Why Black Men don’t date Black Women

Posted on June 30, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Funny you woke brothas claim to love being black, yet you dont date black women. Sistas are not nappy with an attitude. Her hair is as natural as her ability to see through you. You date weak girls, so you can be ‘alpha’ by default. Little do you know, just because a woman isn’t Black doesn’t mean she’s weak. Strong women won’t submit to you, because she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can barley lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem

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In a GQ interview, Creed star Michael B.Jordan said, “It’s the world we live in. They see white and black. I don’t. A lot of black fans were feeling like, ‘Oh, my God, he should have been with a black woman’. I get it, but on the other hand it’s, like, relax – it’s 2015. It’s okay! People can like one another, not necessarily from the same history or culture or whatever the fuck it is. I understand what females want and need. I’m good at that. I don’t know if I’m the guy to give it to them right now. I’m emotionally unavailable.”

First of all bruh, don’t call women females. “Female” is only a woman’s body. It doesn’t not describe HER, which is the spirit wrapped inside that body. Secondly, to say you don’t see color is irresponsible. When you want Italian food, you get pasta. When you want Japanese food, you grab sushi. Culture is beautiful to choose, but when you exclude choosing your own culture as a reason why you choose another, it’s not ‘color blind’ it’s self hate.

For a black man to love a white woman or any woman is a beautiful thing.; but for any man to say he doesn’t date any woman of his own race, the same race as his mother, is really admitting he is a coward. #EbrahimAseem Too weak-minded to be in a relationship with a strong woman of their own race, who will tell him when he is wrong, call him on his “B.S.” and correct him.

Love has no race. Spirits have no race. We are all spirits, wrapped in the human form, like a gift wrapped inside a box. Who cares what color the box is? It’s the treasure inside that is to be valued, not its container. #EbrahimAseem Black women are beauifull. White women are beautiful. All women are beautiful.

I have never seen a heart love more or love less, based on the skin color of the person the heart resides in. #EbrahimAseem

People who only date “light-skinned people” or only date “dark-skinned people” are ignorant.

Light-skinned does not mean prettier. Dark- skinned does not mean ugly. Light-skinned does not mean one is stuck-up or SOFT. Dark-skinned does not mean one is humble or HARD. #EbrahimAseem

White does not mean she’s weak or submissive. Black does not mean she’s ghetto or uneducated. #EbrahimAseem

Latin doesn’t mean she has an attitude or is crazy. Asian doesn’t mean she’s timid and weak-minded. #EbrahimAseem

Filipino doesn’t mean she’s irrational or homicidal. Pretty doesn’t mean she’s bipolar or cocky. #EbrahimAseem

When we limit ourselves or judge people based off race or the color of their skin, we allow ourselves to miss out on the most compatible person for us. #EbrahimAseem

I learned as a man, we have to stop trying to CONTROL a strong-minded women. #EbrahimAseem In that same regard, we have to STOP placing labels on women, as “submissive” or “non-submissive”.

A weak woman and a submissive woman are not the same. Strong women are constantly misunderstood
as “crazy” or “annoying” by weak males who aren’t men enough to handle her. #EbrahimAseem She’s not “crazy” she’s passionate. She’s not “bipolar” she just treats people differently, based off how THEY treat HER. She’s not “talking back” she just speaks her mind, despite what anyone feels or thinks about it. #EbrahimAseem A strong-minded woman will NEVER be submissive to a weak man. If she sees he cannot assume the Alpha role, she will walk all over him.

A strong-minded woman will happily submit herself mentally to a strong man who mentally DEMANDS her respect with his mentality, who can respect her enough NOT to try to change her, and can assume the ALPHA role.

The reason many men don’t wife or cuff strong- minded women, or say they don’t date women of their own race is because, he subconsciously feels inferior to her intelligence. #EbrahimAseem

“SHUT UP” is a term weak men with limited vocabulary use to silence a woman who speaks her mind. #EbrahimAseem We have to Man up our mentality. If she talks too much, It’s because we as men are not doing enough.

