’ll wait. See, if none of you have his hand in marriage, you’re all on the same level to him, until he marries one of you. #EbrahimAseem

Guys feel they’re either married or single. If you’re loyal to an unmarried man, he’s not “cheating” on you by dating other women. He’s behaving single, while you’re playing house. #EbrahimAseem

Loyalty is a reciprocal action. If you’re loyal to an inconsistent man who has not let all other women know he has faithfully committed to you only, you are DISloyal to your own self worth. #EbrahimAseem

He can be on the phone telling you he loves you, while laying in another woman’s bed. Cuddling her & their secret child you don’t even know about, because you didn’t investigate his previous relationships. If you give him marriage level loyalty before he makes his intentions for a future with you know by consistent actions, he has no incentive to marry you. Make consistency a prerequisite to your loyalty.

Some girls will say, “well married men do the same thing.” No. If a man can’t marry his monogamy to your loyalty, & stop flirting with Instamodels in his phone, that “boy” is NOT your “husband”. Y’all are just roommates. Don’t downgrade ALL MARRIAGE just because you’ve yet to experience a man of valor wrap his consistency around your loyalty like a ring around a finger. #EbrahimAseem

Inconsistency is a turn off to me. Don’t be all over me one minute & distant the next. I’m loyal to effort & actions, not empty ass promises.

A genuine woman appreciates & ONLY gives loyalty to a consistent man who encourages her growth. Now, just because she won’t “chase” you, does not mean she doesn’t like you. #EbrahimAseem Pursue her. Be patient. Show her with consistency her flaws can’t scare you away & she will let go her guarded wall for you.

I’ve had women push me away saying “Ebrahim, you deserve better than I can give. I’ve been hurt so much. I’ve this guarded wall up. I can’t give you all you deserve.” My response.

“You give me peace. Let me give you what you never got yet always deserved, someone to be patient w/ your flaws & understanding of your past without judgement. #EbrahimAseem

I’m in love w/ your eyes. Addicted to viewing your soul thru them. I wanna know your story. All you’ve survived. Pain you bottle up inside. #EbrahimAseem I want to be your stability & peace.”

Never push away love you deserve, because you feel too flawed. Never give loyalty to quickly, feeling you are asking too much, because you’re not enough. To the right one, you’re enough. You’re everything.

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
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