Taking control of a woman’s MIND with our conversation will render her SPEECHLESS. #EbrahimAseem The reason strong- minded women
have a smart mouth & talk back is not because she’s “masculine.” NO. She knows she can play a man’s Alpha role better than him with her intelligence. #EbrahimAseem Can we as men STOP trying to CONTROL a strong woman?

Some men say, “but I need a woman to listen to me, not correct Me! treat me like a MAN dammit! First of all, how much a woman listens to us is NOT a reflection of how much of a man we are. If a man feels that, he obviously has very low self-esteem. #EbrahimAseem

Second, by a man choosing ONLY weak, submissive women who he KNOWS will never challenge anything he says, shows he is SCARED of a woman’s strength.

If the only way a man is attracted or aroused by the company of a woman is if she bows down to him, it is scary, and the early stages of him being on the down low. Oh, trust me.

You get off on power struggle huh? You like a woman to treat you like you’re her daddy huh? Yeah, that’s a weak man. A real STRONG man can humble himself to listen to his woman.

A KING has no intention of trying to Change or CONTROL a queen. He WANTS his woman to be just as strong and outspoken as Him, with her own mind, because he knows, his woman’s strength is a reflection of his. #EbrahimAseem Iron sharpens iron. As men, we have to allow our strong woman to be the iron that sharpens our iron, as we sharpen hers.

Im so attracted to Black women. She is not unapproachable. She just sees thru lies game & bs. She doesnt have attitude. She just speaks her mind, & wont submit to a weak man just so he can be alpha by default. Skin of black diamond. Hair of gold. #EbrahimAseem Her body is art Her heartbeat is music. All human life came from her womb. Respect her✊🏿

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Nice Guys don’t exist. | Ladies, If your standards are high, change them.

Posted on June 24, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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There is no such thing as a ‘nice guy’. There are (1) men who share their flaws upfront & (2) males who hide flaws by acting ‘too nice’. A ‘bad boy’ & a ‘nice guy’ are the exact same manipulative man, playing a cliche role to get girls in bed. Behaving one way in public & another way in private.

Genuine men have balance. He’s nice, yet blunt. Strong, yet calm. Take charge, yet non-controlling. Hood, yet law abiding. Protective, yet not possessive. Romantically aggressive. #EbrahimAseem A man with no ‘edge’ is hiding a cliffhanger. Here’s how you avoid the plot twist.

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If he’s boring, with no confidence & no assertiveness, he isn’t a ‘nice guy’ just because he texts you everyday. He’s a clingy, narssasistic male. This is why it’s never ok to call a woman ‘female’ or a man ‘male’. ‘Male’ & ‘female’ refers to the phyical body only. ‘Man’ & ‘woman’ refers to the spirit we are, which controls the body it’s wrapped in. #EbrahimAseem Any person who only views their self worth by their physical body parts, is a self-proclaimed female or male.

Pay attention to the red flags. If a man never disagrees, never has an opposing opinion, or never calls out your flaws; he’s not nice, he’s playing a beta role. Don’t wait blindly for the plot twist. Yell cut, end scene. Fin.

Men don’t switch up out of no where. Women must learn to be more loyal to warning signs she sees from the beginning, than she is to an inconsistent man’s potential he never lives up to. #EbrahimAseem

A woman who respectfully questions things is sexy af to a man with nothing to hide. Call him out on his red flags & inconsistencies, to see if his love is stronger than his pride. How a man behaves under pressure is who he really is.

If that nice guy gets angry when you point out his inconsistency, it proves he’s a rageful narssasist playing a role. If that bad boy says he’s ok, yet passive aggressively throws tantrums after you catch him in a lie, it shows he’s a scorned coward, using a non-chalaunt ‘bad boy’ image to camouflage his bitterness.

If you’re a single woman & your standards are high, change them…by raising them even higher. That way, only a tall man with a high consistency level can reach your standards.

A loyal woman is not crazy. Over emotional. Smart mouthed or rude. She is a work of art, sculpted by the greatest artist in the universe. Art does not need to rhyme, make sense all the time, nor change its appearance to be accepted. #EbrahimAseem Art is to be observed, studied, valued & appreciated for the uniqueness it is.

Dear future wife, I want to study your pages. Become fluent in your language the most. I taste the good & bad in you, & I want them both. You bring out the best flavor in me, flaws & all. I just want to savor you. You’re already whole, you don’t need a man to rescue you. #EbrahimAseem I just want you to love & fully accept the beautiful soul in your mirror, as much as I love her. May you, me & her love each other so deep, stay growing closer and better, together, for infinity forevers.

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Instead of complaing about your woman, tell her this…

Posted on June 18, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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It’s unnatural for men to stay loyal to one woman. He’s as faithful as his options

Posted on May 13, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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“Women say ‘once a man gets a real woman he won’t want to sleep with other women.’ Myth!…Being faithful to one woman is unnatural for men. If he knew his woman wouldn’t find out, any man would do it,” Terry Deron wrote. As a man who has never cheated, I disagree.

Monogamy is not unnatural for men. If it were, men would remain single & sleep with as many women as we want to. Then it wouldn’t be “cheating”. Men who cheat do it for control. #EbrahimAseem Insecurely filling their low confidence by breaking your trust.

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Holding a loyal woman’s heart hostage, while behaving single boosts an inadequate male’s ego. He’s not just intimidated by an intelligent, successful woman with her own mind, he’s jealous of her. #EbrahimAseem Jealous he lacks courage to disagree with his homies & parents, to speak his own mind the way she does. He cheats on her to break her down to his low confidence level.

This is why cheaters will constantly accuse a loyal woman of cheating. He doesn’t understand how a genuine woman like you settles for an unconfident, narssasistic male like him.

If monogamy was ‘unnatural’ for a man, he’d just leave her so he can sleep with all the women he wants. He WANTS to stay committed, make you suffer to suck power & confidence from your pain through a soul tie, like a vampire. #EbrahimAseem

This is why a man will cheat on a loyal woman for years, then leave her to marry the next woman he meets. He used cheating on a beautiful, genuine woman to give him the confidence he lacked, to approach the woman he really wanted. #EbrahimAseem

For years you stayed loyal to a cheater, bringing out his potential, only for the woman he met after you to reap all the benefits of the faithful man you taught him how to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem

Women wouldn’t be happily married if they allowed cheating. That’s what wives did 100 years ago when women were legal property of their husbands. Never settle for cheating. True love is reciprocal.

Stop molding that cheater into a better man for the next woman. You deserve a one woman man. If you think all men cheat, then you don’t want to date me. I don’t talk to multiple girls. I don’t dry text for months with no intentions. I like conversing about growth, the universe & building a future with one woman.

I don’t Netflix & chill. I take one woman out on a planned, paid for date so you know it’s real. #EbrahimAseem I don’t ask you for sexy pics. I long kiss, play in your hair, massage grab & smack your derrière. I don’t ask “wyd”. I provide hilarious, deep conversing. I don’t do side chicks, I pour all my attention, time, effort & love into ONE woman. I don’t talk. I court. I want a future.

I want forever with ONE. There’s a man right now praying he gets to marry you. Your gaurdedness is not a bad thing. Your flaws aren’t a deal breaker to him. He wants only you. Don’t keep pushing him away with your assumption all 3.5 billion men on earth posses the same mind frame as the disloyal men in your past. #EbrahimAseem Keep growing & loving the beautiful soul in your mirror, & the handsome, loyal man who’s made just for you will match his love with your self love.

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The powerful reason I refuse to celebrate Mother’s DAY.

Posted on May 8, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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When I was a child, my mother always ate in her room, door closed, while me & my sister ate at the dinner table.

One night, when I was 7, I heard noise in my moms room & when I went in, I saw her laying on the bed, stress tearing out of her eyes, rubbing her stomach. That was the moment I realized, my mother was willing to skip dinners just so my sister & I had food to eat every night.

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My mother sacrificed buying herself clothes & jewelry just to provide food, clothes, a warm bed & electricity for her family. Through any struggles, she kept a smile on her face at all times, so we wouldn’t know how poor we really were.

From that day on I taught myself how to cook & I made sure my moms ate every day. I cooked breakfast in bed in the weekends, made her cards & wrote her love poems often, because every day is Mother’s Day, when you’re blessed with a selfless one.

I decided to do something with my life, so my mother would never have to starve to pay bills. That’s what motivates me to travel worldwide & speak life into groups at universities, as a 12-year mentor for men.

That is why I work 3 jobs, chef, senior care, motivational speaker. That’s why I don’t complain about life.

I just keep a smile on my face. I may have money now, but I came from not having anything & it’s because of overcoming all my struggles & what my mother did for me I am the man I am today.

Our world treats women with less respect than animals. The same government that coined “Martin Luther King Jr. Day” murdered him & hated him why he was alive. The same government who created, “Mother’s Day” doesn’t give women equal pay, nor maternity pay. #EbrahimAseem Many women get fired after giving birth. Mothers deserve paid time off after having a child, because without mother’s, no man would be alive. Without the Mother Soul Cell Fundamental Principle, which AM the divine creator, YHWH’s true nature, nothing in this universe could exist.

We honor mother’s for ONE day, then fat shame, skinny shame, slut shame, use, neglect, take for granted & judge her the other 364 days of the year. #EbrahimAseem That’s why I don’t celebrate this man-made holiday. Mother’s Day is EVERYDAY.

In my West-African Hebrew Culture, we learn how our ancestors never celebrated on “fixed dates”. They only commemorated ceremonies aligned with the new crescent of our moon, Yerah’s 28-day cycle.

She feels neglected & taken for granted for 364 days out the year. I’m tired of seeing men say mother’s are damaged goods. I’d marry a single mother.

Courting a single mother is hard. She will cancel dates. Short text & not reply. No time to put you first. A woman who puts her child first over me makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem Be patient with her. Take her out. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than a date you take her on. It’s not about money to her. Spoil her with your time. Show you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency, she will be your everything. #EbrahimAseem

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Interracial Families are not ‘complete’ & dating a Single Mom won’t last.

Posted on May 6, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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Old Navy had the nerve & unmitigated gall to feature an ad with a Black Woman & her Black son, piggy back ridding the sista’s new white Man.

Let’s deal with the dating a single mother foolishness before tackling the incompleteness of interracial families.

Dating a single mother will NEVER last long. Because once you see how much she can love, give & cater to her child, you will want to wife her ASAP. #EbrahimAseem

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Courting a single mom is hard. She’ll cancel dates. Short text & not reply. No time to put you first. A woman who puts her child first over me makes me want to make her & her child my first priority. #EbrahimAseem Be patient with her. Take her out. She’s not flaking. Childcare costs more than a date you take her on. It’s not about money to her. Spoil her with your time. Show you appreciate all sacrifices she makes for her child with no help. Be her consistency, she will be your everything.

But only do it for a woman who reciprocates all you give. She deserves to be a wife. Her family is already complete, because she’s married to her self-love.

Interracial Families are not complete if they allow people to use race to define their love. You define you. You are not a race. You are a race-less spirit wrapped in a box. Who cares what color the box? The treasure inside counts most. Value spirit over body. You don’t have to divide yourself up to fit a category or mold. You are not IN a universe, you ARE a universe. #EbrahimAseem
Interracial families are not two races mixed together. They are two spirits, which have no race or gender.

Now people who love each other only “because” of their race have an incomplete union. As, they refuse to fall in love with their partner’s spirit, mind & soul, only their body.

I don’t like when beautiful women approach me, saying they only date Black men, love my culture & how strong of a black man I am. Then talk bad about Black women, calling them nappy-head, smart mouthed twerkers, or act ‘color blind’ when I ask their thoughts on police murdering Black men.

So wait, you value Black men enough to date, sleep with & have a pretty mixed baby by one. Yet, don’t value a Black man enough to stand up/speak out for one? #EbrahimAseem Don’t say you love Black men. No. You love black dick. Be honest with yourself.

If you date Black men for his spirit & not his penis size, you wouldn’t feel defensive of these words, you’d simply stand by your man & support his Black life. Spirits have no race. #EbrahimAseem

The Old Navy ad represents 3 race-less, gender-less spirits, as a happy family. If all you see is color, you’re spiritually blind. The color of a diamond’s wrapping or packaging does not define its worth. We are a diamond spirit. #EbrahimAseem

Never slight any piece that makes up the beautiful work of art you are. #EbrahimAseem If you’re an interracial family, own it. If you’re a one race family, own it. Just know you define you, as a race-less spirit, not anyone else. Don’t be afraid to proclaim your own self-identity. You don’t have to choose a side. Choose your spirit over your physical form.

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She doesn’t submit to you b/c she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her.

Posted on April 29, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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I surround myself with husbands, fathers & men who are a reflection of the man I’m growing to be. Having side chicks, sagging, hitting licks & using women isn’t for me. I want more.

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Know what every beautiful, genuine woman wants in a man? Control. SELF control.

The reason she doesn’t submit to you is, she doesn’t trust your ability to lead her. You can’t even lead yourself. #EbrahimAseem Take control without trying to control her. Take charge without making her feel unheard. Take initiative, give effort & make time for her, without her having to tell you what to do & how to do it. Lead her closer to her self love & she will lead you deeper into claiming your spiritual throne.

Letting a woman run over you & tell you what to do isn’t romantic to her, it’s pathetic to her. Man up & take control, of yourself. #EbrahimAseem Follow your dreams. Don’t wait for her to tell you what to do, where to take her on a date. Plan it & pay. Pay close attention to the little details of her & what she likes. It’s not about money. It’s about effort.

As men, we play a game, depriving a woman of time, withhold commitment acting like it’s “too soon” for her to expect exclusivity. Let’s stop telling a loyal woman “I’m not ready”. We will never feel ready for a successful genuine woman unlike any we’ve had, until we lose her. #EbrahimAseem Then, we beg for a 2nd chance, but its too late, b/c self loving women don’t repeat mistakes.

To understand a woman’s mind, just listen to her. Hear her love language. Become fluent in it. Then, speak to her with consistent actions. #EbrahimAseem

She’s not guarded because of a man. She doesn’t trust her self anymore. She broke promise to herself on how she wouldn’t allow people to treat her. She’s learning not to be lead by emotions. #EbrahimAseem

Instead of arguing with her, listen to her. Calm her. Adore her. Look in her eyes. Reassure her flaws can’t scare you away, & in time, she’ll open up & trust you. #EbrahimAseem

She will be guarded. Distant. Difficult. Say she needs more time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. Cry for no reason. Feel so broken & not know why, nor what the hell she wants. Don’t give up on her. #EbrahimAseem Don’t make her feel she isn’t enough. Love her consistently, never throw her past in her face. Destroy her demons & trust issues. Bring her closer to her self-love & the reward will be her heart.

It is not your job as a man to control a woman, nor “fix” her. Nor correct her, nor tame her smart mouth, or tell her to stop talking back, acting crazy or emotional. Nor tell her to stop dressing revealing, nor control her sexuality. #EbrahimAseem Nor tell her to wear her hair natural or with weave. Nor tell her not to wear makeup. You are not her God. Men come out of a woman, not the other way around. #EbrahimAseem

Your only job is to respect her as much as she respects herself. To honor her only as much as she honors you. Stop saying “these bitches” or “these hoes” when, by complaining how a woman doesn’t acquiesce to your womanizing wants, you’re being the bitch & the hoe. #EbrahimAseem

Stop comparing her to the user, disrespectful girls you’ve chosen in your past. She’s not them. She’s unique. She’s a light. Not meant to be controlled. Just add to her light, with appreciation, acknowledgement, knowledge & growth. #EbrahimAseem

If you’re blessed with a supportive woman, tell her,

A woman is not crazy. Over emotional. Smart mouthed or rude. She is a work of art, sculpted by the greatest artist in the universe. Art does not need to rhyme, make sense all the time, nor change its appearance to be accepted. #EbrahimAseem Art is to be observed, studied, valued & appreciated for the uniqueness it is.

I want to study your pages. Become fluent in your language the most. I taste the good & bad in you, & I want them both. You bring out the best flavor in me, flaws & all. I just want to savor you. You’re already whole, you don’t need a man to rescue you. #EbrahimAseem I just want you to love & fully accept the beautiful soul in your mirror, as much as I love her. May you, me & her love each other so deep, stay growing closer and better, together, for infinity forevers.

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If he wanted you, he’d make time w/o you begging. He sees no future with you.

Posted on April 22, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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If you beg a busy man for time & effort, & he keeps neglecting you, woman the hell up & apologize… …to your SELF for settling for an inconsistent boy.

If he wanted you, he’d make time for you w/o you having to ask. Stop being in a relationship with your feelings while he’s in your friends DMs. #EbrahimAseem The girl we ignore is the one we can’t see a future with. We’re not too busy.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of, “Why Men commit to the girl after the one who invested in his potential”

I cook a 12 hour shift, speak life into men worldwide, teach children in my culture isiZulu & still find time to take the woman I’m courting out on dates, give effort, time & attention, cuddle her, pray with her & hear her vent, then reassure her she’s everything life has to offer whenever I’m taken. #EbrahimAseem

Boys text. Men call, take you on dates & make time without being told. If he’s local & only texts you, he’s “talking” to multiple women. #EbrahimAseem If a man doesn’t claim you or make time, he doesn’t see a future with you.

The most powerless thing a woman can do is let an inconsistent male know she will stay waiting for him to reach potential he doesn’t have. Stop being “loyal” to complacency. #EbrahimAseem That’s the quickest route to becoming his side chick.

Insecure men side chick loyal women to build his confidence from the ashes of her brokenness. #EbrahimAseem Making her lose her standards & fall for him fills the inadequacy of a weak male’s low self esteem.

Sex without love does nothing for a genuine man. He doesn’t need side chicks, sexing every girl online, nor approval from other men to be a man.

That man who takes you on dates, showers you with time & affection, yet still claims he doesn’t want anything serious, he isn’t being a “player” he’s being honest. #EbrahimAseem Stop trying to change every man you meet. If you can mold a man into being what you want, he’s not a man.

I’ll teach my daughter time, effort & consistency aren’t things to beg a man for, but standards you have before ever allowing him in your life, & her self love means more than his love. #EbrahimAseem

Queen, you’ll know a man is only yours when you won’t have to beg him for time. He will highlight your strengths & make your stress decline. Don’t forget to love yourself with the same love your heart gives mine. #EbrahimAseem

I want to be the reason you smile so bright, dark thoughts can’t hide in your beautiful mind. I want to make you glow so much, people notice growth in you. Until the shine of your smile eclipses all your trust issues. I want to be your peace. #EbrahimAseem

Men, let’s stop starving these supporter women of effort. She will be guarded. Distant. Difficult. Say she needs more time. She’ll have anxiety flashbacks of her EX. Cry for no reason, feel so broken & not know what the hell she wants. Don’t give up on her. #EbrahimAseem Don’t you make her feel she isn’t enough. Love her consistently, never throw her past in her face. Destroy her demons & trust issues. Bring her closer to her self love & the reward will be her heart.

By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
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I am a chef, motivational speaker & 12-year-mentor for men. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am West African-Hebrew.

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You invest in his potential. He commits to the girl after you. The reason will shock you…

Posted on April 15, 2016 by Ebrahim Aseem

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For years you gave him your all, stayed loyal, speaking respectfully, bringing out his potential, only for him to break up with you & snatch the world from under your feet. So why does he want to keep you around, texting you & acting jealous when HE is the one who ended it? Because he’s using you to learn from you & better himself for the side chick or next woman he meets after you, who will reap all the benefits of the man you molded him to be, because you were more of his mother than his woman. #EbrahimAseem This is why he will never marry you.

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Once a man breaks it off with you, he can love you, but he can never be IN LOVE with you again, nor look at you the same way. In his mind you’re damaged goods, but he knows he still have feelings for you. So he wants to use your “feelings” to stroke his ego & make up for the inadequate way he feels about his life, his career, his education, his living situation or his wasted potential.

He does this so your attention can build him back up & he can have the courage to pursue a new woman who knows nothing about all the mistakes he’s made & flaws he overcame, like you know.

Nurturing an unaccountable man’s potential makes him resist your help out of resentment. He knows his apologies write checks his inconsistent actions can’t cash. Men want respectful critique. No man wants to be condescendingly babied. #EbrahimAseem The same man who withheld patience, affection, providing & commitment from you will use all that advice you taught him on the next woman.

Too often I’m verbally accountable for my mistakes to my woman, yet my argumentative actions prove hypocritical. This discourages Brie. Then I’ll selfishly have nerve to confuse her discouraged disposition with disrespect. No. If I was man enough to make my actions match my words, I wouldn’t hallucinate about being spoken to like a child. A woman treats you according to your consistency of actions, not your pretty words. I must do better. I must live up to the potential I showed her in the beginning, so I won’t lose my meal, who stays looking like a snack, chasing the crumbs of narcissism. #EbrahimAseem

Nurturing an unequally yoked man is unattractive to him. It makes him feel he’s not good enough for you. You can cook, clean, sex him good & be patient with his mistakes, and he will still break up with you or cheat on you, to convince his inadequate mind he’s in higher demand than you. #EbrahimAseem

This is why inadequate men chase the bad bitch fantasy girl who looks nothing like you. To purposely bring your confidence down to his low-level, so you’ll feel as inadequate as you make him feel by loyally nurturing potential he never shows. #EbrahimAseem He will view you as his mother, pouring time & affection into side chicks. All the while, using you to reach his potential for the next woman after you.

Men don’t neglect who they see a future with. If he’s not making time & effort without you having to ask, he’s using your ‘investment in his potential’ as practice for the next woman he really wants after you. #EbrahimAseem

Men want a woman who sees him as a leader, not a boy she needs to always tell what to do. If he’s not a consistent leader & provider, why are you settling for him?

You never realize how much affection, patience & respect you deserve, #EbrahimAseem until you finally walk away from the selfish, loyal user you were settling for.

Queen, it’s not your job as a woman teach your man how to be one, provide, work, listen, understand & comfort you. The man who’s meant for you will already know how to understand you. #EbrahimAseem Don’t get “being his woman” confused with “being his mother”. Stop raising grown ass men.

If you always have to tell him what to do for him to do it, he’s not for you. Walk away before he uses you to learn how to attract the woman he really likes. #EbrahimAseem

Girls will see red flags, yet stay years waiting for a guy to reach potential. Fear of seeing him reach his potential with a woman he chose after she invested all of those years keeps her loyal to his complacency. #EbrahimAseem

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Stop molding him into a man for the next woman.

Girls will ‘give their all’ stressing over pain to fix a broken man with potential, instead of just choosing the loyal, equally yoked, handsome man she wanted in the first place. #EbrahimAseem There is nothing wrong with you. You are not to giving, too nice or too nurturing. I prayed for my future wife before I met her. Every night I’d think to myself,

I want a nurturing woman who’s required my apologetic words to match my consistent actions. That’s Brie. She’s sweet, affectionate & likes to cuddle pinch my cheeks, rub my beard, rub her feet on my leg, poke me in my arm repeatedly, only so I’ll grab her & tickle her until her pretty, bright smile shines like the midnight moon. #EbrahimAseem

I want a woman who cares so much, about animals, nature life, who will treat my dog like she’s her own child. Who I can surprise at work with 1-800 Flowers & chocolate & she won’t think it’s corny. #EbrahimAseem A woman I can take to the beach at night & gaze at the stars with, while I rub her feet & recite poetry to her.

I want an intelligent, nerdy women who likes random facts, animal planet & the universe. I want a deep thinking woman who likes to converse. #EbrahimAseem I want a sweet woman who likes home decor & picking out patterns for my living room.

Let’s have a mall date, I’ll take your pretty ass to Sephora for an hour-long shopping spree. You can get whatever you like on me get pretty for our dinner & opera date that night. #EbrahimAseem

I want a sweet girl I can take to a Jill Scott concert, a comedy show, to hear live jazz. #EbrahimAseem Let’s have bbq lunches in the park & dates to the zoo. I’m kid at heart. I want to wife a Woman who’d let me bring my little niece on a date WITH us to the aquarium, paintballing, or the park for a water balloon & water gun fight. #EbrahimAseem I love to laugh & have fun & I need that in a Woman.

I want a sweet girl with an old soul who has so much love & affection to give. I have dated the self proclaimed “bad bitch” before, & I must confess, their pretty, sexy, fine, curvy asses bored the hell out of me. #EbrahimAseem Silly, goofy, sweet, corny, nerdy, healthy, home designing, wedding shower planning, baby fever having women are everything life has to offer.

I want to reach some of my potential before I make my fiancée my wife. I don’t want her to feel she has to teach me how to be a man, that was my father’s job. #EbrahimAseem

I don’t have a perfect relationship. Too often, I argue with my woman Brie, which frustrates her, because I’ll seek to be understood by her, when in that moment, I need to understand her. She shouldn’t have to keep telling me this same thing repeatedly. #EbrahimAssem

When our woman repeats things in a respectful tone of voice, she’s not “nagging”. She’s offering you growth. Don’t make her have to repeat things. Do the thing yourself so she won’t have to repeat it, it’s simple. #EbrahimAseem

I learned I need to meditate on what she repeats, then understand her instead of seeking to be understood by her. Then I must have faith the Holy Spirit will put it on her heart to give me a chance to do things, instead of her assuming I won’t & repeating it. If she can look deep inside me & see growth enough to stay with me past my flaws & mistakes, I have to be her peace, & let her be my growth. I can’t let pride lose me the best thing that ever happened to me, Brie. I’m mos def learning. Love is a door & communication is key. A nag is a horse, not a respectful woman.

I just want to give her two rings, our two children and two dogs, two trips overseas per year, two cars, but most of all, I want to give her two words, I do. I apologize. Please forgive. I’ll listen. Stay baby. Don’t go. I’m growing. You’re everything. Ebrahim & Brie. Infinity forevers. #EbrahimAseem & every real man wants a nurturing woman too.

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By: Ebrahim Aseem Follow @fuel4thebody
Author of the book, “Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women”
Facebook.com/AEAseem
Instagram: @Fuel4TheBODY
Website: http://RealNewsPaper.me
Motivational #SpeakLife vidoes: Youtube.com/RealNewsmagazine
Booking: AEAseem@gmail.com

I am a chef, motivational speaker & 13-year-mentor for men. I travel the globe speaking life into men at universities. I write new articles every thursday & travel, speaking life into groups of 100s of men at universities & corporations worldwide. I am African-Hebrew.

Want to hear me sing?
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